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okay so theres this boy and i REALLY LOVE him..im only 13 and people tell me i dont really know what love is but like love isnt a maybe thing right..? yeah.. you know if you love someone and i do love him but he used to act like he liked me but now he doesnt anymore it it makes me really sad..i feel like im not good enough but all my friends tell me im to good for him..( but hey their suppose to right? ) i think another part is hes 2 grades ahead of me..but he also is my neighbor and were kinda friends i guess but i want to tell him hwo i feel but i dont know if he will feel the same and it would make things akward..so what should i do? please help
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I know what your going through, I went through the same thing. I had it set in my mind that I really did love this boy, because your going through the I think about him all the time when he comes around I get butterflies, I get all warm inside, but thats only part of love. Your young you'll fall in "love" millions of times. But if you want to know whats going on with him, as hard as it maybe go over to his house sit on his porch with him and be real. tell him how you feeling, and how you think he knows because he started changing.Let him know that its alright if he doesnt feel the same way, yall can just be friends. It worked out for me.
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Love is just plain wierd. There's like a bazzilion different kinds. But what you have here is a little more of a really bad crush (that's the only kind I get) than love, because as much as we want to believe it's love, I think younger teenagers aren't expirienced enough to understand love. But that's my opinion. My advice is to lay low and see if starts treating you like a friend again. I'm guessing he found out you liked him and decided to be all mean about it. (That happened with me.) So if you back off, he may come to you. But if he does, don't rush things, and older guys tend to want one thing, so just be careful. Hope that helps!
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love is a strange concept. many people will tell you you're not in love and what not, but the truth is, only you can really tell when your in love with someone. so anyways, as we all know, guys are strange. Since this guy is 2 grades ahead of you, he may like you, but he may feel like you are too young for him or something like that. because he is older, he may want to do certain "things" with girls that you probably won't want to if you know what i mean.
now, when you say "kinda" friends, that gives me the idea that you guys don't have a strong friendship. Ever relationship has to start with a friendship, so maybe you should try to build your friendship with him, that way he can get to know you more so maybe in the end he can wind up asking you out.
i don't think you should tell him just yet how you feel, because you want to be positive he feels the same, that way things are less awkward. when your in the right moment, than you can tell him, but otherwise wait.
and lastly, you should never feel like you're not good enough for a guy. if he's a jerk and doesn't accept you for who you are, than he's not worth it. and your friends are supposed to encourage you and support you, but they are also their to give you their honest opinion, so all you can do is trust their judgement.
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Advice kiddo hit the subject perfectly
I agree with them 100%. Love is something shared between two people, very RARELY is it ever one sided. Sure it can be, but there had to be something there before for it to be.
In any case, you need to tell him you like him. Bottling up that kind of emotion can be serious on your health and on your body (I know this, just trust me on that)
Even if it makes things akward, you need to tell him. Your never gonna find out anything if you just sit and keep everything to yourself. Your not going to find out how he feels and all your left to do is wonder what might have been if you just keep everything to yourself.
I hope I helped, and good luck.
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I have been in that exact postition before. In Middle school i was in love with this boy for 3 years. But i never told him how i felt and i regret it everyday.
Its a fact, that guys like it when girls tell them if they like them in PERSON. Online and phone are okay, but you really wanna see the expression on his face. Its better to tell him how you feel then keeping it all bottled up and regreting it. The worst that can happen is that he could be like , " We should just be friends". Thats alright too! Working your way up is much better than going to fast. Talk to him alot like when you see him, but dont overdo it.
If you want to tell him how you feel [ stronly recomend] then say this " Hey ______, I think you should know that i am starting to get feelings for you, but i hope this doesnt weirden out our friendship, because to me our friendship means alot" Be confident. DONT STUDDER. Stay it, and since he is older he will be very impressed, he will see you have GUT.
In my past crush, i told him how i felt about him and he was really impressed he told me that I did a good thing and he was happy!
Tell me how it works out =]
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Okay, so I know exactly how it feels when people tell you that you're "too young to be in love". It can get pretty frustrating. But remember: never, EVER think that you aren't good enough for him, because it can really bring down your self esteem. Plus, it's not even true. Your friends are right! When a boy I was in love with started giving me the cold shoulder, I used to sit in my room for hours at a time and just cry. I don't want that to happen to you. Don't be upset about it, just try to shake it off by smiling about it. It can be hard, but you should try it. And if you really want to be with him, try to flirt with him a little. Touch his arm when you talk to him, look at him meaningfully when he says something to you, stuff like that... but if he rejects you, it will definately become awkward. But don't let that stop you if it's the only thing you're worried about. If he says he doesn't like you, wait a week or two before getting too close to him again. And if he says he likes you, congrats! But, I have just one more warning for you: Dating a guy two grades ahead of you can give you a lot of pressure, and remember not to do anything you're not ready for.
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