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best friend and boys
My best friend ALWAYS has to have all the guys like her. Well, if a guy likes me or shows any signs in liking me she will try to get him to like her. She brags about all her guys, and she tries to flirt with the guys that like me. Why does she do this? I can't talk to her. What should I do? I'll give 5's. Thanks. And if you have good advice I'll give you the name of my column so we can talk more. Xoxo
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She's probably insecure and must brag about herself to make herself feel good. It is very annoying, but why don't you try talking to her about the guys that like her, and not you? That may give her the confidence boost she needs to stop stealing your guys! Explain to her that there is someone for her, and someone for you, and they are two different people. Hope that helps!
Alice
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She probably does this because she's insecure, and she constantly needs to make sure that people like her.
I know that it is one of the most difficult things in the world to talk to a friend when they're treating you badly, but you NEED TO DO IT. It's not a real friendship without honesty. Talk to your friend in private about how you feel- but don't yell or get accusatory, because that will make her get defensive. Let her know that it's okay for her to flirt with boys, but that it hurts you when she flirts with the guys that are into you. She may get upset at first, but if she's a real friend, eventually she'll apologize and try to work on her behavior. If she never comes around, then your friendship wasn't healthy anyways.
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well she doesnt really sound like a bestfriend to me..just my opinion. but she probably does this because shes jealous. you said guys like you, and then she tries to get them to like her. ..so they like you first..she gets jealous. just a guess. but no true friend would do this to you. and you should be able to talk to your bestfriend. as much as you probably dont want to hear this..unless you can gather up the courage to say something, just drop her. a true friend..even just a friend, wouldnt do that to you..wouldnt be called a friend now, you dont need her hanging around stealing everything that could make you happy.
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This is harsh, so brace yourself;
If she doesnt this, she isnt a best friend
If you can't talk to her about it, she isnt a best friend.
Honestly, this girl sounds like a greedy, self centered brat.
Harsh, but sounds true to me.
A real best friend you can tell <u>anything</u> to. If you cant, then she isnt a good friend.
Try and talk to her
if she is a brat, or doesnt listen, or gets mad, give it a few days, and try again. If she still doesnt get it, find some new friends. Don't totally dump her, but try and move on a bit.
hope that helps! :)
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Collecting guys is pretty typical for some girls. They do it for a lot of reasons such as insecurity, attention, sex, popularity, and so on. Flirting with them would be a way to "keep" them, I would guess.
Well, I can't blame you for being annoyed. It's one thing to enjoy the company of guys, it's another to "collect" them. I wouls say that your friend has issues... If there's a guy you like, don't tell her about him and keep him away from her. =P Don't talk about her with your friends behind her back, as that will cause you a lot of trouble. The best thing to do is try to ignore her if you're not willing to talk to her about things. A guy that's worth it will see that she's nothing more than a superficial flirt, I would think.
In the end, I do believe that people like this get their due. She'll have a nasty situation on her hands if there's ever a guy that she actually falls in love with. Hope that helped!
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Your friend probably just feels jealous. Her self esteem might be a little low as well, so getting guys to like her might raise her self esteem. She probably doesn't what she is doing, so just talk to her. True friends want to know how you are feeling. Don't accuse her or anything, you can say something like, "I'm not accusing you of doing this purposefully, it just seems whenever a guy likes me, you try and get him to like you..." Go from there, honesty is the best policy. Hope this helps.
-cindy <3
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Why does she do it? She may feel insecure, or just want attention. I mean, the best thing would be to talk to her and ask her if she's having some kind of problem. If the gentle approach doesn't work, get in her face. Tell her outfront that she's being stupid (some people, like myself, actually respond well to that). But if you really can't talk to her, then the next best thing is to stop being her friend. This is a toxic friendship...no good friend will try to flirt with guys that like you. Leave her alone. I know you don't want to be the "bad guy" who ends a friendship, but you need to look out for yourself. Don't hang out with people who are just going to hurt you. It may be just a phase she's going through. She may realize, when you don't spend so much time with her, that she misses you, and change her ways. Or she might not. I'm sorry, but this is reality--best friends do split up. Like I said, it doesn't have to be forever--you should just take a break.
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I go through the same exact thing my friend does that all the time! Well i guess you can talk to her about it,like say "everytime i really like someone I fill like your trying to take them from me".
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I know how it feels to have a friend do this to you, I used to go through the same thing everyday. One day I just got fed up with it and asked her to stop. She was mad but it ended up she didn't really realize what she was doing.
The best thing to do is to talk to her about it, remember she IS your friend; you should be able to talk to her about this. Tell her how you feel about her bragging about all the guys she has, and flirting with the guys she knows you like or that like you.
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