Hello, all! I haven't had much life experience compared to some people, but I can give you my view of things, and I'll do my best to give an honest opinion. Ask me anything and I'll answer as best I can!
Myself, I'm a Nursing Assistant finishing up some classes before I start working. My interests include cooking, martial arts, music, video games, gardening, acting, reading, and paintball. My girlfriend is slowly pulling me into politics, but she's drawing me in none the less. =P I love her so much!
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I met this 24 year old guy at the dog park. We totally hit it off, and we talked for two and a half hours. After that, I added him on MySpace, and then he randomly messaged me one day like amonth later, asking how I was, how I've been, and telling me he'll have more free time in the next few weeks (he owns his own business and works a LOT) So, I messaged him back, blah blah blah, we made plans, hung out again, etc. During that meeting/date thing, he persuaded me to start a doggie daycare business. Now I've been talking to him about that lately, and he's helping me through this whole starting a business thing. He's sort of my business advisor. Anyway.
I like him so much. It's one of those awesome romantic type crushes, as opposed to one of the sexual ones. But, as it is to be expected, he's SO much more mature than any other guy I've liked. So I don't really know how to approach the subject (with guys my age and younger, you just sort of bug them and tease them) without ruining what we have. Since he messaged me that time, totally out of the blue, do you suppose I have a chance? Do (normal, not just looking for sex) 24 year olds ever even consider dating 18 year olds? What should I do?! (link)
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If you are interested in him, and don't pick up on any suspicious behavior, then keep on talking to him. Sometimes you do have to be careful with older guys, but not all the time. But something I would advise here... Let HIM be the one to make the first move. From the looks of things, he does seem genuinely interested in you. However... the thing about him not contacting you for a month right off the bat is a little strange. Just my thought, though...
Yes, there are some very nice guys out there who are a bit older than a girl that they are interested in. An older guy can be more responsible than others, so that's a plus. Be careful, though.
Best advice I can offer is to let him make the first move. Watch for suspicious behavior and keep an open mind to things. He sounds like a nice guy, though! Good luck!
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I'm in a long distance relationship with a guy I used to think was perfect. It isn't exactly the best relationship but we always seem to work through everything. I cheated on him very early on in the relationship, a little less than a month into it. He seemed to forgive me right away, as if nothing happened.
Then I caught him telling someone that he didn't have a gifl friend. We got into a big argument about it because he didn't see why it was wrong. He promised me it wouldnt happen again.
A week after that, I got a myspace. He was always telling me to get one so one day I did and searched him and added him. The next day, a girl left a comment on his page about seeing him and a great night of sex. I looked at her page and he told her the same things he told me. He swore he didn't do anything with her but why talk about it if you didn't do anything?
I just re-read that and I know this relationship isn't working but I don't know how to end it. Everything I plan on breaking up with him he some how talks me out of it. He has this was of twisting my feelings around and I don't know what to do about it. Help? He's 21 I'm 18 (link)
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Well, the first thing that's to be noticed is that you've both made mistakes. On one hand, he forgave you for what you did, but you haven't forgiven him. If he says that he didn't do anything with her, then should you at least attempt to trust him? Or perhaps there's a previous incident that makes you unable to trust him? Trust is the biggest part of a relationship. If it doesn't exist, than neither does your relationship.
About talking about something he says that he didn't do though... That's a problem. Why mention it if it DIDN'T happen?
If you feel that it's time for you two to move on, then maybe it is. He's probably talking you out of it all the time because he's afraid of losing you. The best way is to make things very formal. Not an email, and certainly not IM. Call him, talk to him, and give him the reasons why exactly you are breaking up with him. Yes, it might be difficult, but plan what you need to say so you don't get flustered. But... Give him a chance to talk as well. Communication is essential in a relationship whether it is beginning, continuing, or ending.
The only real advice I can offer is to be strong about it and plan what you are going to say to him. I'm sorry that you're in this situation... Feel free to send me any other questions you may have. Good luck!
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i just got a dawrf hamster and like ive had hamsters b4 just not dawrfs so its kind of weird cause they are small! and like i dont know i just got it like yesterday but i mean it like seems to hate me or whatever..any hints? please i dont want to give it away or anything!! (link)
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Hmm... I'm not sure, but dwarf hampsters might be more "bad tempered" than normal ones. Not sure why that is, but many of the dwarf hampsters I've seen a prone to biting and don't like to be picked up.
Also, your pet is new. So it may not be used to your scent. Once it get's used to you and knows that you're not going to hurt it, but you rather are a source of comfort and treats it should warm up to you. Let it have it's space, though. Don't frighten it by suddenly picking it up. It could take a little while, but I think the hampster will be better once it gets used to it's surroundings.
Good luck! I hope you and your new pet get along well! ^_^
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My wife and I had a 4-month old Maltese Pooh. My wife took Motita to Petsmart for her first haircut; and at that time, Motita was fine, in good health, and happy. A little more than two hours passed, and when my wife returned, she was met with scared employees. Once she was given the dog, she knew why. Motita was frightened, disoriented, and in shock. About 30 minutes later, Motita started to bleed from her nose and mouth. Thirty minutes later, while my wife rushed her to a vet, Motita passed away. I have my ideas, but what are some of the possible causes of her death? (link)
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Scared to death, possibily? Not sure, but it seems like that... Bleeding from the nose and mouth is typical of an animal that has been frightened so badly that it hurts them. Was the vet able to see any head trauma of sorts? (if he looked at you puppy) That could be another cause.
Don't know if it's worth it, but you might want to investigate the employees of the Petsmart. Perhaps there was some accident and they aren't saying? If you can get a vet's opinion, compare it to what the people at the pet store told you. If there's any inconsistancies, you might want to look into this deeper as a possible animal abuse case.
There's another possibility... Where did you get the dog from? Was it a source you can trust? I've heard of dealers who pets are not as healthy as they appear and die suddenly after a few days or weeks.
I'm sorry to hear about that... it's always sad when a pet dies because they literally are like a member of the family. Hope this gave you some more ideas. Good luck!
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In high school, I was picked on a lot for being a little nerdier (big glasses), less well-dressed, and also less affluent than most of my peers. Now, I'm of grad-school age and I'm the subject of a false rumor that sounds pretty bad and has been quite damaging to my reputation. (In high school, I ignored the rumors and just concentrated on my studies. People just dropped the rumors about me because i deliberately isolated myself from them and seemed not to care.) NOW, during grad school, i'm the subject of new rumor(s), I've ignored the rumors for about eight months or so, but they have not died down. Instead, they have escalated, and more and more people are talking about it.
The rumor going around school is that "X girl saw me masturbating in the library bathroom." I have pretended not to hear it, and have ignored it for some time, but like i said, the rumor has escalated instead of died down, and now it's starting to annoy me that the grad students are talking about it so frequently, and the fact that i have overheard the rumor repeated for so long (several months). Now, although I know who the originator of the rumor is (I have heard her name repeated many times as the source of the rumor), I don't really know her as a person--I've never talked to her before. I don't realize why she started the rumor other than the fact that I don't dress as well, I'm not as pretty or popular, I'm not "cool", I don't appear to be wealthy or cool(from my clothes you can tell), and the fact that she picked me to start a rumor about because I'm an easy target--kind of nerdy, the shy, introverted type.
My question is, since I now have overheard it so many times who the originator of the rumor is (almost every single day), should I just email her and ask her to stop? I've already asked all of my friends who told me, "Just ignore the rumor. It's so stupid that they have got to stop spreading it and talking about you. Don't email her. If you do that, you'll just trigger her to create even more rumors about you [i.e., she could say that you are harassing or threatening her by emailing her and that you are a crazy, violent person, etc]."
I.e., "Please stop talking about me. I didn't do anything to you, and I'd just appreciate it if you please let the rumor die and talk about other stuff. Thank you," could be taken out of context, and she could spin it as, "She actually emailed me, told me to fuck off, and then threatened to hurt me. Now, she's harassing me. She's totally off her rocker, and this is harassment."
The reason my friends think this is a poor idea is because they believe she will spin or take out of context whatever polite email I write her and spin it as harassment or something crazy, etc.
Anyway, all I want is for the rumor to stop and for people to stop talking about me. I realize that it is partly my fault--I should have spoken up way, way earlier and corrected people after overhearing it the first time, but I didn't because I thought it was so ridiculous (and also technically unfeasible) a rumor that it would certainly die down.
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Looks like people don't grow up even in grad school... Sorry to hear about this.
A good thing to do would be to go to the staff. Have them talk to this girl about it. After she's been warned, if she does it again you might be able to file a complaint. Don't talk to this person alone, because if she did want to try something nasty, it would be her word against yours. But some how, perhaps you can get this recorded by the staff or even by the police, and if it is, that could scare her into backing off. I'm not sure, but I think it could be considered harrassment, possibly even sexual harrassment.
Why she's spreading rumors about you I have no idea. Some people are just like that and have to bring others down to their level to feel good about themselves. It's sad to see that it doesn't stop after high school.
Good luck! I hope this is of some use.
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A really nice guy is hitting on me right now. He's very complimentary. The only thing that worries me is that he says he has Asperger's Syndrome. Does anyone know anything about this syndrome? Is it dangerous to be around/date people who have it? I don't have any type of mental problem. I want to go out with him but I'm a little scared of what he might do... (not sexually) He also says that he has a photographic memory and he cannot think in words. Is this going to be a problem in our relationship?
please give me advice. (link)
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My parents were told when I was young that I might have it, turns out now that I don't. But I have met people with this disorder. Well, one guy... Please don't get scared about this or anything, but it was more his personality than the disorder that I was botehred by. But I think there was something more than just asperger's going on in him.
My advice would be, yes! This guy is perfectly alright to date. If he does something that you don't understand, talk to him about it and perhaps he can help you learn why he does certain things. Chances are he's going to be more intelligent in certain areas. The other thing... Just from my experience I'm saying this: he might have low social skills. But in that case, dating him and sharing things with him will help in that area.
But like any other relationship, if he does something that actually disturbs you, or you feel unsafe around him, please be careful.
Best of luck! I hope that was some help! Drop me a message if you have any more questions on things!
Btw... reading up on aspergers might be a good idea. The internet should have tons of info on it.
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I am 15/m and want to be a pro wrestler. Not Olympic or college, I mean the stuff on tv (yes I know its mostly fake). I need to get stronger but I dont know how to other than lifting weights. Is there anything I can get at a place like GNC that is not harmfull for someone my age and that is LEGAL? Any other things I can do? (link)
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Do something that will not just build strength, but increase your awarness about your body. Martial arts is VERY good for that, find a good school and start training would be one of my suggestions. You might not like this one, but Ballet also makes you incredibly stable on your feet. =P Muscle building can actually come later, but if you start working on something like martial arts now, that could do you a lot of good in the long run.
Hope that helped!
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My male hamster died in march and my friends male hamster died in May. she recently got a female hamster and says that the girls are more energetic and sweet then males. I always thought boys were nicer than girls? I would like a girl better but I want to get the nicest gender. What should I choose? (link)
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Animals always have their own personalities that have nothing to do with gender. Some hampsters are mean and others can be really nice. If you get them when they are young and treat them well, they should be very good pets. I've had experience with hampsters that were tortured by little kids and they can be downright vicious.
In general, though, I have heard that female hampsters are better than males because they are less agressive and won't bite as much. I've had 3 hampsters, all of them were female, and they were all very good pets.
Hope that helped!
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ok, i was just wondering what do guys like in girls?
i mean not the obvious big boobs and nice ass
but like some looks and personality
xo` thanks (link)
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A guy likes a girl who is not just interested by guys in general, but him specifically. Guys love to be noticed by girls (which is why we do so many stupid things such as jump bikes off of huge ramps to impress people). =P
Personally, I like a girl who is commited to things. Not just a relationship, but also the things she does say for interests or hobbies. Someone who is sweet, caring, generous, and thoughtful is very attractive to me. Also, it's fun when a girl knows how to be playful, but not in an overdone way, if you know what I mean...
A "good" guy will look for qualities in a girl rather than just what she looks like.
Hope that helped!
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I'm kind of stuck. I've been out of a very long relationship with this guy. I miss him a lot. Thing is, I broke up with him because he liked some other chick. It still bothers me that he likes her and yet "likes me" too. He's the only person that really talks to me. So we're really close. He was like a best friend for me but a little more, you know? But now it's just awkward because we sometimes act like a couple..
I keep hurting myself because I find myself.. wanting to be with him again. I doubt it will happen. A part of me doesn't want to try again either. Is there any way to forget him?
I keep talking to him like.. every night. It's just an old habit. I'm thinking of completely.. letting him go. Forget him. Out of my life thing.
But then I'll have no one to talk to because my friends.. aren't that close to me. [I've tried to be close, believe me.. they push me away.]
So going out with friends isn't going to work. Plans don't get that far with them.
I just need something to keep me busy. I don't know. A new hobby? Or.. something. I really need some help. (link)
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Hey there!
Your friends aren't there for you, perhaps. But your family might be. Your mother and father would be a good source of help on this, and you could always hang out with them. (going places with your family might seem "uncool" but it's really not)
The trick to forgetting something or someone is putting your energy somewhere else like you are thinking. School might not sound like a fun thing to do but focusing on that could help. Also, read books (but not romantic ones), maybe go out to some dances or clubs as well. You might meet someone new there, you never know. ^_^
The other thing you need to do is to be honest with this guy that the your friendship with him is causing a lot of trouble for you. If he's a good guy he'll understand and maybe help you out by backing off. If he doesn't know what's happening, he might get worried or try to get closer to you by calling more, writing, coming over to see you, etc... And that will get you no-where.
I hope you find a way through this! Feel free to drop any other questions in my box and I'll answer them as best I can. Hope that helped!
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if you get your ear peirced at the top which one means youre gay and which one means youre straight? (link)
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Lol! I've thought about getting my ear pierced too, and I did some research to make sure there was no mistake if I did go through with it.
As far as I know, piercing the RIGHT ear in many places means that you are gay. The LEFT ear is normal. Both ears can be pierced and it still means nothing, though. I hope I got that right... You know who else might know? A person at a tatoo or piercing shop. They probably get lots of questions like that. Make sure you know what is what before you go putting holes in yourself. =P
Hope that helped!
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I need help, really bad.
I lied to my boyfriend about something really big, not going to get into details, it's a VERY long story! He just called me & told me that he doesn't want to be in a relationship with me right now, because he just can't handle it.
& I have absolutely no idea what to say or do to make everything better. I can't handle thinking what it would be like without him, it's just WAY too much for me.
So, PLEASE. If you were in my position, what would you do?
Thanks in advance. (link)
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Hey there!
In my oppinion the best thing to do now is just be completely honest. Tell him the truth and don't hold back. Even if he breaks up with you, you have it off your chest. And perhaps if you show him you care by telling the truth he'll think about giving the relationship another shot, who knows?
If and when you do tell him the truth, let him know that you're telling him not because he's breaking up with you (as that could seem like revenge), but because you belive he deserves to know the truth.
I'm sorry you're in this situation, and perhaps there is no way to repair it. But if you try, you shouldn't blame yourself.
Best of luck! I hope that helped...
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this is a serious question. it may be sort of sick, so don't read on if you don't like things related to.. vomit, sort of.
so sometimes i wake up or whatever and feel like there is this thing stuck in my throat. i put my finger down it to see what might be there. sometimes i can take these little cube thingies out. i can sometimes just cough it out too. the cubes are usually umm pinkish, maybe flesh or yellow colored. what are they and why are they there? they are smelly, of course. and my breath is a lot better when they get taken out, i think. thanks people. (link)
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That sounds like Thrush. Is it grainy and really smells when you break it appart? It's probably a yeast build-up in the nooks and crannies of your throat. I think it's pretty typical. If too much is built up it can also give you a bit of a sore throat sometimes. Talk to your doctor about it if you're concerned. There's probably something he can do about it. All I would recommend is keeping your mouth clean as best can. Gargle some water if you can feel the lumps back there, and that should help a bit.
Hope that's of some use!
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okay so im a girl and people say that you should clean your "down there" but i dont have a douche is it safe to use like regular soap? or something like that?? (link)
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I know I'm a guy, but I've gone over this in Nursing class.
Regular soap is fine. Use a washcloth and warm water along with the soap, as that will be more comfortable. Remember to clean from the FRONT TO THE BACK. If you do it the other way, there's a chance of bateria spreading into places that you don't want it to. Rinse the soap out with water from the bath or with another wet cloth (no soap) using the same motion as before (front to back).
Hope that helped! I know it's kind of odd that I'm a guy and know this, but hey. =P
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you know what stys are right? well i think i have them. they are like all over my eyes! i have like 3 on one side and 1 on the other and one or two are going away but theres still some you know? well i was wondering how do u get rid of them? (link)
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The best thing to do is get to a doctor and get it checked out. He can remove them and cauterize the area so it's harder for them to come back, but it may take several trips to get rid of them all. I've seen them before, and they can be really persistant and painful. Don't try anything yourself. These aren't like zits that you can pop or or something.
Good luck!
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I've been casually learning Japanese from an online friend and have recently started to learn the language more in depth over the enternet. So I was wondering does anyone know a good site for learning Japanese particle? X_X they are so hard to understand sometimes all I know really is 'wa' and 'no' and 'ka' (is desu considered a particle? x3) So I'm able to ask simple questions and make simple statements but I wanted to know also if anyone had any advice. My online friend is 13 and Japanese but often finds it hard to explain to me things ^_^;; any advice or helful sites maybe?
I'm not sure if I posted this in the right place I wasnt sure sorry if it isnt!
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The only advice I can offer is to keep at it. Do it when you're bored, or when you don't have anything else to do. Practice, practice, practice! ^_~
I have a "Learn to speak Japanese" program, but I've always found this site really useful for vocabulary:
http://www.trussel.com/f_nih.htm
Good luck! ^_^
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do guys like shy girls? guys opinions would be helpful. thankss :] (link)
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Hey! ^_^
It depends on the guy. And there are a lot of defintions of "shy." For example "shy" could mean something like "not loud" as opposed to quiet. Or "preffers less friends" rather than having tons of friends. These aren't bad deffintions of shy and being shy isn't a bad thing.
If you are on the more "shy" side and you're a girl, there are some things you want to watch out for. Too often have I seen guys view "shy girls" as easy targets for hook ups. Also, shy-er girls might end up being hounded by guys that have no social skills whatsoever because other, more outgoing, girls are intimidating to these guys. These kinds of guys usually don't know how to catch a hint when a girl doesn't like them and can be a royal pain. There was a guy like this who wouldn't leave my sister alone...
But again, being on the shy side is not a bad thing at all! And yes, there are a lot of good guys out there who like girls that are a bit more shy than others. That kind of girl is often viewed as needing more attention and protection from her boyfriend. Many guys love to show these things toward a girl they care about. Also, if a girl is a bit shy, yet is close to her boyfriend, that makes him feel more special and can lead to a stronger relationship.
Most of this is just from my oppinion, but I hope it helped somewhat! Good luck!
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I am from miami and i am 15. I had met a boy and he is 17 we have been friends for a month and he asked me to be his girlfriend so i said yes and a week later he had to move back to new jersey and we have been going out for 6 months now but he works as a chef and barely have time for anything. should i drop him or stay with him? (link)
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Hey there! ^_^
First suggestion would be to talk to your boyfriend about how you're feeling. Distance can be hard, but just distance is never a good reason for a break up (in my oppinion). He's far away, yes, but a try things like leaving messaages for him, calling him, writing him when you can. Maybe he won't get back to you all the time, but at least you're letting him know you're thinking of him. That's heartening to him AND you.
If you love this guy and want to keep him, then why shouldn't you? Age isn't really a factor here like a lot of people will say. You're old enough to make decisions and manage a relationship, long distance or not. The first couple of bumps in the road are always the worst, but you get used to the difficulties of a long distance relationship after a while. Yes, it can be hard, but if you really love the person, it's just as rewarding as any other successful relationship.
Ask yourself a question, though. Without any pressure from others, without thinking about the distance, ask yourself the questions: Do you love him? Is this what you want?
If the answer is yes, then do little things to further the relationship. It's not always the big things that matter. Always remember to tell him that you love him, even saying it at random. Guys love to hear that from their girlfriends!
If the answer is no, then I hope all goes well for you. But whether the answer is yes or no, you need to talk your boyfriend about how you're feeling. Talk to him about what HE wants in the relationship and figure out where this is going.
Good luck! I hope that helped a bit. ^_^
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ok i really want a digital camera but i dont want to spend a lot of money on it so i was wondering if anybody has a digital camera thats works good and is affordable?
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Well, some digital cameras you can get for under $100. But with this kind of thing you get what you pay for. If you want something that really works and works well, you're probably going to spend over $100. I have an Olympus Stylus 300. It's older, and it cost about $300 when I got it. Now you could probably find something similar for half the price, and it's a VERY good camera. Sony is good, but way overpriced. I'm not too sure on the others.
My advice would be to figure out how much you can spend, go to a store like Best Buy or something, and ask about what's available in your price range. The people there should be of a lot of help.
Good luck, and take lots of pictures! ^_^
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Ok its me with my boyfriend problem again! You know the one when my boyfriends 3 years older then me! Well all my aunts know now. And im so embarresed! And all my aunts were and still are really good friends with my boyfrineds mom. Now like my whole family knows! And barely any 1 in his family knows about me. All the people my age that know me are just finding out! And some are refusing it. Some say it's not true! I dont know what to do! I really love him but i'm not sure it will work out. And one more thing his little brother is my age and we are only teens and so is my boyfriend. But remember he is 3 years older. Should i stay with him or dump him because i could get a really bad reputation in my family and friends? (link)
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Now wait a minute... A three year age difference isn't bad. My girlfriend is three years younger than I am, and we work through every problem that comes up; the age difference doesn't matter at all. We never really think about it, because it matters so little. What should matter in a relationship is how much you really love the person.
I don't mean to be rude or anything here... but is it actually your friends and relatives that are worried about the age difference or is it you? There doesn't seem to be much evidance of people attacking your relationship because of the age. It honestly sounds like you're more worried then they are. If that's the case, ask yourself what you have to worry about. Is there any reason? You love him, I assume. And you want to be with him, right? Why break up over an age difference? That's not bad at all compared to other things: he's not cheating on you, he's not using you, he doesn't insult and degrade you. (I hope he doesn't)
A relationship can be tough at times, but when you stick with it and give it your all, it makes it all the more worthwhile. Think of it like a savings account: the more you put into it, the more valuable it is. (maybe that's a dumb comparison, but meh)
If you ARE getting flack from your friends and family, don't get discouraged! This is YOUR life, YOUR relationship, YOUR decision. Regardless of how hard they try, they can't change that unless you let them. Peer pressure is no excuse for a break up unless the relationship is abusive. Sometimes people just get a kick out of telling others what to do and controlling other's lives. If you let them push you around in a relationship, that's telling them they can push you around in anything.
Show that you're confident in the relationship, show people that you really love your boyfriend and he loves you. People will see that and respect you and your decisions if they know you're happy.
Talk to your boyfriend about it. Maybe he can help you. Tell him the feelings you're getting from other people and perhaps you two can come up with a solution. A relationship takes two people at all times. You shouldn't get a bad reputation for an age difference, three years appart is nothing to be ashamed of!
Good luck! ^_^ I hope everything turns out for the best! If you need any more help, feel free to drop a question in my inbox!
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