Hey guys!
I'm so glad you're a my column... lets start with me. I'm jordan, my friends call me jords. I love helping people, and I know where most peoples problems are coming from... holler if you need me!
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Gender: Female
Location: H-Town <3
Age: 13
AIM: j x3 brittany
Member Since: May 27, 2006
Answers: 11
Last Update: July 15, 2007
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i need a new screenname. but i want it to be something sort of random.
my nickname is caro, pronounced "care-oh", not "car-oh", haha. so i was thinking of something like "carosaurus" or something stupid like that. i like my friends, which is "x3 (name)". just something simple. any ideas?
(i didn't include info about myself in the question because i want it to be something that has no revelance to my hobbies or appearance, etc.) (link)
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thencarowaslike
so then it will say thencarowaslike:hey,whatsup?
thencarowaslike:oh cool, same here.
you see?
if not some more are like..
caroTtop.
like carrot top, which is cute if you're a redhead.
if not, you can just be carotdiamonds.
like carat diamonds.
i'm all out. :[
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i've been molested, as a child. it happened often and i've tried so hard to block it out but now i feel like it defines me. nobody knows, i can't say anything nobody will believe me. everybody will hate me. he ruined me. i picture how my life would be if it never happened, the way i am now is horrible. i make so many mistakes just trying to make myself feel better but nothing works. i dont know what to do, i cant talk to anybody. im 16, this happened the summer going into 5th grade then into the year.
nothing makes it go away i don't know what to do i want to die so badly. (link)
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Hey sweetie!
Listen,
I, as do many others, wish I could sit with you and discuss this.
I want you to.. don't give this guy so much power. In the end, you have all the power over yourself.
Lets take this letter line by line.
"i've been molested, as a child."
at least 1. you've come to terms with it and 2. by saying in your childhood, this admits in your past. the first part of controlling the future is letting go of the past.
next: "it happened often and i've tried so hard to block it out but now i feel like it defines me."
1. this doesnt define you. just because you were raped doesnt mean you are some little toy people can use and play mind games. what happened was bad, but you arent a bad person. what happened was insanity and terrible, but you are not a terrible person. do not let this act define you. it does not.
next up- "nobody knows, i can't say anything nobody will believe me."
you need to tell a guidance coulselor, who yes, will seek professional help. its not bad, i actually go to a therapist. they will help tremendously. and babe, you need it. which is not a bad thing, its very good. it means you have accepted and admitted you are hurt and need help. it is much easier to say you are mad than to admit you are hurt.
next up- "everybody will hate me. he ruined me." i'm sure he did ruin you, and honey, you let him. i dont mean you let him rape you, but i mean you are letting this get the best of you, which it sure as hell doesnt deserve. you need to make this who you are. yes, you are a victim of a terrible crime, but you need it to make you stronger. and you cannot let it ruin you. thats way to much power than this man clearly deserves.
here we go, moving on. "i picture how my life would be if it never happened, the way i am now is horrible. "
the way you are now is not horrible, because you are a strong person. stronger than you give yourself credit for. because you are going on, and you sooner or later will be able to do things to educate other young girls about this, and you will help millions of other people. of course this threw you a little off your ideal life path, but this is paving a new one for you.. carrying on.
"i make so many mistakes just trying to make myself feel better but nothing works."
you do not need to make yourself better. you are a beautiful, smart, great girl and as long as you believe that, you're covered.
moving on- ". i dont know what to do, i cant talk to anybody. " you need to talk to someone. you dont need to tell your parents necessarily and i dont think the therapist can. they can only tell your parents if you are in danger or if you are putting other people in danger, and it seems to me, the damage is done. moving on: "im 16, this happened the summer going into 5th grade then into the year." this is over. this was terrible, but you did it. its over. it may never feel over, but it is. and you did it!! how amazing is that. dont make this more painful than it has to be. last little bit "nothing makes it go away i don't know what to do i want to die so badly." nothing will make it go away, you're right. you will always be reminded of this. you cannot want to die, death is no answer. if this is really how you feel, seek professional help, please! no one deserves to die, maybe the man who did this to you, but definitely not you, babe!!
please be safe.
love,
jords.
good luck in the future and everything you do.
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WEll me any my girlfriend are going out for the first time and i really like her and im reasdy for it but i just dont know when to do it? or even if im a good enought kisser (link)
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okay, this is the thing that will stick out.
knowing someone is really insecure, and knowing someone is doubting themselves is a huge turnoff.
theres no right time, theres no way to do it.
do what feels right, and if she pulls away, she may not be ready.
you cant worry about it.
just go with the flow.
be chill.
-jords!
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Should I try letting my bf squirt in my mouth? .... I'm afraid I might choke or something (link)
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You can try, you wont choke, if you feel like your gonna just spit. It tastes weird though.. warm and salty.
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Are there any songs about being TRULY depressed? or lyrics specifically about not being able to even get out of bed?
thanks in advance (link)
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Counting Crows - Raining in Baltimore
This circus is falling down on its knees
The big top is crumbling down
Its raining in baltimore fifty miles east
Where you should be, no ones around
I need a phone call
I need a raincoat
I need a big love
I need a phone call
These train conversations are passing me by
And I dont have nothing to say
You get what you pay for
But I just had no intention of living this way
I need a phone call
I need a plane ride
I need a sunburn
I need a raincoat
And I get no answers
And I dont get no change
Its raining in baltimore, baby
But everything else is the same
Theres things I remember and things I forget
I miss you I guess that I should
Three thousand five hundred miles away
But what would you change if you could?
I need a phone call
Maybe I should buy a new car
I can always hear a freight train if I listen real hard
And I wish it was a small world
Because Im lonely for the big towns
Id like to hear a little guitar
I think its time to put the top down
I need a phone call
I need a raincoat
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okay, this is weird i know but which would be the best to make my car smell good
something to spray, those cans you can put in your cupholder and they smell, or the things you can hang off your rearview mirror.
and which one would last the longest (link)
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YANKEE CANDLES!
they're the best!
any fragrance works.
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13/f
ok so theres this guy i like named cody. were kind of friends but not really. i talk to him on myspace and aim sometimes. so one day i see hes on aim so i say hey to him. heres how it went..
me-hey
cody-what do you want now
me-umm i dont know
cody-then dont talk to me
--cody signs off--
im not exactly sure what i did to deserve that. my friends are saying maybe he was in a bad mood or hes under alot of pressure right now (he has me and my friend ashley chasing after him you could say. she asked him out and he said no and he also knows that i like him). anyway when i read that i almost cried. what should i do?? (link)
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SAME WITH ME!
this is what's going on...
you NEED to ingnore HIM like he is to you for a while. It may be hard, but toughen up. After a while, call him. He'll act like nothings wrong. And if he doesnt confront the problem, you have to. Say, I dont know what's going on but I'm alittle confused about what you said to me that day, about me not talking to you, and then you just signed off? What's going on?
You'll straighten things out sooner or later
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Anyone know where I can buy arm warmers/fingerless gloves? (link)
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Delias, PacSUN.
Both have websites:
Delias.com
and
Pacsun.com
have fun, kiddo!
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and he has a girlfriend.
Me and him had kinda a summer fling and we hung out ALOT! and got really close.
I know he doesnt like me, but he does alot strange things.
For example, he used to IM me all the time online [before he had a girlfriend] and he would say "hey"
but now when he IM's me , he LOOOKS for ways to start a conversation , like he would ask me stupid questions or say random things.
Then in front of his friends he soo mean to me , but at lunch all his friends will be sitting at one table and maybe like one of his friends will be sitting at my table and he will sit at my table instead of with his girlfriend, but he wont sit next to me, he sits a few seats down.
And then he always does things to like talk to me, like he spits on me sometimes and i chase him around to hit him.
And he prank calls me with one of his friends!
But he makes fun of me in front of alot of his friends, but he like tries to be around me.
Whats the deal??
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Hey "Double Sided Boy Lover"
This boy could be just flirty when he likes someone. Like when we like someone as a friend, we talk to them, and hang out. He just flirts. He's probably really insecure and doesn't know where he belongs. I'm in this EXACT same situation. If you're aabout 13,14. The guy will change around his friends. I met this boy and he was my lab partner. Sweetest, nicest, most honest, caring, and compassionate boy ever. (not to mention cute.) around his friends he totally changes and becomes a jerk. Give it time, and just try to hang out with him.
-Jordan
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one time me and this boy I liked were one on one
at my house on my trampoline.
He said " you used to like me didnt you?"
and Im like "yeah" [which was akward enough]
then he said " i used to like you "
2 seconds later , he says " just kidding"
whats the deal? (link)
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Hey Confused,
This guy sounds like a jerk to me. That may be hard to hear but he's probably just too good for himself. Dont pay any attention to it.
I really want to help.. I.M me!
j x3 brittany
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me and my girl friend have had sex 3 or 4 times and im not quite sure if she's had an orgasm, she groans and arches her back and gets tense and stuff but is there anything i can do to definitly give her an orgasm, and... i dont know, techniques or somthin, certain places? somthin?
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eat her out. WE LOVE THAT!
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