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Is it okay to date guys who have Asperger's syndrome?
A really nice guy is hitting on me right now. He's very complimentary. The only thing that worries me is that he says he has Asperger's Syndrome. Does anyone know anything about this syndrome? Is it dangerous to be around/date people who have it? I don't have any type of mental problem. I want to go out with him but I'm a little scared of what he might do... (not sexually) He also says that he has a photographic memory and he cannot think in words. Is this going to be a problem in our relationship?
please give me advice.
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I think if you're really sure that you like this guy I think it would be ok for you to go out with him.The syndrome is a little like autisim.I know somethings about autisim becouse I have a cousin and there's a boy who goes to my school who are both autistic so i'll tell you a little bit about the disorder.kids who have autisim don't like change,big crowds,and they have to do something repetive or at least my cousin aj does my cousin aj beats his barney tapes over and over and my friend chad has to ask the same question over and over even though he's already asked it several times before.autisim is a learning disability even though my cousin is 15 he's like 2 or 3 in his mind so his still likes to watch barney and bob the builder and things like that so I think it would be really nice of you to date him if you really like him that is.
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I think it perfectly fine to date a guy with Aspergers. Aspergers is a kind of autism. Some people with aspergers can have little to no signs of the syndrome, and some with the syndrome you will notice are a little different. I work in the school system and have had experience with a few students living with this syndrome, in no way were these students dangerous. One of the biggest issues people with aspergers face are in social situations. Sometimes they may lack the social skills that a person without this syndrome would have. Yes people with aspergers may process thoughts differently, but they feel just the same as us. SO give him a chance and get to know him just like you would any other guy you meet. Judge him on his personality and the way he treats you, and the type of person he is, rather than judging him by a label that was given to him.
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My parents were told when I was young that I might have it, turns out now that I don't. But I have met people with this disorder. Well, one guy... Please don't get scared about this or anything, but it was more his personality than the disorder that I was botehred by. But I think there was something more than just asperger's going on in him.
My advice would be, yes! This guy is perfectly alright to date. If he does something that you don't understand, talk to him about it and perhaps he can help you learn why he does certain things. Chances are he's going to be more intelligent in certain areas. The other thing... Just from my experience I'm saying this: he might have low social skills. But in that case, dating him and sharing things with him will help in that area.
But like any other relationship, if he does something that actually disturbs you, or you feel unsafe around him, please be careful.
Best of luck! I hope that was some help! Drop me a message if you have any more questions on things!
Btw... reading up on aspergers might be a good idea. The internet should have tons of info on it.
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I found a good read on the disorder. He may have a form of it that isn't real severe. Here is a site for you. I hope it is helpful.
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