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Long distance relationship
I am from miami and i am 15. I had met a boy and he is 17 we have been friends for a month and he asked me to be his girlfriend so i said yes and a week later he had to move back to new jersey and we have been going out for 6 months now but he works as a chef and barely have time for anything. should i drop him or stay with him?
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Hey there! ^_^
First suggestion would be to talk to your boyfriend about how you're feeling. Distance can be hard, but just distance is never a good reason for a break up (in my oppinion). He's far away, yes, but a try things like leaving messaages for him, calling him, writing him when you can. Maybe he won't get back to you all the time, but at least you're letting him know you're thinking of him. That's heartening to him AND you.
If you love this guy and want to keep him, then why shouldn't you? Age isn't really a factor here like a lot of people will say. You're old enough to make decisions and manage a relationship, long distance or not. The first couple of bumps in the road are always the worst, but you get used to the difficulties of a long distance relationship after a while. Yes, it can be hard, but if you really love the person, it's just as rewarding as any other successful relationship.
Ask yourself a question, though. Without any pressure from others, without thinking about the distance, ask yourself the questions: Do you love him? Is this what you want?
If the answer is yes, then do little things to further the relationship. It's not always the big things that matter. Always remember to tell him that you love him, even saying it at random. Guys love to hear that from their girlfriends!
If the answer is no, then I hope all goes well for you. But whether the answer is yes or no, you need to talk your boyfriend about how you're feeling. Talk to him about what HE wants in the relationship and figure out where this is going.
Good luck! I hope that helped a bit. ^_^
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Hey there,
Ok this is probally not going to be the answer that you want. but i assure you it's the best thing for both of you at this time. You both have your lives going on in 2 diffrent places, he is doing his thing and you are doing yours. long distance relationship rarly work out, if you think that you have a major thing for this boy just wait till your older, and
see where both of you are. be friends for a longer time than a month. my personal opinion is that you both rushed into the relationship. i am sure you both like eachother very much. but for you both to be in diffrent places and not talking that much it's just not good for either of you. it's to much pressure and stress. talk to him and tell him you would like to be friends for now, and see where you are in the future, keep in touch and just have fun. both date around, and just have fun. hope this helps :)
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Honestly? You're only 15, why worry about a long distance relationship? They're so hard to keep and be happy in and you're obviously not happy if you're here asking this question. If you were older and able to maybe go up to see him on your own, it'd be differ rent. But seriously, you almost never see him, right? And you said he barely has anytime so I'd just break it off. That's how I see it.
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This is a tough one. First you need to reflet, how much do you actually like this boy? If you do like him alot, try to work things out. If you know hes "just another boyfriend" It's best if you leave it at friendship. Hope I helped! -karlie
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