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Hey, I'm a 21 year old who has been through a bad marriage, a divorce, motherhood, loss of my child and finding real love. I love helping people and have been told that I'm good at giving adivce. I can't promise that everything I say is perfect for you and your situation but I will do my best to help you out in anyway that I can and hopefully my experiences can help you.

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i recently learned i am pregnant. so far, im thinkin its prolly a month and a half along. im 16, and there is NOOOOOOO way in the world i can have this baby. theres no way in the world i can tell anyone my boyfriend of over a year got me pregnant. my family's real good friends with his, and things just wouldnt be pretty. also, both our families are real religious and would drown us in all the 'sex before marriage is a sin' stuff. well, fact of the matter is, since we havent told anyone about it yet- i havent gone to a doctor. i know youre supposed to get prenatal care the second you find out youre pregnant- but i cant bring myself to tell anyone, and truthfully- i really dont want to have this baby. i will NOT have an abortion, but i think i might be having a miscarriage, or about to be having one. i have all of the symptoms. i guess my questions are;
1. how do i tell people?
2. how do i know for sure if im having a miscarriage?
and 3. am i a horrible person?

No, you are not a horrible person. Your are facing one of the hardest things a teen shouldn't ever have to face. You should tell your families sooner rather then later, they love you and yes, you probably will get the "talk" but that is just how parents are. In the long run they will most likely be your strongest support. I would suggest telling them with your boyfriend and getting that part done. The hardest will still be to come. If you are miscarring you need to go to the doctor, you need to go regardless, but it can be dangerous not to have medical care after or during a miscarriage. In answer to what should you do. Wait untill you are a couple more months along to contact adoption agency's and make sure to discuss the different approaches to adoption with the father and with both of your parents. There are many forms of adoption and you want to make sure yo chose the best one for your child and yourself. Giving up a child is a hard thing to do and many people opt to have an open adoption where their information is available to their child once he/she turns 18 if they want to find their birth parents or you could go with closed adoption which keeps your information confidential. There are some other forms and in the long run the choice is you and the fathers. Good luck hunny.

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Okay so sorry if this is long but if you repond I'll give you a five no matter what:]]

I had been going out with a boy and he was like, the best boyfriend possible except he just would suffocate me kind of, but not a lot. I started to like this other boy so I broke up with my boyfriend. My boyfriend was sad and stuff but then I started liking him again and not the other guy. Now I really want to get back with my ex but he is just like considering it. I am having my friend talk to him because I am soo shy. I have never loved someone so much in my life and I really want to get with him again. What should I do?

first of all hunny, make sure he knows you know you screwed up. No guy likes to be "second choice" and while I know thats not what your saying about him thats the way he is possibly seeing it. You broke up with him for someone else then want to go back. Guys don't understand this type of action. If you think the suffocation is going to be a problem then talk to him about it. and hunny, talk to him yourslef, not through your friend. He might not take you back cause you've already hurt him once but you need to actually talk to him yourslef or you'll never find out. Good luck hunny.

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well i like this guy but he started liking my friend. well my friend had a boyfriend but her and the guy still hung out and talked all the time. i talked to the guy all the time too. but then he started not answering her calls or her text messages. i think its because she is leading him on when she has no feelings for him. but he wont talk to me either and i have no clue why. last weekend we pranked called my friends boyfriend and told him that my friend was having sex with another guy. and my other friend used the guy i like's name. but then we told my friends b/f it was a joke. well the guy i like ended up finding out and he got really mad. but then we apologized to him even tho it wasnt my fault and me, him and my friend hung out the next night. but he wont answer her calls or wont talk to me online or anything. i just dont get why?!?!? i really really like him. i dont know if he still likes my friend though. what should i do?
(16f)

first of all hunny, alot of times guys will say it's alright when in all reality it's not. It seems like you really messed up. It might not have been your idea but you were involved in the prank and therefor it is in a way your responsibility for what was. said or who was accused of what. Give him some space and time and instead of apologizing show him that your sorry. Actions speak louder then words. And if you really like this guy try not to let your other friends use him in pranks like that. That is not a way to get a guy to like you or notice you.

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