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Keep my mind off of him?
I'm kind of stuck. I've been out of a very long relationship with this guy. I miss him a lot. Thing is, I broke up with him because he liked some other chick. It still bothers me that he likes her and yet "likes me" too. He's the only person that really talks to me. So we're really close. He was like a best friend for me but a little more, you know? But now it's just awkward because we sometimes act like a couple..
I keep hurting myself because I find myself.. wanting to be with him again. I doubt it will happen. A part of me doesn't want to try again either. Is there any way to forget him?
I keep talking to him like.. every night. It's just an old habit. I'm thinking of completely.. letting him go. Forget him. Out of my life thing.
But then I'll have no one to talk to because my friends.. aren't that close to me. [I've tried to be close, believe me.. they push me away.]
So going out with friends isn't going to work. Plans don't get that far with them.
I just need something to keep me busy. I don't know. A new hobby? Or.. something. I really need some help.
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was he going out with her while u were going out? thats wrong and you need to forget him! honestly if he chose her then you need to let go .. try getting a hobbie .. painting photography just something to get your mind off him
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I realize that you like this boy a lot, but you also have to understand that he is your best friend, and making more out of it than friendship could hurt your friendship really bad. You have to think. Would you rather have him as your best friend? Or not have him at all? If it were me I wouldn't want to mess up my friendship.
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Try doing something active,like waking up early,doing some exercise like running,jogging,weight training or horseback riding,swimming,camping,vlounteer work,and so on.Trying to forget someone can be very frustrating but at the same time we want to be reborn,see things in a very positve way,being able to confront the whole world without fear,and you're starting off well by saying that you want to forget,and move on with your life so you're definitely on the right path.
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Hey there!
Your friends aren't there for you, perhaps. But your family might be. Your mother and father would be a good source of help on this, and you could always hang out with them. (going places with your family might seem "uncool" but it's really not)
The trick to forgetting something or someone is putting your energy somewhere else like you are thinking. School might not sound like a fun thing to do but focusing on that could help. Also, read books (but not romantic ones), maybe go out to some dances or clubs as well. You might meet someone new there, you never know. ^_^
The other thing you need to do is to be honest with this guy that the your friendship with him is causing a lot of trouble for you. If he's a good guy he'll understand and maybe help you out by backing off. If he doesn't know what's happening, he might get worried or try to get closer to you by calling more, writing, coming over to see you, etc... And that will get you no-where.
I hope you find a way through this! Feel free to drop any other questions in my box and I'll answer them as best I can. Hope that helped!
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Well, I know of the Perfect thing that well help you if you welcome it with a open mind and determination, It is a Philosophy called Buddhism, You`ll lose your Desire to want him, along with other disires, Ive study for over a year and I havnt been mad or sad for the past 7 months. I almost got beat to death and i didnt get mad/sad at all, Im at a point where im a tad annoyed in a funny way that i cant get mad/sad, Its like the dead, But Im always happy so its cool. And you might not understand alot in the book at first(you`ll need a book) but it will slowly come to you, and the more you understand the happyer you stay, Its like raiseing the rockbottom bar, you know how you feel when you hit rockbottom, you can raise that up where that doesnt get you down
Here the First book a read, Its perfect of beggingers
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