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What is wrong with me..?
Ok, this past year i have had 2 boyfriends. The first one was really great and I liked him alot. We were really close and i thought he cared about me. Then at one of my bff's b-day party's he was invited and so was my other bff. Well, my other bff and him went to look for the girl that was having the party's softball they lost in the woods. A little later they came out and my friend took me to the side and said he had kissed her. I was REALLY hurt. Then in the same day he broke up with me. This was his excuse:" I got my 1st cousin pregnant." Then, later on I found out it was a lie.
The second boyfriend I had was really close to me too. Then, he stopped returning my calls and all my friends were saying he was cheating on me. My bff(the girl the 1st guy kissed) said he had been calling her all the time. She also said she would talk to him for hours at a time. So, it really hurt me that she was doing this to me and rubbing it in my face. I don't wanna lose her as a friend, but why can't i hold on to a guy.....?
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I know you don't want to lose her as a friend but you really need to talk to her.She's taking your boyfriends away from you, which is rude.And the next boyfriend you have don't even introduce him and your best friend that way nothing can happen. ♥
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1) welcome to the dating game- first lesson is that many guys are jerks and will follow their dicks rather than a sense of loyalty or decency. There are ones that won't. Seek them out.
2) Nice friend you have there. If she didn't give #1 a slap and spend at least some of those hours of conversation with #2 asking him why he was treating you so badly I'm gona go ahead and assume that she doesn't really care about your feelings or interests and probably enjoys this attention. Not necessarily because she's just an evil person but because it gives her validation that a guy is picking her over someone else (you). Even so, you don't need friends who aren't willing to fight your corner. Talk to her about the fact you'd like a little more support from her if and when someone hurts you rather than having to stand back and watch her move in on them. If she doesn't get it you need to have a think about this friendship and whether you really want to feel in competition with and threatened by her all the time.
I'm guessing you're fairly young and guys tend to be a bit like this in their teens (and hell, out of them too) but the fact these two couldn't stay loyal to you and were even too pathetic to tell you is not your fault- that's their own weakness. Just concentrate on finding a someone genuine who likes you for you and you won't have to worry about this friend of yours taking him away- she won't be able to.
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Your bff is a boy magnet. Keep her on your radar as much as possible. It's not that you're unliked by guys, it's just the guys you thought liked you were, well, playboys. Hopefully, now you know what to avoid in guys like the ones that will, if you will, tell you they love you but never say they're in love with you. Hope that helps!
Alice
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Sounds to me like your best friend is pulling the guys more towards her. Yeah, I know thats not what you want to hear, but thats what it sounds like, but of course I could be wrong.
Talk to her, ask whats with her and all of your boyfriends. If she doesn't confess, just watch out for her. If you get a new boyfriend, try to keep him clear of her. =]
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I know that this isn't the answer that you're looking for, but I think that you shouldn't trust her very much. She's obviously hurting your feelings and keeps chasing your boyfriends. She knows that you're dating, so why is she doing this to you? Definitly tell her how you feel. A true friend wouldn't do something like that.
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Wow.
It sure seems like alott of your boyfriends like your friend!
Hm. If i were you i would comfront my friend & tell her how i feel.
That if she wants to do that to me, then she mine as well not be my friend. But i would only do that if she kissed them back like on purpose.
I would also just stay single untill you find a really trustworthy boyfriend.
Because seriosuly one part of a relationship is to trust each other & without that there would be nothing to build a realtionship on.
I hope i helped you out.
Nicole Lynn
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tou simply need to find the right guy, those two guys might have been close to you, but anyone can be close, i understand your pain but believe me it isn't your falt, those guys were, excuse my language, but low life assclowns, you don't need them, so instead look for a guy, that you like, but be careful, guys are natural assholes, i should no i am one. don't let him get in your heat intill you know you can really trust him.
And has for your friend, tell her that it's hurting you that she is telling you how she talks to him for hours, dont get mad or anything, just explain. a true friend will apologize and cut it out.
GoodLuck, and don't compleatly give up on guys, i know most are assholes but there's still a few good guys left, just need to keep faith that there out here somewhere
Jon a.K.a GateKeeper
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