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Boyfriend threatens suecide
I am a 15 year old girl in Australia. My boyfriend is getting really serious, He has started talking about how he's going to ask me to marry him sometime soon and i'm getting really freaked out. When i tried to tell him how i feel, he got all upset thinking i don't love him. I really do, but he wouldn't listen. He got sp upset he started hurting himself a little and when i apologised and everything he finally calmed down, he told me he could have killed himself, and he kept using that against me, Until i was crying.
Later he told me he was sorry and shouldn't have said any of that stuff. But every time i try to talk to him about how i feel, he threatens me with suecide. I can't do anything because i am scared he will do something really bad.
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Wow. There's a relationship that isn't healthy for either one of yall. I would get out of that relationship soon, before you are trapped. Explain to him that you love him as a brother, or a friend. He will probably threaten you with suicide and things like that, but hopefully it is just talk. But if he does hurt himself again, immedietly (spelling) tell an adult you trust, so they can get help for him. I hate that that's happening to you, but I hope my advice helps.
Alice
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I am so sorry that this is happening to you. You are only fifteen and this is something that you do not need to be caught up in right now. First thing you should do is talk to somebody you trust about his hurting himself and threats of suicide. If he is serious then he needs some help and its important that he gets it. Second thing you need to do is letting him go. You need to have fun because you are only a teenager once and you don't need the thought of marriage or suicide to slow you down. Good luck and again I'm real sorry.
♥ Kelli
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First off, I don't want to be mean, but your bf is horrible for trying to control you that way. Don't let him force you to do things, and don't do something simply because you're afraid he'll hurt himself. If he has a knife to his throat or something, then ok, talk things out with him. But the way he's controling you is abuse.
The first thing I would recomend would be to tell others of what he's up to. A suicide hotline might be a good place to start along with his and your parents. And don't be afraid to tell adults, as you and your bf are still 15. Find out in what ways he's thinking of hurting himself, if he's serious he'll have an actual plan. Once you know more, you can act better upon it.
Do not do anything that you don't want to just because he says that he might hurt himself. That's complete BS. If you ask me, it honestly doesn't sound like he's serious because he knows it's a way he can control you. But don't push things... Maybe he's serious, maybe he's not. In the end, if he does end up hurting himself, IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT. You're not making or forcing him to do anything, despite how he's making you feel.
One more thing... He's 15, talking marriage, he's threatening suicide if you don't coopperate, he's mentally abusive to you... Sounds like you need to re-evaluate the relationship. He doesn't sound stable at all. If threatening himself stops working, what's next? Threatening you? Hurting you? It wouldn't come as a surprise, that's for sure.
Good luck! Get people to help you with what you're going through, and don't confine this to just yourself and him. Take him seriously, but don't let him control you. Also, if you've got an easy way out of this relationship, my advice would be to take it.
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Okay first think? How often does this happen? If alot maybe you should leave. But i think you need to set the record straight. People who do that just look for attention, i know its weird but I used to do the same thing. Just calmly but firmly tell him how you feel. Say, that your tired of the guilt trips, and you want them to end or else you will leave. He might threaten again but say, seriously if you want me to stay, then you cant do that anymore. You need to be firm and loving at the same time. Tell him that you just want to take it slow. Dont say you dont want to, just say im not ready and that it means alot to you if would respect that. 98% worth that he wont kill himself. He just wants attention. Tell him he needs to stop or you we leave beacuse it scares you. IF that doesnt work message me on myspace and we will talk more. I really hoped i helped.
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Coward.
I am assuming, for the sake of argument and age, your boyfriend is/is near the same age as you.
How he could even fathom marriage when you are 15 is just...amazing. He knows no love if he is willing to hurt himself and threaten you with his suicide if the conversation turns to something he doesn't like.
The relationship is bad and so is his conduct. Agreeing with TheTeenGirl I second you getting an adult involved and getting this settled. I am sure you like him, but at 15 neither of you are even close to ready for a commitement like marriage. And to me, personally, I think you need to end the relationship, for both your sakes. Even if you do like him, I highly doubt you will get anywhere with him.
Get someone involved and make him listen. You shouldn't be bound by his selfishness and rudeness. To even threaten to hurt himself like that because you just want to talk about your feelings is just pathetic. Get an adult involved and settle this before he even can think of hurting himself.
I hope I helped, and good luck with this all. I've known people that have been in relationships like this, and it pisses me off to no end to know that people will threaten people they "love" with suicide.
-Ryan
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Your relationship is very unhealthy. This guy is unhealthy to be with. If he's threatening to kill himself when you try to explain or disagree in a situaton, you need to put an end to this.
-Get your parents involved or an adult you know. Let them know what he's been doing so that someone can get him help.
-Don't let his sweet talk and apologies suck you back in. He will do whatever it takes to get you back and you need to stand up to that strong current.
-TheTeenGirl
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