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my best friend is scared of the dark. i can't get to sleep when i spend the night at her house because she keeps all the lights on in her room and i just cant fall asleep. so when she hits the hay... i quietly go to the light switch and turn the lights off. as soon as i do that she wakes up and starts crying! what to do???
thanks in advance
Frenchy♥
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A sleeping mask might work pretty well for you. Or, just get her a night light. Those usually work. If neither of those solutions help, i recommend that you just tell her it's bothering you and try to compromise.
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Why don't you buy her a night light or a 3 setting lamp for her birthday? But if that embarasses her, buy a cute light instead.It's rude to sleep in another room because if the lights went out, she wouldn't have anyone near her. It also says "I don't want to be near you." Try to explain that nothing is going to happen to her in the dark. With the three setting lamp, you can have her put it on the brightest setting, then the second brightest setting, and so on until she can sleep in the dark. Hope that helps!
Alice
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This is a very commen problem. I also have the same problem. You have alot of options. You could get a sleeping mask which helps alot. It gives you the illusion of a dark room.
Or heres a goofy idea,go under the covers! haha
whatever works for you.
Or the best thing you can do, is try not to sleepover with her that much. like hang out but if it bothers you that much, try not to have sleepovers with her.
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I have to admit that I am 21 years old and still scared of the dark. It has nothing to do with being immature, it's just one of those things. Some people are scared of spiders, some are scared of clowns, some people are scared of the dark.
I have total sympathy with both of you really. I can't sleep in pitch black. This was a big problem when I met my other half because he can't sleep with the light on so we came to a compromise. I sleep with the TV (on timer) on very quietly when I go to sleep. It has just enough light to illuminate the room but doesn't stop him from sleeping and it switches itself off after I fall asleep. If we have a night where we don't want the TV on, I leave my lava lamp on next to the bed and that's just light enough for me.
Perhaps you could try something like this with your friend? If you can persuade her to get something like a lava lamp then give that a go but the best tool in my opinion is the TV, because it switched itself off.
I know it's annoying but try to be patient with her because being scared of the dark is REALLY embarrassing, whatever age you are. Just make sure she tries lots of different ways of coping with it without depriving you of sleep.
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I have the same problem. My friend always has her bedroom door open when she goes to bed. But I can't sleep at all with any light. You should get a sleep mask. They work pretty well.
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Try gwtting one of those sleep masks that cover your eyes.
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You should bring a night lite and tell her that you are right there and you would never let anything happen to her.Just comfort her ler her know that she's safe and tell her that you can not sleep with lights on and ask her if it's ok that you turn of the lights off when she falls asleep.Well GOODLUCK !!!
i hope this helps
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Ah well that happened to me and my friends. She had to have the lights on she would freak out if not.What i told her was that if your scared of the dark you will be scared if u close your eyes get her something special if that does not work. get her like a stuffed animal. If none of that helps i suggest you get a light dimmer i have one for my room for any of my friends that are scared. And if none of that works have her be with you at all times at night like tell her stories. Or talk some of the night with the light off. Or get a nightlight. Or play soothing music for her with the light off. Play ocean waves or the nights wind or something she likes like rain fall. if i can't get to sleep i put on waves or rain it always helps me sleep at night. I hope some of my suggestions work and have fun at your sleep overs!!
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Just tell her it bothers you. Bring over a nightlight when you spend the night. If she still is scared, then ask to sleep in a differnt room. If you do sleep with her w/ a nightlight and she starts to freak out, tell her your there and nothings in the dark. Bc I absolutely HATE the dark, but I don't really care if someone else is w/ me. It's worth a shot. Good Luck!!
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Okay this sounds a little too... babyish. Hopefully she is like 6 or 9 or something. Anywho, if she cant sleep with the lights off just go to another room, or get a sleeping mask, or compromise with your friend by getting her to sleep with a night light! WOO HOO!! Hope I helped! Much love!! ♥ Neelz
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I think there are two things you can do. The first, and most important, is to talk to your friend about this fear and try to help her work through it. Second, as a temporary fix, you can buy a sleep mask.
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Yeah, I do that all the time. But, I recently just found out that it makes your body stop growing, & messes it up. + you have a better chance of cancer. Because your body repairs itself at night, if you get a cut or anything. I now have a little light that plugs into the outlet. How old are you, that she starts crying? You realy need to speak with her, & maybe tell her mom or dad, because her health could be at risk. I hope I helped, BYE! =)
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compromise with her. maybe you coule put on a night light but if thats not enough then maybe if your sleeping next a bathroom you could put that light on. if she doesnt agree theres always those things you put on your eyes. :)
hope i helped
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Try to compromise with her. She might be willing to only have a nightlight or two on so it stays reasonably dark.
I would also recommend getting a sleepmask. I use one because I'm very sensitive to light and I wake up at just about the crack of dawn, and they're very good at blocking out the light. You can get one at most drug stores (or on overnight plane flights with United Airlines, lol) for pretty cheap. If you toss and turn a lot you could try using bobby pins to help keep it on.
Good luck, and I hope I helped :)
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Is her birthday coming up? Try geting her a cute nightlight or small lamp. The problem may be much more serious, though. If she still has problems, she may need to see a doctor to help her. Hope that helps!
Alice
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