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Hey, may 29, this kid Mark asked me out. I love him so much, and a week later he dumped me. I loved this kid alot.
July 15, this kid Felix asked me out. I said yes, he was cute. I forgot all about Mark. I seemed to love him. I just spoke to Mark, and he seemed to like me again. Gosh, now i like BOTH of them.
The problem is, Felix really likes me, and i feel so bad if i would dump him for Mark. Mark on the other hand dumps every girl after a week or two.
Felix said, he would commit succide if i broke up with him. I know he ment it. Last night he said he had a pocket knife to his throat, because he had no one to live for. But then he relized he loved me. So, he put it down.
HELP! I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT TO DO I CRY ALL THE TIME
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Woah! I think you should just tell both of them that you need space.
"Last night he said he had a pocket knife to his throat" Did you see him do this to himself? Or did he just call you up and told you that. Cause if he did that through phone, and was seriously, you should tell someone about that.
And as if for your ex, Mark, he sounds more like a player, and an immature player, I should add. Dumping every girl he goes out with for 2 weeks.
Hun, I think you should leave both of them. You don't want to put yourself into a position where someone will want to 'commit sucide' because you want to be with someone else/date other people.
Good Luck!
-Paper_Heartsz
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holy shit. Well, I definitly wouldn't go out with Mark seeing as though he dumps everyone within a week or two. And for Felix, as long as you're happy with him I'd stay with him. But to me, he seems a bit crazy. it sounds like he really loves you. As long as you love him back... But I think he needs to see a therapist. Hope this helps!
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Both of them are pretty pathetic and I wouldnt consider being with either of them
you say Mark dumps every girl after a week or two. and he already did this to you before, so what good would going out with him again do? he would probably just dump you again if you say he does that with every girl.
and this Felix kid. I doubt he means a word he says. seriously how old are you? 13? 14 maybe? he's just saying that to MAKE you like him. he's probably jealous that you went out with Mark and still like him. but i wouldn't believe him when he says that. i'd break up with him
But i don't know the kid, so if you really think he means it, so be it..
By the way-- LOVE is a really strong word to be using. especially since you went from one kid to another. I don't think you're in love with either. it's just a crush
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I don't think that you should go out with either guy. Its like what Axl Rose [from Guns N' Roses] did with his first wife. She said that he was crazy, and she wanted to divorce, but he said that he would shoot himself if she didn't stay with him. They eventually divorced. Mark, however, doesn't seem like he actually likes you, let alone love you. Find someone better for yourself that loves you for you, and doesn't have to kill himself to make you feel sorry for him.
Hope I helped!
♥ SiMA
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Okay, it sounds like Felix has a problem, he is manipulating you into liking him. Which is wrong. Just because he likes you, doesnt mean he loves you, and I honestly dontthink you should be with either of the two guys, since both of them dont sound like things are working out.
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Felix is either emotionally unbalanced or, as I suspect, immature and over-dramatic. Either way he will not be good for you- you don't need someone leaning on you that much and blackmailing you into a relationship.
If Mark breaks up with girls after a week or too he will do it again to you and continue to think he can treat people how he likes. Turn him down and enjoy the shock on his face.
Break up with Felix gently but firmly and don't give in to his threats. I sincerely doubt he will harm himself at all, probably just sulk for a few weeks telling everyone how depressed he is and how it's all your fault (it's not). Even if he did hurt himself it is NOT your responsibility, it is his. Relationships end and everyone else manages to deal with it. You need to be free to make your own decisions about it.
Then enjoy being single for a while minus all the crappy pressure that comes with boys and relationships!
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i think you are better off without mark and felix.
Mark is a user and untrustworth.
Felix is a manipulative and attention seeking so-and-so.
dont dump felix just go go out with mark because you'll just get used again and hurt, stay with felix if you really like him and want to be with him, but if you dont then dont feel you have to stay with him because he's emotionally blackmailing you.
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Honey, you need to go with what your heart says. in my opinion the kid Felix I don't know about you being with him. I don't like the sound of suiside. I had a friend that commited and now that she is gone I want her here more than anything. But what I wished I would have done was to tell some one like a person in the offive at school a parent or somthing like that. Trust me if he is telling the truth I would get him help then brake up with him and then go and get hooked up with the kid mark but still be friends with felix. I would say it is not a good reson to stay with a guy just because you don't want them to commit succide. Then you could get into a life long thing always wondering is he gonna kill himself because I did somthing wrong? OR yeah somthing along that line but I would go with your heart and get him HELP. you need to do it befor e you loose someone you really cared about! Hope this helps. Good lUck in the future.
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ok wow thats hard.. hmm i would forget about mark, if he dumped you in a week & does it to most girls, then he would prolly be the same, & as for felix stay with him, he sounds like he really likes you & at the same time, my friend went threw this with her bf everytime she tried to break up with ehr bf he would always threaten to kill himself, so she never really could, but later on when she did he was lying and never did, it could be different with him but you have to have a conversation about this succide thing because thats really not nesscary & its really big.
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Well, it's obvious that you can't trust Mark for to long, so my advice would to not go back to him, no matter how much you may like him. He will most likely break your heart again. And Felix...well wow...you cant let a threat keep you from doing what you want to do. If he is making you miserable i would leave him alone, I dont think he would seriously commit suicide. Just leave Felix alone for now...talk to him about it, I seriously dont think it could get worse. Felix is saying that becuase he can't bare to see you with anyone else, but he will have to get over that, you need to tell him that you dont want to be forced to stay with him to save his life. If he loves you like he says he does he wouldn't do this to you, you cant be miserable.
So for my conclusion: Leave felix for now, and tell him when he's ready to have a proper relationship that he can come back. Just dont go back to Mark. Wait it out and see what happens.
I hope everything works out!
x0x Kaci
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Neither of them seem like good bets to me.
You know already Mark is not reliable. Felix is a wacko. Do not ever feel obligated to stay with someone who threatens suicide. As a matter of fact, that's probably a good reason to leave them alone. If his little drama fest keeps you with him he will try to manipulate you in other ways. After all, he just has to threaten to off himself and you will come running back.
You are in noway responsible for his life. Don't even think you are. If he is underage inform his parents of his threats and you are done.
My advice for what its worth is find someone else altogether. Both these guys are going to cause you nothing but heartache and trouble.
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You are being blackmailed into staying with this Felix and that is not good. Threatening to commit suicide because he doesn't want to be without someone is pathetic. If you really want to stay with Felix then that is fine - but he will probably threaten you every time you want to leave him and how many times will you go back?
Mark sounds immature and lacking in self-confidence. Do you want to be with him? If he continually dumps girls after two weeks he obviously doesn't want to be in a long term relationship - would that suit you? If it would then why not have a casual friendship in which you both see other people.
What I suggest is that you take time out from both these boys and work out what suits you. Don't give in to threats because your life will just be too complicated.
If Felix continues to threaten to kill himself you have to walk away - hard I know because I've been there. He is crying out for your attention at the moment but next month he will most likely be threatening someone else.
It is not easy to find an answer for you because you are faced with two muddled up guys. Think of yourself first. I wish you all the best.
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