female:
i've been best friends with this one kid ever since 5th grade when we went out. and in 5th grade going out means oh my goddd he touched my hand. butt ever since we broke up we been bestfriends. every summer since that we spent every waking hour together. and im now in 9th grade. lets calll this kid Matt. me and Matt have a really really good friendship and we talk about anything and everything. and when i hang out with him i never get bored. its sort of like a girl bestfriend. we make jokes out of everything,i know i can talk to him about anything, we even pick out our clothes together on the phone all the time. but see the problem is -- im falling for my BESTT FRIEND. and i dont want to tell him becuse i dont know if it would ruin our friendship or make things akward. i mean we did kiss a couple times over the summer butt it was just a friend ship make out kinda thing. it didnt mean anything to him but it mentt everything to me. and my question to you is.. should i tell him how i feel? do you think it would ruin our friendship? or should i just keep being best friends with him? i mean sometimes best friends like me and matt get married but who knowwwss.
Signed,Confused.
i would tell "matt" that you liked him, but i'd talk to him, and i would tell him that if it would change the relationship yous already had, tehn nvm, cuz you don't want to change what you guys have,
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ok.. well im in highschool.. && well people make fun of me because i had a really bad past, i use to have alot of problems. well, i got them all fixed... && people STILL make fun of me.. it really gets me ticked because its like they dont even give me a chance. what should i do?
fuck them all up, lol jpjp. uhmm, i would try to talk to them and tell them, i know that it sounds not the right thing to do, but they shouldnt judge you before they know you, and if they dont talk to you then well, fuck em, they are immature. and they really don't deserve to talk to you. you deserve better.
hopeee i helpedd
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i really need your help. my mom wants to kill herself and i dont know what to do. i cant talk to her about it because she doesn't know i know. i dont know what to do!!!!
omg, sorry i wasnt on here sooner. uhmm. show your mom that you love her, and that you want to be around her. and act like shes the only thing you care about.
hopeee i helpedddd
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okkk .. well
i like this guy alot
i went out with him in the past & stuff. but, i didnt give him a chance and broke up with him but, im stupid ... i didnt realize how much i'd miss him...& 2 weeks later i did somethin rly stupid...with someone else. & i regret it .. yeh .. but, idk i like him so much & i jus want him back and idk wut to dooo..
Well, does this kid hate you, cuz if not, talk to him. and see if hes willing to back out with you, tell him you did something wrong. and tell him just now what you told me, you regret it. hopeee i hellpedd
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nicoleeeee =] i guess advice columns are getting popularrrr =]
love* Danika
lol. bc. of you :p
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alright so im bisexual and i get made fun of alot in school.. i try not to let it bother me but its really hard not to. i tried ignoring the people and it just gets to me and i don't know why. the last thing i want to do is go to guidance... i don't want the school to know about my sexuality. what should i do?
Ook, there is alot of people in my schools now a days that are "bisexual" first of all, what you don't know about me is, i dont care what people think about me.. and you shuldn't either. if you are fine with your sexuality then, let it be. and just ignore them. good luck babe.
hopeeee i helpeddd.
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Hey. I've been friends with this girl for about 4 years now and i just can't seem to get her out of my mind. I've tried to tell her how i feel but just cant seem to get it out. I did one time and she said she didnt want to ruin our friendship, but even though i told her it wouldnt she still doesnt want to go out with me. I told her how i felt a while ago. So i figured i would give it some time and see, but now i dont kno if i should say anything or leave it alone.
I would leave it as friends, cuz sooner or later she'll fall for you :p Justtt give it time. I'd rather have a friend then nothing, you knoww?
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13/m. I'm sorry if this is kind of long. you see, I have this sort-of friend: she's in all of my classes except for one, so we talk a lot. She makes fun of me sometimes, but I really don't think she means it, because things are regular again by next period. I kind of like her, but not really. And the acts as though she likes me sometimes. But, I really don't want anything to happen between us, since I've already made my New Year's resolution to get this one particular girl to like me.
So anyway, that girl, let's call her Jane, her mom died two weeks ago. I've never had to sit through a death before---I'm lucky enough that nobody in my family has ever died. And the only time anyone's parent has died other than Jane's is in 2nd grade, when I couldn't really grasp the meaning of death.
In all our classes two weeks ago, we were just talking about death and stuff. It was really depressing. In one class, things got so deep that half the class was crying. I myself was in tears, as I nearly am recalling this. But not because I knew and missed Jane's mother. Not because it reminded me of a dead relative that I had. Because I could finally grasp the meaning of death.
So, everyone's really depressed now, and she got to miss school two weeks ago the whole week---I would want to, if my parents had died. She's coming back on Tuesday, when vacation ends. One Thursday and Friday, all her teachers---which meant all my teachers except for one---received e-mails from her dad saying that we shouldn't talk about this "event" unless Jane brings it up first. But me, I'm a really shy person, and not having experience with anything like this, I'm probably gonna feel really awkward talking to her. I won't know what to say. I'm sure of it, it happens to me all the time. Whenever something goes wrong with anybody, I never know what to say. I don't really want to say anything like "we're right behind you" or "we got your back", because however true it may be, it may or may not give the impression that I like her.
So, I guess the whole point I'm trying to make here is that I'd feel awkward talking to her. I could've just said "i have a sort of frend whos mom died what to i do" but I feel that I can get a more personal answer if you have some background information. I will probably rate you. Smartasses get reported. Thank you, school starts again on Tuesday!!!
Hhm. Well, first off, I'm so sorry about your friends mom. but uhmm. A longlonglonglong Time ago, My friends dad died, and i kinda asked her about her dad.. and she got upset. but just try to keep your mind off the subject. and play it off. idk, you see, i've never really experienced a death with my family, close that is, i mean people are dying every day.. but yeah.
& it kinda also depends on if she was really close to her mom, you know?.
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ok well ive liked this gurl ever since iv known her, 4th grade, and i used to try an make her laugh to like me, well now were older, im 13 adn so is she, so yah i mean at this age we have alot of emotions and dk about things, but we went out over the summer adn had our first kiss.. but she left me the next week for a guy she supposably 'loved' but now thinks is a fag, and well then after a while we both saw other people, my g/f broke up with me a few months ago, for total confusin, and the gurl ive known since 4th grade , just broke up wiht her b/f lets say a wekk or so ago i dk soon lol, wel before she broke up wiht her b/f she said she had feelings for me, and she couldnt choose who, and then she told me she had ben lying baout her b/f to me for months, and it was rele a kid from my class, but any way so i had thot i liked this other gurl, but then like i went over to hmm lets call her sarah(gurl since 4th grade)s house last night, we watched movies in her basment , and soon enough we wer makin out on her couch, like for what seemed like hours, and i truely love her so much, i rele care about her, shes my life(im not a stalker just care about her ok) and well today i talked to her, adn well she sais she just wants to be freinds wit benifets.... and i mean im ok wiht htat kissin her and stuff, but i rele rele want her, i want to go out wiht her , i want to be with her, but she sais that shes scared to go out with me, because shes scared she'l hurt me like she did in the summer , so i just said, oh ok yah thats cool, so now the gurl who i had a crush on before might ask me out , or somthn i dont know, but i dk what to do, 'sarah' sais if an opportunity comes for a g/f that i had to promise to go for it, because she thinks that i need somone better for me, but i cant, i wont , no1 is better for me, i mean we have so much chemistry, and were closer than anyone ive ever ben wiht , no lie, we are like so close we know we care about eachother even as freinds, but i know what i want, and i think that she might be scared , scared of hurting me, scared of gettin close, to close to fal in love wit somone, so yah, i mean, idk im just gonna wait, theres nothin i can do, so thats y i came here
-waht can i do to show her not to be affraid but to take a chance, shes different than she was in the summer, and to take a chance and be able to be happy, because i know shes not, she knows shes not, but i thinnk she was happy last night , ..so was i... wel i rele love her, adn i wanna know some tips on what to do to go overboard for her and i need somthin to get her, to make her need me like i need her, ill rate huge for even an answer at all!
Mmk. I've had EVERY word of this except. I'm a girl. I was in your same position. And kinda/sorta still Have itt. Alls I have to say is can you make her PROVE that she likes you?.. like does people know she likes you or is like a lets keep this on the DL kinda thing. cuz if it's a lets keep this on the DL kinda thing i think she likes kissing you :p Uhmm. well, If She doesn't like you for who you are it's not worth it... if you have to go buy soemthing to prove you really really like her don't. I know. ALOT of people probaly say this to you. butt. there is AMILLION other girls out there. and yeah, i'll admit, you've liked her for awhile, but you'll adventually start liking some one else more. Mmk? I hope i helpedddd
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I'm a 27 year old female.For the first time in a long while I'm actually happy to be single. I have my own appartment and a part time job, and was thinking that if I was dating someone I probably couldnt affort to have all the nice things like movies, cd's, and nice furniture, because I would be spending it on my bf. I was also thinking how nice it is not to have the responsiblility of looking after children. A lot of the ladies I work with at the store have kids and they are always so stressed out. I have it made- I only answer to myself and can come and go as I please. The money I make is spent on myself and doesnt go to pay for anyone else.
I am selfish for feeling like this? And is it just I phase? I want to have a family SOMEDAY, just not now. I'm having too much fun!!
Woah, No. This is NOT selfish. Your Only 27, you know, live your life. And when, and only When your ready start a family, you know? Yeah. Well. I hope I helped
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i dont know whats wrong with me. lately i have been thinking of killing myself. i dont know why. i have a bf and a wonderful family and friends but it doest seem worth it. i just keep thinking why not? i cant help it. i also draw the pictures of death. im a very good artist so the pictures are really good. i will sit with a pen in my hand and its like they just jump on the papper one mminute i will bethinking of what to draw and then im done and looking at this picture of death.i just think somethings wrong with me. i just want to die you know nothing can help i try leaving my house adn going fro a wlak. i just quit using and am trying to quit cuting but i only have one good friend i can depend on. do you think i have a serious problem? shoudl i tell me mom? shouold i try to get help? do u have any ideas that could help me? im just afraid that one day i m,ight end up trying to kill my self. please help i will rate really high. love the invisable girl xoxo
Don't kill yourself. My uncle did, and ALL his familyy/friends think it's their fault. and it's notttt. you have WAYYYY more life to live. and you should live it to the fullesttttt. id you ever neeed to talk IM me hunn. xkissmefast orrrrr just call mee. 4845574892 just dont kill yourself. please?
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ok so my bf calls me liek every day or every other day and we talk for ever but the only reason we talk for ever is becasue it is total silence i mean its not a sighn to break up i know this becasue healways calls me i try hard to think of a topic but we are still at the stage that is like we are uncomfortable around eachother but he is great and awsoem and realy kool to talk to but on the phone he doesnt realy do anything i need HELP PLEZZ what should i try to talk about to get the conversation going
ohh boyy. i had this problemm. i asked him everything from whats your favorite colour too do you like your mom or dad better. haha, i adventually ran out of things to say and he never stared any conversations. but you could talk about:
memories*
embarassign moments*
family*
future?*
what makes yous happy*
favorite things. such as animals, colours, dogs, etc.*
what he wants to be when he growns up*
theres a whole bunch more stuff. f you need more askk
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16/F.
My 2 best friends have been going out since the summer (don't worry, it's a guy/girl....) I'm really happy for them & all, but sometimes it gets annoying, because whenever I do get to spend time with either one of them (since they're constantly with each other), we always end up discussing the person's bf / gf. They are always asking, "So what does he/she say about me??" & I always end up having to spill the juicy, mushy details of all the "oh she/he's so hot" & all that. I feel less like their friend & more like their spy now! It really makes me feel used. So, my question is... is it wrong for me to want them / encourage them to break up (I know that seems kind of selfish, but....) or what am I supposed to do about this? I rate 5's for non-crap answers. ;)
i dont think it's all that selfish of you to think of that. but this has happened to before and i'm not their close friends anymore. matter of fact me and the girl are fighting big time. and we just dont seem to get along. and they always hang out and none of my friends like it. i would sayy start talking to newer friends and hang out with them more and they might get jealous and want to hang out again.
orrr. you can just tell them not to talk about their gf/bf when they are with you cuz it feels like they are using you.
hope i helped?
Nicholee
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