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AY YOO!! my name is sara & i can give some pretty sweet advice =]. i guess i'm supposed to talk about me here .. soo yeah here ya gooo =]

my room's always messy & i hate capitalizing my i's. I'm a picky eater but i eat lots of food (mainly junkfood =D). i am very unorganized and i usually forget my homework, but i'm working on it. i don't like concentrating because i'm not good at it. i'm obviously not perfect, but then again who in their right mind would say so. i like using big words, and yes i do know what they mean. i'm a pretty good speller and i like acting literate when i'm actually not at all. i don't bother with people who don't like me. if you have anything against me, i'm simply not going to waste my time trying to get you to favor me.. in my opinion, its your loss. i type really fast and i use the backspace button alot even though i don't like to. i wish my eyes weren't blue, but i would never get colored contacts. i eat too many famous amos cookies and i love kettlecorn .. mmmm =] i know that i do not have all the answers to life, but i will try my best to help you people out. i'm pretty good at giving advice on friendship related things, because i think i'm pretty good at being a friend; considering i have no enemies. i'm not so good on school work related questions, but ask me them anyway & i'll give you a website where you can try to find what you're looking for =) i hate writing english papers because i suck immensely at organizing my thoughts. i am very gullable & easily influenced. i judge people way too much even though i'm not that confident. i need to stop that. actually, there's several things i need to change about myself, but you're not perfect either. i talk alot and sometimes i mumble because, i don't know why but i just do. i think i do it when i get nervous and i talk real quiet and it's annoying and i hate it. i also talk fast which is another thing i need to stop. i always have something to say, and i won't hesitate to say it. alright i'm done, bye.

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15//female.

practically ALL of my friends have a boyfriend//girlfriend. and I have been single.. forever.. literally.. ive never had a boyfriend.
ims so depressing for me to always see them together and all happy.. especially when we leave school and its always like "love you, bye" and then they kiss.
i mean, its incredibly awkward, and i dont know what to do because i feel so lonely.
i dont know what its like to be happy like that and i just wish i did.
there are a few people i like but im too afraid to say anything, and only one of my friends [[who has a boyfriend]] is the only one that knows.. i just dont know what to do.
sorry this was long :x :/

whoa you sound just like me a few months agoo.. trust me hun, i know exactly how you feel. i had never had a boyfriend and i am also 15 years old. i always felt like such a loner because I was always sngle, my whole entire life.. sometimes it was really bad .. like I thought there was sometimes wrong with me cause no one ever asked me out.. but I realized that you have to just make yourself abailable and let people KNOW when you like them. But one day, this cute boy who lived about a half hour away added me on my myspace… then we started talking on aim and he eventually got my number (this was all over like 5 months.. I knew he was real because of his sports, friends, and I could just tell.) and now, we’re goingout =) and we have been for 4 months! My first boyfriend ever, and he’s amazing. Trust me hun, you’ll find someone.. just give it time and don’t look so hard.. let love find you. I know I know you’re probably thinking “yeah whatever that’ll never happen to me” cause that’s what I thought all the time whenever people would try to cheer me upp but trust me, just be optimistic and wait.. love will ocome your way =) I promiseeeeeeeeeee.

So basically, I can relate you you.. I definitely can.. feel free to im me =) on aim ONExLOVE09
Or if you don’t have aim you can email me at saraemilyy@yahoo.com
I’ll be glad to talk to you =) when I was in your shoes I deff would have wanted someone to talk to who knows what they’re saying =)
Hopefully talk to you later hun! Byeee ♥

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Is it possible to have a STD if your a virgin?

Yes.. even though it's an STD, that doesn't mean sex is the only way it can be transmitted. My boyfriend got herpes from wrestling.. haha I know that sounds weird, but it's true. Herpes is a rash and the kid he wrestled had it on his face and my boyfriend got it on his arm.. which just goes to show you that there's many other ways to transmit STD's.

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I need some inspiration.....Its embarrising to get a friend to help me lose weight im 5'2 and i weigh 117lbs please tell me how to get in the mood to lose weight!!?!?!!?! Thanx XOXOX

Well all you need to do is think of how badly you want to lose that weight! Just keep thinking of what the end result will be and you'll get yourself pumped up to lose weight. Just think of how bad you wanna lose weight, and that all you need to do is workout and eat better & healthier, and you'll be losing some weight in no time. =) Another thing, 5'2 & 117 lbs. DEFINITELY isn't overweight at all, but if you still want to lose some weight, it could be unhealthy to lose anymore than 15 or 20 pounds, so be careful! & good luck! =D HOPE I HELPED! [♥]

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i really just want to commit suicide. i just can't stand my life anymore. i just feel like i would be better in heaven where i would have no worries. someone please help. i can only take so much. i don't know how to cope. i'm just going to end up killing myself. i know i am. i have no reason to live.

okay seriously, honest to god, don't do it. it's one of the dumbest things that you can ever do. so what if things get tough? deal with it! everyone's lives get hard sometimes and chances are, yours isn't the worst one out there. for real, it could be sooo much worse. just think of all the people you would leave behind, and they would probably think it's their fault that you chose to end your life. you may not think so, but there are definitely people who would care. it is THEEEE MOST terrible feeling in the world to know someone and be close to someone who killed themselves. to know that they were that unhappy, it's devastating. please get help or talk to someone if you're seriously thinking about it.. it is one of the most selfish things you could do.. and once it's done, it's done. there's no turning back. besides, you wouldn't go to heaven.. you killed someone! you'd go to purgatory. just don't do it.. you have no idea how it makes your survivors feel. in february, my uncle danny killed himself and it was the worst feeling ever to know that someone was that unhappy with their life. just get help if your seriously thinking about it.. please don't.. you could have it sooooo much worse! don't be selfish.. get help.. and please leave me feedback when (if) you rate. hope i helped ♥

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Hey, I really want to get my ears double pierced but I'm really scared it'll hurt and I'll cry lol. I was about 7ish when I got them pierced for the first time and I cired. And my friend says it doesn't hurt, pintching your ear hurts more then piercing it. So basically does it hurt??

WILL RATE?

okay.. first off, know that you are getting advice right now from the biggest wimp in all of north america.. no, it doens't hurt that bad.. i got mine a few years ago.. around when i was 12 or 13.. and it will pinch a little, and sting a little bit afterwards, but that's it! you have to look at it this way.. it's only going to hurt for a few minutes, and you'll have them pierced for the rest of your life with no pain! i say just go do it.. for me, right when she started to come at me with the piercing thingey, my eyes started to well up with tears.. and i closed my eyes real hard when she did it because i thought it would hurt, but truth is, it didn't really hurt that badly.. and the end result is soooo worth the miniscule amount of pain, that i say just go for it and just keep thinking of the end result and how worth it it will be =) good luck!

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HELP!
I've had 5 relatives die on me the last week.
And I've given speeches on 4 of their funerals so far, and they've all been..awful.
Tomorrow I'm giving a speech on my grandmother, so please help! What can I say? I really have no personal memories of her!! But I have to do this - I promised!! please please help me.
Any nice heartwarming speeches you've heard of that I can use as inspiration ?? or any special websites for these kind of things?? thaank you!

well i don't want to flat out give you a speech, but i can certainly give you a small example one with some ideas and points you should definitely cover.

On *INSERT DATE OF HER BIRTH HERE* my grandmother was born in *WHERE SHE WAS BORN*. She lived a happy life, married *HUSBANDS NAME IF SHE HAD ONE*, and had *NUMBER OF CHILDREN IF ANY*. Unfortunately, my grandmother was taken from us on *DATE OF DEATH*. (Here you can say something about how she died) I know everyone will miss her a great deal, but we will see her again one day. (only say that second part if your family's religious like that or whatever) One of the few positive things I have to say is that at least now, we won't have to anticipate her death, and she's in a better place. To my misfortune, I don't have many memories with my grandma. But her death has taught me that I should make time with all my family, because they could be gone in the blink of an eye. I found a quote on the internet that seemed appropriate for this day: "It's only when we truly know and understand that we have a limited time on earth -- and that we have no way of knowing when our time is up, we will then begin to live each day to the fullest, as if it was the only one we had." - Elisabeth Kubler-Ross (expert on death and dying) (then write what that quote means to you and how it relates to the situation.) I know that for many of you, it will be hard to get over the fact that *Insert grandma's First Middle and Last name here* isn't here anymore, but she would want us to continue on with our lives, and stay happy and remember her at her best, instead of grieving. Thank you.

***try not to use the exact words, but something close would probably be good. Also;; do some family research of what she was like and incorporate what your family tells you into your speech, and you shoudl be set ♥

ps. sorry for your losses =/ best of luck to you & your family!! ♥

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I have an iPod Mini, and it's battery recently died. How do I purchase another one, and what is their price range? I know I need to order them from Apple, but that is all I know.
Thank you.

when a battery dies, you don't replace it hunny.. lol you charge it.. it probably came with a cord that you plug into the computer.. hook it up, let it sit there, and it will charge. hope i helped ♥



oooookay well you didn't say that it wouldn't charge anymore.. if you would have said that then i could have helped you better.. you should give as much information in your question as possible to help us answer your question

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Alright, so whenever I wash my hair it is frizzyish and dull afterwards. I usually wash with hot or lukewarm water and I put like 5 drops(Whatever they are) of shampoo. Then I wash it for 20-40 minutes. I tried blowdrying it afterwards but it's still the same.

What am I doing wrong? -__-' I need to know now please! I have to do a play and I want to go with shiny nice hair and it's in a few hours so yeah.

well i know i didn't answer in time for your play, but you can use this for future references =)

it could be how you wash your hair, so here's how to properly wash it;;

when you get in the shower, wet your hair completely.. drench it. then put an amount of shampoo in your palm about the size of if you were to make an "O" with your pointer finger and thumb, only a little bigger. (sorry, i don't know how to explain that.. haha) then just rub it all over your hair.. make sure it's completely rinsed out, go upside down if you need to. do the same with conditioner.. except you only need to put it at the bottom of your hair, not really on your head because then it's difficult to throughly rinse out. rub that in, and it's good to let it sit there for a few minutes.. take this time to shave your legs or wash your body or to do anything else you do in the shower. when you're done, rinse it out, again it's good to go upside down to ensure that it's all out. put your hair in a towel, and towel dry it a little. comb it to get all the knots out. towel dry it a little bit again, then go get dressed or do something so it can air-dry a little bit. brush/comb it through one more time, and blow dry it. it's good to run a brush or a comb through your hair and go upside down while blowdrying, to get the job done faster and better. even if you have straight hair, you can use a hair straightener to tame some of the frizz, that's what i do sometimes. you can also spray your hair with a little bit of hair spray.. but brush it out after you spray so it doesn't mat your hair down. i use this stuff called "spoil me" by bed head.. it's like hair tamer.. you can get it at any salon or some other place where they sell good hair products. it works really good & smells good too =) whoa, long answer.. hope it helped!! ♥

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Can you get STDs from using a public bathroom?

no.. but i know someone who got it from wrestling [the kid he wrestled had herpies on his face and he got it on his arm].. cause some STD's are ONLY transmitted sexually, but the ones that are in forms of rashes can be spread but excessive touching [such as wrestling] think of it as chicken pox or something.. it's somewhat contagious, but not through the air.. through touch. they're called STD's cause they're mainly transmitted sexually.. but not ONLY sexually.. hope i helpeddd =]

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I go to a public highschool in Philadelphia & I'm in 11th grade. I'm a good student and I usually do well with grades. I failed one class, Chemistry, this year. This is the first time I've ever failed and it's a major subject. I really do not want to go to summer school, so is there any other way to make up the credit? I want to graduate on time and it's really senseless to go to summer school for 1 class that I failed by a few points.

well asking us on advicenators won't help because each school has different policies on getting credit .. so here's my advice; talk to your guidance counselor because they handle all the scheduling and stuff at my school .. they'll tell you how to make up credit without going to summer school.

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do i have to worry if my teen is emo--he quit swim team --does not like coach --"different"--don't "know him anymore"---artistic --freshman in large public high school--decent student --oldest child in family of 3 children, mom and dad

just because he doesn't like his coach doesn't make him emo lol .. just let him be himself! what's wrong with being emo? as long as he doesn't cut himself, being 'emo' is harmless. 'emo' boys tend to wear girl pants, they have hair past their eyes; usually a dark color, and they sometimes wear makeup such as eyeliner .. maybe even more. but there is nothing wrong with being emo .. you make it sound like a bad thing lol .. alot of parents lose connection with their child as they grow older, that's normal. being artistic is a good thing .. he may be considered emo, but that's not a bad thing.. as long as he doesn't slit his wrists then it's bad [obviously] hope i helped ♥

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Okay, i have this friend and she can really get annoying. what really gets on my nerves is when she brags about how cool she is. shes always like "yeah, i think i like this guy because we hung out yesterday and he told me how pretty i was and blah blah blah". she always does this to get attention. its like she adds little facts about what she and her other friends did the day before when it doesn't relate to what we're talking about at all. i know she just does it for attention but she always acts like she's better than me. and it feels like she wants me to take notes on how popular she is. i hate when people do that so much. its like, do i really care that you have a boyfriend 5 years older than you?
also, she's very trashy. she'll go out with a person for a few days and then decide that she has a new fad for this other guy that she hasnt even met before. you cant just do that. we've had a lot of good memories in the past but sometimes i just want to tell her to shut up. can anybody relate to this?

please help. how can i tell her to just quit it?

i have a friend sort of like this =] and i know where you're coming from .. just flat out tell her! Next time she starts bragging about her life, you can just be like "okay that's nice but i don't really care..." and just start talking to her about how bad it makes you feel. chances are, she knows she's making you feel bad and a little bit jealous, and that's her intention. but if you confront her, she will probably realize that her intention isn't a good one. it might sound risky confronting her because you may think you'll lose her as a friend, but think of it this way; would you rather keep things the way they're going? [miserable for you and annoying] orrrrr, confront her which would mean to take the chance of losing her as a friend [which probably won't happen] she'll probably realize her faults and quit it =] hope i helped!

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My natural hair colour is a very dark brown but I've been dying it for about a year.

A while ago I tried to dye my fringe hot pink, but it went wrong so it was bright ginger. I tried to dye all my hair chestnut brown to cover it up but the front was still lighter. I dyed it again a few months later but the front was still lighter than everywhere else.

I really want to get it back to my natural colour but the only way I can do that is by growing it out or using a colour stripping solution. I've never used one before and I'm not sure how badly it will damage my hair. I have very thick hair and all the dye hasn't really affected it, so I'm not sure whether or not that will make a difference. Any advice or suggestions on a colour I could dye it would be welcome.

if you wanna do it yourself, you can find a color that is closest to your natural color, bleach your hair, and then dye it the color that you bought. Or an even better idea; go to a salon! haha they will know what to do to fix up your hair =] good luck ♥!

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I need help with figuring out a sn. Something to do with singing, or shopping, ond the year o8, a girl.

L0VET0SH0Px08
NEXTAMERICANID0L
[if that one's taken & you like it use this one below:]
N3XTAM3R1CAN1D0L
[its the same only with numbers]
SHOPTILIDR0Px08
SHOPPINGISL0VE08
SINGINGISL0VEx08

yeah sorry it took me so long to answerrr =[

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Okay, so there is a ton of negative input in the media of what Straight Edge really means.

I'm not exact, but I'm sure there is a ton of people on this site who hasn't really fully understood what it really is.

I was wondering if I could get peoples views on what they think Straight Edge is?

okay well i was always under the impression that straight edge pretty much means no drugs, no alcohol, no smoking, etc. not necesarily being a 'goodie goodie' but just being aware of what destructive things can do to you. for example, i'm straight edge .. [some peole write it out as sXe] but someone who smokes and does drugs and doesn't give a shit about it, would obviously not be considered straight edge =] alright, well i hope i helped yaa! [♥]

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are you supposed to use a condom for oral sex?

It would probably be a good idea so you don't get std's and other diseases .. so yeah you probably should =]

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is it okay.. im 13/f 5'6" and 125 or so punds maybe 130 should i lose weight? i want t flat stomach and my thinghs are pretty big how do i lose that weight?

well according to www.toneteen.com's bmi chart, you are perfectly normal =] but it's what you want/feel that matters, unless it's overboard =] okay so for a flat stomach, look into some stomach exercises! don't do situps, because i don't want to be mean, but chances are you won't do them right, so have a trainer or some kind of sports coach maybe show you how to do them the proper way. for thighs .. if they're big with fat, then do squats but if they're big from muscle, then there's nothing you can do about that .. except lose the muscle, which wouldn't be very good .. cause usually people WANT muscle, but it's whatever YOU want =] alrightt well, i hoped that helped ya! oh and if you want more info, www.toneteen.com always has great stuff =] [♥]

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Hey everyone!
For some reason I feel like reading I would really apreciate if you people would recommend some of your favorite books and a little bit on what it is about =)
Thanks,

okay well obviously, it depends on your taste in books .. i usually prefer books that were in the 'little house on the prarie' times, or ones about modern day girls my age.

the 'prarie river' by Kristiana Gregory series was really good;; i LOVED it. it took place around the 16/1700's .. maybe even early 1800's?

'Ida B' by Katherine Hannigan was also EXCELLENT. it was about a young girl who is very interesting to read about. it's probably my favorite book ever =]

there's this other book, that's sort of like a long poem .. but it's really interesting .. and it's still a story, but it's very good. it's called 'Heartbeat' and it's by Sharon Creech. I read it whenever i'm bored, because it's pretty short, and i can probably read it in an hour or so .. it depends. *i recommend this book if you 'just feel like reading' .. i get those moods too and it always suits me =]

okay well those are my favorites, and if you want to read more about them you can go to www.books.google.com and see them =]

H0PE I HELPED YA!! [♥]

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How do you turn off an iPod mini? Seriously i thought they would make it really obvious. So what i do is put it on hold and push pause and it eventually turns off i think? Am i wasting battery this way?

hold down the pause button! =] and then put it on lock by moving that thing at the top so that the orange shows. hope i helped ya! ♥

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every time i say to myself.."ok im gonna go home after school and do my homework", but as soon as i get home..i never do it..till maybe @ the last moment..i have no concentraton..what should i do?

just when you get home, think of how if you do your homework right away, you'll have more time later! and you can do things later on in the day without having to worry about getting your homework done, because it's already done. if your problem is that you forget to; then put a post-it on the door or something .. some place you always see right when you get home. and also jot down some reasons to do it right away. another good reason to do your homework right when you get home from school is because you're still in 'school-mode'. the stuff you learned in school is still fresh in your head, which will make you do better on your homework, ultimately making you a better student. hope i helped =] ♥

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