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I go to Wilson High School. I know alot about alot of things, and always keep an open mind. When I grduate I wish to major in Psychology. Thats where the Dr. Minkus comes into play. I welcome anyone, and everyone ask me a question. i'll help you the best I can. Thank you!
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they say the proof of gods existance is within the bible, but the reason i should believe the bible is because god said it. in other words, i should believe god is real if he said these things. that is like believeing someone who says they are honest, because they told you so. what do you think
Religion is probably the most un-believeable thing out there. With so many, who's to say theres a god, and not Ally-ba-ba or what ever his name is. Who's to say there's even a higher power at all. Maybe the evolution theory is correct. But it's all what you believe either you believe or you don't. Answer in your heart. Good Luck!
Dr. Minkus
I was really upset about something a guy friend (or so I thought) did to me.
Well I have a mental illness (schizophrenia) and am on a small disablility pension. I don't just sit around on my ass, I volunteer at the food bank and other places to keep me busy.
Well I went to visit my friend at his work one day. And all of a sudden, for no reason at all he starts saying the meanest things to me, like that I was living off the system and wasnt going to better my life. When I started crying and said he was being judgemental he said "you needed to hear this", in the meanest voice.
I havent been back to see him and he hasnt phoned to apologize. I even heard that he has been talking to his friends about me spazzing out.
Why he is being so mean? Do I have a right to be upset or am I overeacting? And should I even give him a second chance?
I like the idea of hitting him, and all. What he said was wrong. but think of it this way, you were visiting him at his JOB. I'm not saying anything agaisnt you, but the only reason your able to visit is because you don't have to work. He could have been irritated by that. Just lye low for a while, don't talk to him. Things will come around.
Good Luck!
Dr. Minkus
Hi,
My name is Stephanie im 12 and I LOVE a boy named Alex. How do I ask him out or get him to like me?please contacts me with the answer...
stephy_raymond@hotmail.com
Sorry it took so long. Heres my advice. Take it slow, let him get to know you. If you takes the bait and falls for you. there you go, if he doesn't, big deal lol theres a whole phone book full of Alex's. ( I don't suggest this seeing as there probably all 50 ) Well Good Luck!!
Dr. Minkus
I am not a materialistic person,
but...
my family(extended) is doing a kk thing for christmas this year.
I need some ideas of things to ask for, because i really do not want a material object for christmas.
What are some ideas i could ask for to look like I am being an active part of the plan.
I'm sorry I don't understand, what is "KK" please write back, and I'll help the bets I can.
no no no, i dont still like him that muchh. but i just want us to be friends. and not him make fun of me all the timee.. you know?
(continuee of the other friendd one.)
yes nichole, I know lol LYLAS!
well, when i was 2months old, my moma nd dad split apart because he beat her, and well, its 15 years laterr.. and i feel like ive grown up with out a daad.. when i was in 1st grade.. people would say, what does your daddy do for a living,, and id be like.. i dont have a daddy, and then like 5th grade and on.. theyd say.. what does you daddy do for a living? "sell drugs and tdo coke" IN 5TH GRADE!? and i dont know.. from like 4th grae and up.. you know that song... butterfly kisses?.. well, i listened to it and cried. every night. when ever it came on. id try to call my dad, and no answer.. this month, it will be 11 months he has been sober, ina ll ways, and hes to busy with his new daughter, and work. and he calls me every here and there.. IMs me in the morning.. to piss me off, and wake me up.. but thats like it.. and i dont know.. when i go to friends houses and they are all lovely dovey i get all teary eyed.. and wish i had that growning up.. and i dont know.. i miss him, and i dont know how to tell him.
My Dad wasn't an alcholic or anything. but he hasn't been there my whole life. He calls every so often but I don't bother with him. Our situations are alot different, but theres really no advice. Nothing anyone can ever say or do will wipe away those tears for good, and i'm sorry you've had to go through this. But take the time you have now, catch up if you can. Wake up early, and try to talk to him, wwhen he IMs you to wake you up, IM him and wake him up lol do what you can to get to know your dad and who the sober "dad" is. So you don't grow into an adult who never really learned who her father was. Good Luck, I hope this helps a little.
Dr. Minkus
hey well...i broke up with this kid a while ago because he goes to Notre dame and i go to easton and we like never see each otha ya know. But man we really hit it off sex all the time. and i ain't gon lie it wuz good.But i think im pregnant and i like his best friend who goes to easton and i have no idea what to do i mean its really hard..im getting an abortion tomorrow..(Sunday dec. 10) and im really scared.. i need your help...
thanks
Well, first i think you better figure out if yuor pregnant for sure. Especially before you have an abortion, that might not find anything to kill, if your not. Second, you might wanna check your calender, Saturday is the 10th and sunday is the 11th. you can try and date his friend, but his friend probably won't date you because he's his friend.
Good Luck!
Dr. Minkus
ok, so theres this one boy, and he went out with me.. then broke up with me, i liked him alott.. and he liked me.. iguess, but now all he does is make fun of me.. what should i doo? i just want to be his friend.
It's simple, I used to tease this same girl over and over, I teased her about every little thing she said, I'd made jokes about her ears, her laugh anything just to pick on her. Wanna know what happned? We dated for 11 months and are together now. So it may work out for you guys being more than just friends.
Good Luck
Dr. Minkus
ok. well im a girl. im 14. and i wanna know how do you know when your bi, because...i think i am. cause i like girls and guys. but i dont know. cause i like guys a lil more. but im craving to make out with a girl. cause i never have. and anyways. please help me!!
Search with in yourself. lol Best advice I can give you. Look at a picture of a naked guy. If you get excited, your straight, look at a picture of a girl. if you don't get excited your straight. Look at picture of a guy and girl, if you get excited, your bi.
Good luck! I hope this helps.
Dr. Minkus
if my period wasnt late at all and its only just started and not really really heavy does that mean that im pregnant?
from what I know, it's simple. If tyou have your period, your not pregnant. This was tough, i answer questions about suicide, and different musics, and "how to get my tummy tighter" but this was probably the hardest. But it's about periods, I'm a guy, what do I know? lol don't trust this 100% I'm just trying to help.
good luck!
Dr. Minkus
Hey all..My parents are REALLY strict and when I say really, I mean REALLY. They wont let me go over ANY guys house, nevertheless even let me hang out with guys. But they'll let them come here but id rather not have that because I have SO many kids living in my house (7 girls, 4 boys) that we would never get privacy at all. What can I do to sneak around without getting caught? Or how could I persuade my Mom and Dad to let me hang out with boys..
Congradulations, your the first person to ask me how to be sneaky. lol It depends what kind of school you go too. If you walk to and from school, tell your parents your staying after for a club. Have a good reason for the club, and the name of it of course. Make it convincing. It's sometimes easy to pulloff and other times hard. If they insist on picking you up. Call from school, and say meeting was canceld. Than go home, and forget about the plans.
good Luck, I hope it works!
Dr. Minkus
( Tip- This can also work if you have a detention. you'll never have to tell them. They'll just think your at "Future buisness leaders of America club" )
Heyy, im homescooled but about 2 or 3 months ago my parents promised they would let me go to public school..its been 2 or 3 months and, you guessed it, im still homeschooled. I wouldnt care THAT much but ive told absolutely EVERYONE in my town that im going so they all think that im going in the third quarter (even though im homeschooled alot of people know me) I dont want them to think im a liar or anything so how the hell can I persuade my parents to let me go?!
it's tough, if you were goin through "withdraw" so to say. Where you weren't having a strong social life, it would be easy. But since alot of people know you, it's not that simple. You're gonna just have to make them understand. It's been proven that 65% of homeschooled kids do better in the buisness world. but 53% do not hav e a strong social life, and lack speaking skills, like public speaking, and starting normal conversations. You could explain that to them, and maybe it may help. Just try to get them to understand. Good luck!
Dr. Minkus
13/f
Me and this boy have been really close friends for a year. Now he's started hanging around the other guys, who are all jerks. They were beating up on a kid one day and it made me mad. I stood up for the kid and the boys all ended up getting in trouble by a teacher. Now my friend is mad at me because I embarrassed him in front of his friends. I was just doing what I think is right! Well, now he says he hates me and is tired of the "bull shit". I love him and I don't want to lose him but I have no idea what to do now. None of his new friends like me (they think I'm a psycho) and I feel like he cares more about what they think than he cares about me. It's really really depressing. Write back soon, please & thank you.
This is deff. a problem. And i'm sad to say, i don't feel it will go away that easy. It's easy for a guy to have a friend thats a girl, but when he finds a group of guys that act different, he'll start acting like them too. I'm sorry to say, he chose his new friends over you. I don't think what you did was wrong, I feel you deff. did the right thing by sticking up for the kid. But by your friend not sticking up for him too, he made the choice to go along with the new guys, not the person who we all know cares about him more, and cares about what happens too him. Which is you of course. But if he starts acting like the other guys, and goes from being a "by-stander" to one of them. you either have to confront him, and try and get him to stop hanging around them ( which can back-fire and make him more mad ) or just stop talking, and hanging with him, even if it hurts you. Soon he'll realize he needs you just as much.
Good Luck, i hope everything works out.
Dr. Minkus
Would you take offense if your gf/bf said that although they find you attractive, they would never want to see a "Picture" of you, or see you in your underwear? I'm sure you can guess of what nature.
My gf said this to me and I felt offended. I don't really know why. I guess it's no big deal, really. We were only kidding around and she said that. I'm pretty insecure about my looks, which doesn't help I suppose. So would you take offense, or am I making a big deal?
it's fine to feel offended, but you can take something positive from it. i'm not saying this to be funny either. It's apparent she's not dating you for your looks. Which is great! Theres few girls out there, that don't focus on just looks. Although, and i promise you this. There will be 1,000 that claim they don't focus on looks. At least this way when she says it you can really believe her.
Good luck, and try and be more confident, it will help you succeed in life.
Dr. Minkus
i havent been eating a lot lately.. too much is going on around my house and my grades dropped so quickly to all D's and 1 F i don't know what to do..
You have to use your head!! Think whats important right now. Your childhood is being ruined because of your family problems. But by not eating, and do poorly and school, your setting the whole rest of your life up for failure. Please do what you need to, and sort your family problems out in a different way. just concentrate, and attack what you need to be successful in life. do missed work, and ask your teachers for help. Talk to someone if you need to. Good luck!
Dr.Minkus
I'll admit, I am only 14, but I love the military. I have wanted to be a fighter pilot dating back to when I was five. My father recently retired from the Navy, and I want to join USAF, but I can't. I have diabetes. I find is very discouraging and discriminating that diabetics can not join. If one wants to join, I think the oppurtunity should be there. Right now, I am in Junior Air Force ROTC and my high school. I love the class, and I we (the "flight") were informed that if we joined the service, we would automatically be started at a higher rank than the others. But I do not have the choice to join, and I am considering to write to George Bush explaning how I feel. Should I?
I know you want to hear something encouraging and ethusiatic. Honestly, it's worth a try. But, don't be dissapointed if nothing happens. Millions send letters every year, and rarely ever does he even get one. He's to "busy" which is a bunch of bull if you ask me. But it's worth a try. Best of luck!!
Dr. Minkus
so my boyfreind asked me out.
and now basicly all he wants from me is sex.
it makes me really sad and dissapointed...
please help.
and dont say break up with him.
you guys dont know me.
i like him alot..
i rate
This is a problem, because when he's complimenting you, your never gonna know weather its to be nice or just to get "action". You'll just have to talk to him, as hard as it may seem. Just come to some kind of an agreement. I'm not calling you a slut or anything, but it's apparent your willing to compromise, otherwise you would have just dumped him. You have my respect for that. Just say something like "sometimes we can do "stuff" and we'll always have a physical intimate relationship, but we need peaceful time too, where we just catch a movie or get dinner at a nice returaunt" It's importatn for you guys to have a segragated relationship. Public relationship, than Sexual relationship. I know it sounds a bit confusing but he should understand if he really cares about you.
Good luck!
Dr. Minkus
who sings that song that goes,
take me away take me far away from here i will run with you dont be afraid call my name and we will stare into the sun we will run
Fefe Dobson or something like that. do a google search you're sure to find it in no time. This was the easiest answer yet! Thanks
Dr. Minkus
I have been with my boyfriend for 1 1/2 yrs. We moved in together about 4 months ago. And I asked him before I agreed to move in with him if he thought he loved me enough to ever marry. He said yes. But since we have moved in together I am scared he will never ask me. How do I know if he ever will or not?
Theres a couple possibilities. Of course career is a huge one. You'll obviuosly know better than I will. Does he have a steady job? Has he accomplished the things he wants to by now? Answer these to yourself. Alot of times, we have goals for our lives, and marriage would be a huge, step, and a hude goal. But if one of the previous has not been achived. He may be afraid to kinda jump over that goal if you will. He may just want to accomplish a few things before he's fianlly ready to settle down, and start a strong family. I don't know if this is the case. i could be totally off, but I hope it helps.
Dr. Minkus
ok the other day i was with my boyfriend and weve been together for a month and 2 months next week and he said 'i love you' to me like properly but hes into long term relationships, his last gf he was with for 8 months and he said 'i love u' to her.
do you think he really means it...i love him so much and i dont want to get hurt!
thanks ill rate high
xxx
Depends how he acts. I've been dating this girl for a month now, almost two, and I can tell you right now, I love her! The thing is, he's had long term relationships, and you know this. He should be capable of knowing what love is, and anyone who can have a relationship for 8 months is smarter enough to say it and truely mean it. He wouldn't say it unless he truly meant it. I have a funny question you can ask him. It sounds really funny, and if he's the type of guy like me he'll deff. laugh. say "do you really love me?" and when he says "yes" which I'm confident he will say "if I broke both my arms, would you whipe my ass for me?" He's not supposed to answer but he will and you'll get a good laugh out of it. When he says yes which i'm almsot confident he will, you'll know he truly does love you, and you get something to laugh about for a while. : )
Have fun, and good luck!
Dr. Minkus