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SO ANNOYING
Hey all..My parents are REALLY strict and when I say really, I mean REALLY. They wont let me go over ANY guys house, nevertheless even let me hang out with guys. But they'll let them come here but id rather not have that because I have SO many kids living in my house (7 girls, 4 boys) that we would never get privacy at all. What can I do to sneak around without getting caught? Or how could I persuade my Mom and Dad to let me hang out with boys..
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well..go to the movies with some friends and you know, forget to mention there will be boys there ;) you and the boy you want to be with can sit a couple rows back if you want some one on one time.
another thing to do is tell your mom your staying after school to make up a gym class,work out, get math help, go to a meeting, do hw, go to the library, etc and forget to mention you will be hanging out with a guy instead.
have one of your friends invite guys and girls over..you say your going to your friends house. hey its not a lie..you just didnt say there would be guys there. lol
what my friend did to sneak around with a guy was she would go to the guys house after school or have a friend who drives drive her to his house...then she would take a cab home or have his mom drive her home or something like that. she didnt want her parents knowing she was going out or seeing any guys..and its been working just fine.
***KEEP IN MIND*** that these plans could go horribly wrong...i just thought i should let you kknow..i mean you never know when parents will actually catch on or figure things out. keep your guard up
If you want to convince them:
-mention there will be parents home
-tell them to actually talk to the parents if they want
-tell them to call your cel to checkup on you until they have earned your trust
-have them meet the boy
-melissa-
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Okay, first off if your between the ages of 13-15, chill on the sneaking part cus it'll only worsen the strickness of your parents--cus they always find out. Then they'll always make reference to your defiance and disobediance--even when your 16+, then you'll be living in true hell. Im sure its madd frustrating living in that brady bunch atmosphere, I couldnt stand living with my one sibling. I dont know if your parents are any bit liberal, then I'd tell you to sit em down and talk to them about this. Telling them that when you finally get your independance they are going to have a wild child like the girls on those degrading gone wild tapes, especially is their grip isnt lessened. Ive seen it a milion times, people goin to college after being held down by their parental units, expiriencing freedom for the first time, and not being able to handle it maturly. Tell them they have a very trusting young women on their hands and that you need your space. If they will allow you to venture into the "boy" sector, you'd be willing to compromise through rules created by both parties (yours and theirs combined). For example: Mom, I need alittle more freedom, and would like to see a boy outside of our house, I'd be willing to compromise with you, maybe not going over his house but staying in a public area, or just going to a movie in which I'd call you and honestly report my plans. " You could even reasure them by giving the boy's parents #, telling them to call and check on the situation. If your older then 15, your parents need to seek counseling, especially if they are this strict...
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Congradulations, your the first person to ask me how to be sneaky. lol It depends what kind of school you go too. If you walk to and from school, tell your parents your staying after for a club. Have a good reason for the club, and the name of it of course. Make it convincing. It's sometimes easy to pulloff and other times hard. If they insist on picking you up. Call from school, and say meeting was canceld. Than go home, and forget about the plans.
good Luck, I hope it works!
Dr. Minkus
( Tip- This can also work if you have a detention. you'll never have to tell them. They'll just think your at "Future buisness leaders of America club" )
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My parents used to be that way to....Have a guy come meet your parents and talk to them. Living in a house with taht many kids might be crazy but just put up with it once.... and then ask your mom if you can go there and tell the guys mom to call yours and have them talk to each other about how you can go over there and if that doesn't work. then you should explain to your mom if you wanted to have sex with that dude that it would have already happend that your just friends and that you are just hangning out thats how i talked to my mom about going to guys house and she finally trusted me.
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to get them to change their minds is going to be hard, but you can try and convience them that you aren't doing anything with them and that other people are going to be there. or promise that parnets will be there even if there aren't. or go somewhere and don't tell them that guys will be there. to keep from actually lying you can hang out in a really big group of people and just tell your parnets (if and when they ask who will be there) that some of your girl friends and the guy friends that they may like, trust and/or know are going to be there. Good Luck!
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say your goin to the movies with one of your grls and tell the guy to wait for you inside n then when the coast is clear then go find him! then make sure your parents dont see you with him! only spend time with him IN the theatre ((where its dark ooh-la-la)) nad not out! i hope i could help! if u need ne thing else then drop it in my box!
x3 alwais H a N n A h
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