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offense?
Would you take offense if your gf/bf said that although they find you attractive, they would never want to see a "Picture" of you, or see you in your underwear? I'm sure you can guess of what nature.
My gf said this to me and I felt offended. I don't really know why. I guess it's no big deal, really. We were only kidding around and she said that. I'm pretty insecure about my looks, which doesn't help I suppose. So would you take offense, or am I making a big deal?
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Maybe she is prude and just doesn't enjoy seeing people naked.
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dont take offense. no matter what you look like you are you and if she doesnt like it tell her to go fly a kite.i dont think you should place your worth on what she says im sure you look fine in your choneys. maybe she meant it in a playful flirting way like...."i wouldnt wanna see a pic of you in yourrrrrrrrr underwear...rawrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr. you never know. dont feel insecure im sure it was nothing
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well im sure she meant it playfully, so its really not a big deal. just relax and tell her how much she means to you and then she might feel eased up a bit.
xoo hope this helps !! ♥
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I personally, would feel offended. Depending on her tone, if she was just joking then its no big deal. If she sounded serious, thats not nice. Does she normally make remarks like that? Or is she normally very nice? These are things you need to put into consideration.
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A lot of people have a thing against pictures. Girls tend to be more emotional about intimacy than visual. I think the problem here lies with the difference between guys and girls. She didn't mean to hurt your feelings and she does find you attractive. I don't particularly want any pictures of my guy, I would actually think it was a little weird if he wanted to give them to me. However, I think he's very attractive. I feel that intimate stuff like that should be shared when you are with the other person...because I think more emotionally, being a girl. It was right for you to take offense, but she wasn't meaning to offend you. You two just have a little bit of a hard time understanding each other. I think that you should talk about this with her. Tell her how it made you feel when she said that and even though you're pretty sure that she didn't mean it, she hurt your feelings anyways. You two can work this out with nothing more than some good old fashioned communication. I hope you feel better about yourself and good luck! <3
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Well I can see why you feel offended. But there's also a big positive side to this. What I think she meant by this whenever she said it was that she's not dating you for just your looks. Cause if she was dating you for just looks then she'd probably be asking for pictures and stuff of you every five seconds. And most girls aren't like that. We really don't want to see stuff like that.. we just want to be with our guy and enjoy their comapny and stuff :] I mean, there ARE some girls who like that stuff, but I don't know any. Anyways..but, still it bothered you, so I might want to talk to her about it. See how she meant it. I'm sure she meant it in no bad way. I hope I helped.
Love,
Mel <3
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most girls think they look weird/funny with no clothes on. it's not you. = )
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Boys look funny when they're naked. It's not you, it's very general.
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I wouldn't take it personally. Some people just don't feel comfortable with pictures of that nature. That may have been what your girlfriend meant.
Since the comment did bother you, you could talk to your girlfriend and ask what she meant for your peace of mind. Since she said she finds you attractive and is with you, I'm inclined to believe that she was joking or meant that she didn't feel comfortable with that kind of picture.
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it's fine to feel offended, but you can take something positive from it. i'm not saying this to be funny either. It's apparent she's not dating you for your looks. Which is great! Theres few girls out there, that don't focus on just looks. Although, and i promise you this. There will be 1,000 that claim they don't focus on looks. At least this way when she says it you can really believe her.
Good luck, and try and be more confident, it will help you succeed in life.
Dr. Minkus
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This doesnt make too much sense-she finds you attractive but wouldnt want to see u in a picture or underwear? either your attractive or not-it may have been just a joke. I wouldnt worry about it. I am insecure person as well and if anything we would be the ones to say we wouldnt want someone else to see us. SO i would say dont worry about it.
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propably a joke, maybe not, send her a pic of you wearing only socks, she might reconsider either way...hehehe.
just so you are sure, i don't want to see a picture of you wearing only underwear either.
goodluck
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It depends on the mood of the convo--if it was all jokes and good times, let it slide--if there was a sence of truth in her voice, if she was really serious..any normal person would be offened by it. Being that ur insecure about your looks, she definatly shouldnt of said something like that despite the light heartedness.
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depending on how and where this conversation took place is whether or not you should offence to it. if it was in front of friends then maybe she didn't want to seem werid by saying that she wouldn't main. or maybe she just isn't ready to see you like that. just give her a break and don't take it so hard. it's not really that big of a deal.
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oh, I think anyone would be a little offended. I wouldn't worry about it much though, she did say she found you attractive.
Maybe she wouldn't like to see anyone in a picture like that.
So, I CAN understand why you were offended. But, I wouldn't make a big deal about it.
You can ask her why ( she will probably wonder why you are still thinking about it as she has probably forgotten all about it) OR, just forget it. :)
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I personally don't think you're making a big deal out of it, but in a way I'd sort of take it as an offense. See, your girlfriend might be shy & she might be scared that if she sees you in your underwear or "it" she'll feel pressured into doing something that she doesn't want to do. It honestly depends on how long you've been dating, if it's like 1/2 months then you shouldn't be making a big deal out of it. But if it's like 6 months + maybe you should talk to her about it. & Reassure her that you aren't going to make her do anything she doesn't want to!
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In response to your response. If she is religious she has probably been told that it is wrong to see someone else naked. I dated a guy for two years that was orthodox jewish and he was terrified of anything sexual. He wanted to stay a virgin until he was married. So psycologically speaking he created an aversion to sex in his mind, so that it was disgusting, so that he wouldn't have it. It might be what your girlfriend has been taught.
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