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What do you do when you've liked a guy for a really long time and are finally dating and you decide that you don't want to date anymore, but then after you break up with him, you like him still and now your best friend is going out with him?
Age: 13
Gender: Female

Well there's nothing really you can do in this situation. You can't break them up. You just need to wait, I guess. And whenever they break up, tell him your feelings and see if he wants to date you again. Just this time, don't let go of him. Keep him. Obviously there's no need to worry about feeling guilty cause your best friend obviously didn't feel bad about dating him. I hope I helped.



Love,
Mel

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well my bfs friends who i thought disliked me with a passion recently told me he had liked me but he was a fraid of what his friend would say so he never said anything to me about it well i like him to but i love my bf im really confused and dont want to make the wrong decision well his friend kevin (the one that lieks me) doewsnt ever want to see me and mike ( my bf) together and it drives me crazy b/c i really want to see him well mike is already thinking that i like kevin but i denied it and now im lying to mike and that scares me plz help ~~~guy tug a war~~~~

Well I know it's going to be hard, but you need to think of who you want to be with more. Do you want to be with your boyfriend, or this Kevin guy? Who do you see yourself happier with? But it seems you have stronger feelings for Mike because you "love" him, and only "like" Kevin. So wouldn't you want to stay with Mike if you love him? Just think about it for a long time and think clearly, and listen to your heart. ( I know that sounds corny ) but, you need to. If you want any more help, just IM me at imELECTRiCbaby x. I hope I helped.




Love,
Mel

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Hey guys! I have a Sims 2 for Play Station 2 and this is funny but How can you get a Sim Pregnant. My Sims Do the "WooHoo" ALOT. But she has never got pregnant. lol. Please Don't Be Rude! :) Ty

Haha, well they need to have a good relationship, and then need to be married. And then the next time you go to "woohoo", there should be another option that says "try for baby". If you need any more help, just IM me at imELECTRiCbaby x, but you shouldn't cause I'm pretty positive that's how you do it. :] I hope I helped, and I hope you get your Sim pregnant, lol.




Love,
Mel

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Hi everyone I am planning to start my own magazine company. I wanted to know from teenagers what do you'll look for in a magazine. If you have any suggestions or comments let me know I will greatly appreciate them. But I don't want comments on celebrities because I already have that covered.
Thank you :)

Well, some of the things I like to look for whenever I'm reading magazines is:

-new hairstyles for all sorts of hair types ( short, long, bangs, etc. )

-new styles ( and nice cheap ones at stores I can go to and afford I can't afford the 24802 dollar stuff celebrities can )and like, nice good makeup you can get and nice hair straightners and curlers.

- also new styles for all sorts of styles like punk and such not just all girly and preppy and everything.

-I LOVE THE EMBARASSING STORY SECTION! I love love love it, it always is cracking me up and everything. :D

-I also love the advice columns and those real life stories you know like,"Does He Like You As A Friend.. Or More?" "Love Stories" "Advice On Kissing" or "How To Talk To Boys And Keep It Going", etc. Because it really helps me in real life situations and everything.

- and of course, posters of celebrities and stuff and also have alot of quizzes. I like taking those and finding out "What Color Looks Best With Me" and all that stuff. :]

I would suggest looking through some of the popular magazines like SEVENTEEN and COSMOGIRL and see some of the things they're doing and take bits and peices and change it around to something of your own. :]

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hey my name is Jess im 13. well my boyfriend is really sweet and nice but he always thinks i have to be around him. im always canceling my plans just for him. Well im sick of it. Today i told him i was going out with my friends cause i had this all planned to go out tolunch but of course he wants me to hangout with him. he says i was being a bitch taking ym friends over him. its annoying but i really love him. what can i do to make him stop acting like this. I know if i say my friends are important to me to he wll get mad. Please Help
Sincerely, Jess

That's always the hard thing about being a relationship, is balancing out the boyfriend and the friends. He just may really really like you and want to be with you all of the time, which is sweet in some sense, but yet like you said..annoying. You just need to talk to him and explain to him that you do love him and want to spend time with him, it's just you miss your friends sometimes and want to spend some time with them also. And he should hang out with his friends too, cause I'm sure they want to hang out with him too. Tell him your friends are important to you, but he's important too. If you want to talk more, just IM me at imELECTRiCbaby x





Love,
Mel

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I was at work the other day and this creep came up to me while i was pricing clothes for the boxing day sale. He knew me back from when I used to volunteer at the local food bank. He came up to me and demanded I give him my phone number. He got angry because I wouldnt, and then said in a mean voice "just put your little pen in your little hand and write your number down on your piece of paper and give it to me". The nerve!! I tried not to get angry and told him how busy I was. He finally left.
So my question was is this sexual harrassment?

No, it's not sexual harassment because nothing sexual occured, but it is just a regular kind of harassment. He did nothing illegal. He was just being a huge huge asshole. But even though he didn't do anything illegal, doesn't mean you shouldn't do something about it. If he ever tries to do it again, tell your manager about it so then if he ever DOES come in again, he may be asked to leave you alone, or leave the store. I hope I helped.





Love,
Mel

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HI im 12 years old and one of my best friends cuts herself ive been told to tell the guidence councler and stuff but either im nervous or she thinks shell get in trouble do u have any advise of what I can do to help her? thanks
i rate high
dazed & confused

Dear dazed & confused,

Well, I think you should tell the guidance counselor. She won't get in trouble ; she'll be getting help, and that's what is important right now. You might be nervous also. You might be afraid she's going to get in trouble, or that you might upset her by doing this, but like I said.. her saftey right now is the most important thing. You need to tell at least someone if not the guidance counselor.. like her parents, you parents, any adult that could help. You need to talk to her. Tell her she needs to stop. If she won't stop for herself, then ask her to please stop for you and for everyone that loves her. She needs to learn to take her pain and anger out onto something else other than herself. A pillow, talking to someone ( tell her she can always talk to you about her problems and everything ), blast loud music.. there are so many ways to relieve emotions without resulting harm one oneself. Talk to her about everything first, and then talk to the guidance counselor and see how everything goes from there. I hope I helped. If you want to talk to me more, IM me at imELECTRiCbaby x.




Love,
Mel

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What do people mean when they say "opposites attract"? Is this statement true?

Whenever they say the term "opposites attract" they're merely stating that two people who like opposite things and are completley opposite to eachother, can sometimes like eachother. ( ex: a girl depises sports, a guy loves sports, a girl loves animals, a guy hates animals, a girl loves the color red, a guy thinks the color red is the ugliest color ever, etc. yet in the end, they can still find an attraction to eachother ) no, this isn't ALWAYS true. Sometimes opposites really are so opposite that they end up not liking eachother ( obviously because they are not compatible and sometimes people don't like people who aren't compatible with them ) but sometimes it is true. Sometimes people can find someone who isn't compatible, but like I said.. still find an attraction. Sorry if that doesn't make sense, lol. I just kinda repeated everything over and over, lol. I hope I helped.





Love,
Mel

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We were having a Xmas party at my school today. In one of my classes, we were having a mock debate game. The teacher would call up four of us and give us a topic. One of the topics was 'it Santa Claus real or not"? Two people had to debate for the positive, that he was real, and the other two had to debate that he wasnt.
Well when my turn came up, the topic was: does Santa spend his summer in mexico or the North Pole? I was on the negative team, so I had to debate that Santa did NOT spend his Xmas in Mexico.
Well when I started talking I was really on a role. I said that I had been to Mexico 3 times and never once had a seen a fat, pasty looking man with a long white beard tanning on the beach. Then I added "who would want to see that? It's DISGUSTING!! I also talked about how Santa never has a tan, and that if he spent a whole summer in Mexico he would still be a bit bronn at Xmas time. I also added that he had to compile his naughty and nice list and get his elves in order, and that the summer is only 4 months away from Xmas so he would definatley have to spend his Xmas in the North Pole.
Well I got a couple of chuckles during my speech, and me and my partner won a prize for best debate!!
The only thing I'm worried about is now some of the guys in the class are avoiding me, and not being as friendly to me after I made my speech. I thought of two things: maybe some guys don't like girls to be funny and outspoken, that's what guys do, and 2, maybe they were offended by me saying that seeing Santa tanning on the beach was digusting.
Does anyone have any ideas?
PS, not everyone reacted this way. The teacher came up to me afterwords and told me I was hilarious.

I don't think it was that. I think some of the people might be jealous because they're debate wasn't as good as yours or as funny as yours and they didn't win the prize for best debate. Guys love to be competitive and whenever they lost, they probably got all mad. Just try talking to some of them tommorrow, and if they give you the cold shoulder, ask them whats up. If they still are being stupid and avoiding you, who cares? I mean, if they're going to get upset over a fun little made up debate, I'd want to see them at a real one. Just try talking to them and see what happens. I hope I helped.




Love,
Mel

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alright im 15.f is that helps.
so i have a boyfriend who i totally love, but i cant help it but have a little crush on this guy. the guy i have a crush on i THINK likes me hes constantly flirting and calls me too. i mean i wouldnt break up with my boyfriend for him, but i think about him alot and really like hanging out with him. any advice on what to do- thanks!

Well you need to decide who you would rather be with. It is normal to develop some feelings for other people because I mean just because you love someone else, doesn't mean your emotions towards other people are completly gone. But you need to decide if you really wanna be with this other guy, and if you do, kindly end it with your boyfriend. Also, if you do, say it to his face. Show him you at least respect him enough. But if you don't want to break up with your boyfriend, I would try either backing off this guy a little bit, or just trying really hard to think of him and treat him as a friend. =/ I hope I helped.





Love,
Mel

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whats the difference between fraternity and sorority?

A fraternity is for guys, and a sorority is for girls. I hope I helped.




Love,
Mel

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My boyfriend and I have been going out for a year and a month, on Decemeber 15. We are always together, and I think that I love him. I know it's like, oh your a child you don't know what love is, but I really do believe that I am in love. We were laying on my bed on each other and I was thinking about how I love him, and I was about to tell him.. I asked him what he was thinking about, and he said, "I love you." It was like so strange though because I was just about to say the exact same thing, but anyways.. Wow, totally off topic. I'm 13, and whenever we are making out.. We get a little too into it, I suppose. Where it gets to the point when it's "dry sex", or having sex with your clothes on.. Yes, I know it's weird.. But, I feel the erge to want to have sex with him, and go farther, sexually. I am only in 7th grade, so of course I don't want to go that far.. All I have done with any guy is "feel up", because I refuse to go farther.. He was trying to finger me and I wouldn't let him. Basically, I am trying to ask..

Would it be wrong if I had sex with him?
I don't think I am ready, at all.
I could be wrong? Maybe, I am.
But - I am scared that next time we hook up that it will go a little too far.
And it's not like a 10 second hook up, it's more like 10 minutes.
Really, how far is "too far"?
I believe feel up is far enough for 7th grade.
But I'd love your views.

"Would it be wrong if I had sex with him"?
-Well, we really can't tell you if it's wrong, we can only give OUR opinion.. and that's just our opinion which might be different from yours.

"I don't think I am ready, at all. I could be wrong? Maybe, I am."
-Obviously from that sentence alone you sound like you don't want to have sex with him. Because if you're even doubting it the slightest bit, then you shouldn't do it because you're not 100% ready.

"Really, how far is 'too far'?"
Well, I think for a girl your age... feeling up is far enough, but like I said that is just my opinion. If you two feel you are in love with eachother enough and have fully discussed everything like two repsonsible adults and you're aware of the consequences and everything, then it's your choice. But please, wear protection of course. But like I said.. think of all the consequences.

Also, you say that you feel the urge to have sex with him, which is normal for girls. Because you're going through all the hormones and everything and teh age where people want to experience things such as sex and such. But it might be just a phase, that might not mean you REALLY want to have sex with him. Like I said, just think everything through, talk about it, be aware of everything, and both feel that you're fully ready to make a big decision like that.
I hope I helped.





Love,
Mel

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i weigh 200 pounds...and i'm 15 and a girl is that fat? ((this is serious))
please helpā™„

i dont want advice on how to lose the wieght, cause i didnt ask for that advice.i just want to know if that is seriously overweight.

Well it also depends on your height on your weight also, which you didn't say so I wouldn't fully know.. but yes, it sounds to me like you are a little overweight. It's not serious as to like "Ah you're going to die"..you can just lose a little bit of weight. Most girls your age should be 130-140lbs. I hope I helped.




Love,
Mel

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ok..i'm more of a tomboy..and my best friend is a tomboy too. but lately, all the preps and 'popular girls' are getting all the guys. haha. and so me and my best friend decided we were gunna act preppy and shit. and so she got kinda pissed that all the popular girls started liking me and the hottest guy started talking to me. so shes like forget it im not goin prep. but i still like the feeling of being preppy and shit...and so i signed up for basketball cheerleading...im wondering...was this the right thing to do? i mean, she still likes me and everything but i kinda feel weird...plz help.

No, I don't think it was the right thing to do. The right thing to do is be yourself, and you're not. You're just being what everybody else wants you to be which is a prep. You should just be happy with yourself, and you should let the guys like you for being you. Because if a guy does like you whenever you're a prep, he's like THAT person. That persons not you. That's just a made-up person made to please everyone. And you're probably not going to be fully happy. So just tell your friend that you made a mistake and you guys shouldn't change yourselves. I hope I helped.




Love,
Mel

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Basically, I would say that around school I am pretty popular with all of my girlfriends and i hav eno trouble being myself and having fun. HOWEVER, once i get around boys I quiten up so much more and i get all nervous like a little girl! I don't know what's wrong with me because I used to be fine but some of my girl friends can be a little too loud and overpowering...HELP! x x x

Well that's how some girls are. Whenever they are around their girl friends they're out there and fun and everything but when it comes to guys.. they just clam up. It's just because you might be afraid you'll embarass yourself around guys and maybe they won't like you. I'm always afraid to say something stupid around them and I'm always afraid they'll think I'm weird or something, but around my girl friends I'm completley outgoing and loud because.. they're my girl friends. They're not going to get crushes on me, they're not going to think I'm weird. I already know they like me for me, so I'm more comfortable with them. Just put yourself in more situations with guys and try to act like they're your girl friends.. except with different body parts, lol. Just try and make yourself more comfortable around them. I hope I helped.




Love,
Mel

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why do people like to follow fashion trends?

People tend to think that by following fashion trends and such, that they will fit in with their peers much more and they won't be ridiculed and made fun of. So people just try to follow what everyone is doing so that they can blend in and make more friends. And also, you don't have to worry about looking stupid because, if everyone else is wearing it.. then it's obviously not stupid, so then you're not stupid. You're cool. I personally hate whenever everyone follows the same fashion trend. Because everyone then to me.. looks exactly the same. It's just like everyone is the same kind of person. Like every single girl in my school right now has sparkle belts, sparkle purses, and tan clogs. And of course since everyone shops at the same exact store.. they're wearing same clothes too. They just all look like clones. But, yeah.. people just want to be able to fit in with their peers and be 'popular' and 'cool'. I hope I helped.





Love,
Mel

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I bought my boyfriend of two months, an Ecko tshirt, an earring, & a 10 dollar gift card @ Barnes and Nobles. I didn't want to go overboard since we've literally only known each other 2 months, but do you think that seems like enough?
Thanks.

Oh that's definetley enough. It's good because you got him several things which I'm sure he will all love, and it's not like you spent $100 on him or anything. Yeah, it's enough. :]



Love,
Mel

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my parents are gay and my friends are not my friends any more because of it what do i do?

That is really dumb. I mean, if they're going to stop being your friend because your parents are gay, then they're really not being your friends at all because they'd like you no matter what and they'd like you for who you are. I would suggest finding some new friends who'll like you for you, and like your parents. Trust me, you don't want friends like that. I hope I helped.




Love,
Mel

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I know that 13-year-olds are too young to fall in love. But does that mean you can't say "I love you" to your boyfriend?

Well actually, there is no age to love. You can fall in love at any age. I am 14 and I know for a fact I am in love. But, this isn't about me. If you feel that you really are in love with him, then of course you can tell him it. Just don't feel like if he's saying it to you, that means you have to say it to him. Only say it whenever you feel it. I hope I helped.




Love,
Mel

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mel this is kelly. i havent seen you in a few days are you alright?? your not on IM either. i just hope your on right now please get back to me and tell me your OK.

kel

Oh, yeah I'm perfectly fine. The reason you probably don't think I'm on IM is because I'm on my new screename, remember? imELECTRiCbaby x .. or I just might have been kicked off at the moment or something. Yeah, remember how I told you I felt like I was going to throw up? Well when I was home on Wednsday I felt like, disgusting and it kinda...came up in my throat again [ im trying to spare details ] so my mom just let me stay home the next two days. I'm going to be so screwed with homework, lol. I feel bad about leaving Jade with our Social studies project we were working on. I'll talk to you later.




Love,
Mel

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