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This girl that's my friend Jenna* and this guy that is my friend Greg* used to date. It was a nasty breakup. Well I stayed frieds with both of them. Well now me and Greg are really close. Like we hug at church and stuff but we are NOT dating. Now she thinks we have something going on. And she called me and said I saw his # in your cell phone and then I saw ya'll hugging...what is going on? I don't know what to do. I want to keep both of my friends please help!

Just be honest with her. Explain to her that absolutley nothing is going on or ever will go on, between you and Greg*. Just explain to her how the hug was just a friendly hug and you and him are still friends and talk so of course his number is going to be on your phone. I mean I can understand if she's getting "eh" around girls because she might not want any girls dating him still cause I mean he WAS her boyfriend and everything, but if she was a good friend she'd believe you whenever you say you're not dating him. So just be honest. I hope I helped.






Love,
MELii

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Ok sorry if this is a little long but here goes im 13 and i like this boy who is also 13 hes in my grade and he goes to my youth group at church.We're friends but we're not BEST friends i really like him and last night was our school dance the entire time i was tring to get his attention but unfornutaly my attempts feel short 2 of my firends asked him to dance with me without me know while one friend stayed and talked to him anouther grabbed my hand and brought me to him he walked away when i got there.SO i guess my question is what should i do i really like him and letting og is NOT an option

Well first of all at the next dance, try asking him to dance yourself. Sometimes by having your friends do it the guy might think you don't have any confidence and that's a huge turn-off. Also just try talking to him and flirting with him more. Get to know him better and let him get to know you better. =] But in the end, if he still doesn't like you more than a friend then I guess you'll just have to leave it at that because wonuldn't it be better to have a friendship with him then no relationship at all? Huh? At least you'll still get to talk to him and hang out with him. But just flirt and see what happens =] I hope I helped.





Love,
MELii

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yea hey everyone! ok there is this guy named walker, real sweetheart. he does nething for me and he helps me all the time but...here comes the weirdo part...he wont leave me alone. he calls me 24/7 texts me 24/7 and i cant take it anymore. the guy i like (nikk, you might want to read my other question about him) likes me alot and he is starting to get a little unencouraged on wanting to date me! and it will be all walkers fault and i feel so bad cuz he just wants to make me happy but were just not supposed to be together. how to i tell him to back off without using that phrase? someone help me get rid of walker the stalker! much love

Well really there is no way to not hurt him, your gonna hurt him. But there's ways to hurt him less. First of all, do it to his face. Show him that you at least respect him enough to tell him to his face. And just explain to him how you really appreciate everything he does for you and how nice he is and how great of a friend he is.. but that's all you want to keep it at. Is just great friends. Then he might back off on all the calling. If he doesn't, you'll also have to explain that to him too. Just tell him you need some private time every now and then and you can't always have that with him calling all the time. The truth sucks sometimes, I know, but you gotta be honest. =/ I hope I helped.





Love,
MELii

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can anyone tell me some websites where you can play games?

Heres some:

www.neopets.com
( a little childish, but fun )

www.nick.com
www.disneychannel.com
( also a little childish but some fun games )

www.addictinggames.com
( i'm not sure if there's two g's or one. I think there's two. Give it a try and see what happens )

www.bored.com




.. I hope I helped! =]





Love,
MELii

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hey everyone! wow ok i used to skateboard about to years ago and then i kind of quit and started to dress...uhmm how what should i consider it...prep? ok well im getting back into it and im starten to wear my old clothes. zero shirts HIM shirts element baker etc. (u get the idea). well everyone is making such a big deal about it and they wont leave me alone and they keep making fun of me. im starting to think about giving up my one true love...skateboarding or changing my look just to get the approval of the people. but i dont want to. what should i do? please help! much love

Well I'm sorry.. but that's sad. Giving up something you truley love.. just because you want people to like you? You should never do that. People need to seriously grow up. They need to accept people for who they are. People make such a big freakin deal out of what people wear.. it doesn't even matter who the person is. The person could be the nicest person in the whole world and does no wrong but then if they're wearing a certain style that doesn't matter to people, because if you wear THIS style your THIS way and if you wear THIS style your THAT way. Psh.. all that matters is what they wear. You should tell people that it doesn't matter what you wear and if they were your friends they'd accept you no matter what. Rgh I hate people like that. People do seriously need to grow up. You should never give up on what you love though. In the future, you probably won't even be friends with half of the people anymore so who cares about what they think? You shouldn't. I hope I helped.






Love,
MELii

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Is it possible to find the "one" when you're only 14? I have been thinking about this alot. I have this boyfriend, he is the best guy in the world. He doens't pressure me to do anything. We have been dating for 3 weeks and he hasn't pressured me to do anything. Just yesterday it took him the whole football game to put his arm around me, and it wasn't even fully. He hasn't even kissed me yet. Personally, I love this. I don't like feeling pressured. He texts me and or calls me everyday. I like him so much. I don't know if I love him though. But that isn't really my question. My question is, should I be looking for "the one" right now? I know it is a really small chance that I will find the one so early. I am only a freshman and I can see this relationship is going to last a long time, but the next 3 years of high school? Is it possible that we can stay together for the next 3 years?

Well of course it's possible to last 3 years or more =] If you love eachother enough and want to be together enough, of course =] I don't know if you should be looking for the "one" at 14, seems a little young.. but then again you never know when the "one" will come. He can come at anytime, any age. And he could come at 14. You never know. I think I found my one =D Anyways, not about me. Well it's alright to know if you don't love him yet.. you've only been dating 3 weeks. That's not alot of time to determine if your in love with him yet or not. Just sooner of later one day you'll just be like," Wow.. I really really care about this guy and I really love him". =] I wish the best of luck to you both and hope you last very very long

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Okay, so I like this guy that already has a girlfriend. And I'm actually friends with his girlfriend so there's no tension. But anyway, me and this guy (let's call him C..) Me and C talk alot online and offline. But the problem is- he is always talking to me about his girlfriend. Constantly he just randomly says "I love her so much." or "I miss her." and other things like that. I've talked to all my other friends that talk to him and they say that he never says anything like that to them. Am I reading too far into this? Or is there some thing about guys talking about their girlfriend to other girls?

Well see, whenever guys talk to their guy friends about their girlfriends and call them amazing and how they love them so much and they're perfect and all that usual stuff.. they're usually going to feel and be called a wuss. But whenever they talk about it with girls, girls think it's normal and cute so they have no problem expressing those kinds of feelings to tehm because they know the girls not going to think they're wussy or anything. Also that just shows how close you are to him which is really good. It shows he trusts you enough to talk to you about certain stuff that he can't talk about with other people so even though your not his girlfriend, you pretty pretty good friend to him which is better than nothing, huh? =] I hope I helped.






Love,
MELii

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Me: bye baby io lkove you
Her: later
Me: ...?
Her: bye?
Me: i said i love yiou
Her): you too
Me: :-\

Is this girl still into me? Is she giving up on me or what?
I need to know because my heart can't take it anymore

Okay I'm sorry but it sounds like she's not into you like that. If she was, she would have said " I love you too " I would talk to her and ask her what's going on and ask her if she still has feelings for you because it sounds like she doesn't. =/ I hope I helped.





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MELii

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what happens...when yu want a boyfrend but no one seems to like yu? i need help
what can i do?

Well there's nothing you CAN do really. You just have to kinda wait until a guy comes around and likes you for you and want to date you. Just whenever you go out with your friends and if you comes across some guys, flirt with them. See if they flirt back. Send them the message that your interested ( but not too strongly or you'll chase them away ) just hint around that you might be interested in them but also be yourself. You don't want the guy liking some girl your just pretending to be. I hope I helped.





Love,
MELii

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i like this lad, Robert, im madly in love with him and hes all i think about! The problem is we live so far apart. im in kent and hes in nottingham which is quite a distance apart. he knows i love him and tells me he loves me to and when he does i cry. i dont know what to do, it makes me feel so down i cry every night about him. i really need advice on this. i dont want anyone to tell me to move on because ive heard it all before but can any one else help me out? please its getting me down :(

well I'm not sure how far away Kent and Nottingham are, but I'm sure it's pretty far. Well I can relate to the same thing. Me and my boyfriend are in a long-distance relationship and I always used to wonder," Oh will this work? It's sooo far" and all the things you are thinking. But now that I think about it, I don't care how far he is ( well I do, but you know what I mean ). I mean I know I love him and he loves me and I know we're both willing to make it work out because what relationship doesn't have a few bumps in teh road? Yes yours is a bit bigger than most, but if you two make it through it, it shows that you two were more determined and in love than most couples to make it work out. Just try talking to him and writing him as much as possible. Maybe send him things every now and then so whenever you aren't talking to eachother, he can think of you. =] In the end, it's worth it. Just try visiting him every now and then.. and whenever you two meet, you can make up for all the time you didn't see eachother =] I hope I helped.






Love,
MELii

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Say a girl and a guy that are dating have sex alot. If one night the girl didn't want to but the guy forced her to, is that still rape? Becuase she's had sex with him before, she just didn't feel like it right then.

Yes, it's still rape. Whenever one partner is forced do par-take in sexual intercouse and she or he does not want to, that is still considered rape even though she's done it with him before. She needs to talk to someone about this because even though he's her boyfriend what he still did was very very wrong and is a crime. She should talk to a parent or a teacher.. anybody that can help. I hope I helped.





Love,
MELii

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I have a friend we can call him john well john smokes and we're only 13 i dont think thats right i told him what i think and he agrees and hes tried to quit but it NEVER seems to work is there anything i can do to help john because hes my best friend and he could getin in alot of trouble for smoking around school and hes damanging his body

Whenever you two get to school or whenever you guys are just hanging out, ask him to give you all of his cigarettes. ALL of them. Even search around his backpack and pockets for some other packs he might be trying to hide. Also I would have him try talking to his parents, yes, they might be upset that he started in the first place, but they'll be relived that he's at least trying to stop and they'll help him where you can't at home. And he just really needs to try and go cold turkey and everything. If he's really dedicated ; he can do it. Also try niccotine gum. Also get him preoccupied with better healthier things so he'll get his mind off of smoking? Does he like to skate or play games? Then go skating with him or play video games with him. Just get his mind off of smoking. I'm very glad that he's at least trying to stop. I hope I helped.






Love,
MELii

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I'm going to be 17 soon..and I've never had a boyfriend..I've never been kissed...This is really embaressing for me to write..All my friends have had boyfriends..even the not-so-pretty ones..I'm sad..at dances, no one dances with me..I feel so sad because everyone has one now...What should I do?? I'm afraid one day someone is going to confront me about my prude-ness...gossshh this is so sad for a 17 year old..help :(

Well I'm 14 but I am basically the same way. Never danced with anyone at the dances, all less-prettier friends have had numerous boyfriends I've never had one, I was going through all the same things until a month ago whenever I met the most amazing guy ever. But he's long-distance so at the dances and such I'm still alone ( and I still haven't been kissed ) anyways, you're not alone. I know you're thinking, " But I'm 17 " still, there's girl out there your age that are going through the same thing. YOu just haven't found the guy yet.. and he'll come. He just might take longer than some. But trust me, the wait is totally worth it once you do find him. And you also want your kiss to be memorable with the guy you like. Some girls just waste theirs and regret it later. So like I said.. he'll come and it'll be great =] I hope I helped!






Love,
MELii

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ok so I have this really good guy friend and we recently started going out and I thought I liked him like that but I dont!! and its really akward when were together! and I cant talk like i use to with him! and I thought I want a boyfriend right now but I dont!!!! and so I dont know if I should stay wiht him or break up with him because I dont know if I should give him a chance!!! cuz he really likes me! I want to still be really good friends! I need advice

I went through the same exact thing. I had this guy that was my really good guy friend and I started to like him and I wanted to go out with him and stuff and whenever we did, it just felt.. SO AWKWARD. I didn't like him like holding my hand and stuff cause I was so used to being his friend and nothing more and whenever he did that it felt weird so I was sorta quiet around him and he asked me what was wrong and I just explained to him everything and it turned out he felt the same and we broke it off but remained friends. And it's like it never even happened. We're still awseoem friends =] You shouldn't be with someone if you don't want to. It's not fair to him. I felt so badly whenever I didn't say anything for like, a week cause he'd still there and like talk to me like a boyfriend and I just sat there thinking in my head " ehhh I just wanna be friends!! " So you guys can be friends again, you just need to talk to him ( after hte break-up ) like it never happened and slowly everything will be like it never happened. I hope I helped!






Love,
MELii

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My ex and I broke up a little while ago. It was my decision. It was mostly because he lives a while away and I only get to see him on weekends. Well a fiew days ago this kid asked me out.. it was really un expected and I didnt know what to say so I just said yes. I like my boyfriend right now and it feels good to have someone hold me every day, but i feel like my ex is THE one for me. And I think I love him. Id feel bad if i broke up with my bf for my ex cause he just asked me out and it would be really weird cause he is in my class... what should I do?

Well you got to be honest with him. Just explain to him that you still have feelings for your ex and you apologize and would like to remain friends if he wants. I mean even thouhg it might be weird in class.. even if you two were to break up in later relationship, it'd still be just as weird, so might as well do it now. And anyways, you don't want to be with him clearly and that's not being fair to him anyways.And I'd try and start talking to your boyfriend again. Even though he lives far away you could still make it work. Me and my boyfriend have a long-distance relationship but I love him so much and we try and work it out. We talk onthe phone or internet every single day and it's just worth it, and whenever you two see eachother one the weekends, you can make up for all teh time you DIDN'T see eachother. It'll all be worth it. You'll see. =] I hope I helped.






Love,
MELii

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ok about a month ago i started talking to this guy from myspace that lives in the next town over. He is super sweet, everytime we talk he says, "hi beautiful" and i always get like butterflies in my stomach whenever i talk to him or think about him. Well last night a differnt guy from myspace started talking to me who lives in my town and after talking for a awhile he asked me out, which i said no to b/c we just started talking and caous ei like the other guy. the second guy is not as sweet but we have things in common. Now my question is whenever i talk to the first guy i get excited,buterflies in the stomach kinda feeling but i have a hard time talking to him, but with the second guy i didnt have that butterfli in the stomach feeling (well i did when he said, "u know what i like you")and i didnt have a hard time talking to him so why is this and which guy is it i should go for??

Thanks so much in advance!!

oh and im 16/f

Well I think you should go for the first guy. You obviously have more feelings for him and he gives you butterflies everytime you talk to him, and the other doesn't. The first guy just seems alot nicer and sweeter in my opinion =] Also, just because you don't have much in common a guy and have a hard time talking to him doesn't mean you should give up on him just try talking to him more and finding out more things about him to discuss to him about. He might warm up after awhile. He might just be nervous to talk to you since he likes you and is afraid he'll say something stupid and mess up. So def. the first guy in my opinion. I hope I helped! =D






Love,
MELii

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hi..ok i like this kid and he is really cool and hes in my classes and we talk all the time and we flirt ALL the time too...but the only thing is that he has a girlfriend..now i dont know what to do, do i flirt back when he flirts with me, or stay away?

Even though he seems to be flirting back which is awseome, I'd back away. Think of it from his girlfriend's view. If you were his girlfriend, would you want some girl flirting with him? I think not. So just stay back ( flirting-wise ) but still talk to him and everything and then if them two ever break up, start flirting again and then maybe ask him out sometime =] I hope I helped.





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MELii

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Hey guys..well i have a question..obviously. Im obsessed with the band Good Charlotte, and have been for about 4 or 5 years..but people always tell me stuff. Im tired of them thinking my music sucks more then theirs because its not "poser" music. I feel like i got more balls then THEY DO cause its harder to admit you like music that will get people to tell you crap the it is to be the crap talker. What should i do?

Well who cares what they think? If you like Good Charlotte, then thats all that should matter. I think they're an awseome band. =] You shouldn't let peoples opinions get to you. I mean, it's not like they're opinions should change you or anything. Just next time they make a comment about YOUR bands, make a comment about THEIRS. Say their bands are stupid or something and if they tell you they don't care, just say," Well I don't care what you think of my music choices either." I hope I helped.





Love,
MELii

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Alright, im 15/female. I have this friend, well hes actually my best friend. his girlfriend is also one of my good friends.
so heres my problem -- last night we were all drinking, and i was pretty wasted. and he brought me home and we pretty much hooked up. i dont know what to do!!. if she finds out she'll kill me and never talk to me again. she is in LOVE with the kid. but i talked to him today and he reassured me that she wouldnt find out and we both agreed that we didnt regret what happened. and im really starting to like him. WHAT SHOULD I DO?!

Well first of all.. even though he's assured you that she won't find out... I wouldn't be to sure of that. People tend to find out one way or another, but sometimes they don't. =/ You'll just have to be very careful around her and everything and make sure nobody knows what happened. I suggest to just forget that it ever happened between you two, and to never let it repeat itself again. Cause whenever your drunk you tend to do things without any emotion or thought so basically it was nothing. Well, even though your really starting to like him, obviously it can't happen because he's dating your good friend adn even if they broke up, do you know how much it'd hurt her probably if you two started to date? =/ So basically.. it never happened. I hope I helped.






Love,
MELii

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hey i added you if thats ok could you add me too?? thanks lots!:)

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