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worried I might have offended someone during class
We were having a Xmas party at my school today. In one of my classes, we were having a mock debate game. The teacher would call up four of us and give us a topic. One of the topics was 'it Santa Claus real or not"? Two people had to debate for the positive, that he was real, and the other two had to debate that he wasnt.
Well when my turn came up, the topic was: does Santa spend his summer in mexico or the North Pole? I was on the negative team, so I had to debate that Santa did NOT spend his Xmas in Mexico.
Well when I started talking I was really on a role. I said that I had been to Mexico 3 times and never once had a seen a fat, pasty looking man with a long white beard tanning on the beach. Then I added "who would want to see that? It's DISGUSTING!! I also talked about how Santa never has a tan, and that if he spent a whole summer in Mexico he would still be a bit bronn at Xmas time. I also added that he had to compile his naughty and nice list and get his elves in order, and that the summer is only 4 months away from Xmas so he would definatley have to spend his Xmas in the North Pole.
Well I got a couple of chuckles during my speech, and me and my partner won a prize for best debate!!
The only thing I'm worried about is now some of the guys in the class are avoiding me, and not being as friendly to me after I made my speech. I thought of two things: maybe some guys don't like girls to be funny and outspoken, that's what guys do, and 2, maybe they were offended by me saying that seeing Santa tanning on the beach was digusting.
Does anyone have any ideas?
PS, not everyone reacted this way. The teacher came up to me afterwords and told me I was hilarious.
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I don't think it was that. I think some of the people might be jealous because they're debate wasn't as good as yours or as funny as yours and they didn't win the prize for best debate. Guys love to be competitive and whenever they lost, they probably got all mad. Just try talking to some of them tommorrow, and if they give you the cold shoulder, ask them whats up. If they still are being stupid and avoiding you, who cares? I mean, if they're going to get upset over a fun little made up debate, I'd want to see them at a real one. Just try talking to them and see what happens. I hope I helped.
Love,
Mel <3
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thats okay. was it someone you liked? tell everyone you went over board with the speech
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i dont think you insulted them guys just dont like to lose maybe there mad thy didnt get laughs. but it doesnt sound like anything you said would be insulting so just try not to worry about it hun! <3
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It's just a class role play. Who cares what they think?
If you had upset someone in a REAL debate, then perhaps you should try to level things out, but this just sounds like a bit of fun to me.
Actually, Santa did spend one summer in Mexico, but he burns very easily and doesn't really go for spicy food. He told me that he didn't plan on going back for anything other than work purposes.
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i dont think guys who r in a class (this means you have to e like under 18) r gonna be offended by u saying something bad about a nonexistent old fat man. secondly, you shouldnt change for a guy. if they dont like that you are good at voicing you opinions, screw them!
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First off, I think it's sweet that you are concerned that you'd offended people. Keep that trait- it's called being considerate, and most of American adults have forgotten the meaning. Secondly, I commend you for your wit and quickness in your answers in class! And NO it is NOT only males that are to be funny or quick-witted. It seems that if you have that gift, go with it! Don't worry, if anyone reacted funny, it will pass. They're just jealous.
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I don't think the "guys don't like girls to be outspoken" because guys love girls who can make them laughh and smile and etc. I think this could go both ways. They could either PARTLY think that santa claus is real(( doubtful but you never know)) or that they just think you were being rude about it. You never know with guys though. They are confusing. But, if they keep avodiing you. Just ask them if something you did offended them in any way. If they ignore you more, ask your teacher if you did anything wrong or whatever. Or if it really doesn't bother you- just ingore it.
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Don't think about it. Your bringing yourself down and ruining the success of your debate. This debate was just a fun game, anyone who would take any portion of it seriously has issues you don't need to involve yourself with. So, remember, those people who have a problem with what was said during a class game are not worthy of thought. I'm not saying be mean to these people. What I'm saying is don't let these types of thoughts have even 5 seconds of your energy. Fill your thoughts with the success of the day. You deserve to feel good about your debate...so FEEL GOOD. The reason I suggest that you ignore the behavior of these people, who are not dealing with their feelings of inadeqacey, is because you are taking on their feelings/issues. These people are feeling badly and it could be for a myriad of reasons such as, they are jealous that they didn't come up with some cute and witty retorts, or they could feel it is not becomming of a girl. Whatever their reason, it has nothing to do with you. They are the ones with the problem, not you. And when you entertain for one minute why they are being different towards you, you are taking on their problems, narrow viewpoint, their not liking to see others zealously happy, etc. You are making an energy compromise when you allow this energy in. You are no longer quite as happy and excited about your success. They have you thinking that you've done something wrong. YOU HAVEN'T. So, go back to your accelerating and joyful celebration of your success. Be proud of yourself, you deserve it. Then how you overcome these narrow minded opinions is when you are around these people be real nice. Say "hi" to them whenever you see them. Most of all, be yourself. Eventually, things will get back to the way it was before the debate. Another thing you can feel good about is your ability to connect with your inner wisdom who, by the way, probably was intrumental in alerting you to this, "something wasn't quite right with some people", dilemma. Use this magnificent guide. Listen to your guide and it will always be there for you. One last thing...are you sure that one or two of them may have a little crush on you because of this? There are some guys become (don't ask me why...one of the secretes of the universe) shy and aloof when they start to develope feelings for a girl. Silly, I know, but you might look at this possibility. Your inner wisdom is just telling you that things aren't the same anymore. You need to start observing and seeing for yourself what has changed. With patience it will all be revealed to you.
Namaste,
LULABELLE
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I think I'd first have to ask you if you know for sure these guys were avoiding you after class, or maybe, just maybe they were preoccupied with something else? Could you perhaps be too senstive here? I obviously wasn't there so I'm just trying to get you to look at other possibilities.
It sounds like you did a great job on your mock debate team and that you answered your question with humor. The only thing I could imagine would even be a little offensive might be the fact that you put "fat" and "disgusting" in the same thought/sentence. People have such low self esteem issues especially when it comes to body image. Were any of these guys overweight by chance? I know the image you were trying to portray and the humor with which you were relaying it was derived from on-the-spot thinking. And yeah, Santa Clause is fat! So I don't think you did anything wrong. I can only guess as to whether or not someone felt embarrassed or hurt because the idea of being fat and lying on a beach was announced by you as "disgusting." But yes, you were on a roll and you were truly trying to put across an image of SANTA CLAUSE doing something totally foreign to what we would think of him as doing.
I don't buy the idea that these guys don't think girls should be funny and outspoken. Do these particular guys usually act like they're from chauvanistic generations gone by??!!
Hey, maybe they were "disappointed" because the team trying to dispel the myth of Santa Clause won! Maybe they were joking around with you. Who knows why they were being the way they were? I wouldn't give it another thought and I bet you'll see that all is normal once again. Try not to over-analyze this and assume anything. You were playing a role and you seemed to have done well.
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okkk. we have debates in my class, and there is this popular girl inh the class, and she constantly says funny things, and participates ALOT. if they are avoiding you, it could be for different reasons, or they could have thought you were too enthusiatic, and maybe wierd, because yeah, i do NOt see where you came up with those ideas (in a postive way hun =])
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