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well i just lost the best girlfriend in the world ive ever had and i cant stop thinking about her and i keep having dreams about her how do i get her out of my head? PLEASE HELP!!!!!

Well it depends on how you two broke up. If you two had a fight, then just simply IM her or call her or something and talk to her about it and fix the problem and see if you two can get back together. But if not, then to try and get her out of your head, do not keep any contact with her. Don't visit her don't try and conversate with her..if she does come up to you and talks to you, don't make it a huge conversation. Make it simple and short and then say something like," Well I have to go.. bye." And simply leave. And try to preoccupy yourself with a hobby. Maybe even try finding a new hobby. Play some video games, listen to new songs ( songs always get stuck in my head for like, weeks and I they're all I can think about ), play basketball or some type of sport.. hang with your friends.. theres millions of things you can do. I hope I helped.





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MELii

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i think i might be bisexual....like i get this sudden urge to do things with gurls what should i do?!!!?!?!@

Well you must first really discover if you ARE bisexual cause sometimes teenagers go through an experimental and curious phase where they want to try things and everything so just see if you really are attracted to girls. Like, do you find them attractive? Do you have strong feelings for them and everything? Just wait awhile and see if these feelings go away. If they do, you probably aren't biseuxal then. But if you are, then my advice is to just.. try and see if there's any girls in your school that are too and maybe hang out with them see what they're like.. just have fun. =] I hope I helped.





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MELii

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ok im 13/f and usually have really good eyes.... but latly when i look up after reading and stuff every thing is all blurry! puleez help!

Well sometimes whenever your eyes really focus in on something, everything else starts to blur, but really only for a few seconds. If it keeps doing that, then I'd go to an eye doctor. You might need glasses/contacts. I hope I helped.





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MELii

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my boyfriend told me, i have the curiousity of a cat but the heart of a saint.


can someone translate it? i have no idea what it means, please. (: thanks loves.

Well curiousity of a cat means that your always nosy and you're always curious about things but he also says you have the heart of a saint which means your a really good person and have a big heart. =]

So basically I think he's trying to say your nosy and too curious ( which some people you know find rude and stuff ) but you have the a big heart and your kind and you know your limits and stuff.


I hope I helped.





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MELii

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ok so we are doing this secret santa thing in my class. yeah its kinda early. but any ways. so i have this guy whos like 16 and i have no idea what to get him. He's a pretty god freind of mine. i just have no idea. I dont normally buy presents for that many guys. so im kind of drawing a blank.

got any ideas?

Well maybe try getting him a video game for his Playstation or whatever game system he has. And since you two are pretty good friends, you should know some things about him that he likes, so work with that. Do you two have any inside jokes? Usually with all my guy friends if we have any inside jokes I'll buy them a gift that goes with that joke and we'll just sit there and laugh at it =] Also, try maybe buying cologne. well not cologne, but spray. There's always AXE and OLD SPICE and TAG. Alot of guys I know wear OLD SPICE and love it. Also since alot of guy like, LOVE to eat.. maybe make a container full of cookies or brownies =] I'm sure he'd like those. I hope I helped.







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MELii

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okay so theres this boy that ive been datin for wel over 6 motnhs and i really like him alot.. and well latley theres little things that are startin to annoy me like just little things that get to you after being with a person for a long time.. and wel ive also been having dreams about my X and its starting to make me remember all the times we had.. and how we had alotta fun together and i still and attracted to him but i dont wanna leave my boyfriend now because i dont think that my X will love me as much as my boyfriend now does.. and i dont wanna leave something that might be a really good thing..
please help thanks

Well we never can really control our dreams. I mean if we had a dream about hitting someone, whenever we awake, that's not going to give us the urge to hit them is it? But yet dreams are also sometimes our subconcious telling us something, which in your case is that you like your ex. But think.. he's your EX. There is obviously something that went wrong in the relationship which caused you two to break up.. and what if that happened again? I think you should stay with the new boyfriend because it does sound like it is a really good thing. And good thing that you're thinking this through and didn't end up breaking up with your boyfriend just to find out your ex might not like you. You have to also take that thought into consideration. Also about the dreaming since your getting reminded of all those memories with your ex, that's half the reason you're probably getting attracted to him again is because of all teh times you shared and that's probably it. It doesn't sound like you were attracted to your ex before you had the dreams, so I think that just might be what's triggering the attraction to him is all the memories. It makes you miss him. But you must also think of all the memories you could make with your new boyfriend that could be just as great as the memories you had with your ex. Just follow your heart. I hope I helped.






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MELii

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what does MU INK have to do with fall out boy?? i need to know!

I don't think they have anything to do with eachother, actually. I just tried searching it and nothing came up for it. I hope I helped.





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MELii

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ok sry this is so long....i have like 9 rele rele rele good friends and their all like my sisters....the other day i found out one of them was cutting herself and i was afraid that would scare other people and make them come out and say they did too. i know thats normal in teenagers but it hurts sooo bad knowing that one of my best friends cut themselves...last nite me and one of my other best friends got into a fight and i knew it was gonna b bad but not this bad...she came out and told everyone she cut herself last nite....but it seems to be for a different reason. sometimes this person does things for attention like making her own problems. she was showing everyone today at school and some people think its just for attention. so today at school i was talkin to another one of my best friends and she said she did too. but she did it last year. we told someone at school about the first two so they are getting help but what do i do to make them feel better? do i treat them the same? please help i dont no wat to do

It does seem like they are doing it for attention because of the fact they're showing their scars off, whenever cutters tend to hide them instead. But even if they are doing it just for attention.. there might also be a problem behind it too. Nobody should result to cutting JUST because they want some more attention. I would treat them the same ; don't treat them any different. Let them know that your always there for them wheneevr they need someone to talk to and make them feel like whenever they want your attention ; they've got it. You should have a serious talk with your friends ( one at a time though ). Just soemday pull tehm over and ask them why they are doing that to themselves, and that they need to stop. There's so many better ways to take anger out. Hit a pillow, talk to a friend or adult, listen to music that fits your mood, just beat a stuffed animal up, something. Anything. Tell them that what they're doing isn't solving anything adn really in teh end it's only causing further problems for themselves and that you're really worried for them and want them to stop. Make them promise they'll stop. And then everyday after that, check their wrists for scars and such to see if they went behind your back. Hoepfully whenever they decide to pick up a razor, they'll think of you and the promise they made you.. and put it away. If the cutting continues I would tell an adult because they seriously need help before it gets worse. I hope I helped.





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MELii

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Okay, I have this really good friend of mine. She and are are basically like twins, but of the oppisit sex. We've already kinda agreed to be like friends with benifits, and soon we're ganna meet eachother... Of course we're both virgins, and I wouldn't be ashamed to loose my virginity to such a great person, but I'm just kinda unsure about what its going to do with my future. We arn't together and might not ever be... But I'm just kinda worried about what kind of an impact it will have on my other relationships
-Plz Help

You probably will regret it alot in the future. I personally think that sex should be something between two people who are in love and want to take it to a further level (especially for the first time). I would just wait until it's with someone you really love and really want to be your first.





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MELii

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I'm never satistfied. Once I get something I want more, I get jelous of others who have more expensive things then me. I'm lucky to have so many wonderful things but for some reason I'm never satisfied. How can I fix this ?

Well usually with people whenever they want something and they instantly get it.. it's not satisfying. It's nice to work hard for it and save up for it cause then whenever you finally get it.. you're like," Wow. I worked so long and hard for this and now I finally have it." And it feels just more satisfying and rewarding. =] You should try volunteering somewhere. Go and see people in real life who have less then you and maybe then you'll appreciate the things you get more. =]I hope I helped.





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MELii

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so i skipped school and there was weed and alcohol im 13 female by the way..
and anyways.
i was good i didnt smoke because its disgusting.
and it was only 33% alcohol..
anyways my freinds turned out to not be freinds.
and so i was like.. im tired. then this guy goes oh here ill take you upstairs.. and show you where you can sleep.
so we went into the room yes we.. and he locked the door we were on his parents bed.
and he started making out with me.
hes 15.
and im like EWWWWWWWWWWW because he was so fugly.
and yeah he was on top of me..
then i stopped thinking omg what do i do.
then he took of his pants..
and started making out again..
and then he put my hand yeah you know.
and made me give him a handjob while makingout.
then he took of my pants.
And got on top of me.
and i pushed him of
and was like no!
im not going to have sex with you.
im a virgin.
and im afraid to have sex..
i didnt say that but yeah
and then hes like i love you.
suck my dick.
I KNOW ISNT THAT SO DUMB!
and im like no.
and hes like.
yes then you wont have to do anymore.
and im like NO.
i was thinking if i dont want to do anymore i wont do anymore.
and then he tried to have sex with me again.
i pushed him of.
and left to go get my twin brother and pretend i was at school.
what is this??
rape??
peer presure
im freaked out.
PLEASE HELP ME!

Well first of all good thing that you stood up for yourself. Some girls don't know what to do in a situation like that and they end up giving in because they're scared. And yes.. it's sexaul harassment and rape. Even though he did not have sex with you, rape is whenever someone is forcing you to participate in sexual acts whenever you do not want to. I would tell a parent or some adult that you trust what happened... they'll be able to help you out. If you present this in court, I don't know if there is much of a case where you'll win, but people will know what he did and then maybe he'll stop. You just need to tell someone what he did and get him punished for it because if you don't.. he might be going around doing this to other girls too, and other girls don't all have the power to stand up to him like you did. =/ I hope I helped.






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MELii

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Why is it that it only takes a tender theme (a girl and her horse, etc.), some introverted "intelligent" young characters, and a couple of sweet lines to get people to see a movie and get approval from critics? I think of "Bee Season" and "Dreamer." They are all just dumb cliches.

Because whenever it comes to people and movies, that's just the way it works. People love to see romantical movies and comedy movies because they give people alot of emotions. They make us cry make us laugh make us just feel better. Liek whenever people are having a bad day, they pop in their favorite movie, have a few chuckles and are cheered up. It just makes people good and that's why people are so addicted to movies. Because things that happen in movies tend to never happen in real life and people watch them over and over again wishing their lives were like that. And of course you need intelligent characters.. you don't want dumb ones, do you? It'll make the movie more stupid then it already is. It's just the way people are, and that's why the actors get so effin' rich.




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MELii

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Hey. Well, I was wonderign where they sell those "PINK" sweatpants at Victoria Secret. Do they sell them at Victoria Secret or sowewhere else? Thanks!

Yeah they sell them at Victorias Secret. I own a pair of green ones =] Anyways, they also sell jackets and underwear and everthing too =] Try looking onto EBAY. They might be selling them for cheaper and just go check out:

www.victoriassecret.com

( www.victoriasecret.com ) idk if there's one S or two, haha. I hope I helped.





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MELii

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K, I need help with 3 things actually:
1-I met this guy at a party, and at first I really didn't like him all that much, and I was really confused, and I seriously didn't know what I wanted, I was having a rough time with other things at the time... But then I decided, I liked the guy, and today he told me he likes this other girl and he doesn't like me at all... And I seriously don't know what to do, I'm just kind of tired of feeling hurt and let down by guys...



2-I also THINK I like this other guy, and I seriously think I could be really happy with him, but I don't know if he likes anyone, if he has a girlfriend, or if he'd even be interested in me "in that way".



3-I have this "friend"... and I stopped talking to her because we just didn't exactly feel the same about certain things... I thought we ended on good terms, but then I found out they have been saying REALLY mean things behind my back. Calling me fat and ugly and a bunch of other stuff. Which, from what she knows about me, is a seriously low blow. What should I do? Please help.

1- Well I would forget about this guy. I mean that's harsh telling some girl you don't like them like that at all. So he just sounds like a total jerk and a waste of your time.

2- Well even though your not sure how he likes you, try talkign to him some more. So at the same time, you'll both get to know eachother better. So he can see if he has feelings for you, and you can see if your "THINK" can turn to "KNOW". =]If you're too nervous to ask him who he likes and everything, try asking his friends or having your friends find out for you. =] But it's always best just to do it yourself. Shows confidence and it's just easier to do. =] And maybe you should tell him you kinda like him so then if he IS interested, he won't be afraid to tell you.


3- You should talk to your "friend" again. Ask her why she is sayign the things she's saying and you thought you guys left on good terms. Tell her you aren't sayign anything bad about her, and if she has a problem with you, she should talk to you about it.. not spread stupid rumors around because that solves nothing. She just might still be mad because you don't want to be her friend anymore and that's her way of getting "revenge".



I hope I helped.






Love,
MELii

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Ok what do you when you like the same guy that your total BFF loves. She is absolutly in love with him. He knows, that I like him and that she likes him. But he does not like her. Actually, he hates her. But she doesn't know that I like him. PLease please help!!!!!

Well first of all, you should talk to her about this. She should know because if there ever is a chance that you and him go out, you won't look like a "back-stabbing man-stealing girly jerk" cause she'll have known about your feelings for him also. It's best to do it sooner than later cause the longer you wait, the more it might hurt her. I would just talk to her about everything and she might understand if you two were to ever go out. But if she gets really upset, I might consider not going out with this guy because you shouldn't let a friendship get ruined over some guy. But if she does get upset, don't get upset back...just be calm. You don't need you two to fight and yell and add more problems to everything. I hope I helped.






Love,
MELii

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I'm a senior in highschool. I take a lot of courses which require writing. It may not be apparent here butI am unable to write down my thoughts coherently. Writing scares me now. I freak out when there's a writing section on tests, when I have to write in-class essays, and so forth. My marks suffer because of this. It's so frustrating!! Someone suggested that it may a a learning disability...but I'm not sure. This just started this year. What does everyone else think?

It is possible that you have a learning disability. I would suggest talking to a teacher or your school counseler and seeing if they can provide you with a test to see if you have it. Just try and practice your writing skills at home. Just make up little stories and write about something that maybe happened that day, even if you just got a shower or something.. write about it and detail it and everything. But you also just might have low confidence in your writing and don't believe you are writing well, and since you THINK that.. it well tend to happen. I always do that. Whenever I find what I'm writing isn't good and everything I start to write even worse and it's just horrible essay/project. IT's because I'm mentally thinking," Oh this sucks I cannot write " that I pyshically begin to write badly. Like I said, just talk to a counselor or a teacher and get some tests done =] I hope I helped.





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MELii

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simple question, long story behind it, but i want to know, what do girls want in guys?

Well some girls usually tend to go for the "bad boy" types. The ones that are always getting in trouble and everything. They just seem more exciting and dangerous and tough, and that's what appeals to some girls, but in the end those guys are no good. They just end up breaking the girls heart. Most girls tend to like the nice guys though that are thoughtful and sweet and can be funny but serious. Just someone they can trust and talk to and they'll feel safe with. And mostly, we want the guy to be themselves. =] I hope I helped.






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MELii

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i have those kinds of body spray/perfume from gap and i was wondering what can i do to keep my body spray/perfume last longer throughout the day so i can smell good ?

please dont tell me to put a lot on

Well I've heard there's certain parts of the body that give of the strongest smell. Spray lightly on your wrists, your neck, and your hair. Also you say you have spray, which lasts a pretty good long time, I don't see why it's not lasting long for you. Just spritz the perfume on those little areas and then spray the body spray over it =] And def. don't put on alot, haha. Just carry it around with you in your purse and go to the bathroom and spray it on. That's what I do. I hope I helped.





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MELii

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if a guy asked me out to prom, does that mean he pays for my tickets or do i have to pay for them on my own? and how would i know who pays

Well either of you can pay for them, but usually the guy tries to be a gentleman and pay for them. I would just call him up sometime and ask him what's going on with that. Just ask him how much tickets cost, and if he offers to pay for it, let him =] But if you want to be dependant and pay for your own, offer to pay for half the ticket =D I hope I helped.





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MELii

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hiii.
kay well. Im 14 and im a girl. Boys are so inmature now a days. All the guys I go out with are not good boyfriends. All they say to me is " your hot" And I really want a really long good relationship. I know thats not really possible at my age but i see it all the time. I want a guy who loves me for me and does all those cute little sweet things. Ive had a couple in the past like that but they turned out to be ass holes.
Why cant I find that type of guy?

Yeah I know.. it does suck. Guys are still just very immature at around our age whereas the girls our age are looking for more mature people. But you're just going to have to wait until someone mature comes along or until all the immature ones finally decide to grow up, yes it sucks I know.. but that's what I had to do for awhile. Or maybe try going for a older guy. I'm 14 and my boyfriend's 16 and he's much more mature than like all the guys in my grade combined..but he still has the goofiness to him I love. =] Anyways, not about me. So maybe try aiming your sight for a little older =] Someday these guys will grow up...don't you just wish they'd do it already though? Lol. I hope I helped.






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MELii

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