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i have a question im in grade 9 and i hang out with alot of people i no your prob gonna say i shouldnt drink and do drugs and stuff which i no is true so i dont do it often but i do once in awhile but like my parents dont trust me at all and all i want is fur them to trust me they dont think its time fur me to date they dont trust me they make me always call from peoples hosues to make shure imm there.. and like they wont let me go to parties or nething and everyone does i feel so left out.. i just wish they would trust me.. and they always lecture me and get mad at me fur no reason .. wut should i do?

Oh I'm the same exact way. My mother will not let me do one single thing, you just need to prove to them you are responsible. Have you done anything in the past to not make them trust you? Cause if so, you'll really need to work hard to make them trust you again. Just talk to them. Ask them why they don't trust you and what you can do to make them trust you more because you'd really like to show them that you can be. Explain to them how you don't do anything to make them not trust you. You just need to think of it from their perspective also. Heres there little girl going out to parties and they know what can happen at parties.. drugs, sex ( rape ), all sorts of things and they know all the things that can happen and they just want to protect you and nothing bad to happen to you. I'm sure in the future you'll be doing the same thing with your children. But anyways, even if you talk it out don't go for them allowing all rules just aim for one and slowly go for each one after. Maybe start with dating and work your way up to parties. Maybe even suggest to your preants that they meet your date or something before you go on it and see if they approve and everything. ( or maybe group-dating? ) =] I hope I helped.




Love,
MELii

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what do you do when your friends mad at you

Just sometime try and talk to her ( call her, IM her, face-to-face whichever ) and just ask her why she's upset with you. And then work from there and just calmly talk about it with her. If you get upset ; calm yourself. You don't need anymore fighting to add to the problem. And also just apologize for what you did =] I hope I helped.




Love,
MELii

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What's the difference between dating and "going out"?? Thanks!

Well whenever two people are dating they aren't girlfriend and boyfriend yet. They can still date around with other people and see what other people are like and everything. So basically, your single. ( or you could focus on dating one person until you ask them to be your girlfriend/boyfriend )

Going out is whenever you two are girlfriend and boyfriend and you of course, cannot date anyone else because you two are together. I hope I helped.





Love,
MELii

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Hey Im really scared.


I am 14 and my mom's friends's son, who is 17,came over to stay with us for the night. My mom went to get groceries and the boy insisted and pulled off my clothes and started to have sex. Today, I took the test. results are, yes, Im pregnant. The guy I don't know his name and im scared to tell my mom. Please help

I'm so so sorry that happened to you and I know that your scared to tell your mother, I mean, who wouldn't be? But you have to tell her. Sooner or later she's going to find out you are pregnant ( its obviously going to show ) and she will be able to help you out, and she might be upset that you are pregnant but you need to let her know. Did you want to have sex with him? Because if you didn't, that is considered rape and you def. need to tell your mother cause then he just commited a serious crime. But if you did, you just still need to tell her anyways no matter what. I hope I helped.






Love,
MELii

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ok so me and this girl lets call her .. katie are not the best of friends but were pretty close and we have been for a while .. and well " katie " used to like this guy well call mark .. nd they went out a few times .. about a year after they broke up he started calling me nd all this stuff so i was talking to him alot nd stuff nd we did " stuff " and everytime after i did stuff with him like 2 weeks after they went back out .. nd as of now there going back out but like the other day b4 they started going out i was guna go to his house but i didnt .. they always break up after like 2 weeks nd then he starts clling me again .. i kinda like him but idk wut should i do

Well it kinda sounds to me like he just wants you to make out with him and stuff whenever he doesn't have a girlfriend to do that with anymore. I would just talk to him sometime and ask him whats going on and stuff and how does he feel about you and everything? And then if he likes you back, then maybe you two should try going out becayse it looks like his relationship with Katie is going nowhere if all tehy keep doing is breaking up every 2 weeks. I hope I helped =]





Love,
MELii

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I have this friend. And we spent the whole summer together being best friends. We are both really nice and fun when we are not mean to each other. Sometimes we get in these huge fights but the next day she wants to be my friend! What do i do?!

Ill rate 5's for good answers!

Yeah well even the bestest of friends get into fights. It's normal..just whenever you guys start to get into a fight, don't yell and argue and everything.. just try and talk it out instead =] I hope I helped.




Love,
MELii

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Is it possible to have a orgasm when you're dreaming/asleep?

Mhm its possible =]

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It's a fairly simple question (I think) but I need some help! You could say I'm a pretty preppy girl... not like (omg I'm really flippin annoying and too perky and I'm stuck-up!) not that kind of preppy. But, I wear polos, jeans, cute shirts from like... american eagle, aeropostale, abercrombie and fitch etc., sweatpants all that stuff that's so called, "preppy". I also like chucks... converse, whatever you would like to call them! But... some people say that converse don't really go with the whole preppy look.

What do you think? Would it be okay if I got them?

Thanks always, Christine

It doesn't matter what I think ; it matters what you think. Who cares what people think. You like the shoes, you get the shoes. If people are going to complain about that they obviously have no life if they're too busy worrying and complaining about what other people are wearing. If they want to do that ; they should do it about their own clothes and just worry about themselves. So if you like them, you get them. I hope I helped =]





Love,
MELii

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I think I am in love. Can someone tell me if this is love. I'm only 14 but I think I get it. There's this guy that I am going out with. I like him alot. I can't help but smiling everytime I talk to him on the phone and on the internet. I smile everytime I see him. I think about him before I go to sleep and when we hug neither of us can really let go. He tells me that he loves me alot. I think I'm definately in love. So please tell me does it sound like love to you?

Love is something you can't really TELL someone that they feel. They have to feel it and know it all on their own. It's just this deep emotional wonderful connection between two people who just care for eachother so incredibly much and.. you just got to feel it. Whenever you're in love ; you'll know. Just look at some of these:

- Would you do anything for them?
- Do you care for them so much that you could imagine yourself dying for them?
- Would you love them no matter what happened?
- Do they just know everything about you ; inside and out and they know whenever your hurting even though you didn't say anything.. they just know?
- Do you just feel all these amazing and undescribile feelings?
- Do you cry even though their strong?
- Does your heart ache whenever they're in pain?

...if you feel those things above, then yes.. it's love. =] I hope I helped.






Love,
MELii

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This "tell your secrets" thing is going around my school and well just read this--

SECRETS…YEAH SECRETS:
Ok you guys!! To participate in this you must be a SENIOR at******** High School and you have to be involved in one or more of the following school activities: Drill Team, Football, Basketball, Cheerleading, Baseball, Wrestling, Volleyball, and Golf! If none of that applies to you then tell the person that sent it to you and DO NOTHING ELSE!!

*Once you get this—pick a number and type one of your secrets that you don’t think anyone knows.
*When you are done, send it to ONE other person. ONLY ONE!! NO MORE THAN ONE!! That means that only one person should be doing this at a time. Otherwise, it won’t work out right.

These are a few that I read that really suprised me about relationships:

3. i want to ask out one of my best friends, but it wood be weird, even though we always talk about how good a couple we'd make, but nonetheless i don’t know if he/she feels the same way and i don’t know what to do so I just ignore it

18 i cheated on him but broke up with him when I found out he cheated on me—he still doesn’t know about my cheating

25. I don't like my boyfriend at all. We constantly argue and we can't stand each other. But everyone thinks we 'belong' to each other; including our paretns. Just becasue we come from the same side of the tracks and have the same backgrounds we have to be togeher. We just can't seem to end it. I WANT OUT

29 i've had sexx with 13 guys--my boyfriend thinks he's the only one. i do love him though...

42 My Girlfriend Makes Me Want to Kill Myself. I Dont Know Why We Are Together

54 even though she fucks with my mind breaks my heart and shows no signs of caring for me i stick by her loyally and she has no idea how much i care for her. but at the same time i feel im kicking myself in the teeth and crushing my own heart because i know ill never have her

130 The pain in my life prohibits my ability to love, so she'll never know just how much I really do care.

149 I am still in love with my ex-boyfriend. Even though I tell my current boyfriend I love him, who I'm cheating on with someone else. But no one will ever replace him so why try.

I couldn't believe what I was reading for most of these. Why can't we just be honest with ourselves and with our partners? I know I'm not completely honest myself but why is it so hard?

People are weird like this. They can be the most cruel yet the most caring all at the same time. Most people just think that by staying with the person it'll make it easier on the person adn make that person happier. Nobody thinks of how miserable it'll make them in the long run. Not alot of people think ahead, and thats a bad quality cause really what they thinks helping someone, could be making it ten times worse for someone in the end. People were just born this way and sadly will probably always be this way. Love is just a very kooky, strange, messed up thing. Some people tend to think with their emotions, while others think with their heads. The ones that think with they're emotions can just get hurt over and over but they don't care because they just care for someone so incredibly much and never want to leave them. But the people that think with their head usually wind up alone because they think ahead of every relationship and decide it's not going to last and end it. And there's those other people who want to be able to do things with other people ( like have sex and things ) and in the end know they'll come back to a person that truley cares for them and loves them. Like I said.. love's weird. Some people also just feel the need to be loved, even if they don't love that person back. Some people out there in the world just want to know that they are loved no matter what and always will be loved. Nobody can truly be honest with themselves because basically.. the truth and reality of everything sucks and nobody wants to face it and deal with it. And also even if they have to make it so hard.. they think it's b etter than actually dealing with it head on.

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My face is so ugly ! but i think its because i have ACNE on my fore-head ! I really wish it would go away, but i dont no how it can. I try using acne treatment and stuff but it doesnt work ! soo.. i was wondering if anyone noes any ways on how to get rid of my acne??

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Well first of all are you eating alot of junk foods and things? Cause that's one of the main cauuses of acne so you might want to stop eating junk well, alot less of. But just stop eating it for awhile. Ask your parents to hide it all or just not buy it so you don't see it and aren't urged to eat it. Also wash your face daily at least 3 times a day and by face cleanser and everything and wipe your face with a soft cloth. I would also suggest Proactiv. My friend bought it and all her acne is gone. =] Also, are you stressed? Pimples can also come from stress so maybe just calm down a bit, listen to some relaxing music.. whatever's causing you stress ( homework, family, friends ) just try to see less of so you don't have to deal with the problem..maybe nap a bit or just talk a walk =] I hope I helped.






Love,
MELii

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so tonight i was at a big party type thing..and i notice this guy kind of looking at me from the corner of his eye and purposely turning it seemed to look at me. i picked it up that he was doing it..but i thought nothing of it until later..he started doing "laps" around me when i was talkng to my friends. he went from one part of the room where everyone was all the way to where i was with my friends *it wasnt nearly as crowded..* he did this a couple times! my friends thinks he likes me..when they told him to talk to me he said he was shy. where do i go from here? we dont really talk so help me out from the beginning pleaseee!! this is just new for me because usually the guy likes one of my friends..i happen to have very pretty friends..ok thanks to anyone who tries :)

well you just need to start up a conversation with him. Just talk to him about anything at first: Music, Family, Pets, Hobbies, Sports.. just anything to get the conversation going and it also helps you two to get to know eachother a lot better =] He just might be shy at first but once he gets comfortable he'll ease up =] You can also talk to him about the party. Who you saw there, who is he friends with, did you see that one girl throw up ( lol idk ) you know, stuff like that. =] just start talking and I'm sure he'll follow ( or over-talk you =p ) I hope I helped!





Love,
MELii

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Are there any suggestions on how I should tell my parents i'm bisexual? I've wanted to for a while but didn't know how to bring it up. I have a girlfriend named Madison too. 16/F

Well I know it's going to be hard to tell them first of all so just kinda relax yourself ( and also make sure they are in a good mood also. You wouldn't want to tell them something whenever they might be all pissed off already and everything so just wait till they're in a good mood also ) and take them into a room where you can speak with them privately. I can't really help you from any personal experiences or anything but if I were to be in your positive I would just get it out. I would just be like:

"Mom, dad, I got something to tell you.. I'm bisexual and I also have a girlfriend. Her name is Madison."

You've just got to be honest with them which already shows you love them alot and want them to know. Some people never tell their parents because they're afraid of what might happen. If you parents love you ( and I'm sure they do I mean you ARE their daughter ) they'll understand. Just be honest with them and talk to them and answer any questions they have for you ( you also might want to talk about Madison ). Just explain to them that you really like Madison ad she's a really sweet girl and maybe even after awhile invite her over to dinner sometime so your parents can meet her and get to know her. I hope I've helped you out some ( once again sorry I have no personal experience in this but I tried ). I wish the best of luck to you for whenever you tell them.





Love,
MELii

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hi, i want to shave down there but idk if i want to!! like i have a boyfriend and what if he touches me down there and feels the hair!! wont he be like so grossed out? should i sahve? i've tried before but it was weird and itchy and red and gross! what do most girls do? what should i do! what do you do?? help me please thank you soo much!!! love, georgy!!!!

Well first of all you don't have to if you don't want to.. and I don't know I really can't help you with this. I don't know what guys prefer or anything.. I guess guys prefer it shaven so shave it?....and whenever you try the first time it is obviously going to be weird and itchy because it's irritated and stuff =/ try googling for some more answers i would for you, but I need to leave.

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0MFG it's melanie!! ahh i love you so much even if you're a stupid fatass whorebag who isn't as good as bob and calls me a dirty turdy birdyy =[ anyways you are amazing babeeee ♥ and your advice column is hawt, like you ;] ow ow melanie is a hawtassssssssssssssssssssss!!!!! i love you like a fat kid loves icecream!! and if you're really that stupid and don't know who this is yet, it's ash/han or *cherryy* the purdy burdy :] you know it. i love you anyways i'm asking you advice now...

Lol I figured it was you the minute I read "0MFG it's melanie!!".. it just seems like something a stupid retarded ugly turdy burdy fat-assed whore would say =3 Well I love you like a fat kid loves cak toppled WITH icecream i win mofo =3


i love you tooooooo

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ok my boyfriend broke up with me about 2 weeks ago and i just now found out why he told me that he heard that i cheated on him but i didnt. now i want to go back out with him. i just cant stop thinking about him. its like i feel like im in love. but then i found out he's going out with this girl. now i feel my heart breaking cuz his friend told me that we're just friends nuthin more. what should i do?

Well as much as it sucks, you obviously gotta let him and this girl date. There's really no way to stop them from dating, but what I would do is still explain to him that you never cheated on him and you never would but also tell him that if he just wants to be friends and nothing more, that's fine by you ( well you'd said me anyways haha ). And then who knows? Whenever him and this break up, he might want to start dating you again, but next time he needs to not believe rumors so quickly and ask the subject of the rumor if that's true BEFORE they go and do things and say things. I hope I helped.





Love,
MELii

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OMG I just had the worst night ever at my job. Well I work in a large superstore in the clothing department. This lady wanted someone in the toy section to help her take down a game on the top shelf. I told her I'd help find someone from that department to assist her. Well I couldnt find anyone and then she started to get really mad at me. I was under a lot of pressure so I phoned the manager of the store. He said that no one showed up for work in the toy department that night, so no one could help her. Then I told him how mad she was and then he got mad at me and said "what what does she expect us to do??" and then I tried to calm him down and then he said he would send someone to help her. Well finally someone came down to help her but I'm really worried that I'll be in trouble for what I did. I didn't know what else to do, so I felt phoning the manager was the only option I have. Also, I have to be at work tomorrow and I'm terrified the store manager is going to complain about me to my supervisor. Does anyone have any advice? And do you think I'm in a lot of trouble?

No I don't think you will be in trouble at all. It's not your fault the woman got upset over nothing and it's not your fault nobody showed up for work that night. I think you did the right thing phoning the manager of the store because his job is to help out. The manager has more experience and knows the things better so that's who you should have gone to whenever you needed help, and that's what you did. If you get in trouble tommorrow, that's stupid cause I don't think you should ( will ). There's always bad customers every now and then and I'm sure the manager understands that. I hope I helped.






Love,
MELii

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i have a feeling that my husband is still fooling around with other girls what should i do to know and find it and to stop him

I'm so sorry this is happening you to =/ Really sucks. But..even though he "promised" to you that he'd never do it again, he probably still is. He shouldn't even have to promise you won't date other girls. He promised that to you the day he said " I do " and obviously he's not living up to that promise. If I were you I'd leave him. If not leave him, then try taking some time apart and let him ( and you ) see some other people. See if you two really are commited enough to be together and see if he still wants to be with you and if he does he needs to stop dating other girls. As much as it hurts, it seems to me like he doesn't love you in return otherwise he wouldn't be dating other girls and you shouldn't stay with someone like that. =/

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ok, this is long, this includes 3 guys, 1 the guy i love, jon, 2, rob a past love of mine we went through alot, and 3 this guy who said dirty stuff about me, ok , i have not heard from rob in months, we went through alot, cant say what, but he called me, and then the guy who harasses me called me too, the day before rob, i love rob and always will, but i love jon too, and i want the stlker guy to leave me alone, and wesley, jons friend likes me too, how am i supposed to balance all this out?? i don't know what to do please help me!!

Guy 1 - Well you need to see who you have stronger feeling for: Jon or Rob? Are you willing to break it off with Jon to be with Rob ( if Rob wants to get back together with you.. you'll need to find that out first ) just follow your heart. Would you rather be with Jon.. or Rob?

Guy 2- Like I just said above, who would you rather be with? And are you sure you love Rob as much as you love Jon? Because I can understand why you'll always love Rob and everything I mean you'll love him you know because you do and also because of the fact you guys went through alot together. That'll always mean something to you, whereas you and Jon might have not gone through as much and you might need to give him a chance to be able to go through alot with you.


Guy 3- Okay.. you need to tell this guy to back off. Just explain to him that him saying dirty things about you isn't making you like him anymore and it's upsetting you and he just needs to back off and leave you alone because you aren't interested in him like that.

Guy 4- You need to explain to Jon's friend that you just want to be friends with him. Even if you and Jon weren't dating anymore, it wouldn't be fair to Jon. Friends shouldn't really date friends ex's. =/ Just tell him you want to be friends - nothing more.

I hope I helped.






Love,
MELii





P.s. You got too many guys.. dang.. lol

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so i really like this guy and i think he likes me and my friend think he likes me 2. we met on myspace . . i want to send him a message letting him know im into him and hes on my mind all the time. do you have any ideas and what to say . . .thanks in advance!

Just be honest, not TOO honest though.. you don't want to scare the guy and be like," HAVE MY CHILDREN" kinda stuff. Just be like:

Hey _____,

Whats up? Nothings really been going on for me either, except there's just been something I feel that I need to tell you. I just want to let you know that lately I've been thinking about you and everything and I've realized that I have developed feelings for you. A few of my friends told me that they think you like me too, so I thought I'd just take a chance and tell you. I really don't know how you feel about me but if you don't feel the same then just forget I ever mentioned this. I would like to just continue being friends and not have any strange awkwardness between us. Please write me back.

_______



...or something like that, haha. I don't know, I tried. That's something I'd say if I was in your position. Just write something like that but personalize it more. Add your own feelings in there that you feel about him and everything =D I hope I helped.





Love,
MELii

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