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my bf's moved and I'm HAPPY!
Ever since my bf moved to another state for a job I feel as though a weight has been lifted. I think he was upset with me because the last time we talked over the phone before he moved I sounded so happy. Part of the reason for my happiness is that I had just started a new job with a really cool company after years of unemployment and dissatisfaction. Well my self esteem and confidence has totally gone up and when I told my bf how happy I was with things he didnt sound happy at all for me. I also think he was mad at me because he said he was thinking of stopping into the store before he left but I didnt sound to thrilled to see him. Well it's been a month since we've talked or emailed and you know what, I don't even miss him!!
My question is : Why do you think he was mad that I sounded so happy? Wouldnt he want me to be happy? And also I feel a little guilty for being glad that he is gone.
Does anyone have any insight?
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my question is: WHY ARE YOU HAPPY THAT HE LEFT ?!
you're suppossed to love your boyfriend not be happy when he moves !! and seriously you two have an odd way of showing you care about eachother if he doesn't show affection when you tell him good news or that you're happy that he left . all i have to say is you have to get a lotttttt closer to him, or breakup becuase it seems like you dont like eachother.
xoo hope this helps !! ♥
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He wants to be missed. You don't miss him and he's mad that you don't. He's sad that the happy time of your life happens to be when he's not there. Talk to him, and if it doesn't work, then forget about this relationship.
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Well by being happy now and you feeling a weight has been lifted -- that obviously shows that you two were not meant to be and your life is much better without him. I would break it off with him if you don't even miss him and stuff. Just maybe remain friends. But see, he thinks that since he's your boyfriend and he moved.. you should be like, in TEARS and SOOO miserable without him and everything, like most girlfriends probably would. I mean I'm sure he wants you to be happy, but he probably just wanted you to be at least a little depressed that he moved, you know? Wouldn't you want him to be sad if you moved? Think of it from his shoes. Cause then also by telling him your happy, it sounds like you're telling him," Yeah now that you're gone, I'm so much happier" and that's going to depress him. And it's alright to feel a little guilty, but you shouldn't feel really really guilty. I think you should just end it with him and move on. I hope I helped.
Love,
MELii
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It seems to me that you are more confident with your self and you are realizing he is not the one for you--kind of like when you were unemployed and disatisfied he was there b/c you had nothing else. Now you are doing good for yourself and moving forward and you may love him but he is not want you want. He should be happy for you but he was proboly upset that you werent hasppy this way when he was home dont sweat it you do you and keep the confidence. It has been a month already and maybe you should tell him you are going your separate way b/c the feelings are not their for him. You dont want to drag him on longer.Good luck
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I don't know the whole story, or even his point of view, but you are clearly not meant for each other, he was propably upset that you can be happy without him, and it sound like you really are. don't feel bad, move on with your happy life, don't rub it in his face but enjoy YOUR life.
Luck and love
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Sounds like this guy was holdin you back, and subconsciously u didnt want to believe that. Now that hes gone, your startin to get motivation back, and a new self confidence he tended to sit on. Personally, I think your startin to realize this guy might not be the one--despite the love you may have had/or even still feel. If it isnt affecting you now, especially being a month of no contact--let it be, and move on. Everyone has to remember whos the true numero uno [number one], and thats always YOURSELF. He wasnt thrilled cus youve proven to contain a better atmosphere w/out him, risen your own esteem, and are seemingly better all around --w/out his help or company . You have guilt cus your a good human being, but that guilt will eventually bore a hole in your mind if u keep focused on it, its a dog eat dog world, better yourself first, and if the relationship was meant to be--it'll fix itself.
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You're happy because you are taking control of your life. You aren't answering to anybody. That's a good thing!
Your boyfriend most likely thought you should be in tears at his leaving. He probably wanted you happy but dependent on him for most of the happiness.
I can understand you feeling a little guilty, but try not to. So long as you are happy now.
Maybe, its time to move on. :)
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