Anyone need advice or just to chat i am hoping to be able to help as many people as possibe. I am also on here to look for advice--hey we all need it! So if you need advice you can get to me as you prefer. Thank you and hope all is well
E-mail: Kam98@rcn.com
Gender: Female
Location: PA
Age: 27
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Yahoo: sweeteyez4u2c@yahoo.com
Member Since: November 1, 2005
Answers: 157
Last Update: December 25, 2005
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when i try to upload a photo it says the file is too large..what do i do to make it work ? (link)
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upload your photo on photobucket.com and the file will be automatically be cut down to size to fit my space. Hope that helps
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I have this really weird lump on the outside of my vagina. Like near my leg. I just noticed it like a few minutes ago and I have no clue how I got it or what it means. I have never engaged in sexual activity. I'm 14/f. Do you know what it is? (link)
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you may have an ingrown hair-depending on what it looks like dont sound like anything to be concerned about but just take it to your mom and haveher look at it--she will know just by lookin at it.
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ok im going to make this quesiton in short form cause if i didnt it would go on forever. as i get older i realize friends should be just a lil more for joking around or for sharin inside jokes or saving seats on the bus 4... should a friend be someone that you have a shoulder to cry on when ur depressed or u just broke up.. and theyll help you sincerely? cause when i try this with my so called "best friends, sarah and alyssa" they like are you ok jackie and im like no.. and they are like making awkward faces and like ok. i just want to know if ill ever get a special friend! im still young (link)
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Friends are people who will stick with you no matter what will listen to you when you need them to will let you cry on their shoulder and will help you in any situation you may have. It takes time to find good friends and ones you know you can trust and count on and this will happen to you the rest of your life. eventually you will find certain people you call friends certain people who are best friends and certain people who are aquaintances. But friends are always there for you not just when they want to be
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it seems like everyone at my school is having a relationship fest- exsept me. is there something wrong with me? what can i do to make guys like me? im 14f if that helps..
ps. theres this kid i kinda like.. well i think about him sometimes and hes kinda quite, and im.. not but im good friends with most of his friends, and his brother, what can i do to make him like me? (link)
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you dont want to do anything to make him like you--he should like you for who you are-never go above and beyond to get someone to like you or get attention. It will cme natural-have u tried to strike conversation up with this boy? How do things seem to be with you when you are talking to him. Let things take its course you never know what may happen and always be yourself-thats the best way for someone to like you.
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I was just out for a walk to the nearest grocery store to pick up some stocking stuffers. I ran into my ex bf. He was walking towards me. I smiled at him and he looked right at me and didnt smile or even say hi. He kind of looked uncomftable.
My feelings were a little hurt because even though we broke up 5 years ago I still consider him to have been a big part of my life, he was my first bf and we spent a year together. I lost my virginity to him. I was the one that ended the relationship and at the time he was choked, but that was so long ago. I figured he would have moved on like I have.
Do you think his reaction meant he still has feelings for me? And why do you think he acted the way he did? (link)
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Sounds to me like his feelings were very hurt and maybe he has not gotten over that--it takes awhile for people to get over things and if he is over it he may still feel "hatred" towards you-but all in all he should have at least said hi or something--men are so strange--dont worry about it you moved on dont let him get you down. Maybe he has moved on and his reaction was to let you know you dont mean nothing to him and he feels he is better than you now. It could be a couple of things. But again dont sweat it--just keep moving
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Im sick and i have been for the last 3 days...I dont knw wat i have and i would really like to knw so maybe i can treat it and get better b4 christmas eve/christmas day. here are my symptoms: sore throat, stuffy nose, headache, coughing, stiff neck, getting the chills when i dont take medicine like tylenol for awhile,and not being able to sleep. my mom wont take me to the doctor, the thing that i would love to be without is the sore throat all the other stuff i can deal with. wat should i do?
thnx i rate 5 to anyone who tries! (link)
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sounds like you have the flu. Try to sweat it out i usuallyput as much warm clthes on and get under a comforter and also take cold/flu medicine hope you feel better soon
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okay, well the thing is.
i have a really great boyfriend. we've been dating for aout 3 or 4 months now && i really like him. he told me a few nights ago that his dad has really bad, uncureable, stomach cancer. i dont know what to do. i've never dealt with dealth at all before, i've just never had too. so i dont know what to say to him. he never really brings it up because he doesnt want me to know hes upset. im also the only person who knows. i know it upsets him because him && his dad have always been close.
what are some things i could say or do that would console him??
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Just let him know that you are here for him whenever he needs to talk or someone to just listen to. Men deal with things alot different than we do they are not emotional and try to hide to look macho but deep down he is hurting. Just let him know if there is anything you can do for him or his dad or family altogehter you will be there to help. good luck and my sympathies to you and your b/f and also his dad
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i didnt know what to put this under, but anyways.. im getting a cingular GO phone, and i was wondering if you got any features with it like:
- free night
- free weekend
- cingular to cinglur
eTc. you sould get my drift, thanks!!
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i have a cingular and it depends on the plan you get--there ar eplans where you have free night and weekends and umlmited calling--and also the cingualar to cingualr is free--you have to choose the plan that suites you. I have the cheaper plan which i have 5000 nights and weekends and 450 anytime minutes but no matter what plan you get you have rollover minutes-so whatever you dont use gets rolled over to your next month--hope i could help
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i really like this guy. and i know he likes me. The thing is he is black and some are my friends are acting weird about that. i mean i don't see anything wrong with it. Is there something wrong with a white female dating a black male?? (link)
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Color is simply more than just that--a color--interracial dating is common and there is not a problem with it--the only problem with dating any man is you have to make sure they are good and not bad asses and they dont use you--but that is for any color man--lol-so no there is nothing wrong with it--if you like him you do what you feel not what your friends feel or think..good luck
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Hi, I sorry if this long.
See Me and Travis I am 20 he is 18, we grow up together. we are very close and were kinda were a reliship. most of the time, we never went same school. I just turn 20 this summer and I graduated HS< he hase one more year, many years we talk about our future and want to be together some day, but problem is that I don't know i trust him becouse, he hase gf now and its same girl he cheated on with me and her long time algo, and he said she the one, one this that he made me alot of things over the summer and years. and made me id brackets. I know hard understand, this is whole ponit is that I want stay as friend with him, but I can't keep my feelings way becouse we don't want lose eacher as a freinds, i do have doubts about him so i keep it away, but its hard seeing all stuff he made and give me i put in my trunk, but thing is i still want talk to him but it hard if he mention girl he dating, (link)
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Let me first start off by saying when you mentioned he cheated on his g/f with you-thats a red flag right there--he is unfaithful and if he did it to her he will do it to you and whoever else he is with. You dont want to be in a relationship wondering if he would do the same to you. Beings good friends is real good and if your bestfriends now that should not change if he continues to date other people-even though i understand it is hard to hear aboutother girls b/c you do have feeling for him. Think if you were to be together and everything is good and then he does cheat--then you and him will probobly not be besst friends anymore. All the things he has made you over the years is special but like you said you have doubts about him--thats not good either--when you want to be with someone you go into full of trust honesty and doubt free. I think the best thing you can do is keep your distance and just remain frineds. As for saying his g/f is the one--obviously he is lying to himself and her if he can cheat-a true man would not cheat he would leave the girl he is with not cheat. I hope i could help if you need anything else please let me know. Keep me informed and good luck hun
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My x's birthday is coming up in less then a week and I have noo clue what to get him! me and my friend are going to the mall on sunday to get him something and whenever I ask him he always says "I dont know" or he just doesnt answer me. I wanted to get him cologne or something that smells really nice cause it's always nice to smell good for the ladies;-) haha..but my friend said he might take it personally and it might make him think he smells bad. What should I get him? With love, Kellie (link)
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Well personally i woul dno tget my ex anything for his birthday a simple happy birthday should do-lol but if your really going to do it get him cologne and tell him this is for you and i hope you lik eit. He wont think it makes him smell bad. I get perfume and i dont take offense to it-i love it actually and alot of my guy friends like it too--so they can smell good for the ladies. Or you can get him something in the line of clothes knowing he will wear it. But dont go over board he is your ex-lol good luck
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I just recently had this fight with my so-called "best friend" over this past weekend. This girl lies about everything, & I definately have proof of it, because she'll tell me one thing, and then tell my friend another thing. And it's not like that friend lied to me about it--cause many of my friends have said she lied, and we've showed both of our AIM conversations to eachother to prove it. And on Sunday, we had this huge fight on AIM, like we kept saying horrible things about eachother (I admit..but she did too). I just didn't even care anymore how I talked to her, because of all the lies that came out of her mouth. I was trying to get it into her head that she lies to everyone about everything. The story goes on and on, but basically I told her that everybody's beginning to hate her because of this, and that she has no friends (harsh, but technically, partially true). She told me everybody hates me, blah blah blah. Yeah we kept saying stuff like that to eachother. Now, she IMed me today and said "sorry". But I didn't answer. I seriously don't think I should accept her apology, because I don't see anything in her that means being a friend. Also--Me & her have fought many times before about endless things. Sounds pretty pathetic for "best friends" right? Yeah, that's how I see it. I don't even want to be friends with her anymore. It's really just not worth it, because we fight TOO much about stupid things, and I don't want to have "friends" like that. I don't like hanging out with her--there's always a problem. Again--I don't see anything in her that means a FRIEND to me. And I think the reason she's apologizing is because everybody's confronting her now about lying and what-not. And as I said before-It's getting to the point where no one wants to be friends with her anymore. So what do I do? I really DON'T want to be friends, but how do deal with it? IDK. EHH COMPLICATED! (link)
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You have to do what is right for you. If you feel she is not a worthy friend then tell her about it and tell her why you are not going to be associating with her. Tell her you just think that she is saying she is sorry b/c she knows she has no friends. I personally would not asociate with someone like that b/c one day she may lie about something on your behalf and it could be big trouble. So it is your decision but i agree and think it is time you go your separate wya and be happy. Also let her know that you done witht he drama b/c the mean words and fighting is not good nor healthy thats not what friends do and say u wish her the best of luck but your moving on. Good luck sweets
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I have a freind whoes my guy freind, and kinda avoding him. like for a month since he had a Gf. and this summer we closer we ever was. well thing is I 2 year older then him, he 18 and i am 20. well thing is i still want talk to him and i still having feeling for him, but this is that i don't want tel him i sad bout that he had gf and told me that he hase gf and wanted be with me.. well thing is I i try to spell right and corret my grammer it hard . i am deaf and hard for me try make since, any one give me ur email u reall help me, couse i know on here they strike on spelling... I not best speller in world, plesase help me, (link)
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my email is on my columnist page--i will help you sweety
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Ok. I like a girl. She is still in love with her ex-boyfriend. We are kind of friends with benefits and make out everytime we get together. Things haven't been going so great, I want more, she is still in love. Lately I've been hanging out with this new girl, we will call her girl B. she is amazing, and beautiful. She says she doesn't want a boyfriend right now, which I know is girl translation for back off. but I really like her. I like them both, but I'm in a pickle with both, so any advice would be good. (link)
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okay well the girl that is still in love with her ex is only using you to help her keep her mind off her ex and to feel "comfortable" and wanted" by another man. She is hurt and wants to feel like she is ok. As for the other girl who sayd she does not want a boyfriend listen to her b/c if you push her into something she will only feel pressured and in the end she will hurt you. Take your time and just be friends and see where it leads. Dont rush anything--good luck
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I have a huge problem.....I'm a failure at everything in life . All my previous friends have told me so and my whole family is CONSTANTLY telling me that I'm a failure. Even people who don't know me personally, tell me that I'm a failure when they hear about me. So , what they're saying (that I'm a failure) is true, since so many people have told me the same thing. Before, hearing that statement would motivate me to work really hard. And it would work because I would achieve my goals, temporarily. Now, whenever anyone tells me I'm a failure, it doesn't motivate me anymore. Instead, I get really sad and stay in my room alone and cry. I even skip going to college because I'm so sad and don't want to be annoyed by anymore people telling me the same thing. I already have depression and am taking medication for it, so hearing this statement from people doesn't help. Now my question is: HOW DO I GET OVER THIS? HOW DO I MOITIVATE MYSELF AND STAY MOTIVATED? HOW DO I PROVE TO EVERYONE THAT I'M NOT A FAILUTRE? Sorry for the long letter. Please, no smart alecs. (link)
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I know about depression,i am on medication also. People have told me similar things and always put me down.but you know what sweety i dont listen to them no more. I know i amnot a failure and i know i am better than that. You dont have to prove nothing to no one but youirself. You focus on you and your goals and eventually people will see you are not a failure. Let these people think hat they want--b/c in all reality they are the failures-they dont know you like they say they do and they dontneed to know you--only you do. If you think your a failure your going to be-if you think your ugly your not going to feel good about yourself,if you think you cant do it you wont--you must think poisitive and give a positive outlook on life--things will look better for you when the cluds disappear--right now it is all still shades of gray-Dont give your education up for no one b/c only you will succeed and become a better perosn than them--did you ever think its b/c they are jealous of you b/c you are better than them and in order for them to feel good baout them self they put you down so u dont succeed and become more than them? You need to think of you and what your capable of. You seem like a smart person-go for your dreams and goals and dont worry about what other people thin of you. Good luck sweety
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Do you think that giving your best friend a gift card is too impersonal?
Because the thing is even though we are really close I have no clue what to give her. Then any time I ask what she wants she just says, 'Whatever you know what I like.' And infact I do know what she likes but she seems to already have everything.
So is a gift card really something you could give a best friend?
♥ Thanks.
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most definetly just tel her this is what you got her b/c she already has everything she like and now she can something she really wants just make sure it is to a store you know she really likes--can never go wrong with gift cards
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I really need some help. I don’t get on with my dad at all. I hate him. I haven’t spoke to him for over 3 months despite the fact we live in the same house.
Ever since I was little I have always had arguments with my dad and now this time I have just decided to completely ignore him.
When i was younger he could never just tell me off. He had to pin me down on the floor and scream in my face. And most of the time he was telling me off for stuff I hadn’t even done!
He always blames me for every thing. I have 3 other brothers and sisters but not matter what has happened it was my fault and he still is like that. I get blamed for everything, no mater who's done it or what they have done.
But recently when ever he started a fight with me I decided to stop him, n' fight back. And now that I’m older (15) I tend to win, and do more damage then I intend to do. Once or twice he threatened he was going to hospital but he cant drive and I don’t think there was ever anything wrong with him, just trying to scare me. I hate getting into fights with him. The way I see it is that if I just ignore him and don’t talk to him then I cant get angry with him.
I was doing fine and I was quite happy not talking 2 him and just getting by without him. But now he’s gone and got some advice from some where - the doctors I think, and they have told him to phone the school and to get a teacher or something to take me into a room and to sit down with ma dad n talk about it. I really don’t want to have to do this but at the same time I really don’t feel I can talk to my dad.
My mum is on my side and she has told he not to do that, but I know what a twat he can be and I’m worried that he will. I really don’t think I can talk to him. I have just leant to hate him n I don’t think I could talk to him; I really don’t want to talk to him. I know that I will have to talk to him sooner or later but I just don’t feel I can.
My mums already told him that if he does go ahead with his plan and go into school that he has lost me for life. And I probably wont talk to him for a very long time if he does go into school.
I get along really well with my mum and she is part of the reason I don’t get along with my dad. She is always complying about him, she knows that he is annoying and childish, she say that all the time. She says how she can understand why I hate him so much. I’m not sure what she understands but I’m pretty sure she doest realize that I’m still upset about how he used to treat me as a child.
I’m worried for my mum. I know it’s probably just a silly little thing but I really don’t think she knows exactly what he is like. My dad is an absolute TWAT when she is at home but he is even worse when she is out. It was worse when I was little but he still is bad. I think that he is two faced; he is like to completely different people when she’s around. I realty cannot understand why my mum still likes him.
I really don’t know what to do. Do I just carry on ignoring him and avoiding him and hope he doesn’t go into school. Or do I try and say something to him, which I really don’t feel like I can do, I’m quite a shy person anyway and I don’t think I could talk to him. I know if I tried to explain why I hate him he wouldn’t even let me finish a sentence with out butting in and objecting to what I say, Then he will go off in a sulk and things will be even worse. I Know that is exactly what he will do, he is like that and it is what he always does, ALL THE TIME. Maybe if I did sit in a room in school with other people he might not but in. But I really really do not want that to happen. I think it would be much easier for us to agree not to get along and stay out of each others ways but now he’s going to mess all of that up if he does go into school, ill be forced into talking to him and I know that it will only make things worse. What can I do?
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Well i am with you on most of this. My father and I didnt get along when i was younger and as time grew on i grew farther apart from him. I am 27 now and i wish i had a dad that would be good to me. I talk to him once inawhile but he doesnt feel like my dad,just another person in my family. I look at other peopel and how well they get along witht heir dads and wish i could of have that. What i am trying to say is i know how rough it is right now and you and your dad dont get along but i think it would be a good idea to talk with him in school and get to the core of the problem of why these things are happening. You may not want to but it could help you and your dad to become closer like you should be-i dont have it and i wish i did. I hate dmy father when i wasyounger and now i realize he really didnt do nothing that bad but try to keep me in my place. I got blamed all the time for things i didnt do-and now i say well he could believe what he wanted i knew the truth and at the time it sucks but eventually you will grow up sweety and become a better person for yourself-go to college and make your own decisions. I honelty do think you can try to got o school anffhave this talk and see what happens. You may be surprised. As for ytour mom and you dontknow why she still likes him--sweety its not easy to just throw your life away and some people put up with things and blow certain thing soff. One day she may get tired of it too--only she knows why she is still there. Focus on you and what you need to do to get by--hope i helped and if u need anything let me know i am here to help
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Ok there is this dance at my school tomorrow, but since it might snow it might be on jan.13, so it's urgent. This guy I like is going and he says he wants to dance with me (grinding) but I want to actually get him to slow dance with me, because he grinds on everybody and I feel like I'm just one of the others, (which I probably am) How do I get him to like me enough to slow dance with me, or should I ask him myself? After all he does want to dance with me. (link)
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Just ask him and see what he says he already wants to dance with you so say i will dance with you and can i ask a slow dance with you. seems like he will do it good luck and have fun!
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whenever i get around my NEW [like yesterday]boyfriend.. i don't know what to say. we can never start a conversation. we sit next to each other and say nothing. what should i do. how do i break the ice? i really like him and i want to stay with him. i dont want him to think i dont like him. I DO NOT want to BREAK UP with him
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Th ebest thing to do when a conversation needs to start is ask how the day was,what he did,find out what he is interested in,what he likes to do where to go,depending on age-which you didnt say--maybe you can ask him if he wants to go somewhere. Since you are new to the realtionship there is alot to find out about a person. Asking questions is how you get to know someone. like i said there is not much info here to work with but i will help you more if you need it.
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Would you take offense if your gf/bf said that although they find you attractive, they would never want to see a "Picture" of you, or see you in your underwear? I'm sure you can guess of what nature.
My gf said this to me and I felt offended. I don't really know why. I guess it's no big deal, really. We were only kidding around and she said that. I'm pretty insecure about my looks, which doesn't help I suppose. So would you take offense, or am I making a big deal? (link)
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This doesnt make too much sense-she finds you attractive but wouldnt want to see u in a picture or underwear? either your attractive or not-it may have been just a joke. I wouldnt worry about it. I am insecure person as well and if anything we would be the ones to say we wouldnt want someone else to see us. SO i would say dont worry about it.
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