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What do i do ??? i hate my dad
I really need some help. I don’t get on with my dad at all. I hate him. I haven’t spoke to him for over 3 months despite the fact we live in the same house.
Ever since I was little I have always had arguments with my dad and now this time I have just decided to completely ignore him.
When i was younger he could never just tell me off. He had to pin me down on the floor and scream in my face. And most of the time he was telling me off for stuff I hadn’t even done!
He always blames me for every thing. I have 3 other brothers and sisters but not matter what has happened it was my fault and he still is like that. I get blamed for everything, no mater who's done it or what they have done.
But recently when ever he started a fight with me I decided to stop him, n' fight back. And now that I’m older (15) I tend to win, and do more damage then I intend to do. Once or twice he threatened he was going to hospital but he cant drive and I don’t think there was ever anything wrong with him, just trying to scare me. I hate getting into fights with him. The way I see it is that if I just ignore him and don’t talk to him then I cant get angry with him.
I was doing fine and I was quite happy not talking 2 him and just getting by without him. But now he’s gone and got some advice from some where - the doctors I think, and they have told him to phone the school and to get a teacher or something to take me into a room and to sit down with ma dad n talk about it. I really don’t want to have to do this but at the same time I really don’t feel I can talk to my dad.
My mum is on my side and she has told he not to do that, but I know what a twat he can be and I’m worried that he will. I really don’t think I can talk to him. I have just leant to hate him n I don’t think I could talk to him; I really don’t want to talk to him. I know that I will have to talk to him sooner or later but I just don’t feel I can.
My mums already told him that if he does go ahead with his plan and go into school that he has lost me for life. And I probably wont talk to him for a very long time if he does go into school.
I get along really well with my mum and she is part of the reason I don’t get along with my dad. She is always complying about him, she knows that he is annoying and childish, she say that all the time. She says how she can understand why I hate him so much. I’m not sure what she understands but I’m pretty sure she doest realize that I’m still upset about how he used to treat me as a child.
I’m worried for my mum. I know it’s probably just a silly little thing but I really don’t think she knows exactly what he is like. My dad is an absolute TWAT when she is at home but he is even worse when she is out. It was worse when I was little but he still is bad. I think that he is two faced; he is like to completely different people when she’s around. I realty cannot understand why my mum still likes him.
I really don’t know what to do. Do I just carry on ignoring him and avoiding him and hope he doesn’t go into school. Or do I try and say something to him, which I really don’t feel like I can do, I’m quite a shy person anyway and I don’t think I could talk to him. I know if I tried to explain why I hate him he wouldn’t even let me finish a sentence with out butting in and objecting to what I say, Then he will go off in a sulk and things will be even worse. I Know that is exactly what he will do, he is like that and it is what he always does, ALL THE TIME. Maybe if I did sit in a room in school with other people he might not but in. But I really really do not want that to happen. I think it would be much easier for us to agree not to get along and stay out of each others ways but now he’s going to mess all of that up if he does go into school, ill be forced into talking to him and I know that it will only make things worse. What can I do?
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You may as well try. If he interrupts you, hopefully the consular will step in.
The guilt trip he puts you on is what concerns me. I've been reading an informational book about 'sociopaths' and your father could be one. They want pity. They thrive on it.
Another thing, don't go with what your mom said about you 'hating him forever' if he comes to school. She can't decide how you feel about him. I know you are both against him coming, but if he does, he obviously is trying to do something about the problem.
Please message me if you want information on sociopaths. I have a few other concerns also.
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Well i am with you on most of this. My father and I didnt get along when i was younger and as time grew on i grew farther apart from him. I am 27 now and i wish i had a dad that would be good to me. I talk to him once inawhile but he doesnt feel like my dad,just another person in my family. I look at other peopel and how well they get along witht heir dads and wish i could of have that. What i am trying to say is i know how rough it is right now and you and your dad dont get along but i think it would be a good idea to talk with him in school and get to the core of the problem of why these things are happening. You may not want to but it could help you and your dad to become closer like you should be-i dont have it and i wish i did. I hate dmy father when i wasyounger and now i realize he really didnt do nothing that bad but try to keep me in my place. I got blamed all the time for things i didnt do-and now i say well he could believe what he wanted i knew the truth and at the time it sucks but eventually you will grow up sweety and become a better person for yourself-go to college and make your own decisions. I honelty do think you can try to got o school anffhave this talk and see what happens. You may be surprised. As for ytour mom and you dontknow why she still likes him--sweety its not easy to just throw your life away and some people put up with things and blow certain thing soff. One day she may get tired of it too--only she knows why she is still there. Focus on you and what you need to do to get by--hope i helped and if u need anything let me know i am here to help
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Talk to him. I know it seems weird but some things you just have to tell parents, good or bad. Sometimes i argue w/ my mom, but personally I'm a daddys girl. I look at him sometimes for over 2 minutes just thinking about how much I love him. He's done soo much for me, and I look at him and think how he's grown me up and when he leaves this earth -He wont have to worry, because what hes taught me- You should really talk to your dad, most of me and my friends are daddy's girls, and It's because simply dads are a girls bestfriend sometimes. Talk to your dad about nething, how he embarrasses you, yells at you. If you haven't talked to him in a long time it'll definatly do Ya'll good. Appriciate him because as much as you may be putting up with his "crap" hes putting up with yours soo =) haha, Hope i helped. and nething else? Further Questions? ASK ME =D
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