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okay, well the thing is.
i have a really great boyfriend. we've been dating for aout 3 or 4 months now && i really like him. he told me a few nights ago that his dad has really bad, uncureable, stomach cancer. i dont know what to do. i've never dealt with dealth at all before, i've just never had too. so i dont know what to say to him. he never really brings it up because he doesnt want me to know hes upset. im also the only person who knows. i know it upsets him because him && his dad have always been close.
what are some things i could say or do that would console him??
please <3
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When he talks about it be honest. Tell him you dont know what to say but you are willing to go through this with him and youll be there. Sometimes no words are the right words when it comes to that kind of stuff. Just be honest.
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There's not much you really can do to make someone feel better about a family member dying. Just talk to him about it, let him know that you're there for him. That's about all you could do. Sorry if that's not very helpful. <3 Bri
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Just let him know that you are here for him whenever he needs to talk or someone to just listen to. Men deal with things alot different than we do they are not emotional and try to hide to look macho but deep down he is hurting. Just let him know if there is anything you can do for him or his dad or family altogehter you will be there to help. good luck and my sympathies to you and your b/f and also his dad
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I must agree with you, it is hard and awkward to be around people that have illness that you're not familiar with. Don't fear though; even though his dad may have a health problem that doesn't change him as a person - your stomach is not connected to your brain, personality or soul - so as hard as it may be at first, treat him like you would treat any guys dad. Soon you'll see past the cancer and just be comfortable with him as a person. Besides, from experience, you want your boyfriends dad to like you - nothing can make him like you more than you being your charming, beautiful self!
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i know as much as you want to help you cant there really isnt much you can do just always be there for him and let him know you love him alot '`♥
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Hey hun, well i wouldn't bring it up unless he already did or he is okay with it. You have to be really sensitive with these things. You have to consider like how they might respond to what you say. I'm not sure there really is anything you can say to make him feel beeter but you can comfort him. You can be there for him when he needs you and give him space when he needs it.
xO. jessica
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at the end of the day he told you because he loves you and trusts you, there is nothing that you could say to him to make him feel better, trust me, ive been in this situation before, at the end of the day, the most that you could do for him is be really supportive, and when the time comes, hes going to need you more than ever
Hope that helps
Dannii xx
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I'm sorry, but there really isn't anything much that you can do; this is just too big for you, or ANYONE to help him with.
That said, you can help by being supportive. If he wants to talk, listen; let him know that you're there for him. But don't bring up the issue if he doesn't, because it will take him time. Give him space if he asks for it.
There are books about dealing with grief and loss, of course, and you should be able to find some in your local library.
But all in all, the most you can do is simply to be loving and supportive. And be understanding if he wants time to himself; he may not be comfortable grieving or crying in front of you. Some guys still think that showing their emotions is a sign of weakness.
Good luck!
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