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Gender: Female
Location: Canada
Occupation: Student
Age: 17
Member Since: December 22, 2005
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Hello there. Too get straight to the point im very confused about who i am, and who i want too be, all my life ive been into rock and that sorta..thing, well sometimes ill feel like i want to be very girly and i bought a bunch of pink stuff but then i listen to my music and i think what im doing? and i go back..i dont know what to do, is there something wrong with me? (link)
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There's absolutely nothing wrong with you!
I think it's really cool that you can flip between styles and be into everything! This means you're a very flexible person and can probably fit in with alot of different groups of people!
And just because you're into rock doesn't mean you have to be a rocker chick! I personally love all music (seriously - classical, rock, pop, r&b, rap, dance, musical - everything!!) but the music I listen to doesn't define me as a person! Every girl wants to feel girly and stuff - and thats totally awesome! It doesn't mean you have to listen to 'girly music'. Just whatever you do, be true to yourself and when you become comfortable with yourself and who you are (be honest with yourself/love yourself!!) everyone will see that confidence and love you too!
So whatever you decide remember that you don't have to be defined into a certain group by the way you dress - have a bunch of random stuff - and whatever you feel like wearing when you wake up, put it on! There's nothing uncool or wrong about that! Good luck, and again, be true with who you are!
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Ok...
there is this guy that i like. and i he doesn't know that i like him at all. and i hunt with him. and were just friends. and i love him very much. how should i drop hints to him that i like him a lot. or what should i do???? (link)
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Wow! It's never easy to tell a guy that you like him (we usually wait for him to make the first move), but seriously go for it! Well, that's pending the following.
Does he give you hints that he likes you? Have you ever had an intimate moment that could spark into more? If you're totally not sure or you really don't care, go for it!!!!!
It does risk that your friendship could be lost if he is completely shocked and says no, but ask yourself, is it worth it?
I liked a guy, and I couldn't live without him knowing I liked him - so I suggested we go to the movies (it was at a time when none of our other friends were home - we had the same group of friends). So we went, and had a blast! Then we did it again - then I (he was kind of chicken) told him, "I need to tell you something - but you have to make me a promise - no matter what you'll forgive me and still be my friend" (for if he said no) Then I went for it, "These past couple of weekends we've been hanging out have been soo awesome! It's been great spending time with JUST you! I guess what I'm saying is that I like spending time with you - because I like you!"
And sure enough he said yes!
You, you're already two steps ahead because you already hang out with eachother (alone I'm assuming) so all you have to do is spark the conversation! Whatever you do though, I don't recommend the 'make him jealous' thing - this will just turn him off if he did like you - because he'll think you're not into him!
So go for it! And good luck! Whatever happens and whatever you choose to do - live life without regrets! You don't want to look back in 10 years and say... what if i asked him..?
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I'm not sure how to apply it. My face always looks fuzzy even from far away. What moisturizer is good to use? What parts of my face do I apply the foundation, anyway?
(I'm going to get a makeup sponge)
I'll like sites with pictures ^^ (link)
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Alright, here's my recommendation to you for applying makeup.
It's important to not to use too much, and I personally don't recommend a sponge - using your fingers apply it much smoother and evenly.
-Make sure you choose the right color - if you don't it will show more.
-Less is more - don't apply too much.
-Start with very little - you can always apply more.
Now about skin - your skin greatly affects how makeup is applied.
If you have very dry skin start with a moisturizer - but put it on a good 10-15minutes before you intend on putting on the foundation.
If you have oily skin make sure you get a Oil-Free foundation, and don't forget to use a toner/cleansing product on your skin first.
If you have both (oily patches/acne/dry skin) it's important to sort your skin out before you worry about makeup. I (for example) get zits once and a while, but my forhead is VERY oily and my cheeks are VERY dry. So I start with a cleansing product all over my face (to reduce zits/oil) and then apply Extra Gental moisturizer (not lotion) to my face, only on my cheeks and dry patches.
Now, where to apply the makeup
Start with dabbing some on your cheeks, forhead and chin (minimally). Then just rub it around (don't try to rub it into your skin - then it goes into your pores and clogs them and causes the foundation to be very visable). Your goal with it is to just even your skin out. (If you have major acne spots/zits use a cover up to only blot those spots).
I think that's everything. Just remember, it takes time to find the right combination for your skin. Don't get frustrated and only add one thing at a time so that you can see what works and what doesn't. When something works keep it!
Oh, another though, wash it with a face cloth once a day (morning) and rub to exfoliate skin. And at night use a makeup remover that is especially suited for your skin.
Just a personal note - my favourite skin products are the Dove line of extra-sensitive moisturizers/facewashers/toners/cleansers/makeup remover/exfoliating clothes.
And my favourite foundation is Mabelline Dream Matte Mouse. Its soft/light and doesn't look like you're wearing makeup at all!
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ok so this is gonna be confusing but here it goes. i know this guy (nick) that my best guy friend introduced me to. well things were alrite and then we started getting REALLY flirty with eachother...like hey baba, i love you, watcha doin talkin to you hottie, ALL this stuff...some stuff i dont even wanna say. but ok heres my problem: well i knew he had this other girl that he likes i give him advice on how to get close to her and stuff. before it didnt bother me that i was kinda hot and heavy with a guy with another girl on his mind also, and who's ALSO friends with my ex b/f. but now..it bothers me. i wanna get out. he's a really great guy and i wanna still love him but just as a friend. i still wanna be "his girl" but just as a friend. i'm afraid i can't do this, not flirt and everything without him getting mad and not even wanting to be friends anymore (he told me he likes me a lot too..but we live a little ways away) so how do i get to not flirting really a lot with him and just sort of sink in to being friends. also my best friend that introduced us has in different words pretty much said to me to be careful. that he just really likes girls and all this. how do i get not SO close to him, but still be close friends. (link)
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Well, I see you as having two options! So here it goes:
Option 1)
Discuss!
I think if he likes you you need to sort out your feelings for him. Seeing as how you want to be just friends you have to stop getting hot and heavy with him. When you do it sends the signal of wanting more, so I recommend you just stop - if your guy is the type of person - talk to him. You need to find out how he feels about you, if he likes you then ask, then why do you always talk about how much you like so-and-so? It's important to talk about everything - get it all out in open air - so then you can both move on to what the future has in store for you!
Option 2)
Tell him straight up No More! you might risk ruining your friendship - but it is important to let him know where you stand.
No matter what you do though - you have to stop getting flirty and what ever - this sends mixed messages to him. It's important to take a stand and work on being just friends. To be 'just friends' tell eachother about the guy/girl you like and help eachother with the relationships. Sometimes it's hard to be friends with guys - but it is important to have guy friends and girl friends!
I hope this helps!
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Do teen guys (around 14/15 years old) care a lot about a girl's weight? I get a dress down day tommorrow for school (my school wears uniforms) and i want to look nice but im really insecure about my thighs and i dont know if all the guys will be like OMG shes sooo fat and not like me. I know it shouldnt matter but i want to know if its a big issue with guys in general. (directed towards teenage guys reading this: ) when you look at a girl a you think shes pretty would she be unattractive to you if her legs are kinda big? do a girls looks really matter if you like her?
thanks if anyone answers (link)
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No! If a guy has a problem with your weight he is not worth your time.
I do have some advice for you though if you wish!
I also go to a uniform school and can empathize with you about the importance of dress-down days. Everyone buys new stuff and wants to dress to impress.
Remember this, anyone can be in fashion - you just have to know what to wear! Now, if your thighs are biggers, go for a pair of pants that are slimming. Dark demin (jeans) automatically looks cleancut, sophisticated and slimming. Also, i recommend getting a pair of mid cut pair of jeans. This will draw attention away from your legs. Make sure the jeans have back pockets as this also draws attention away from your legs.
And if your thighs are bigger, go for a flared pair of jeans that balance out your shape. Slim jeans only emphasize your thighs, but a flared pair with a cute shoe will totally reduce your thighs as attention is drawn else wear!
Good luck! and remember - you are beautiful! and if a guy can't love you for you, he's not worth a second look!
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ok so im still young and im allowed to start wearing makeup.. i wanna know know tips that will help me look pretty and not slutty and is good for a 13 year old.. i have pretty pale skin but not that pale. i have blue eyes and light brown hair. thx i really need some help cause i have no idea how to wera makeup.. omg please dont ask me to ask my mom lol (link)
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Alright! So heres my suggestion to you!
Don't go overboard - with makeup, less is more.
And please don't wear crazy blues and purples on the eyes.
Being as young as you are, you want your youth and beauty to show through, so i recommend very little or no foundation/coverup unless you're battling acne or having a really bad zit day.
Otherwise go with natural coloured eye shadow. My recommendation - A nude colour on your lids and progress to the crease (where your eye socket sits) and use a slightly darker nude/taupe colour. Definitely wear a little mascara, but only on the top lashes. Both of these tips will enhance your blue eyes (Trust me, I have bright blue eyes and it works).
As for your lips, lipstick makes a statement. Don't go too dark - it will make you look gothic.
Don't go too light - it will make you look washed out.
Don't go too red - it makes you look (old lady) slutty.
Go with a shade slightly different from your own lip colour (in whatever tone/colour you want). I recommend coral or burgandy (but light shades of course). Personally, my favourite lipstick is Almay Truly Lasting Colour. It's a little pricy, but the two-in-one does give lasting colour.
I hope this helped - and I know I didn't tell you anything durastic, but when you're 13, I know you want to look/act more grownup - so I say go as natural as possible so you don't look like you're trying to hard.
O and ps - even without makeup, you're beautiful - remember that, nobody is worth your time if they dono't love you without makeup.
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Here's the story. I'm 15, female, and don't know how to ask my parents if my boyfreind can come up to my grand parents house with me over winter break? My mom, sister, and I are all going up to my grand parents house and I'd relly like if my boy freind could come up with me over winter break in Febuary. I don't know how to ask my mom. It's nit like we'd even have to sleep in the same bed if my parents didn't want us to because my grand parents have a big house with plenty of beds. Only my mom and sister will be coming so it will be a little easier without my dad there. Please help. (link)
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Speaking from experience - it is extremely difficult to bring the topic of a boyfriend up with the parents - especially when it involves extended family. Before you ask your mom though consider these questions:
- how long have you been dating? This is a big step in your relationship.
- has he met your grandparents before?
- do your parents like him enough so that they could spend a week with him?
- are you mature enough to have the sex talk with your mom and assure her that you're not going to sneak to his room in the night?
If you're satisfied with these answers, go for it! Clearly your parents love this guy and know that it would mean alot for you to have him with you!
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okay, well the thing is.
i have a really great boyfriend. we've been dating for aout 3 or 4 months now && i really like him. he told me a few nights ago that his dad has really bad, uncureable, stomach cancer. i dont know what to do. i've never dealt with dealth at all before, i've just never had too. so i dont know what to say to him. he never really brings it up because he doesnt want me to know hes upset. im also the only person who knows. i know it upsets him because him && his dad have always been close.
what are some things i could say or do that would console him??
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I must agree with you, it is hard and awkward to be around people that have illness that you're not familiar with. Don't fear though; even though his dad may have a health problem that doesn't change him as a person - your stomach is not connected to your brain, personality or soul - so as hard as it may be at first, treat him like you would treat any guys dad. Soon you'll see past the cancer and just be comfortable with him as a person. Besides, from experience, you want your boyfriends dad to like you - nothing can make him like you more than you being your charming, beautiful self!
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i really like this guy. and i know he likes me. The thing is he is black and some are my friends are acting weird about that. i mean i don't see anything wrong with it. Is there something wrong with a white female dating a black male?? (link)
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Absolutely not! Race has nothing to do with a relationship - though I will tell you that some people might (not really look down on you) but question your motives. However, DO NOT let this stop you - colour is only skin deep and once your friends get to know him they'll see what a great guy he is!
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