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Ok. I like a girl. She is still in love with her ex-boyfriend. We are kind of friends with benefits and make out everytime we get together. Things haven't been going so great, I want more, she is still in love. Lately I've been hanging out with this new girl, we will call her girl B. she is amazing, and beautiful. She says she doesn't want a boyfriend right now, which I know is girl translation for back off. but I really like her. I like them both, but I'm in a pickle with both, so any advice would be good.
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i personally think if the girl is still in love with her ex ,then you should forget about her,she might never get over him for a while and you will just end up being her rebound when she does , maybe if you spend more time with B then she maybe will want to go out with you, i hope i helped you
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okay well the girl that is still in love with her ex is only using you to help her keep her mind off her ex and to feel "comfortable" and wanted" by another man. She is hurt and wants to feel like she is ok. As for the other girl who sayd she does not want a boyfriend listen to her b/c if you push her into something she will only feel pressured and in the end she will hurt you. Take your time and just be friends and see where it leads. Dont rush anything--good luck
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Well,...that is a bit of a pickle huh? That's not always what that means in girl translation. Sometimes it means,...I dont want a boyfriend right now, or i just got out of a bad relationship and don't want to get hurt again. For the girl that's still in love with her ex, I say, stop trying to go after her, since she won't like you back, because she's in love with someone else. Now for B, she sounds good for you, and I'm sorry to say this, but you are just gonna have to wait. And if you're like me, and hate waiting, it's gonna suck big time. But the guy I like, just broke up with his girlfriend, but still likes her, its all very complicated.
Anyway, good luck!!!
Wish you the very best!!
♥Paige
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Well your very intuitive to say the least. It's true that when a girl says she "doesn't want a boyfriend" that means that she probably doesn't like you like that. But sometimes girls really don't want boyfriends at the moment. I've said I didn't want a boyfriend before, because I really didn't like the guy, but I have also said it before because I wasn't exactly ready to be getting back in a relationship at the moment. Now the first girl, I'd stop all of the friends with benefits thing you guys have going on. That just shows her that you are there for one reason and one reason only. If you like her more than just for a mess around than show her. Basically by just messing around with her you show her that she has a right just to use you. And no one likes being used.
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You really already know the answer to this. You can't do anything with both except wait. What else are you going to besides wait? You cant do anything unless you want to move on.
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Alright, I can relate to this girl you like. I really, really liked my ex-boyfriend, who..I guess we could say I loved. And lately i've been hanging out with this guy and we make out everytime we're together too. She's doing this to help her get over him. It's obviously over for good between them, and she needs someone to move on to. She picked you. You have to wait and give her time to let go of her ex. Once she realizes he's seeing other people, she'll want to do the same. As for "B" goes, saying you don't want a boyfriend right now doesn't ALWAYS mean back off. She could mean that she wants to be with other people too..not just one person all of the time. Commitment can be scary to some people, which is why most people like to stay single alot of the time. Stick with the first girl you mentioned. Give her some time to adjust to being single and away from her boyfriend. It takes time to get over someone you like so much. Just make sure you are there for her if she needs someone to talk to.
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i know how it is to just be some 'side dish' to someone..its not so great i know.. i know..so my advice is to keep looking for someone who will appreciate what you have to offer. i know everyone will tell you to get out of the friends with benefits situation, but its easier said than done isnt it? if your truly ready to be done with the whole friends with benefits thing..thats really great! i think it would be best for you to get away from that because the girl is in love with someone else..you desserve to be with someone who wants *you*
be patient and someone will come along..maybe this new girl will come around and begin to like you..you just never know..keep optimistic :)..best advice i can offer to you
-melissa
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