MissJessicaPaige's advice column

NO! Absouletly not! Guys can be complete jerks sometimes. I know that you still may like him or be confussed, but if he made a nasty remark then he isn't worth the trouble. I had a similar problem. I liked this guy and I know he didn't like me and I got hurt really bad. You're only setting yourself to get hurt again. And you may not follow my advice but that is at your own cost. But you need to find the sweet guys that treat you like a princess..((I'll tell you later)) because they're the best. :)

♥Paige

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I've tried to download AIM on my laptop, seriously, about 9 times now, & everytime I try to sign on, it says The AIM Service Can Not Be Reached.

And a couple of times that I've tried, it says that there were errors during the download.

Does anyone know what the problem is?

Yeah, you'll need a cable cord to get you connected to the internet, you only have to download it once, unless you want newer versions that come out every now and then! :)

♥Paige

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Okay, so this is long. But, I went to summer camp with this REALLY amazingly hot guy, well call him Jake. Okay, well I wasn’t exactly nice to Jake. Its kind of confusing but I guess I was jealous that he flirted with a lot of other girls and it was a couple summers ago so I was about 12 and yeah, stupid with boys. I added him as a friend on myspace like forever ago. And, we never really talked on it but I was basically in love with him. He lives like 15 minutes away from where I live. Anyways, I never saw him again and he never commented my myspace or anything. Well, one day, I guess he noticed me because he left me 3 picture comments! They all said “Gorgeous.” And “Youre so beautiful.” I was shocked. And THEN he left me a message that said that he loved me. I know its stupid, but I obsessed. It was about 4 days ago and I cant stop obsessing! So, today I IMed him and he wouldn’t answer. That’s the second time Ive tried. I also left him a message on myspace and he didn’t respond. Its like he doesn’t know me! Why would he say all that nice stuff and then not talk to me? Im so confused.

I'll probably get a 1 for this but maybe his friend hacked on to his myspace or whatever and was just sayin' that to a random person. Just gotta throw some more possibilities in there...

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Hey, we had our algebra mid-term today & there was this question with an input/output table and it said to describe the domain and range! i do'nt ever remember learning this, does any body know? i get to finish my test tomorrow.

thanks for any help you give

I think the domain is the y and range is x

♥Paige

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Do people hear their own singing voices accurately? Like if you listen to yourself while you sing, is what you hear at all like what everyone else hears? I recorded myself with a $40 recorder---it was muffled and awful and didn't sound a bit like when I hear myself when I sing

No, because since sounds travel in waves, your ear can't hear those waves directly like other people can so thus you always sound different than you think. And since a recoider like you buy at the wal*mart doesn't have a special device, it doesn't sound like your voice anyway.

♥Paige

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Hey! I'm a 14/f. I got my period(or so I think it was) about 1 and 1/2 months ago. But it hasn't come back since then. Is this irregular? Isn't it supposed 2 happen the same time every month! I don't know cause I'm kinda new at this whole thing. Plus when I had my period it was brown....like the blood and everything was brown not red. I'm pretty sure it was my period but I could be wrong I guess. Can any one please help me! I'm worried its not gunna come back. Much luv xoxoxo

if you're active like in sports or run alot, it'll be irregular and it's hard to keep under control. And it doesn't happen the same exact time every month, it's about 4-6 weeks after the first one, and exspecially if you're new at this, it'll be off until you can get into a regular bases. Also if you hang out with one friend inparticuar alot and she's had her period, you guys would be basically on the same bases.

♥Paige

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I want to know why people always talk such trash about mormans. Yea I am morman but that has nothing to do with it. Just because people arnt in a certain religion doesnt mean they have the right to talk trash about it. So my question is why do people do it? and why is it mostly mormans they talk about? Thanks.

because people are assholes and if you're not in their religion, then you're not cool, and if you're not cool, they talk about you...in a bad way. Unless you come across one of those people that don't really care. But it's pretty much divided whenever it comes to people like that. 33% don't care 33% are obsessed with it 33% do it because they can and that 1 little bitty percent would be neutral.

♥Paige

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My younger sister moved back into my mother and stepdads house to housesit while they are away on a trip. They will living in Arizona for 6 months and come back in the summer.

My sister is in dept up to her ears in credit card and student loan payment. She is still in college, and doesnt have a job right now. My father is giving her some money every month only until she finishes school, but it's only a couple hundred dollars.

Well I just found out that my mother is charging my sister rent!! I thought it was unfair because she is doing them a favour by housesitting. Also they know she's short on money because she
s still a student. I could understand if she were living with them but she's not. She told me that all the money that our dad gives her goes to pay the rent, and everything else she has to put on her credit card. They are charging her 400.

Does anyone else think this is unfair?

Yeah I think it is unfair. She's still a student and isn't making any money so how the heck is she suppose to pay them?! I don't get what they exspect from her. I mean, I think she should get a job but, I mean, even having one couldn't pay a rent like that off for a little while unless she became a hooker ((Which I highly doubt))

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Okay, if this is long, Im sorry, but I give fives to everyone:]
My ex boyfriend used to always follow me, every single place I went at school. It got old, but I still liked him. Im very shy and so I didnt talk to him alot. Hes kinda geeky too though. Hes a boyscout. Now we broke up because I wanted too, and his friend said I broke his heart and everything, and its just so weird without him all the time. I miss him, but at the same time, he was kinda smothering. What should I do?

I bet you've probably heard this alot but, I mean if you want him back, just tell him. Because if you broke his heart, broken hearts don't heal fast. But you have to give him some conditions. 1. Don't follow me around school. And whatever else you'd like to add but, if you miss him go after him! I mean, even though he may be geeky, he isn't gonna stay single ((or..umm..well, him)) forever waiting for you to come back. Act now! And I know your shy but, why don't you ask him on the phone or computer ((Aim msn yahoo which ever you have)). Or even write him a note and give it to one of your friends to give it to his friends to give it to him!

Good luck!

♥Paige

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okay thanks... but i was talking online yesterday and i found out that at the party after we did all that crap... his friends and him were talking about me and he said that he was REALLY REALLY annoyed with me getting all over him even tho it takes two people to make out and he's the one who asked me to give him a hj. But I'm sooo pissed at him right now and I'm soo confused at the same time! HELP!

I'm assuming your Maegan. I'm not tired of answering your questions. I like it, it makes me feel special that u asked me for advice lol. Anyway, your problem. I told you! You need to drop him like a bad habbit. What I'm getting at, he's just using you. So let me list the things that you've told me of what he's done. Maybe this will help you relieze some more what a jerk he seems to be. He's talked about you behind your back, led you on, denied what actually happened, called you annoying! I know that would piss me off. You have more than a right to be angry! But don't go crazy and go shootin' people. But I don't think you would. So, he may seem sweet and caring at first, but to me, he seems like a total pervert jerk. Who just wants "you". If you get what I'm going at here. So feel free to leave an inbox anytime! My pizza done so I'm gonna go get it!!!

Good luck!!!

♥Paige

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Okay so I'm the girl with the Steve problem. So we went to this amazing party at a hotel... i think i told you about that but w/e we were BOTH all over eachother and he claims that i was the only one all over him his friends said oh steve i saw you and maegen all cuddling and stuff and he's like omg she was all over me... AGAIN but he was doing it as much as me.. Please help!

This guy sounds like a pig. I'm guessing Haley wasn't there. I'm not sure what your questions but I'll help best I can. You didn't tell me about the hotel missy! lol. Anyway, this guy, I think just wants you for 'things' that Haley may not do for him. You need to drop him like a bad habbit. I know getting over a guy is hard, but if he acts like this, I'm not so sure that he is even worth it. This advice is for sure not going to be ask long as the last one because I'm going to sum this up pretty fast. Get over him if he keeps acting like that. That makes me mad! That he did that and I don't even know him! So, I mean, I'm not sure if that upsets you, but it should! Expecially since he has a girlfriend. And I know you want to believe he'll break up with her soemetime soon and go after you, but life doesn't always work like that. And if he does, he might go back out with her like the guy I like, or he might like you, or he might stay single, OR ((That's alot of or's but there's alot of possiblilities, I spelled that wrong but oh well! lol)) he might go for someone else. few glad to get those or's out of my system. So, I mean if those are the kind of guys you like then I guess you better stick to him. But other than that I think you need to let him go because he's hurting you and I think your best friend is getting hurt too. So, I'll leave the desion up to you, but I just left you with a couple of things to pick from!

Good luck!!!

♥Paige

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Ever since Steve and Haley have been going out (1 1/2 months ago) I've been comparing myself to Haley a lot. By the way Steve is the guy I'm like in LOVE with... and Haley's one of my best friends. I think I'm wayyy prettier than her, but I can't help but compare myself to her. I know its bad but idk what to do. PLEASE HELP ME! Your advice is great!

Thanks. Well, I saw that you left me another question and I'll answer it after this. Comparing yourself to one of your best friends, it's human nature and everyone does it. But that's not that bad part. What I think is the bad part is that you think he went for looks. Or maybe he's just attracted to her more than you. Sorry, not trying to hurt your feelings or critisize you but that's what I think is bad. But now, the solution. That sounds so formal, anyway the answer to this problem. I compare myself to my best friend all the time. But I think she's way prettier than I am. It's kind of oppisite but I know what you're getting at because I do that too. I'll tell you about my little problem first, don't worry it won't take long, maybe you'll learn something from it. Well, I've liked this guy since March and I went out with him for like 2 weeks and then he broke up with me because he was too 'busy'. When school started back, I found out he was in my 2 longest classes and a regular one. I was so happy because this was what I was praying for because I still liked him. But, he fell for my best friend, and they recently broke up, but only for 2 days, her mom died so I don't know why he did. He sees her everyday and I guess he couldn't bear it. I still like him, but I haven't seen him for two weeks so I think I lost intrest. Yeah, my story sucks but as much as you may be in love with him, you're only setting yourself up to get hurt. Atleast that's what I think. And if you love him so much that you are willing to hurt your best friend ((one of them anyway)) and hurt yourself eventually then I say go for him. But, some guys aren't just worth all that trouble and drama. And I know this may not be the best advice I've ever given, it's probably the longest advice I given though. In my story, I told my best friend I liked her boyfriend she got extremely mad and now we hardly ever talk anymore and I was really sad because I'm moving this year. But either you get over him or, still love him, but also like other people because you gotta kill sometime waiting for him like I know you'll probably do. Because that's what I did. I've turned down decent guys waiting for him which I now know what stupid because I know he'll never want me now. So to sum everything up, you can either wait, wait and still like other people, or just move on. It sounds alot better with all that extra crap up there, and I know I got a little tad bit off, but if you trust my advice and see all the 5's I've got from other people ((not to brag, I gotta 1 because I said to some girl I thought her smiley was cool and I didn't answer her questions...oopsy! lol))

Lots of luck to you!!

♥Paige

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Hey MissJessicaPaige! Your advice really helped a lot. But, I have one more question, everyone keeps telling me to get over him and stuff, but I've already tried! I can't do this anymore. And the other day I went to a party with him and his girlfriend a.k.a my best friend, wasn't there. So we ended up making out and I gave him a hand job! I know, bad thing to do. But now what should I do. I've known him for 10 years and we've dated a few times in the past. I just can't let him go. HELP!

Whoa,..that's kind of funny, because I kind of have that same problem! With the guy i like goin' with my best friend part anyway. Letting go is hard, I know, because I have this problem. And you shouldn't if you really ((underline really lol)) like him. But, one of my best friend's Allie, ((not the one dating the guy I like)) she is in love with this guy, but he only wants to be friends. That party pooper! Anyway, she likes alot of different guys but still in in love with him. So I think you should still like him, and flirt still, and whenever him and his girlfriend break up ((I think it will be soon, but that's just what I think)) that you should make a move or flirt even more. But don't go over-board because, that'll freak him out. Or he'll like it, because guys are little perverts but he won't break up with his girlfriend. In a guys' mind its like, "Why break up with my girlfriend, when I can get stuff from both of them?!" He may not seem like it, but that's probably what he's thinking if you've done something like that before.

Good luck!

♥Paige

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What do you do when you've liked a guy for a really long time and are finally dating and you decide that you don't want to date anymore, but then after you break up with him, you like him still and now your best friend is going out with him?
Age: 13
Gender: Female

Omg! I'm am in that very same situation at that very exact age! Wow, anyway, your problem. Honey, you got 2 options. Keep liking him and set yourself up to get hurt thinking that it will all be worth it in the end or get over him. I'd strongly suggest the 2nd one. Get out there and met new people, different people!!! It'll seem starnge and/or boring at first but don't worry you'll get used to it. Getting over him is gonna be hard, but just hang out with your friend,but don't include him because that will only make it worse.

♥Paige

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So my guy friends girlfriend broke up with him a couple months ago. Which doesn`t seem like a big deal, but the day she broke up with him she went to another guys house and "did stuff" with him. Which totally broke my friends heart. Since then, his ex has gotten into drugs, had sex, and given in to upper class men.. My friend and his ex had not talked since, other than arguing and accusations.. But he finally just started having normal conversations with her again. I was talking to him tonight and he told me he`s still in love with her. Hes asking me for advice, but I don`t know what to tell him on this one. She`s not right for him at all. Totally wrong..

Please help me, he`s coming to me asking for advice.. It just hurts me to know that he`s in love with someone who has treated him so bad, because I care for him so much. I don`t know whether to tell him to go after her again or to just give up all together..

I would appreciate your help.
Sincerely, Hopelessly confused..

Hey, wow. Sorry I'm not going to give a book of advice like the last 2 people that answered your question. Why don't you just tell him what you think? I know it's hard, well for most people anyway unless you're brutally honest like me. Just be like, "Well,...I think that...she's not right for you at all. I mean, she treated you so bad, I don't understand why you would want more of that." And I would do it in person to aviod hangups, and blocking ((On the internet)) etc. He's your friend, and he deserves to know what you think and if you care about him, you wouldn't tell him to go out with that whore again. Because he's just setting himself up to get hurt. OOH! Say that too! Lol.

I wish you the best of luck!!

♥Paige

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Hello (again.) My name is Alex; I'm a female; I'm 13.

Well.. I have this friend, I've known her since the 6th grade. We've been good friends, but then our friendship faded away, then next year (7th grade) Our friendship started to come back. So we started to talk & stuff. Now we are in the 8th grade & I got to know her a bit better then the other years. Now, she goes to this thing, so called 'The Rec' It's a dance anyone could go to on Fridays. Well she has gone there every Friday, when I say every Friday, I mean EVERY Friday! She has been to the rec & met new people. So she met this kid, we'll call him "Blake" she has liked this kid for quite a while, I mean, she just met this kid & now she has a crush on him! It's weird, but love is love. Anyways, all she has been talking about at the lunch table is Blake, Blake, Blake! It gets annoying after a while. Her main reason she goes to the rec is to see him & now she is changing! She told me that Blake likes either punk;rock; or skater girls, so she is changing! She bought these skater shoes, painted her nails black, getting baggy, chain pants, & everything! I don't know how to talk to her about this, because it seems like she has anger problems & gets mad too easily. I want to tell her she shouldn't change for Blake or anyone. I tried several times, but she won't listen, she would sign off on me! I dont know what to do to stop her from changing for a guy or anyone else. She talks to Blake on the phone & when they're finished talking, she starts crying, he isn't worth her tears & I dont want my friend changing or crying or getting hurt because of a guy that she met, & that isn't even her boyfriend! Please help!

Wow, I guess that's the thang nowadays, being punk and changing for one person that doesn't care about you. I'm gonna get a little off track but don't worry, I'll come back.
Like one of my best friend's Ashley, she is punk. But she wasn't always. About 2 years ago she wasn't. ((Elementry)) Well, last year was our first year at a new school, and where we live, whenever you go to your middle school, people from alot of different places come together into one. About October she met this guy named Wiley, he was a hardcore punk rocker. And Ashley is such an outgoing person she says hey to everyone she's so sweet. Anyway, she started to like him, and change like your friend. Except the only difference is, she never cried over him, atleast that I know of and she didn't change her apperence that much. Probably because her mom wouldn't let her,...she's rich and all so she's still gotta little prepness to her. But she's not a bad person at all.
Now about your friend. I don't get why she crys over him, probably as you do too. Before I read threw this all, I was going to say "Oh well just talk to her on the computer." But you got a point, she'll just block you or sign off. So, you're going to have to do this in person. But what I think is, you should go to "The Rec" with her one Friday, ((Or not, just watch her if you're more sneaky or spy-like but I wouldn't inforce that approach.)) And check this guy "Blake" out. I would say something more, but I can't do anything else unless you do that. I'm extremely sorry if I didn't help at all ((Which I think I didn't but you're situation is in desprete need of an answer.))
But don't get me wrong. Wiley is really funny and cool. But he can take the punk thing too far sometimes. Changing your apperance isn't everything. Guys change alot of things. And for the getting mad real easy, has she always been like that? Or is that recent? Let me know! I'm sure to help you as much as I possibly can!!!!

♥Paige

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Ok so I have this friend, let's call her Eva. She has liked this guy named Ray for the past four or five years and he seemed to like her too even though they never talk.
About a year and a half ago, me and Ray's friend, Austin hooked up. About a few months after that we set up Eva and Ray and they started going out.
Now Eva had always been crazy about Ray. She knew where he lived and what songs he liked even though she didn't know him. She wasn't stalkerish but she was obsessed.
So I was talking to my bf a few weeks after Ray and Eva and he mentioned that Ray was crazy about Eva and that he talked about her all the time and kept buying presents to give to her later and everything and I told Eva that and she was happy.
K now theyve been going out for a year and they are so OBSESSED with eachother. Like, Eva thinks about him ALLL the time. Even when shes with me and the girls she says she wants him to be there blah blah blah and when we ask her why she isnt with him she says she wants them to have seperate lives too and she doesnt want to neglect us blah blah. But she's like crazy about him. And he's crazy about her. It sounds weird to say this but its sooo unnatural. They call each other everyday for three hours atleast and text eachother all the time. She keeps going overtime on her cellphone from talking to him and he even proposed to her after going out with her for only like eight months!
Is it just me or is this obsession unhealthy? at the begining, we figured it would wear out or theyd get sick of eachother and get over their "honeymoon" and have a normal relationship but like it's continuous. Evas mum even told me that she was getting worried and wanted to take Eva to a psychologist but Eva said that was dumb cuz she wasnt stalking him or anything cuz he kenw and he loves her as much as she loves him.
so are we just overreacting or is it way unnormal? usually id keep out of this but ive always been involbved in evas life and her in mine since we were 4 and shes always told me not to let politness or anything interfere and she wants me to be honest to her and give it to her straight. Have you ever had any friends who were obsessed with eachother?

This sounds like a dumb question but please, I rate 5s

It's not a dumb question. It's alright to be worried about your friend, but I don't know what there is to worry about. They're just very in love with each other is what I'm getting at. It's normal in sometime in your life, maybe her's has just come sooner than yours so it seems strange to you.

If she wants you to tell the truth, then tell her how you feel and that you think its a little out of the ordnairy ((Excuse my spelling. I'm not a spelling bee champ! lol))

I haven't had friend been obsessed with a guy, but I have. I just kept reminding myself that I didn't like him and that my best friend had him and I would never have him again. And I cried over him and such things. But there was no point to it.

So what I'm saying is, butt-in, and talk to her. She's been your friend since you guys were 4. You need to be happy for her, but also look out for her. And if he breaks up with her ((Which I highly doubt but if so)) You need to help her through it because we both know how much in love they are and love hurts people.

♥Paige

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ok i like this kid right hes totally hot~~~ He knos i like him so it became weird so we decide to be friends w/e in the whole deal! but i wanna be more than friends. does any body have tips or ways i can get to like me????????????????

ps ..... no smart ass comments. i am not ugly either!

You can't force him to like you. I'm not trying to be mean, if you're taking it that way. Flirting helps, but doesn't win him over. Dress up cute as well as flirt, they both help lots. Find some time on the weekends that y'all could do together and with some other people. Because if it was just y'all, he might fell like it was a date and we want to ease into it not rush.

Hope I helped!!!

♥Paige

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