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So my guy friends girlfriend broke up with him a couple months ago. Which doesn`t seem like a big deal, but the day she broke up with him she went to another guys house and "did stuff" with him. Which totally broke my friends heart. Since then, his ex has gotten into drugs, had sex, and given in to upper class men.. My friend and his ex had not talked since, other than arguing and accusations.. But he finally just started having normal conversations with her again. I was talking to him tonight and he told me he`s still in love with her. Hes asking me for advice, but I don`t know what to tell him on this one. She`s not right for him at all. Totally wrong..
Please help me, he`s coming to me asking for advice.. It just hurts me to know that he`s in love with someone who has treated him so bad, because I care for him so much. I don`t know whether to tell him to go after her again or to just give up all together..
I would appreciate your help.
Sincerely, Hopelessly confused..
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i would tell him that if she gave him up for drugs and sex to not go back out with her because she might do it again and break his heart.
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Well, despite what you tell him, he is probably going to go back out with her. Just explain to him what you think of her. Tell him all of the stories of sex, drugs, and upper classmen. Tell him he deserves better.
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Hey, wow. Sorry I'm not going to give a book of advice like the last 2 people that answered your question. Why don't you just tell him what you think? I know it's hard, well for most people anyway unless you're brutally honest like me. Just be like, "Well,...I think that...she's not right for you at all. I mean, she treated you so bad, I don't understand why you would want more of that." And I would do it in person to aviod hangups, and blocking ((On the internet)) etc. He's your friend, and he deserves to know what you think and if you care about him, you wouldn't tell him to go out with that whore again. Because he's just setting himself up to get hurt. OOH! Say that too! Lol.
I wish you the best of luck!!
♥Paige
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You have to understand where he's coming from. Regardless of all she's done, he probably still remembers all the good times they had. Some times people have a hard time accepting change, and that seems to be your friends case.
You can't simply tell him to "get over her" that would be insensitive. He's hurt right now. Tell him that as difficult as it seems right now, there's other girls out there and his ex isn't the only one.
Explain to him that maybe he should stop talking to her, because sometimes people change and, yeah, it's a hell of a letdown but there's really nothing anyone can do about it. If he's not already aware of all the things she 'did' maybe you should break the news to him. I'm under the impression that he does know, but maybe you should remind him.
He has to understand she's a different person now, doing all sorts of things, probably having a bad reaction to the whole breakup. She sounds like a complete ass if she broke up with him and then did it with another guy the same day! That's pretty lame.
I feel really bad for your friend! It's always the nice guys getting pushed around :( We need more guys like him. He's still chasing after that girl, it's sort of sweet.
good luck!
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Hey. I totally understand your situation. Just don't tell him straight out "don't be with her, she'll hurt you" because it's not the type of advice a riend wants to hear. And while I'm not telling you to lie, I'm just telling you to be careful the way you put your words. Tell him you think it's great he cares about her and you understand she's not in a good place in her life. Tell him that's why it's best to just give her time because if he starts a relationship with her right now it will be very destructive. And let him know you understand he's "in love with her" but you are also aware of her current unhealthy and unstable mentality and conditions and you just don't want him to get hurt. Tell him to think things before he acts upon anything. He may love her but the facts about her are what they are, regardless why she took those decisions, and they are important things to be consdiered. Most importantly let him know that you'll be there for him as a friend and just want the best for him.
Good luck. Bye bye.
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