Question Posted Saturday December 24 2005, 12:38 am
I was just out for a walk to the nearest grocery store to pick up some stocking stuffers. I ran into my ex bf. He was walking towards me. I smiled at him and he looked right at me and didnt smile or even say hi. He kind of looked uncomftable.
My feelings were a little hurt because even though we broke up 5 years ago I still consider him to have been a big part of my life, he was my first bf and we spent a year together. I lost my virginity to him. I was the one that ended the relationship and at the time he was choked, but that was so long ago. I figured he would have moved on like I have.
Do you think his reaction meant he still has feelings for me? And why do you think he acted the way he did?
H0LDM3CL0S3 answered Saturday December 24 2005, 6:46 am: i think that he just didnt really have anything to say. but just being friendly he shoulda said something! if you dont keep in touch then he shoulda been like "hey i havent seen you in so long! hows life" and if you do keep in touch he shoulda been like "i just talked to you 20 minutes ago" or the next time you talk to him be like "what was up with that? acting like i was a total stranger" and your relationship was ended 5 years ago, dont get your hopes up about him likeing you again! no offence!
CANDii_x_KiiSSEZ answered Saturday December 24 2005, 2:51 am: He probally still has feelings for you. Losing your virginity to someone then getting dummped probally hurts alot. Start talking to him again maybe you guys can hang out again so you can be on good terms with your ex
brokenagain answered Saturday December 24 2005, 2:37 am: Sounds to me like his feelings were very hurt and maybe he has not gotten over that--it takes awhile for people to get over things and if he is over it he may still feel "hatred" towards you-but all in all he should have at least said hi or something--men are so strange--dont worry about it you moved on dont let him get you down. Maybe he has moved on and his reaction was to let you know you dont mean nothing to him and he feels he is better than you now. It could be a couple of things. But again dont sweat it--just keep moving [ brokenagain's advice column | Ask brokenagain A Question ]
Razhie answered Saturday December 24 2005, 2:17 am: I think it is a rather huge assumption to think he still has feelings for you based on this encounter. I mean really, it's been five years.
He probably just felt uncomfortable. If his feelings for you aren't as warm as yours are for him, he might only remember the bad times. He may have moved on completely but have decided he does not like you at all. Which is OK.
The fact is, you don't know unless you ask him. And why would you?
Why would you drag up feelings from a relationship that ended five years ago? Especially if the only time you see him is little run ins in public places.
Enjoy your good and positive memories and treasure them. But don't expect him to have the same response to a situation as you do. You can't control his feelings and you have no reason or right to ask him about them, so let it go. [ Razhie's advice column | Ask Razhie A Question ]
soccergurlie1220 answered Saturday December 24 2005, 1:53 am: Well, personally I wouldn't let it get to you because sometimes I see my friends and they wave to me and I don't, either cause I don't feel like it i don't know if they will, and vis vera.
But for your questions I don't know if he has feelings because I don't know him and how he acts or you so that's kind of hard to answer. But, for the second one he may of had a bad day or not feeling good or once again just didn't feel like smiling.
But, if this situation is/keeps bother you just talk to him or a friend they can probably help you more than use who don't really know you two and how you atc, etc.
Well I really hope I helped and your situtaion gets better...
stressed answered Saturday December 24 2005, 1:50 am: well he mie still have feelings for you!but considering you ended the relationship it mite feel a little uncomfortable for him!and even tho it was 5 years ago guys seem to hold on to grudges and feelings for a long time!try talking to him one more time and appoligize for hurting him!he mite just be waiting for an appoligee!!
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