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I'm facinated with the way things work. I've always been told that I'm creative, and I give good advice, but that isn't the most interesting thing about me. I feel like I'm a deeper person than most people know, and so I'm a volcano of advice. All of my friends/aquaintences come to me in time of need for advice, so I suppose I must be good at it. I'm always looking for something a little bit more complicated even among the simplist of things. I'm overly perceptive and analytical. Feel free to contact me directly with questions through the website.
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when you are pregnant, how soon will you feel the stomach cramps? and what part of the stomach do you feel them in? Thanks so much for you help.
Both of your previous answers are crap!!! If your feel pain in your abdomen, then it's one of 4 things. First, every month when you ovulate, the ovary that your egg comes from will ache. When you have your period you prepare lining for carrying a baby. You release a number of eggs, but only from one ovary per cycle. So the pain should switch from one to the other each month. I have bad ovary pain from ovulating, which includes the cramps. 2, it might just be cramping, which happens when your body is doing a lot of work in one area, during your period, or when you are running...etc. This generates heat. Internal heat and sluffing creates toxins which makes muscles cramp. 3, you may have an inflamation of your pancreas, stomach issues, a backed up bowel or other problems. 4, when you are pregnant a lot of women suffer discomfort, while others do not. It could happen a month after conception. Such as, some women have morning sickness, others have none. I would be curious to know how old you are, what kind of birth control you are on, when you last had sex etc. in order to properly answer this question. I'm Vexxia on Advicenators, feel free to contact me directly if you have any other questions or would like to talk about the situation further.
I am 17 year old boy. My height is 5.8. I am worried about my penis size. My penis size is only 4 inch. When I see it is in normal condition it looks very small like penis of a child. I guess it is not genetic problem because my 15 year old brother has 5 inches and my father has also good length (I don’t know the exact size but it looks big & thick). This situation resulted inferiority complex in me. Once my bro saw me (un-erected) and said oh! You have tiny thing. I just laughed and said it is not hard. Things like that put me on back seat. Is there any authentic method to increase the length. What is the normal size of a man. Till what age the length may be increased.
Well, the normal size is about 4 and a half inches erect. It also depends on your race: Black men have only 1 half inch larger than white men, and asian men are 1 half inch smaller. Diameter is normal at about 1 inch. But: in my opinion bigger is better, and the average size isn't very good. Your 15 year old brother is just now going through puberty so he probably isn't the best person to compare to. How big is it across? (around) because thickness is important also.
And sadly, there is no meathod to increase length or girth. You will continue to develop until you are about 18, sometimes a year longer.
Don't worry about it honestly. You should just date tiny girls. (girls have tiny stuff too) so it might fit together better, if you know what I mean. But if you are sexually active there is such thing is a cock ring that will stiffen your penis when it is erect. Wait till you're 18 and go buy one at a sex shop (the silicone ones will do fine.
If it makes you feel any better Enrique Iglesias is sponsoring the new 'small man's condom'.
I am aware that this will not get an award for brevity, but humor me.
Background info: I am someone who is known to have an incredibly individual, crazy, random style. I love uniqueness, and I hate wearing things that I know what 1 million other people are wearing. This goes for anything of the sort, whether it's a studded belt or a short little Hollister skirt- BUT this question is mostly geared towards the latter (to clarify, the clothing that the so-called "pretty people" wear).
I'm really trying to comprehend how people can like clothing like what is sold at Hollister or those type of stores. I guess it's almost humorous since I know the majority of people ask the same question about my outfits a good deal of the time- what could she possibly be thinking with that outfit? But I just don't understand...and I'm honestly trying to be as accepting of others expressions as I wish they would be of my own.
What joy do you get out of wearing these mass manufactured clothes that aren't even worth taking two looks at? They are so BORING and unoriginal and so..lacking in any creativity. Not to mention, those skirts practically show butt cheeks and things I DO NOT WANT TO SEE! EW! Between the false advertising (Feefee's stupid ass coconut shack, etc.) and the atrocious amount of skin shown, I can only wonder what America's "pretty people" are thinking and if they really are so "pretty."
Can someone please help me understand?
I understand completely. I too do not appriciate the bore that is known as the supposed 'in-style'. Though, people are lemmings. So, in the attempt to explain my journey towards tolerance I turn to social philosophy, rather than merely style.
We, as a species, want to be accepted. At the same time we want to be appriciated for our differences, or that which makes us unique. So, in your case and mine, we have a style that speaks "difference". For many others, such as those who shop at hollister or wear the ug-boot, their style says, "I am the same".
So- we are appriciated for a very obvious reason, a will to stand alone, or outside the crowd: it screams individuality, and for that we are wanted. Where as, most people do not of the audacity or courage to assert a visual difference, they assimilate to become wanted.
As well, as a society we are educated to believe that there is a formula for success. Which includes: dress, mannerisms, associations, gender roles and the like. We are led to believe that there is only one type of person, which many will pretend to be, that is appropriate for success or to participate in this culture.
Believe it or not, the real world is just like highschool where we judge people based on their appearances, where they fit in, their class, wealth etc... and you and I... the way we might cringe at mini skirts and popped collars.. they do the same to us. It will never change.
What is important, however, is not to discount peoples personalities based on these visual differences. I've met a handful of wonderful people that participate in sororities, wear polos, and act like paris hilton, but in the end we all have something to learn from eachother- and we shouldn't let (of all things) clothes separate us. After all, we're all naked underneath. HA> hope that helps.
Hey Guys. This Question Isn't Gonna Be Long, But I Really want a boyfriend. I havent like went out with anyone in like 4 years. Yea I know..Loner. But No one (guys) likes me. I'm Ugly, Fat. You Name it. Everything About me is messed up. Whats wrong with me Guys?
your self-confidence.
I want to ask my crush to winter formal creatively. (girls ask guys for this dance)
I have different ideas. Please rate one through ten each idea on how cheesy it is [1 being not at all cheesy, 10 being wow that's cheesy!] And also give me feedback about each idea.
#1: The Guitar Pic Idea. I type "Will you go to winter formal with me?" in small font and print it out and cut it out and glue it onto one side of a guitar pic and put clear nail polish over it so it doesn't look tacky. Then I'd give it to him. (He likes to play guitar.)
#2: Fortune Teller Idea. This is probably most flirtatous. I playfully tell him I've learned palm reading. Ask for his hand and as I move my finger over different lines on his palms, I jokingly make up different predictions like "You will be a famous rockstar." Then I say "Let's see what's in your near future." Then as I look at his palm, I say "I see you going to winter formal with me." And then sincerly look at him and ask, "Would you like to go to winter formal with me?"
#3: Icing On The Cookie Idea. I bake cookies and on one write in icing "Would you like to go to winter formal with me?" (One problem: I've never baked cookies in my life before)
If you have any other ideas they are appreciated. Thanks in advance!
#3 is super cheese like velveeta.
#2 is squeezy cheese.
And # 1 is the best, but good cheese like brie.
Uh, or you could just ask him- better yet, write it on your ass and moon him. But wear boy shorts. haha. Or, write him note and put it in his locker. and spray tons of perfume on it. Or, get him blindfolded by someone else..have someone else tell him he is going to touch you or ask you questions to figure out who wants to go to the dance with him.. and have him guess who you are. In the mean time he will say all the girls names that he wants to ask him. Thats all i got.
I don't have any good ideas for you.
ok, so, I like this guy, and I want to get to know him better. Trouble is, I'm anti-social and I'm pretty sure he thinks I'm a freak. Or weird. Or scary. Anyway, I know some people who are friends with him. Any suggestions? I don't want any sugar coating on this, btw.
Well, how weird are you? Are you in the goth group, or the punk group? Theater group? If so, he's probably in the jock group, or the soccer group?
So if you're anti-social, then why would you want to be social? Just a question...
I don't think you're anti-social. It's probably something you've self-labeled to avoid human interaction. Not a good idea. But I was in the goth, punk and theater group. I constantly had crushes on guys in the soccer group. The only thing holding you back is yourself. Just go talk to him, normally, like you would with your brother or any of your friends.
Go out as a group with the friends that know him, have a good time, and be yourself.
If he doesn't like you for you, then there's no reason to be friends with him.
You'll grow out of the being labeled a 'freak' thing, people will accept you when you are yourself.
I've never thought that I flirt that much. But apparently the rest of the world thinks so. I hear it from friends, family, and even my boyfriend! They all tell me that I'm the biggest flirt alive. I can't help it because I think that it's just me being friendly. Well some people have a problem with how "friendly" I am but I don't know how to fix it. When I do flirt, I really don't notice it and it's not like I have a bell in my head that rings whenever I am to remind me. So, any idea on how I can back down on the flirting?
I apparently have the same problem. I honestly think it's bullshit. But, it depends on what you are saying when you are "flirting". If you are being suggestive about sex or showing off your body, or touching people- it can be misconstrued as flirting. Best advice I have is to ask your friends and family (including your boyfriend) to point it out to you when you are doing it. Then you can understand where they are coming from, and if they are full of it or not. I say, keep on being friendly, if it's your best asset.
I wanna come up with something cozy & comfy but cute for tomorrow. Any interesting style tips?
Thank you :)
Layering is the best! I prefer comfy over not, but you have to maintain style- so I agree with you sister.
-jeans are a must- even ones that are a little baggy. Really soft T-shirt- and tank top underneath. zip-up hoodie. Bright colors. and a little hat or bangles.
Go with something that you feel really comfortable in and add accessories to it.
You could even wear pajamaish pants and a top that match, with a cute jacket and jewelry.
Is there anything that promotes you to get out of bed in the morning? I always feel so miserable getting up, and I need something to jumpstart my mornings.
I have the same problem.
First, I put my alarm on the other side of the room. I have to get out of bed to turn it off, that way I get tired of getting in and out of bed and finally get up.
I also love coffee, so I got a pot that brews automatically. So, I know that when I get up, there's fresh coffee in the kitchen. You have to prepare it the night before though.
I usually brush my teeth first, it get's rid of all the "sleepy scum".
Then I put on some upbeat music and get into getting dressed, and looking really good for the day. That makes me glad that I got up.
So, I do the crossword puzzle in the paper and have coffee, and then I'm ready to go.
heyy, my mom wont let me get my ears double pierced or the cartiledge at the top pierced.. I really want it done and I would be paying for it so I dont even know why she cares? How can I just convince her to let me do it.. its not like its even bad or anything like smoking pot
--please and thank you
Best thing I ever did to get piercings was bribe my mother with my grades or chores. They love that stuff. I currently, at 20, have my nipples pierced, my ears double pierced, one cartilage, and two nose piercings. I got the doubles at 15, cartilage at 18, on my birthday, nose at 19ish when i went to college, and nipples at 20. For a while there I had my ears stretched to 2's. I took them out for mothers day and got my nipples pierced instead. She understands now.
Okay here it goes it may be a long one this time..
For starters I'm a 18/f I have been dating this guy he is 22 for 5 1/2 months. On my birthday he asked me to marry him. I said yes. Well that next week when we got home we got into a little argument which is normal and he said u know what i never even fell in love with u. Right when he said that my heart broke. I was totally in love with this guy you know ? Okay so then the next day he loves me again..hes like playing games with me. Well then i get a phone call from this guy i have known since march and had a total crush on well hes looking for a serious relationship and he is like totally falling for me. But i dunno what to do. Should i stay with the guy and fuss and have him play games with me or get to know this other guy ? I so need help !!!!
No, fuck the guy you're with. He obviously doesn't know what love is. Always date up sister, get what you want. Don't break the guy's heart that you are with by telling him you are leaving him for someone else. Be a big person and have a long talk with him about how he doesn't understand what love is if he would play those kinds of games with you. Break up with him. Start dating the other guy, and if that doesn't work out, spend sometime single. : )
I am 19 years old and my ex-boyfriend is 20. We were together for 2.5 years before I broke up with him. I broke up with him because I had been trying to fix the problems in the relationship, but nothing seemed to be improving. I ended up cheating on him, and that made me realize that something was missing in our relationship that I needed.
Well in the two months that I left him, the guy I cheated on him with, who I had thought was so great, ended up being a liar and breaking my heart. The next guy I was with ended up raping me. Then my family and friends turned on me. Then I lost my job. The one person that has been helping me through this is my ex-boyfriend.
He tried winning me over while we were broken up, but I resisted. Once my life turned to crap, and I realized how good he was to me, I wanted him back too. But that same day, he found out about the cheating, so now we are still broken up. He forgave me for cheating, but he says he needs some time to myself, which I understand. We still see each other every week or so, and so now we are in a friends with benefits sort of relationship. Neither of us is interested in seeing other people, we're just not officially going out.
But today he called me and said that he might be going back home, going off to Europe, in a half a year or so. He doesn't know what he's going to do exactly. He might stay here or he might go. It's so hard waiting for him to come back to me now, so I can't imagine us getting back together and me getting used to having him around all the time again, then having to deal with him being gone for 6 months or longer. He promised me that if he left, he would come back here for me, but I don't know if I can live with that burden.
It's so hard to deal with. If I hadn't gone through all this trauma, I think I'd probably be thinking about this differently. But he is seriously the only person in my life who I deeply love and care for. He loves me deeply as well. The only thing is, is love enough? We both love each other, but I don't think we're "in love." But after dealing with such horrible people, I can not imagine me ever looking at anyone else. He is the person I trust to be with me through thick in thin, despite of our petty relationship problems. Is it so bad to be with someone for security, companionship, familiarity, and not because you're "in love?" He has done 10x more for me than anyone else in my life.
From reading your question I get the feeling that you are depressed. I could be wrong, but in the midst of all of your problems he might look better than he actually is. My advice is to make things right with yourself first.
It's a very mature thing to differentiate between love and in love. I agree with you there. But to have friendly love, or brotherly love (even with benefits) is to care deeply, and this love doesn't know distance. I mean that, my brother who I care deeply for, may go to college in another state, which I would want because I love him. I know that we will always be together in spirit, and thank god for technology because there is such thing as e-mail and the telephone.
I don't think that you are considering the future right now. If what is best for the both of you, which it sounds like it is, to be broken up, then so be it. If you cannot mend things romantically, and I wouldn't try because you shouldn't cheat on eachother, then be friends.
I have friends I talk to every six months and we don't get any further apart because of the time. My best friend is an ex-boyfriend, who introduces me to all of his girlfriends to get my approval. We are like brother and sister now. I really like it that way, we didn't mesh romantically.
So lastly, you might think about counseling. You don't want your past experiences, bad relationships and rape, to interfere with developing long lasting, healthy relationships in the future. Plus, you have to love yourself and your circumstances in order to give and recieve love or care from other people.
I agree with your statement about "if you hadn't gone through this trauma, you would be thinking about this differently". Establish a healthy state of mind, so you have good relationships as reference.
I am a girl age 15.
Few days back in school , when we were near basketball courts , I tried to pick my key chain from the floor, I could not control myself and farted loudly. It was a sudden incident. Six boys & girls were there all noted it and laughed, I was very much embarrassed and ran away from there. I am still upset. I told this to my elder sis, her first response was also a laugh. She tried to convince me that its natural and can happen with any body, she told me that once this was happened to her female teacher also. But I am still feeling guilt. Please advice me.
I'm 20 now. It's important to the story because I could care less now. So I was 14, and in my English class our teacher was reading the class a novel, I don't remember what the story was. Anyways, we were all sitting on the floor and it was really quiet, everyone was listening to the teacher read all nice and quiet. Right in the middle of storytime I farted so loud!
At the time I wasn't popular at all. Everyone of the girls in the popular group made fun of me for whatever they could. I have a broken nose, still, and it makes a bump, they made fun of me for that. I'm Italian, so I have hairy arms, they made fun of me for that. So they had a great time making fun of me for farting in class.
The moral of the story is, I don't know any of those people anymore. Nor, do they remember me farting in class. One girl that made fun of me the most actually goes to college where I go. I ran into her at a party. She told me how much she envied that I was myself all through middle school, and how she admired me for being a strong person who didn't care about all the petty stuff. It was a nice thing to have happened to me, her appologizing, but I didn't need it because I had already forgiven her for what she had done. Don't worry about it, I've embarassed myself so many times, that if I let it get the best of me I wouldn't go out. The strongest people make fun of themselves. I would just tell those people that they can laugh if they've never farted. Chances are they have.
i weigh 200 pounds...and i'm 15 and a girl is that fat? ((this is serious))
please help♥
i dont want advice on how to lose the wieght, cause i didnt ask for that advice.i just want to know if that is seriously overweight.
You are probably fat. If you are tall(6') it's overweight. If you are short (5')it's morbid obesity.
No advice on how to lose weight: just a suggestion for your health- you should lose weight either way.
How do you stop being vain?
Cut all of your hair off.
I signed up for the school talent show. Suddenly today, I learned that it will be held at the assembly. And it's too late to drop out. I have a terrible case of stage fright. I'm singing a song from THE PHANTOM OF THE OPERA (Wishing You Were...), and it's going to be hard to liven up a beautiful broadway piece next to all the other singers, who are singing stuff like Ice Ice Baby and Alicia Keys. How do I relax?!
Look at the lights.
christmas is coming soon and I need some ideas on what to get my boyfriend for christmas. I'm thinking about getting him a hat and a matching shirt for christmas in his fav color green, but I don't not sure. I NEED HELP!!
Go to zumiez, they have really nice cool clothes, and not just for skaters or snowboarders. If you were interested in getting him a shirt then match his style. If you were to get a hat, same thing, maybe a matching scarf. Other good ideas: if he has a hobby get him something related. Like if he's into art, a nice pen and ink set. If he's into sports get tickets. Music, go to a show. Take him out on a date- pay for dinner at a nice restaurant. Cheap gifts: take him for a picnic or to a special spot- take candles and cocoa and read a poem. Get an autograph. Draw a picture.
Would you take offense if your gf/bf said that although they find you attractive, they would never want to see a "Picture" of you, or see you in your underwear? I'm sure you can guess of what nature.
My gf said this to me and I felt offended. I don't really know why. I guess it's no big deal, really. We were only kidding around and she said that. I'm pretty insecure about my looks, which doesn't help I suppose. So would you take offense, or am I making a big deal?
In response to your response. If she is religious she has probably been told that it is wrong to see someone else naked. I dated a guy for two years that was orthodox jewish and he was terrified of anything sexual. He wanted to stay a virgin until he was married. So psycologically speaking he created an aversion to sex in his mind, so that it was disgusting, so that he wouldn't have it. It might be what your girlfriend has been taught.
ok these girls have partys were they have sex and finger ea other and stuff well they told me it was just somthing like a girls night out just to hang and watch movies so i went and i didnt no that they fingered ea other and stuff but worse guys were there so somone brought beer and i got drunk and they got it on camera of me taking of all my cloths and i guess they video taped it when a guys fingered me and they put it on this like web page and every thing like you could see really clearly like him fingering me they got up close oh my god i wanna move schools everyone thinks oh my god every ones like so i wounder if i can git up in ur pants and say all this shit but do i just wiat until they stop talking about it or i dont know just what do i do?
Put him on the internet. But, you know you shouldn't put yourself in bad situations like that.
I have really curly hair so I straighten it twice a week just about. Is that really bad for my hair. Like i know that its bad to straighten your hair but how bad is that?? I have some straightening stuff thats my sisters that i use before i do it i guess it supposed to help...
Well, doing anything to your hair with the exception of doing nothing, is bad for your hair. But it grows, so theres really no harm in the long run. But if you are asking if it would be healthier if you didn't straighten it, the answer would be yes. It strips your hair of oils from the heat and causes split ends. But oils can be taken care of with a good conditioner and split ends can be cut off.