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Love and Not knowing what to do ?
Okay here it goes it may be a long one this time..
For starters I'm a 18/f I have been dating this guy he is 22 for 5 1/2 months. On my birthday he asked me to marry him. I said yes. Well that next week when we got home we got into a little argument which is normal and he said u know what i never even fell in love with u. Right when he said that my heart broke. I was totally in love with this guy you know ? Okay so then the next day he loves me again..hes like playing games with me. Well then i get a phone call from this guy i have known since march and had a total crush on well hes looking for a serious relationship and he is like totally falling for me. But i dunno what to do. Should i stay with the guy and fuss and have him play games with me or get to know this other guy ? I so need help !!!!
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The twenty two year old needs to go. anyone who does the whole "oh well yeah i never loved you anyways" needs to go. Besides...it sounds like he just wants sex... go for the serious relationship guy.
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I say, call it off with your fiance. If your having doubts.. then its really not worth taking the risk of getting a divorce. And it does sound like hes playing games with you. And I don't think he is ready for marriage. And I think the sam about you (but i really dont know you two, so i cant really say that, but its just a thought) Of you like this guy.. then go for it. AFTER you break it off with the other guy.
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This guy you say loves you, i don't know about him very much but he seems very.............Idiotic. you either love someone or you don't. you can't just change your feelings about someone every other day.
Tell the guy who called your situation and then tell him you really want to get to know him. Then tell you "boyfriend" that you are just meeting an old friend to study for an exam, have a cup of coffe, hang out....etc.(so that he doesn't think you are cheating on him)
If he finds out admitt you were with another guy. If he seems genuinly upset them maybe he does love you..... I don't know it's kind of hard to tell if you only know so much about someone.
All I know is that a person who loves you would never mess with you head about your relationship with him.
hope I helped
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No, fuck the guy you're with. He obviously doesn't know what love is. Always date up sister, get what you want. Don't break the guy's heart that you are with by telling him you are leaving him for someone else. Be a big person and have a long talk with him about how he doesn't understand what love is if he would play those kinds of games with you. Break up with him. Start dating the other guy, and if that doesn't work out, spend sometime single. : )
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The fact that you are even entertaining the idea of going out with someone else, should tell you that at the very least you aren't ready to marry your boyfriend.
I can't understand how he can ask you to marry him one minute and then turn around and say he never fell in love with you. I'd be getting an explanation for that remark!
Does he often say things he doesn't mean in the heat of an argument? Even if true that's pretty hurtful.
It is really up to you to decide. Just remember that if you go out with the crush, you may lose the current boyfriend forever.
Then again, I tend to believe things happen for a reason. Why now is the crush calling?
I'm not being much help am I? Hope I at least gave you some things to ponder. :)
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You're probably not going to like hearing this, but I don't think you're ready for marriage. Just the fact that you had to ask that question shows that you're not ready for the long-term commitment of marriage. I hope you'll listen, and I hope I helped.
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It doesn't sound like you are ready for marriage to me. Don't say yes to someone unless you are ready for the committment. Since you are even considering your crush, that shows that you are not ready for marriage at all. You should know someone for at least a year before you decide to marry. I don't think you should necessarily break up with your fiance, but you need to have a talk with him about where the both of you stand in your relationship. I think there's some miscommunication, that's all. And please don't do something like agree to marriage if you're not sure that you're ready for that. Don't do it because it's the next logical step. You really need to think things over for yourself and think them all the way through. I hope that you can work things out with your fiance and good luck! :)
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Well, you've only been dating for 5 1/2 months with this guy and he's already asking you to marry you (which is totally fine!!) and you said, you two got in an arguement, which is normal.. so does that mean you two fight alot?
But, anyways, when you two got in a fight, was he really mad? Because sometimes when you're angry, you say things you don't mean. I know I do. Even if he was angry and didn't mean it, you should never say "I never fell in love with you anyways" That's just messed up on his part. && you seem like the sweetest girl ever, and do NOT deserve to be treated like that, no girl does.
On the other hand, what is this other guy like? Can you see yourself with him, in the future? Getting married? Do you argue with him alot? Does he make you happy?
Now, go back to the guy you're with.. ask yourselves the same questions.
&& Go from there. I think you can make your decision by that. Because, as much as I want to say "Oh, go for the other guy, you two will get married" I don't know that. I don't know if you two will get married or not. I wish I could tell you what to do, but no one knows. You really need to answer those questions and follow your heart.
Because the guy you're with right now, is playing games with you (like you've said) and broke your heart into a million pieces. It will take him SO MUCH to put every little piece back together. While the other guy, might put it back together in just days.
If it's ment to be with the guy you're with now.. you two will find each other's love again.
You need to think of pros and cons for each guy and like I've said answer the following questions I've asked you for each guy. If you need help doing any of that, you leave a message in my inbox. && I'll totally help you out.
I hope this helps you out and please tell me how it goes!! I hope everything goes great!!
♥ Kourtney
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