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there is this guy in 9th grade that i think is really hott..and im only in the 7th. and we kno each other..and talk and stuff..but just not that well, and he knos i think he is hott..but, he said wen im in 9th grade he'll think about goin out wit me. which is okay..that doesnt bother me..but im really starting to like him and i have a b/f..and my b/f always asks me if i like anyone else, and we are truthful to each other so i tell him i like the 9th grader..and hes like wat? hes barley in high school..so he acts weird about it or w/e wen i tell him..and i fell like i can only tell the 9th grader stuff..and not any of my friends..because they might take it weird..so..idk..im just confused..is this normal or w/e??- -sry it sounds so retarted..i rate..please help! (link)
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Well, there's a very simple explanation for this. The 9th grader is a little too old for you at this point, that wouldn't turn out well. And it's painfully obvious to me, and I would think it would be to anybody, why your boyfriend is offended when his girlfriend tells him that she likes some other guy. You really just shouldn't tell your boyfriend that, and if it's true, then break up with him, that's just messed up. It would also make sense for your friends to take it weird, because it is. So, in answer, no this isn't normal. This is very abnormal. It's pretty twisted to do what you're doing.
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I've been dating this guy for 8 months and He's wonderful, the best thing that has ever happened to me. but i think he is having second thoughts, it really breaks my heart. i almost feel like theres competition. I need help getting over it, If things get worse i might not be able to handle it. I love him with all my heart, i almost feel like he wants to see other people. Any advice you can give would be very helpful.
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You just have to trust in your man. If he loves you, then he's not having second thoughts and he doesn't want to see other people. If he really loves you, then you don't have anything to worry about. Everybody has doubts, I'm sure he even has them, just hang in there and it'll all be ok.
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how do i get my man to have sex more then once in a day? (link)
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I really don't see any reason why you may be having trouble getting him to. If it's a physical limitation, as opposed to a lack of desire, then try viagra, it seems to be pretty popular for that sort of thing.
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Problem with answering "Why do you like me?";
I'm terrible with words. I must be terrible... I don't know how to put it into words that well.
I don't want to say something like
I like you because you're interesting... dot dot dot.
Then she'll be like only because of that? etc.
I really love my girlfriend but she keeps assuming that I'll go for another. She's like no other girl I've known, I highly doubt I would go for another.
Have any ideas that could help me think on how to word my response on that?
I think it wouldn't be a good idea to ask someone to type out.
And I know. If I was a good boyfriend I'd know how to answer this. I want my response to be perfect. Apparently I am not a good boyfriend or close to being perfect. (link)
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Man, I'm in the same boat as you, fortunately, I've discovered the secret to answering all the questions.
First off, clear and to the point, there's no 'perfect' or 'best' or most of the time even a 'right' answer(I'm sure if any women answer this, they'll contradict me, but just trust me). For some reason, about every girl you will ever be with will just have the most intense love for difficult, rhetorical questions. I've actually been asked "Would you still be with me if I had no arms."
The solution: Hope that your gf is smart enough to know her questions are trick questions, and know that you're a guy and you're gonna say something stupid occasionally(or not-so-occasionally). Also, for your answer, just be the sweet guy who can answer a question like that. Bring to mind every tiny thing you like about her. Her preferance for bright colors, the sparkles in her hair, the dorky things she does; the more specific and the more personal, the better. After you've spend sufficient time(no telling how long that is) telling her every little thing you love about her, she might be satisfied, she might be very happy, she might say "That's it?"
Sorry man, this is really a war that us men can't win. The ladies have us pinned in the corner with no way out.
Good luck.
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OK... so...I've been going out with my boyfriend for like 4 and a half months. Weve liked eachother for about a year and a half though. Anyways, to get to the point, I want to know whats "too far"... as far as emotional abuse and whatnot. He has a lot of anger problems, but I definently see why, and dont necessarily blame him. His mom is mean and likes to scream and swear and make her kids (including my bf) feel like complete and total shit. My boyfriend also fools around with his little brothers, and wrestles with them. I think that he treats me like one of his brothers. He is rough with me, and has given me a few bruises. Of course when he realizes he's given me these bruises, he apologizes and feels bad.. but thats beside the point. Also, as much as I love him, when he gets angry, he takes his anger out on me!! I really hate it and feel like screamign back at him when he takes his anger out on me.. but instead, I always take getting yelled at and try to stay calm and help him become calm. Im getting kind of sick of it, but I love him, in fact, I think im in love with him, and I feel like i should be there for him, since his mom doesnt really care.
Just wondering, but am i wrong for thinking that he is semi- abusal?
Like, sometimes i have soo much on my mind.. and my day is just going soo bad.. and it seems like i shouldnt have to deal with his crap TOO.
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Please help! (link)
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You may not like this answer, but I think you should sit him down and tell him everything you just wrote. Perhaps if he hears this and realizes exactly how everything is, he might get a better handle on his anger.
About the abuse, I would say that any time that you feel like your safety is threatened, and you fear for your life/wellbeing, that's too far. If it gets to this point, tell him, if he ignores it, tell somebody who can help you.
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I am applying for a job and the question on the application is:
Why are you interested in working for Dots?
(clothing store)
Okay, somethings I can say about me is that I am extremely outgoing friendly and helpful.... so how can I like put that in the answer making it sound professional?
And I used to work at Six Flags Astroworld at the front gate, I opened and closed the park, greeting and meeting all the guests that came it... mabye this will help too!
I rate! :) Any advice will be GREATLY appreciated!
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You could say something to the effect of you enjoy being around people and you want a job that you can interact and help them find exactly what they want. You could also throw in that you like the clothing as an added little touch.
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Ohk i notcie this big time do you?
When people say they are tottaly in love with boyfriend/girlfriend. for exmaple on myspace in the about me section people say yes im in love with my wonderful boyfirned/girlfriend or they have tons of pictures and him/her the first one on your top eight. But as soon they break up all words and pictures gone .. like he/she fell off the face of the earth.
Is thatplaying around with the words love in anyway? like i still have my ex boyfriends picture up on my myspace and we broke up 7months ago.
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It could either be that they are avoiding the potential pain of looking at their ex, as has already been said, or it could be that they are just throwing around the word 'love.' Unfortunately, people don't seem to have much respect for the word anymore, just like they don't have respect for anything else.
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On that song "Loose control"
why do they say "get your back on the wall"
whats that mean
also what is a "Bizzo"
you can be a bizzo..not to me but to other people and it's not just people..it's actually your friends. think about it.
what does that even mean? (link)
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The lyric "get your backs off the wall" is basically saying get up and dance.
Bizzo is ebonics, I would guess. May be a "bitch."
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ok,(im 14 male and shes 13 female)and we were fooling around the other day.she was on top of me so on so on.I know shes not ready for anything oral or actual sex.I got really "hot and bothered" and i started undoing her pants and it didnt feal right.i asked her "are u sure ur ready"? and she says "I dont know not really but i REALLY want to beacuse i know itll feal good so im not going to stop you" i didnt want her to regret anything we did so i stoped.Did i do the right thing beacuse she says shes not ready but she wants to beacuse itll feal good?and should i ask if shes ready next time it happens? (link)
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You did the right thing. Good job man.
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I've never been a big fan of my nose and I've always thought that if I got plastic surgery, I would look a million times better. I don't want anything huge - just that little bump that some people have in the middle of their nose removed and straightened - but my parents are both against it because of the risks. What kinds of risks are there, exactly, with very minor plastic surgery like this? I understand that it could possibly go wrong but if I go to a surgeon that I KNOW is a good surgeon, wouldn't that eliminate that risk?
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Well, I don't know a whole lot of specifics, but I know a little on the topic.
First off, despite the apparent minor seriousness of the surgery you're considering, it's still very dangerous. I know that one danger is the anesthesia or however they're putting you under. I've heard of many situations when there was a bad reaction to it and I know of a few who have died like this. There's also just the possibility of infection, but that should be greatly minimized with a surgeon who knows what they're doing. However, no matter who you go to, you won't eliminate the risk completely. There will always be a risk.
However, as I said earlier, I don't really know a lot about this, so it'd probably be a good idea for you to see a doctor and ask some questions.
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well i have a friend who like never gives anything on christmas, i mean shes cool and all but just buys stuff for herself. And me and her got in a fight last week and i said sorry and well i dont really like her as a bff or whatever. This year im gonna buy a gift for my bff and well i wanna give it to her in front of the other friend to make her mad. i dont no if shes buying me anything so i dont what to do! i dont really thinks shes all that good fo a friend either! HELP (link)
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This might not be what kind of answer you're looking for, but I would say you really shouldn't do that. The best way to show her your displeasure most definitely isn't something like that. That's really just kind of childish and pointlessly rude. Most likely, she'll find out that you got your other friend a gift, and she'll get the point without you having to be mean to her, but you shouldn't be doing it just to make her mad. As far as her gift giving habits, all I can say is that some people are just selfish.
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I heard about an eating disorder that doesn't have a name. It's supposedly very common. the disorder is not being able to eat in front of other people. I'd just like some information on this... is there a name for it? what is it? and is it even a disorder?
I'm just curious, that's all. (link)
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It's not an eating disorder. It's a social phobia, or possibly a specific phobia(of which I don't know the name).
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i'm doing a project for spanish class and just need to know:
does the euro sign come before or after the amount?
would you write an amount like this 5.00 or 5,00?
i've seen both so i got confused.
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The Euro sign goes before the amount, and you would use 5,00 instead of 5.00. In America we use 5.00, in Europe, they use 5,00.
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Okay, first of all, 18f. Second, some background - there's this guy who had been confusing me, teasing me, making fun of me, and being kind of a (good-natured) asshole to me for about two months. Somewhere along the way, I developed a crush on him...weird, I know. He's different, though. Guys aren't usually able to confuse me like he did. He's intelligent and interesting. That's like, exactly what I need in a guy.
Thing is, he kissed me the other day, and completely gave away the fact that he liked me the night before when we were hanging out...so I didn't exactly push him away.
So I like him, he likes me. That's a big problem for me. I got out of a fairly long term thing in like mid-October, and pretty much decided single was the way to go for me. I've always been kind of a loner and I've felt trapped in relationships before. I didn't like that feeling. I'm almost afraid to end up in anything complicated like a relationship with him 'cause - for one thing - I dont want to lose the friendship if it ends badly. I don't want to feel stuck, or tied down right now, at all. That's totally not what I need.
However, it's a mutual crush. I mean, what better grounds for a relationship?
I just don't know what to do, because I want to be with him but I'm afraid of that trapped feeling, and all that. I don't want to go back on my word to myself (I said I'd stay out of relationships for a long time because I was sick of the complexities and the confusion and drama they always ensue), but if that's the case, why do I want to be with him?
Argh.
My first instinct is to run away from my feelings/from him, but consciously I don't want to do that. AHH. I guess I wanna know what you guys think I should do.
Please lay off the chatspeak/all-caps. Both of those are extremely obnoxious. If I have to read your answer more than once to understand it, you're not getting a five.
Thanks =) (link)
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We all hate that feeling, and I'm sure most of us have felt it at some point, but unfortunately, the only way to completely avoid feelings like that is not to date. I would say that since you both like each other, you should take a chance. However, it would be a good idea to give it a little bit of time first, and take things slow. It's possible that this relationship will turn out bad, but the chance is worth it if the relationship is good. And about losing the friendship if it doesn't work out, an intelligent man won't push you out of his life if you're still being the same person you were before.
Hope I helped.
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Okay, my boyfriends name is Michael, and we've been dating now for almost 2 months. I haven't even hugged him yet! We've cuddled & held hands, but I've never actually gone up and gave him a hug. And I've never done anything with him after that. Today I hugged one of my really good guy friends, and Michael found out about it, and now he's all pissed @ me because I've done more with my best guy friend, then I have with him, supposebly. I don't want him to hate me, but he just signed off of AIM & I'm seriously SAD! He said we can't be together if I don't quit flirting with my best friend. ): Please help!
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Well, I can understand his anger at the fact that yall don't hug but you hugged your friend. However, I don't think that you should have to stop hugging your friend. You need to hug your boyfriend though, and maybe just for a little while don't hug your friend, just explain to your friend that michael didn't like the whole thing and that you need to let him cool down. After you and michael are hugging and holding hands, and cuddling, and whatever else, it wont bother him so much that you're so close to your friend. If he's not ok with it after that, then he's likely to be overcontrolling and maybe even obsessive, which is a whole new bad deal.
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Is there anything that promotes you to get out of bed in the morning? I always feel so miserable getting up, and I need something to jumpstart my mornings. (link)
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For probably 5 years, I've been searching for this answer, because I am the exact way. In the morning, I just feel tired and cold(or really hot) and miserable and I don't feel like doing anything except going back to sleep. Therefore, I'm sorry to inform you that there's really no help for us. When it comes down to it, your body needs a certain amount of sleep, and if it doesn't get that amount, it won't feel good. When you're getting up, the only way you're gonna feel good is if you're getting up for something that you want to do. If it's school or work, chances are, unless you love your workplace, you're not gonna be happy getting up.
If you're interested, I do have a technique that won't let you just hit the snooze and go back to sleep. Don't put your alarm by your bed. Put the alarm across the room, as far as it can be while still able to wake you up. This will make you get up and walk across the room to turn the alarm off, which will help a lot to wake you up. After that, you could always try jumping into a cold shower. Most unpleasant, but very effective. However, this really just comes down to willpower. Unless if you're resulting to drugs, this is really the only kind of thing that will work.
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Are you in the military, and how old are you? Just curious. (link)
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I'm not in the military yet. I'm 16 but I already know that I'm joining the Corps. I'm going to college first, then I'm going to OCS and I'll spend probably 4 years active and as long as I can reserve.
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ok. i say labels should be between a soup can and its wrapper. im NOT A GOTH and im NOT PUNK! i hate labels. and i wish theyd stop. how do i get people to see im not a goth or anything,but keep my style of clothing and stuff. please dont say dont worry abt what people think. even my own friends call me emo
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If you wear the clothing of an 'emo,' you're going to have a hard time convincing people that you're not. If you wear the clothing and you act like it, then you are. You shouldn't hate labels, labels are nothing more than statistics. Labels are formed because they are the majority. If you're so afraid of being put under a label, then there is some deeper lying emotional problems here.
Lastly, if your friends, who know you past what you wear, call you emo; you're probably emo.
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when people say word what are they replacing ? what does it mean ? yes I know im kind of slow when it comes to these. I'll rate (link)
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You're probably white, you don't need to know what it means. You shouldn't be using it, you're not expected to know it, you'll just complicate things by knowing about it. Don't worry about it.
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Okay here it goes it may be a long one this time..
For starters I'm a 18/f I have been dating this guy he is 22 for 5 1/2 months. On my birthday he asked me to marry him. I said yes. Well that next week when we got home we got into a little argument which is normal and he said u know what i never even fell in love with u. Right when he said that my heart broke. I was totally in love with this guy you know ? Okay so then the next day he loves me again..hes like playing games with me. Well then i get a phone call from this guy i have known since march and had a total crush on well hes looking for a serious relationship and he is like totally falling for me. But i dunno what to do. Should i stay with the guy and fuss and have him play games with me or get to know this other guy ? I so need help !!!! (link)
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You're probably not going to like hearing this, but I don't think you're ready for marriage. Just the fact that you had to ask that question shows that you're not ready for the long-term commitment of marriage. I hope you'll listen, and I hope I helped.
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