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Okay, my boyfriends name is Michael, and we've been dating now for almost 2 months. I haven't even hugged him yet! We've cuddled & held hands, but I've never actually gone up and gave him a hug. And I've never done anything with him after that. Today I hugged one of my really good guy friends, and Michael found out about it, and now he's all pissed @ me because I've done more with my best guy friend, then I have with him, supposebly. I don't want him to hate me, but he just signed off of AIM & I'm seriously SAD! He said we can't be together if I don't quit flirting with my best friend. ): Please help!
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well first off, it's normal to "do" more things with your best guy friend then with your boyfriend..see this reminds me of an experience i went through..see i was going out with this guy devin and had been like 2-3 months and all me and him did was hold hands and thats it..but i had this best friend joel and me and him like hugged everytime we saw each other and it felt like devin was jealous..see my thing was i dont know why exactly but i felt more comfotable hugging joel then i did with devin cause i was nervous.. if this is some what close to what your feeling just tell your boy friend that you are nervous with him because you like him so much but yet with your guy friend you dont feel the same because you don't like him like that...just kind of explain it like that and if he still rejects you and what ever leave him..i know you don't want to but if he gets jealous over you hugging your guy friend even when you explain it then he isn't worth your time because he doesn't want to give you the time of day type of thing...well i hope i have helped good luck byebye
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Well, I can understand his anger at the fact that yall don't hug but you hugged your friend. However, I don't think that you should have to stop hugging your friend. You need to hug your boyfriend though, and maybe just for a little while don't hug your friend, just explain to your friend that michael didn't like the whole thing and that you need to let him cool down. After you and michael are hugging and holding hands, and cuddling, and whatever else, it wont bother him so much that you're so close to your friend. If he's not ok with it after that, then he's likely to be overcontrolling and maybe even obsessive, which is a whole new bad deal.
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Hey, it takes two. Why hasn't he hugged you yet? I think he's just pissed that he hasn't stopped being a cowardly whiny little boy like your friend has. It's a fucking hug!! Who cares?! It's not like you blew the guy! If you really care about staying in this with him I suggest not hugging your friend anymore, but I personally think it's BS if you can't hug your friend, as long as you know that your intentions were good...he just sounds too controlling.
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