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Does anyone else think this was really mean?
I was really upset about something a guy friend (or so I thought) did to me.
Well I have a mental illness (schizophrenia) and am on a small disablility pension. I don't just sit around on my ass, I volunteer at the food bank and other places to keep me busy.
Well I went to visit my friend at his work one day. And all of a sudden, for no reason at all he starts saying the meanest things to me, like that I was living off the system and wasnt going to better my life. When I started crying and said he was being judgemental he said "you needed to hear this", in the meanest voice.
I havent been back to see him and he hasnt phoned to apologize. I even heard that he has been talking to his friends about me spazzing out.
Why he is being so mean? Do I have a right to be upset or am I overeacting? And should I even give him a second chance?
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Hmm hun if you have a disorder he should not have said that stuff to you. Especially if you are working at the food bank. However he may of had a bad day..but then he should of called. So maybe give the guy one more chance?
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WHAT AN ASSHOLE! That is utterly mean rude and every other freakin bad thing! You are so not over reacting you need to go over to his work and kick his ass! Obviously he isnt your friend if he's talking about you behind your back, or in front of your face! He doesn't deserve a second chance! You have more than a right to be mad! That makes me mad! Guys are retards! But, I guess he doesn't want to be known as the guy thats friends with someone that's mental ((no offense))
Anyway,...if nothin else kick his ass
♥Paige
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If someone had been nice to me and then all of a sudden for seemingly no reason turned into a total fucktard, I would be done. I would be hurt and pissed, but I wouldn't even attempt to find out why. That is just me, though. For the most part I don't have to have closure. It is what it is and that is enough for me.
Or if you really wanted to talk to him do what I would do...
Hide some raw meat under his couch. By the time he realizes it's there, it will be too late!
No, I am kidding, mostly that was to hopefully make you laugh. I in no way endorse hiding raw meat in people's couches. Everyone knows the meat is better hidden behind the TV.
Again, don't do anything mean, you would be like him. The thing that makes you better than that is, that, you have feelings.
He hurt them and no longer gets to be your friend. Punishment enough right? Right.
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if he was making fun of you for having a mental illness, then why should you give him a second chance. maybe hes not a real good friend. if he really card, he wouldnt tell everyone that your spazing out, hed call you up and apologize for what he did to you. if i was you, i wouldnt give him a second chance. he doesnt sound too nice
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He's being mean because he's a jackass! >=(. I fucking hate guys like that. Yes, of course you have the right to be upset. I would. A guy who you thought was your friend, they wouldn't say that. NO..don't give him a second chance. He hurted you to the point that it made you cry. =( He shouldn't be given a second chance.
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He is being really mean. Maybe he is just jealous because you have that pension and he has to work. You definitely have a right to be upset, what kind of friend says that? Wait until he apologizes to give him a second chance, up until then, don't even talk to him.
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I think you have a right to be upset. His words were unkind and uncalled for. The fact that he not only said it to you, but is talking about you is wrong in my opinion. No one knows what it is to live with a condition such as yours until they have experienced it themself.
Personally, I wouldn't give him a second chance unless he apologized and I'd be wary of it even then. A true friend wouldn't tell you something because "you needed to hear this" unless they knew all the facts and even then, they should do it in a friendly manner, not trashing you the way this guy has.
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This guy absolutely does NOT sound like a friend to me. Too many people don't understand the reasoning behind Disability benefits, but MOST of those people don't go around saying ugly and mean things about people who desperately need this kind of help. The "system" was designed especially for people like you and thank God this sort of help is available or we'd have more homeless people wandering around aimlessly than we already do. Many of those people have mental illnesses and were not able to get help from the "system" for one reason or another and it's really an injustice.
The other thing is that he obviously does not know or understand anything about schizophrenia. But that doesn't really matter. What DOES matter is that he's making fun of your illness and that is so not what a friend does! I don't care if he doesn't know a thing about your illness, he has no business trashing you or your illness to anyone. What a royal jerk.
Unfortunately, too many people think that everyone who gets help from the government is cheating the government and yes, there are those who do. But, there are so many people who truly need help from the government and there is no shame in that at all. Perhaps he doesn't understand that you're getting disability but you're able to so some kind of work, i.e., volunteering. He obviously does not understand that many people on disability are able to work, but not the length of hours, or the type of work others do. Some days are great, and some days are horrible. Being able to work is not a consistent and reliable thing for most people with disabilities. Sounds like he thinks you're on a free ride and he's probably jealous, no matter how misguided he is. And believe me, this guy IS misguided in oh so many ways.
Stay away from this guy. You don't need him. You don't need the stress of having him in your life. You're dealing with enough as it is. I wish you much luck and hope that you're able to be happy and content with whatever you need and decide to do. Congratulations on getting disability benefits! It can be one rough process to go through and it doesn't always work out for the people who really, really need it. I'm very happy that you were approved for these benefits! You obviously need them and hooray for the "system" in seeing that!
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I like the idea of hitting him, and all. What he said was wrong. but think of it this way, you were visiting him at his JOB. I'm not saying anything agaisnt you, but the only reason your able to visit is because you don't have to work. He could have been irritated by that. Just lye low for a while, don't talk to him. Things will come around.
Good Luck!
Dr. Minkus
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what is wrong with this guy........what is his problem....he seriously needs to be slapped a few times in the face then punched....i wonder why you didnt. your not over reacting he is the jerkoff who couldnt keep his mouth shut.. just ignore him and dont talk to him at all . but if it was me and someone was saying all that crap infront of me i would have had him on the ground crying and begging for mercy.....ok well no but i woulkd have made him feel bad from all the stuff i would have said. and he talks about u so what ignore him why should a bunch of words bother you....you will do fine.....good luck
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