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ok well ive liked this gurl ever since iv known her, 4th grade, and i used to try an make her laugh to like me, well now were older, im 13 adn so is she, so yah i mean at this age we have alot of emotions and dk about things, but we went out over the summer adn had our first kiss.. but she left me the next week for a guy she supposably 'loved' but now thinks is a fag, and well then after a while we both saw other people, my g/f broke up with me a few months ago, for total confusin, and the gurl ive known since 4th grade , just broke up wiht her b/f lets say a wekk or so ago i dk soon lol, wel before she broke up wiht her b/f she said she had feelings for me, and she couldnt choose who, and then she told me she had ben lying baout her b/f to me for months, and it was rele a kid from my class, but any way so i had thot i liked this other gurl, but then like i went over to hmm lets call her sarah(gurl since 4th grade)s house last night, we watched movies in her basment , and soon enough we wer makin out on her couch, like for what seemed like hours, and i truely love her so much, i rele care about her, shes my life(im not a stalker just care about her ok) and well today i talked to her, adn well she sais she just wants to be freinds wit benifets.... and i mean im ok wiht htat kissin her and stuff, but i rele rele want her, i want to go out wiht her , i want to be with her, but she sais that shes scared to go out with me, because shes scared she'l hurt me like she did in the summer , so i just said, oh ok yah thats cool, so now the gurl who i had a crush on before might ask me out , or somthn i dont know, but i dk what to do, 'sarah' sais if an opportunity comes for a g/f that i had to promise to go for it, because she thinks that i need somone better for me, but i cant, i wont , no1 is better for me, i mean we have so much chemistry, and were closer than anyone ive ever ben wiht , no lie, we are like so close we know we care about eachother even as freinds, but i know what i want, and i think that she might be scared , scared of hurting me, scared of gettin close, to close to fal in love wit somone, so yah, i mean, idk im just gonna wait, theres nothin i can do, so thats y i came here
-waht can i do to show her not to be affraid but to take a chance, shes different than she was in the summer, and to take a chance and be able to be happy, because i know shes not, she knows shes not, but i thinnk she was happy last night , ..so was i... wel i rele love her, adn i wanna know some tips on what to do to go overboard for her and i need somthin to get her, to make her need me like i need her, ill rate huge for even an answer at all!
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HEY!! well..first of all i think that you should learn to tell the truth to girls!! you cant just say one girl is your life and when she dumps you turn around and say another chick is your life!..and you cant always get wat you want! even though you persuaded certain people! into going out with you after they said they didnt want to! because they were scared!...but noooo.. i guess its ok if missy..i mean "sarah" doesnt want to go out with you!!! But then i say i dont wanna go out with you because Im scared you'll hurt me!! but then you persuade me into it!!!...You couldnt have waited at least another week! just went right ahead and persuaded me and said you wouldnt hurt me!..and all other crap! and even though it werent your intentions to hurt me.. YOU DID!! and even though you may not have truly loved me.. i did truly love you.. and i hate myself for it..because its starting to show that you are a liar..! you lie to girls so you can feel loved!!...at least thats what im getting out of this question and your livejournal..First i think missy was your life, then she left you..then you say im your life..then i leave you...now missy is your life again..but she doesnt want you..then you want me again! and i take you back! and then you leave me..for missy!!..i mean "sarah" i dont know if you truly love me and "sarah" and cant decide.. or if you are screwed up in the head! but im believing that its the second option!..well idk. i just couldnt believe you left me, after all the stuff you said to me,senayit, margaret..all people you talk to about loving me so much... i just cant believe it, because even though you cant make up your mind if you want me or missy,, my mind is already made up.. i want you.. and i truly do mean it when i said i loved you...i may not show it.. but its true on the inside..theres no doubt in my mind about that..and i thought there was no doubt in your mind that you truly loved me too..but.. i was wrong.. oh so very very wrong..and the thing is you became my dream guy again.. thats the only place i can have you..is in my dreams.. and i have a feeling that im only going to get to have you in my dreams for a long time..theres nothin i can do...oh thats the biggest lie i ever made....there is somethin i can do... i can keep trying to get you back, but that'd be pointless, because you have missy, and i guess i'll always be jealous of her.. she has the one thing that i want..the one thing that makes me happy, that makes me feel good inside.. that makes me feel good about myself, the one thing that could change my bad mood into a good mood by just saying hi..the one thing that i cant live without..the one thing that makes my life complete..the one thing i truly love..
*the one and only*
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its 11 oclock at night and im eatin donuts.
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ok i ddint read all of it but if she really loved you she would of never of dumped you for another guy something like this has hapend to me and eevryone said that i was too good for this guy so you too good for her dont sell yoursef sort .go out wiht other people not her shes had her cance and played with your heart shes gana keep doing somethink like that .to me i think shes a bitch im sorry if you still have feelings for her but i would not go out wiht her
HOPE I HELPED
LOVE<3333333
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well maybe you should make a move on her and see how she reacts.. and if shes scared to fall in love, or get close to someone, you should just give her time and see waht happens. if you two are really meant to be then you will be together. i hope i helped and i hope everything goes good for you.. mandy
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dear reader,
i dont no why " sara" doesnt like you. you sound like a perfect boyfriend. a loyal, loving boyfriend. you would be a guy i would be looking for, but she may have a reason. all girls don't like having serious relationships at 13. they like to be able to mingle and be single and spend time with friends instead of her boyfriends all the time. you may be able to try just asking her why she doesnt like you. maybe you could fix it. if she was making out with you she has to like you some or shes just a very friendly friend.lol. maybe shes ust not the one for you. it could b a sign. if you love her maybe you should see what she likes in a guy or else maybe move on to other girls. maybe shell see how loving u r and want you back. try it.
sincerely, your helper
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I'm not scared and i dont need anything so i'll ttyl about it-
Missy well apparently "sarah" too lol
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Mmk. I've had EVERY word of this except. I'm a girl. I was in your same position. And kinda/sorta still Have itt. Alls I have to say is can you make her PROVE that she likes you?.. like does people know she likes you or is like a lets keep this on the DL kinda thing. cuz if it's a lets keep this on the DL kinda thing i think she likes kissing you :p Uhmm. well, If She doesn't like you for who you are it's not worth it... if you have to go buy soemthing to prove you really really like her don't. I know. ALOT of people probaly say this to you. butt. there is AMILLION other girls out there. and yeah, i'll admit, you've liked her for awhile, but you'll adventually start liking some one else more. Mmk? I hope i helpedddd<3
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I apologize for any harshness you percieve:
I'm going to tell you something. You are the back-up guy.
The guy who is a friend, who is like a boyfriend, just without most benefits. She's taking this a step further with the Friends With Benefits thing. But in all honesty, you're the guy she runs to when she's been hurt by other guys.
Maybe she is really just scared. But most people would want to take a risk, just to make themselves happy. She dated all those other guys... so why not you?
I'm not saying this couldn't turn into a relationship, if you wanted to wait it out. Refuse to be in a friends with benefits relationship with her. Tell her you want more than that. If she still insists on being friends.. there's not much you can do.
Don't press the issue of being in a relationship. Try to do something sweet every once in a while, just when she really needs a lift. Don't get into a relationship with her, unless it's the relationship you want.
So what I'm getting from all of this is that she's not dating you because she's afraid she'll hurt you again. Which means she's not sure about how (or how strongly) she feels for you.
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Okay, so you really love this girl and she really loves you. What you should do is like tell her what you told us but in diferent words, and without the story(of coarse). Pretty much what you have to do is tell her that she is who you want and no one else. tell her that she could never hurt you, and that even if she did that she would have still taken the risk. Also that she hurt you once and you still loved her, if she does it again, you will still love her. Tell her that if she doesn't take the chance that she will regrett it later. She will always wonder what would have happened if she had gone out with you that last time. Tell her that you love her and that you could never go out with another person because you would be lieing to yourself, the girl, and her and that you could never do that. ( just to let you know, you should probably say this in your own words, so that it sounds like something you are saying not me! and you should try to catch her at a meaningfull time, like the other night, that was special, so use that to get her to understand that you lover her! You two sound like you are ment for eachother, or that you are going to be very important people in eachother's lives. Don't let her slip through your fingers, you might regrett it later...) I hope that I helped and remember that my inbox is always open. Thanks!
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Hello there,
Personally, I don't think a girl should be forced to fall in love or like any guy.
But you're saying that she likes you but is afraid of taking risks , right?
The only thing to say is : Life is boring without any risks. What's life without risks?
At this age, taking risks should be part of a teenager's routine; it depends on the risk though.
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