It means he's a jerk, and you should move on. Because someday, he'll be bald and fat and ugly, working at Q-mart (rip off of K-mart) with glasses that devour his face, eyebrows to nostrils, one of which happens to have a finger that seems permanently glued to the inside of it.

Then you can ask him who the geek is.

People are more likely to express thier opinions online- whether they be true or false, the world will never know.

It's your decision whether or not you still want to be friends with him. Personally, if I knew Matt (

First of all... wow, what an arse.

Anyway, end it with the arse before dating the new guy. Leave a message on his cell phone, e-mail him, or find some other tactless way to break up with him. Just for wasting your time with him.

You should allow him (and the new guy) the decency of ending one relationship before beginning another.

Never feel guilty that a jerk is being a jerk.

To you, this could sound harsh, and if it does, I apologize:

So your friend told him how you feel about him, and you asked him out.

No! No, no, no, no, no!

Please, let the guy do the hard work. And let yourself at least have the great opportunity of saying "No." when the guy asks you out. (or "Yes." depending on said guy.)

It sounds old fashioned, but chasing after a guy is really no fun. Especially when he turns you down.

If he asks you out, you know for a fact he's interested.

He already knows your feelings, and has done nothing about them. Which is basically his way of saying "I don't like you that way."

So find a guy who will go on a double date with you.. or not a double date, as you like to call it. It's easier than it sounds.

Just because you've liked him a long time, doesn't mean you have to keep on making the same mistake. And if he's not interested, then that's his mistake.

Either Blake hasn't gotten around to checking his e-mail yet, or he's avoiding telling you how he really feels.

If it's the second option, that's a bad thing.

Don't dwell on that though, find something better to do (like watch TV, or play video games, or not wait around your computer). He checks his e-mail everyday. He'll get around to reading your e-mail.

If not today, then tommorow. And if you don't get a response, just ask him if he got your e-mail. If he didn't, and he's curious about what it said, then tell him in person.

Telling a guy in person is always better anyway.

If he just said no, then chances are he did read it, and doesn't want to tell you that he doesn't have feelings for you. You can either:

-Tell him you'll resend it, if you really believe he didn't get the email.
-Or say the ever classic "Oh, okay." and drop it.

Hope you get your e-mail.

You shouldn't feel like you're in a competition with Kayleigh: Tuckerman already has a girlfriend, who is neither one of you.

Not that Tuckerman deserves either of you anyway. He sounds like a dirtbag.

He called you fat?! And you like him!? Have some self-respect! You deserve far better than him. And you will find someone far better than him, if you start looking.

If you seriously can't stop flirting with Tuckerman, I suggest you stop talking to him. At all. Especially if he's insulting you.

As for the zodiac thing, that means you can have a great, balanced relationship with any guy who was born between late April and early May.

Keep your self-esteem. Ditch the loser.(...Tuckerman.)

If you want to forget your feelings, get busy. Time and Love are the only things that can heal a wounded heart, and time flies when you're having fun... with other guys, who don't call you fat!

Gosh, you need to slap that kid for me.

I apologize for any harshness you percieve:

I'm going to tell you something. You are the back-up guy.

The guy who is a friend, who is like a boyfriend, just without most benefits. She's taking this a step further with the Friends With Benefits thing. But in all honesty, you're the guy she runs to when she's been hurt by other guys.

Maybe she is really just scared. But most people would want to take a risk, just to make themselves happy. She dated all those other guys... so why not you?

I'm not saying this couldn't turn into a relationship, if you wanted to wait it out. Refuse to be in a friends with benefits relationship with her. Tell her you want more than that. If she still insists on being friends.. there's not much you can do.

Don't press the issue of being in a relationship. Try to do something sweet every once in a while, just when she really needs a lift. Don't get into a relationship with her, unless it's the relationship you want.

So what I'm getting from all of this is that she's not dating you because she's afraid she'll hurt you again. Which means she's not sure about how (or how strongly) she feels for you.

I apologize if you think I'm being mean in any way:

Church boy is a little too touchy-feely... have you told him to get off of you, or stop completely. If he's not listening, then guess what I'm going to tell you to do? Ditch him. Why? He's just shown you he has no respect for you, and is only after one specific thing.

As for "Cody", he may have the worst girlfriend in the world, at least from your point of view. But, obviously he doesn't think she's so bad. You can't really do anything about Cody dating this girl. If she's truly as horrible as you say, maybe he'll realize that, dump her, and date you. You can wait it out, though I don't think it's a good idea to wait anything out.

Why waste your time?

I'm apologizing for percieved harshness now:

You count the times you went out with him. I'll count the times you all broke up. He broke your heart three times. Isn't that enough for one year?

You haven't seen him in four months, he likes other girls, and you're constantly depressed. Is this really what you want in a relationship? He may like you, but truthfully, he doesn't feel the same way you do about him.

Actions speak louder than words. And by his actions, he's trying to tell you that he doesn't like you, no matter what he says... in this kind of situation, it doesn't matter what you feel for him. Get out, before you get more love-sick than you already are.

Find something else to do, don't think about him. Keep busy, and over time, you'll begin to get over him. It takes a while, but it works. And then you'll find a new, great, amazing guy.

I mean, I did.

I apologize for any percieved harshness:

If he liked you, he would ask you out. You told him how you felt, and he got mad at you. That's pretty much a sign that he still has feelings for his girlfriend.

Even if he does get jealous of other guys, it doesn't mean he's over his girlfriend. Even if she's moved to another country, and he realizes that he's in love with you, she's still his girlfriend. Do you know what that means?

You can't be.

Dreams don't predict the future. Back off, and leave this guy alone... he doesn't like you. You can be his friend, but go find another guy, without a girlfriend (in this country or not!)

EDIT::

You're right. I don't know you OR him. But I do know that he has a girlfriend.

Why yes. In fact, I am...

I love you too! I'll see you then, I can't wait!!

I'll apologize for percieved harshness:

Interesting.

He breaks up with his girlfriend, who he can't shut up about, makes out with you, says he's going to ask you out, but doesn't.

Do you know why?

He isn't over that other girl. So guess what that makes you.

Rebound girl.

You can accept or reject this position in his life. He could grow to like you, sure, if you're willing to stay unhappy for that long of a time. Even if/when you're with him, you won't really be with him. His heart is with some other girl.

Keep that in mind when you make your decision. Just because he kisses you doesn't mean he feels anything for you. And just because he tells someone else that he's going to ask you out, doesn't mean he's actually going to.

But if you seriously want to date him, wait it out. Don't do anything with him at that time. See what happens.

I'll apologize for percieved harshness:

To get down to business... If he liked you, who do you think he'd be writing those notes to? If he liked you, who do you think he'd be trying to date? (YOU. not your friends.) He's flirting with you, sure.. but he's probably not serious about it. If he was, he'd be chasing after/writing to you.

He doesn't like you if he's writing love notes to your friends. It just doesn't work that way.

Or maybe he's the chosen one who is going to change all of that.

Either way, don't waste any more time on a guy who only notices your friends. Three years.. gosh. Get over him, for real this time. I don't care what nicknames he calls you, or what he flicks at you. Get over him.

I apologize for harshness:

If he has a girlfriend, it was a fling. Sorry to say, but you just helped a guy cheat on a most likely still clueless girl.

Good job.

You should try to find this stuff out in the future, before you go around falling in like with a guy. Much less, kissing him!

It doesn't matter whether or not you like him, or he likes you. Fact is, he's taken, and he's not doing anything to change that, so why should you?

Apologizing for being harsh. now.:

I'm going to tell you something that'll probably hurt you, and wound your ego. He doesn't like you. If he did, you'd be dating him. He knows you like him, but he's not doing anything about it. That should be a sign. You can make excuses for that, or you could face the facts. That's right-- guys actually LIKE getting what they want (in this case, that would be you.)

There's nothing wrong with you. I think you're realizing that you don't like him as much as you thought you did. You liked him because you couldn't have him. That made your emotions dramatic, which usually intensifies them.

Basically what I'm telling you is to forget about dating this guy. Ever. And find yourself a guy that you can actually have!

I apologize because you will percieve harshness in this answer:

DON'T COUNT THE TIMES YOU'VE GOTTEN BACK TOGETHER WITH A SLIMEBUCKET!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Gosh.

Count the times you've broken up, and he's broken your heart. You know why you got back together after 2-3 months? Because he was out there, looking for another "better" girlfriend. When he didn't find one, he came crawling back to you.

You know why you never talk to him alone, or why he's never at home, making an effort to call you? Because he doesn't care about you as much as you care about him. It's a hard pill to swallow, but it's true. You could tell him about it. Maybe I'm wrong, maybe he'll start trying, but I doubt it.

I don't know what's with the insecurity thing of him cheating on you, but I'm not going to insult instinct.

My advice is to dump him. And this time, for good. I know it's hard, because you obviously like this guy a lot. But if he's not making an effort, the relationship is doomed to fail (as it has so many times before).

I apologize for any harsness you percieve in this answer:

I'd like to point out that he can't cheat on you because you guys are BROKEN UP! As in, there's nothing you can do about it.

As a mean and honest person, I'll tell you what he meant by the fact that he's going into highschool. He found another girl, not a better one, just another one. I know that because of the profile thing, and because that's the stupidest, most overused excuse ever. It's not like you're forbidden to see him outside of school. Er, well, now you are. I FORBID YOU!

Tons of things. Just get your mind off of it, and eventually you won't have time to think of it. School, work, friends, teams, clubs... you name it, you do it!! Don't dwell on it, and you'll find someone else. Don't wait until you get into highschool either, or else...(dun dun dunnn)

I apologize for any harshness percieved:

Don't mess around with a guy you're not going out with! That's the stupidest thing you can do, I'm telling you now! You're giving him some of the benefits of his being your boyfriend, without the responsibility. (I understand that it can go two ways, but you said you want a real relationship..)

Go out with him, and refuse to do anything with him for a week, or more (if the relationship lasts that long)... he might say something about it, but if he doesn't dump you, it means he probably has some real feelings for you. But if he keeps pestering you about it, dump him. Don't do anything you feel uncomfortable with.

You can tell that they're not using you when you don't jump into anything with them. Be a guy's friend first! Make sure they know your personality before they know your body.

Lol, I'll tell you what's not normal.

I'm sixteen years old. I've had a boyfriend for three years now. We still haven't made out.

Know why? Because we're saving ourselves for our marriage, and we're old fashioned people.

Don't feel pressured to make out. It'll happen when it happens (if you want it to)... and don't worry about being a bad kisser or a prude or a slut. Do what you feel is right, and if people can't deal with that, it's not really any of thier business anyway. You know, unless they want to make out with you...

If you want a guy not to get creeped out and hate you when you tell him how you feel, I have advice for you!

Be friends with him first. If you don't know him that well, get to know him. Through IM, phone, dating, or just hanging out, however you want to. Then, when you think the time's right, tell him how you feel.

Or take the chicken's way out and ask him if he likes anyone.

ADDITION:

Ask for his screen name. Call him to check up on things for camp, keep it casual. I'm pretty shy too, so I know how hard it is to go up and start randomly talking to people. But sometimes, you have to. Just start talking to him about something. If he wears band t-shirts, just randomly call out that that band is awesome (If you know who they are.. and listen to them..) that's a good way to meet people, I think.

As for the whole sending out a message that you're kind of interested thing, well that's something you want to do. Subtly, but not outright "I like you!" Flirt sometimes, and talk to him! you can do it!

You sound older. You probably want advice from someone that is older. I'll tell you about my parents, but you have to promise not to say "aww" or "I'm so sorry." Here it goes:

I have a mom, a dad, an ex-step mom (Katie), 2 step sisters (Emily, Gia), a half brother (Tyler), a half sister (Heather), two brothers (Andrew, Cody) and a sister (Shannon).

It started out with my dad and mom. They got married, and had my brothers (they're twins) Andrew and Cody. There were problems in thier marriage, they didn't have enough money, and my Mom couldn't work because she was pregnant with me, and my Dad was working at a belt factory, making about 3 dollars an hour.

Well, they ended up losing the house because of debts, and my Mom left with Andrew, Cody and me (I was born by that time) and moved us out to Washington. That lasted a year, and she decided to take us back to Maine, because she missed my father. My Dad welcomed us back into his one room apartment, but when my Mom found out he was having an affair (Katie) she left him, so it was back to Washington for us. This time, it wasn't a seperation, it was divorce.

Katie. I hate her, but I'll try to do her justice. She had two children by that point with her husband, John. Known as Emily, and Gia. Emily's older than me, Gia's a month or so younger. John died of alcohol poisining, then she met my Dad. The affair had started when my Mom left Maine, and ended at my parent's divorce. My Dad married Katie, and had my half-sister, Heather. Katie left my Dad, in hope of someone richer, to support both herself and Heather. He called my Mom a couple of times, but mostly she was at work (she was a nurse, now), or out with her boyfriend, who was a doctor.

My Dad was crushed. But he decided to turn his life around because of it. He sold almost everything he owned, and quit his job at the belt factory once he found a new job (It was at a college, I won't tell you which one, but he was a janitor). Why did he do all of that? So he could actually study at the college he worked at. He got an associate degree in something-or-other (I don't know what it would be.) but, he now has a job working with computers. My Mom heard the good news, and decided to dump her new boyfriend and come home. Why? She said she loved him.

She came back, but the only problem was, now she was pregnant, with Tyler. She had him, and then began to work at the hospital down town. They saved money for ten years, (I was 12) and they finally bought a house in a new neighborhood, with money to spare on child support.

The moral of this very long story is that if you stick together, things work out. If you really love him, and he really loves you, you have to find a way to make it work.

But if he ever cheats on you with Katie, live by my Mom's motto. "Forgive, but never forget." and bring it up when your mad at him. Lol, you don't really have to do that, I just thought it was random.

Love hurts. That's why I'm here to explain to you exactly what your significant other (or hopefully significant other) means, truthfully and unfortunately painfully.

In other words, I'm not going to tell you what you want to hear, unless I really believe it could happen.

If you don't believe me, well, I can give you proof. My way of thinking worked for me and my wonderful boyfriend of three years (I love you Matt!)

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