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Money
Money problems with the man that I love. He has steep child support that is deducted from his checks weekly. He works as a checker 40 hrs a week. I am supporting him and myself and my three boys. If he gets any money from his checks it is usually between 20 and 80 dollars depending on union dues and such. with what money he gets from his check, he fills up his truck with gas and gives me what is left. I make about 1200 a month, and we live in a small two bedroom duplex. My question is should I tuff it out, and stay with him? I know we will never live in a nice big house, drive nice vehicles, and have stuff. We will always have to scrimp and save. He treats me with respect, and loves me. Or should I move on and hope to find another man that will treat me as good that makes more money?
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Money doesnt make happiness. Let me tell you that right now. Money is only a material posession, but love will take you farther. Money is able to run out, love will never die. If it were me in that situation, as hard as it may seem, and getting by seems impossible. If you've found a man that treats you with respect and loves you for who you are then stay with it and tough it out. Then again its all up to you, but I believe that love conqueres material posessions. Life always gets better. Keep that in mind and keep your head up.
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as long as you love him money shouldnt matter.becasue if you leave him and meet someone rich they might not treat you with the same respect as your luver now does. i think true love and respect could out-do wealth ANY day.hope i helped XoXo
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It sounds like you would rather have a man to take care of you than a man to love. If you truely did love this man, then the thought of leaving him to find someone wealthier wouldn't even occur to you.
And how likely do you think your odds are of finding a good and wealthy man willing to take on you and your boys?
Instead of worring about money, worry about the man and his character. Is he someone you want to spend your life with? If not, then leave him. Don't make it about money.
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dont dump him listen he already has enough shit to deal with let alone losing the love of his life just stay with him you never know something good could happen he could get promoted or find a better job and make more money just stay with him and tuff it out
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If having a big house and nice things is something that's important to you, then you need to sit down and talk to this guy. There are plenty more jobs out there that pay more money than checkers. Although he does give you what money is left, I think he should make more of an effort to help. Of course if you don't mind supporting the entire family, then there is no problem.
If you think you can be happy sacrificing the nice stuff for your love and that you won't feel resentful that you're the sole support of the relationship, then I see no problem with staying with him.
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If you truely have to ask this question then I don't believe you really love him and that you should find another man. <3Beth
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Stay with him. You cannot put a price on love, and at the same time would pay whatever you could to have someone trully loves you as he does. Tough it out, you will both appreciate it later. Good luck.
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You sound older. You probably want advice from someone that is older. I'll tell you about my parents, but you have to promise not to say "aww" or "I'm so sorry." Here it goes:
I have a mom, a dad, an ex-step mom (Katie), 2 step sisters (Emily, Gia), a half brother (Tyler), a half sister (Heather), two brothers (Andrew, Cody) and a sister (Shannon).
It started out with my dad and mom. They got married, and had my brothers (they're twins) Andrew and Cody. There were problems in thier marriage, they didn't have enough money, and my Mom couldn't work because she was pregnant with me, and my Dad was working at a belt factory, making about 3 dollars an hour.
Well, they ended up losing the house because of debts, and my Mom left with Andrew, Cody and me (I was born by that time) and moved us out to Washington. That lasted a year, and she decided to take us back to Maine, because she missed my father. My Dad welcomed us back into his one room apartment, but when my Mom found out he was having an affair (Katie) she left him, so it was back to Washington for us. This time, it wasn't a seperation, it was divorce.
Katie. I hate her, but I'll try to do her justice. She had two children by that point with her husband, John. Known as Emily, and Gia. Emily's older than me, Gia's a month or so younger. John died of alcohol poisining, then she met my Dad. The affair had started when my Mom left Maine, and ended at my parent's divorce. My Dad married Katie, and had my half-sister, Heather. Katie left my Dad, in hope of someone richer, to support both herself and Heather. He called my Mom a couple of times, but mostly she was at work (she was a nurse, now), or out with her boyfriend, who was a doctor.
My Dad was crushed. But he decided to turn his life around because of it. He sold almost everything he owned, and quit his job at the belt factory once he found a new job (It was at a college, I won't tell you which one, but he was a janitor). Why did he do all of that? So he could actually study at the college he worked at. He got an associate degree in something-or-other (I don't know what it would be.) but, he now has a job working with computers. My Mom heard the good news, and decided to dump her new boyfriend and come home. Why? She said she loved him.
She came back, but the only problem was, now she was pregnant, with Tyler. She had him, and then began to work at the hospital down town. They saved money for ten years, (I was 12) and they finally bought a house in a new neighborhood, with money to spare on child support.
The moral of this very long story is that if you stick together, things work out. If you really love him, and he really loves you, you have to find a way to make it work.
But if he ever cheats on you with Katie, live by my Mom's motto. "Forgive, but never forget." and bring it up when your mad at him. Lol, you don't really have to do that, I just thought it was random.
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love is always more important than money and as long as you both are happy and in love what else do you need at least you still have food and stil have a home ... sometimes like and be hard sometimes realllly hard but thats what you have each other for to make life a tiny bit eaiser cause think about it money cant buy happyness but love can...
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I think that if you really love him then you should stay with him because fancy stuff is nothing unless you are sharing them with someone that you love. If you can't be happy with having someone that really loves you leave him but you might not find someone else that loves you as much as he did.
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If you really do love him, i think you should "tuff" it out. Things might work out. Love can be hard at times, my parents are going through a hard time but i know they love eachother and they will do whatever they think is best for me. I know i'm young but trust me, if you really do this man, you will be with him through the hard times and the good times.
-I hoped I helped and i hope i didn't confuse you in anyway.
~I really do hope this works out for the best~
ps. remember God is always with you... he's always showing you the way and hes always gonna be there!!!
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it depends on how much you love him. if you truly love him none of that stuff would matter to you. if you dont, then you should talk to him about it.
-hope i helped
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If you love him and those things aren't that important to you then tuff it out you guys could look for higher paying jobs. One might not be available right now but, keep a look out. Has his lawyer seen about getting child support reduced? I mean, where is the step children's father (those that money is deducted for)? Things do sometimes change for the better if you stick them out long enough. But, if you don't have the patience....do what you think best. :)
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