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HELP MEE!!!
Okay well first of all this is my first post and all so i really dont know how to do this so i would really like it if you could help me out.
I really really like this guy at me church and all and he told me that he likes me and all and we kind of went out and things but like he is really really touchy-feely and everything and he makes me really nervous but i really like talking to him and would easily trust him with my life.
my other problem is that i have known this guy "cody" for like, ever and he has this really mean and bitchy girlfriend (but she is nice and sweet to him) and all of his friends hate her and tell him but he wont break up with her . although he could do sooo much better. and i also kinda like him.
whats a girl to do?
i will rate high if you give me good advice.
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Cody sounds like he's in his own mess. Best bet? See what can be done with church boy, do what you will, stay friend's with Cody, but in the mean time let him figure his own life out. If he had any interest he'll say something if he knows you have a relationship or a becoming relationship with some other guy. You can't do anything about the girlfriend, because if she's really that evil the truth will come out eventually.
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The church guy does not sound very church like.
If you like spending time with him, tell him you need to slow things down, and the touchy-feely stuff is a little too fast paced for you right now. But, make sure you tell him that you like spending time with him, so he doesn't feel like shit.
This "Cody" guy, well, he likes his girlfriend enough to stay with her. If she is nice and sweet to him, he's probably not going to give her up anytime soon. It's cool that you like him, but take advice from someone who knows....don't waste your time chasing after someone who is in a relationship. If they like you, let them do the chasing. That's there problem. Not yours. And, if he's not chasing you, put your feelings for him on the back burner. It's not like he'll probably marry this girl. Plus, there's lots of other guys out there. Just go with the flow, man.
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I apologize if you think I'm being mean in any way:
Church boy is a little too touchy-feely... have you told him to get off of you, or stop completely. If he's not listening, then guess what I'm going to tell you to do? Ditch him. Why? He's just shown you he has no respect for you, and is only after one specific thing.
As for "Cody", he may have the worst girlfriend in the world, at least from your point of view. But, obviously he doesn't think she's so bad. You can't really do anything about Cody dating this girl. If she's truly as horrible as you say, maybe he'll realize that, dump her, and date you. You can wait it out, though I don't think it's a good idea to wait anything out.
Why waste your time?
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The first guy you described, I don't know him, but he seems a lot like someone I knew who just liked my friend because of her "assets", and basically manipulated. I can't judge you or him, but, I warn you.
Cody needs to deal with it himself.
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