Hi everyone I'm Sean. im 14, very athletic and all of my friends come to me for advice so it gave me the idea of coming here to help everyone I can out. if you need me outside of advicenators you can look up my facebook: sean hoel or send me an AIM...but only if u neeed it cuz i dont want any spam lol.
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Location: St. Louis MO
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Age: 14
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hi.
i need some help. i am currently dating this guy. for my situation he knows i like him and i know he likes me. we've told eachoter and we've gone out on a date. but the other night we had a "talk" and he just kinda said that he doesnt think i really do like him...and he went on to explain that i don't show it. well how do i show it? because i don't really get to see him that much. [we go to differnt school and we just work together so i don't wanna be all flirty and shit with him at work] so i'm not sure how else to show i like him.
any suggestions? (link)
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well the majority of the time you do see him (at work) your not flirty and shit. so most of the time he sees that side of you, and he comprehends that as you not liking him. so I would say to hell with it and just act around him at work, the same way you would alone.
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f/24/turkey
i hate her so much. i really hate her. i hate her i hate her i hate her.....
i use to be miss "gold" when it comes to us two in the fam (since we are not the only two, but are the youngest).... i had big mistakes now and then, enough to make my parents kill me but my older sis use to think i was just dumb and naive.... which probably i was..... anyway i went to a college near school (so i still lived with the fam) and had like a split personality here and there... nothing too drastic though... i loved my friends but i always felt insecure about how much they loved me... i mean i find myself being extra nice and going out of my way to do things that are "nothing" for them and not for my fam..... i knw how stupid. its just that as a kid i grew up in a different country and went to an all girls school (althrough elementary!) and i couldn't deal with how the kids were.... at home i was something there i was something else... don't even get me started on that. basically in order to fit i needed to become someone different in both places and sadly neither was me.... so as i grew i learned that the common thing between all social pools was that if you were nice you fit in. youre happy... i discovered this in my first year of college when i got a bit of freedom away from mum and dads microscope.... it sorta became a bad habit too. and i became addicted to it..... my grades and dedication went down (i was valedictorian... and now i have 60s....) i didnt want to continue in premed and i started to lead a hedonistic life..... plus my older sibs moved away and they were such a big part of my life....we did everything together.... and now i was stuck with my bitter younger sister who hated my life of hedonism and who loathed every ounce of my existence... she leaves the room if i am around she shuts the door in my face if i come knocking... she says i am such an air-head blond wannabe... i am not bubbly or ashlee simpson... but i am not hillary clinton either.... i am just me....
well i never did anything wrong in my life until last winter... when she finally got out of highschool we both went away for college.... my hedonism phase reached its peek then... and she discovered the crazy things that i've done and told.... and at first i was so mad at her because i got in so much trouble... and i can't afford that for many reasons so i sorta contained things by putting in a couple of white lies.
she treats my like shes older and that i am dirt and that i am beneath her class or level... i see it in her eyes every time she looks at me. mom took us to a flea market in our home town she began to act all snobby and was yelling at my mom to leave because there were flies and it smelt. she thinks she's better than everyone...
she embarrasses me everywhere we go (because there is conflict when family me is faced with outside-world me)... my older sis who is now so mad at me and believes that all the times she protected me i took advantage of her teamed up with this sis i hate and they manipulate each other. i don't think i can match them. and i know. I KNOW! that my younger sis has it in her agenda to destroy me if it meant not risking herself... but it does so she just makes me trip on my own crap by manipulating everything.
she has a bad bad habit as well... she snoops into peoples business and says she has nothing to do with anything.... she snoops into the maid's life, my life, my dad's life to see if he is cheating!
i mean i admit we are a very dysfunctional family (and i partly admit i blame my need for friends and people on them for making me feel that i should hide everything from them not the outside world) but why is she so determined to make me like her otherwise she won't respect me!????
i am tiered of this. i have no one. my friends won't talk to me because i had to explain a really embarrassing situation to them (i don't want to make this question any longer so i won't get into that).
i am just so confused. and i am afraid the dual me is firing back. i dont want my parents to find out who i am outside or vice versa...
i am not sure who i am either....
before this hedonistic era in my life... i was questioning everything and i was even telling my sister (older) how i am worried about how i am loosing sight of what is right... i know if i had my younger sister as a friend (who is nice not bitter!) i wouldn't need the outer world... i am so confused and worried... i messed up big..... i don't know what those "friends" i tried to explain to my problem think... they just ignored my emails (since we are not in the same towns for summer and i cdnt tell them in person).... to be honest they are bad people... and i only hung out with them for the 'fun' they brought along... and that lasted an hour or two? anyway so i tried explaining the situation (in my culture the above is not normal... trust me if mum and dad know how "americanized" i've gotten i am fried)... i hate them so much. so now i am stuck under their mercy and hoping they dont say the truth. and the mercy of my sibs for not finding out and telling the parents...... i hate my sister! its all her fault for snooping........ for the record its nothing like sex or some shit like that, i just stirred away from modesty.... i am still a virgin and proud, the only time i thought about loosing it was when i thought my hymen broke when i fell once and thought to hell there is no point when all evidence is gone... and that drove me partly to confessing my love to this guy (who i knew subconsciously was gay... probably coz i knw he was i told him coz i knew it was hopeless... most of my pursuits are that way... now that ba***** has been ignoring me even when i sent him a msg about my problem) but when i realized its still there i just flipped 180 degrees back and retained my old values and confidence....
i dont knw what to do! i learned my lesson!! but i am afraid life wont let me go that easily... my sister wont... i will get cought.... help!!
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well there is certainly more than one issue along that whole question...hmm. well i would need more details as to make a complete judgement but I can do with what was provided =P. haha anyway...umm i think mabey a psychiatrist would be your best bet in this situation, it would be someone who you can tell absolutely EVERYTHING to. and the best part? they can't say a word to your parents about it. its not much but I hope it helps
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me and my b.f were going for 6 months almost and we broke ( he broke up with me ) and he got a g.f but ( we loved each other soo much ) and he told me he still liked when we were talking and i said i did to but w.e and he has a g.f and i have a b.f but i still love him soo much like im crazy about him and i dont no what to do ????? (link)
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it doesnt matter what you guys used to have, probly not the answer your looking for but 9 times out of 10 if a couple breaks up it will not work getting back together. the same things eventually happen and then one of you goes "oh yea this is why we broke up". now you guys can still be friends and all but you got to remember that there was a reason for the breakup...unless hes a complete ass and broke up for no reason, and in that case, he isnt worth your time.
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14/f
so i like this guy and i dont know if he likes me
how do i show him i do?
and how do i know if he does? (link)
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yea you could just talk to him here and there, but dont come on strong, u gotta play hard to get to find out if he likes u. if you are talking to him and say "well im gonna go" and he says "aww, or "dont go" then he likes u. and it is a good idea to send a friend in to ask him wut he thinks of u.
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Ok so me and my boyfriend have been going out for about a month and he says he really loves me and I really love him, but then all the sudden he decides to go to the movies with another girl? He says they want to hang out cause they haven't seen each other in a long time, and don't get me wrong I totally trust him. But I just don't know what to do I mean why the movies of all places? ughh. this sucks. I dont know what to do anymore. (link)
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this seams like an honest case of just catching up with a friend. but, if i were you i wouldnt let him hang out with her toooo much. you never know what they could be doing. the easiest way to tell is if attitude changes, like if he doesnt talk to you the same way, or he doesnt talk to you as much. hope it helps
peace
Seanx
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Me and my boyfriend have been dating for like a year and 3 months, and I really love him, but lately we have been arguing a lot! and it's not like once a week it is probably everyday. and it is over little tiny stuff. and i just dont know what to do anymore. do you have any suggestions? I know it is a kinda stupid question i would just like somebody else's opinion.
thanks. :) (link)
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well he could just be reallllly overtired =P.haha but seriously i dont kno thats not really a good sign. maybe something is bothering him, or he feels guilty about something. if i were you i would dig a little deeper and see if it was something you did, or see if he messed up somehow with someone. if it comes down to it and he hasnt done anything and you havnt done anything either and he still just argues alot...lol just tell him to shut up and cool down for a little bit. you could just not talk to him for a lil while and then hed think about stuff to himself and he could just as easily change. hope it helps, if you need anything else just ask.
peace
Seanx
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SHITSHITSHIT.
idno what to do.
I can't take this anymore.
All I can think about is the
cabbnet of pills downstaris.
AHHH!
helpppp
pleaseee
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the best thing to do is call a friend and just talk to them. it take syur mind off the pills and hopefully would make you happy. hope you will be ok.
Seanx
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So what if someone gets cold sores every so often, but always inside the mouth never on the lip, and always very mild and rare. So if they give a blow job to someone when they don't have any cold sores in their mouth at the time, will the guy get herpes on his penis even if you didn't have it at the time you gave the blowjob? Thanks so much. (link)
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if you blow someone without a cold sore...it is VERY unlikely but still possible. if you blow someone with a in your mouth...it has ahigher chance of going down there. kanker sores, cold sores, and blisters on the genitals are all forms of herpes and can be transmitted form one place to the other. so basically you can ALWAYS contract it....its just percentages from there on out. hope it helps
Seanx
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i'm 15/female/virginia
how can i move out of my house and into a house like the seton house? like i cannot stay in my house. i can't. dont try to tell me to stay because you dont know the circumstances, but how can i get out of my house? (link)
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hmm...i think you can go to like one of those child protector lawyers and tell them you want to move...but they will probly just put u into foster care till yur 18...or you could run away from hoome and live with a friend and tell yur parents you dont wana live with them...thats wut my cousin did....anyway or you can emancipate from them by going to a judge about it. hope it works out ok
Peace
Seanx
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the background: about 6 months ago my boyfriend kissed another girl at a party. he said he was really sorry and didnt want to lose me, so i gave him another chance. but since then he has continuted to flirt with her. whenever shes around he pretty much ignores me and acts like an idiot showing off in front of her. i've told him like a bazillion times how bad this makes me feel, and he always promises not to do it again, but he keeps doing it. i know he likes her even though he insists he doesnt.
well the other night we were at a party and he did the same thing. so i broke up with him. he cried on the phone till 3 in the morning, begging me to take him back, swearing that he doesnt like her, that he only loves me. in the last couple days hes brought me flowers, presents, sent me love songs on my phone, and posted bulletins saying how much he loves me and that he doesnt like that girl. and everytime he comes over or calls, hes crying. his friends say he hasnt slept in like 3 days.
i really really love him - weve been going out for almost 3 years and hes like my best friend. i really want to go back out with him, but im afraid if i do, he'll just keep doing the same thing. plus i dont want a boyfriend who likes someone else. but i just dont get it! it seems so obvious that he likes her, so why doesnt he just go out with her now that hes free? (she likes him and he knows it). should i take the way hes acting as a sign that he really loves me? should i take him back? or will he just keep doing the same thing? (link)
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difficult story to deal with for you i know, but you gotta understand there is a reason you broke up with him...and i think thats gonne be the way it has to stay. if you allow him back in, he gets close to you even more, and the he does the flirty thing with the girl AGAIN, then that will just make both of you go through the pain again. im sure you two can still be friends though. hope it helps
peace
Seanx
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Ok so i'm going out with this amazing boy, but there's something missing we just don't talk alot or sometimes we can't hold a conversation. Then I have this bestfriend who also happens to be one of his bestfriends, but with me and him we just click. Everything seems to be right, we can talk on the phone for hours and there's never silence. I just don't know what to do. I love my boyfriend but my bestfriend is also the person who hooked us up, but I can tell he likes me too. Ughh. I know this is confusing, but it there anyone who can help? (link)
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trust me, you never want to go out with your best friend, im talking from experience....it just gets weird and it can ruin yur guyses relationship with one rong move. all the years you guys have been friends would be gone. if you have a best friend, thats were they should stay. now if you like some guy thats a different story, that leaves plenty of room to build for you two. and hell maybe the other guy is just nervous when he talks to you. yah never know...if yur absolutely positive he likes you, and yur sure u like him, but he wont ask you out; just ask for him. hope it helps.
Peace
Seanx
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Okay see I know how to but it won't upload. does anybody know what's wrong with it? I mean I try to upload it and it seems like it's doing it but it doesnt work! 14/f
~ Munchie! (link)
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or you can use that thing that comes with photobucket....gah i cant think of it right now...its insignia is like the panda. anyway it resizes, crops, and edits pictures as a program, then you can just save it and upload it from your pictures file.
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There are a few things making me super nervous about meeting my crush this summer (at camp) and I need y'all to tell me if I'm screwed or if there's hope for me.
Alright, first thing.. kissing. I read somewhere that the first kiss means everything, if the first kiss isn't great most people will not prusue a relationship with that person. Will that's just great! Does that mean that even if I make myself super pretty, super funny, super smart - but I'm a bad kisser - I'm doomed? That's it! Everything I've worked for.. gone. The guy Ive dreamed about for 4 years now.. will not be mine, just cause I can't kiss? That blows!
I decided to write my second question in a different "question" because it belongs to a different category I think, but it will be under the label "voice = attraction" if you want to take a shot at it! Thank you! (link)
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lol dont worry about kissing its not THAT important for the first time. just worry about your actions around him. if you super pretty, super funny, and whatevr else u said, he wont care about how u kiss, he will just be happy that hes getting kissed.
peace
Seanx
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I POSTED THIS EARLIER BUT THERES MORE NOW..
i reallyreally like him
i talk to him everyday
but yesterday was the first day i didnt talk to him
i commented him yeterday and was like hi.. we barley talk anymore=/
cuase the past few days our conversationts would be like dead and i dont know whats going on
hes the type of guy that would get with any girl for action cuase hes always horny like that
and he commented me back saying thats too bad vagina? and im like um no. then hes like penis and im like noo. ill just stop talking and he never commented back
and he does weed so i think he might of been high at the time or it was his friends saying that
i dont know what to do. cusae i realllly wanna talk to him
but i dont know if he feels the same way?
i dont know if i should text him..or just give him space and let him come talk to me?
but im sure if i give him space he will just forget about me and go get with another girl
and im sure everyne reading this is like wow just leave him hes not worth your time
but he is worth my time becuase i want this to last becuase i like him alot.
i texted him today and of course he was kinda baked but whatever i support him with whatever he does
but there is one thing i want you to know.. he told me he liked this girl like before we kinda got flirty and i dont know if he still does but yeah
we got flirty and then one day he told me he loved.. ididnt know if it was a firend way or a liking way so im like i love you too
and we got flirty and like ways where like he would be watching movies with friends and wed be talking and hed be like id rather be watching this movie you or i wanna come cuddle with you or i really wanna kidd you right now
and then everything just went kinda down hill..
and i dont like it at all!
he just commented this girl and was like im horny
and shes like well go do something about it
and hes like well i have a neighbor..
and then hes like i got some from her
these past nights ive been really down and like crying and everything. i hate boys!
but when i texted him im like we barley talk anymore and hes like yeah i know its weird
i dont really like talking to him when hes with his friends and hes online right now and i wanna talk to him but our conversationts have been dead and i dont know what to say and i dont know if hes with his friends or if he blazed right now
but i just want everything to go back to how it used to be..when i was happy!
its summer now and i dont want this to ruin my summer for me
so any advice?
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well after being intrigued in psychology ive read about it. if your BF is on weed then that is playing a large role in this. it has destroyed his emotional feelings and stimulated his physicals ones. if you got with him he may just like what you give him, not like you as a person. i think if you got him to get off the weed you guys would have a much better chance together, and hey it could even save his life some day. also you can just flat out ask him if he still likes you and if he would wanna go out, its much easier to just be blunt, then just beat around the bush for months at a time. and if he says yes, u wont regret it for a second. good luck
peace
Seanx
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i was watching tv with my b/f haha and someone was pregnant and had morning sickness. someone asked what that was and i told them, then my b/f jokingly says yeah you would know, first hand experience. and i said no?? what? he said dave! (ex bf who pretty much used me) and i said no! again. i know hes joking and all but do you think he means something more by it? and my bf now is kind of shy so it was odd for him to bring up, but im totally not like that i mean in terms of doing anything sexual, im not a slut and ive only gone to 2nd what do i do (link)
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i think you should ask him what he meant by it, im sure he wasnt wondering anything he was just trying to get one step up above your ex. its like a match to see who you liked better....its a guy thing. good luck,
peace
Seanx
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how do i ask my mom if i can go to the doctor for bipolar? we dont get along. what do i say.
what do they do at the doctor to see if you are? (link)
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well you can see if you can get a ride to a doctor for a test, i dont think your mom has to be present because its supposed to be confidential. i think planned parenthood MIGHT be able to help you out with a bipolar test but im not sure. good luck,
Peace
Seanx
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im not a sicko i just want to know what a boys favorite sexual thing to do is, not counting sex. (link)
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like down below, depends on the guy, but in most cases us guys like blowjobs and handjobs.
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all right, it seems like everytime i ask a question about this, i never seem to get a straight-forward answer. so, please.. give me an answer, no matter what the outcome is. Well, here's my story. There's a boy. we went out in 8th grade. (we are now in 10th) When we went out, it was for two and a half months. I still have really strong feelings for him, (i know 2 yrs later, im pathetic) well, i just really want to know if you guys think he still has feelings for me, too. if its possible. When I call him, he doesn't always answer..which is expected. When he does answer, however, we talk for about an hour. When we talk he always makes sexual jokes, and occasionally, he says i love you when i have to leave.In the hallways when we see each other he always gives me a weird look and he does these really weird things, like he'll call me punk, or.. say dweeb.. but i know he's just kidding. Also, one day we were talking, and he said that it feels weird to go out with someone. and i asked if it felt weird when we went out, and he said no. So, my question is: Do you still think he has feelings for me, and is just afraid to tell me? and if so, how can i get him to open up? or do you think he doesnt?
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i think you both have feelings for eachother, hes signs give it away. id love to answer this more in-depth but why did you break up in the first place? that can play a major role in this. anyway since i dont know that il just answer this based on facts presented =P. if i were you i would just flat out ask him if he still has feelings for you. i mean seriously what have you got to lose? if he doesnt, then he doesnt and you can go back to being friends. if he does, you can build another succesful relationship off of that. hope it helps, peace
Seanx
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i am a 13 year old who hasnt gone out with a guy yet! ugh.. i wanna feel how it feels to be in a relationship and have the guy love me in that way and i'll be able to have my first kiss and all that. it hasnt happened yet and i notice like everyone i know practically has already gotten their first kiss or first boyfriend.. not that im in a race to get one, i just let it come to me and if i see a guy thats cute, i'll say hes cute and stuff.. i just wanna be in a relationship and stuff!!
and i've been asked out by guys about 5 times but i dunno if they're being serious or joking. how can you tell? only three of those 5 times i knew it was a joke... but i really dunno! i reply "no" to them because i dont see them that way like romantically or anything.. ugggggggggghhh what do i do and stuff? thanks (link)
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dont worry about it. if a guy is serious he will call you or come see you or give you actions that he likes you...or he will just flat out tell you. thats how you know. but dont be in a hurry to get a BF-and please heed this warning- whatever love you get out of it, will be 10x the amount of sadness there is when you break up. its difficult but its a fact of teenage relationships. they are tough. enjoy it while you can, but keep waiting because that special guy will come to you. peace, hope it helps
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ok i have a boyfriend he is always tellin me to call hime back and when i call his friend to see is he there he say no he outside with 5 girls and 3 boys i'm his girlfriend i have no i =dea what he is doin out there with them girls cause i not with him so i;m not goin to accuse him of doin somthin that i didn't see
please help me with this cause this is becomin a problem (link)
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his friend is probly just messing with you. ask your friend to tell you what yur bf is doing with the girls. if he says "oh hes making out with them" its probly a lie because his friend wouldnt rat him out like that.
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