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arguing.
Me and my boyfriend have been dating for like a year and 3 months, and I really love him, but lately we have been arguing a lot! and it's not like once a week it is probably everyday. and it is over little tiny stuff. and i just dont know what to do anymore. do you have any suggestions? I know it is a kinda stupid question i would just like somebody else's opinion.
thanks. :)
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Hun, what you need to do is sit him down and really find out what these fights are all about. Usually when stupid mindless fights happen, it means there is a bigger, undiscussed problem that keeps being swept under the rug. So talk to him and tell him you are sick of the stupid little fights between the two of you and that you want to make things better. After that, ask him if anything about your guys relationship has been bothering that he hasnt told you. And you also should think if there is anything unresolved that is bothering you too. When you fix the real problem these little fights will go away. I promise. Ive been through the same thing. Best of luck hun.
~Sherah
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Trust me. I know exactly how that goes. Perhaps you two just spend way too much time together. When you spend a lot of time with one person, it's easy to get bored with them and that might frustrate you, thus causing you two to argue over everything.
Instead of seeing your boyfriend everyday, take time to see your other friends and do other things so you aren't seeing each other too much. That should greatly help in reducing your arguments.
Next time you guys do get in an argument, stop and think: "Is this REALLY going to matter one year from now?" You'll usually find that answer is no. In that case just say to him, "Look, I don't want to argue with you over something this stupid. Let's do something else instead. It's not worth it." And just move on.
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well he could just be reallllly overtired =P.haha but seriously i dont kno thats not really a good sign. maybe something is bothering him, or he feels guilty about something. if i were you i would dig a little deeper and see if it was something you did, or see if he messed up somehow with someone. if it comes down to it and he hasnt done anything and you havnt done anything either and he still just argues alot...lol just tell him to shut up and cool down for a little bit. you could just not talk to him for a lil while and then hed think about stuff to himself and he could just as easily change. hope it helps, if you need anything else just ask.
peace
Seanx
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hmm, arguing is healthy ocassionally, but not everyday like that. i would suggest to bring it up, but that may start another argument..
i think, he may be insecure about himself, or maybe he fears you leaving him, and is trying to test the waters with arguing to see how far youll bend.
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sad to say, he may not feel the same way about you anymore and could be pushing you away, because he doesnt want to hurt you. because he still cares about you, but doesnt love you that way any longer.
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you might just be discovering new pet peeves about eachother. and youll work it out soon. =]
i sure hope i helped. i know how it feels to be in that kind of situation.
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