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Should I take him back?
the background: about 6 months ago my boyfriend kissed another girl at a party. he said he was really sorry and didnt want to lose me, so i gave him another chance. but since then he has continuted to flirt with her. whenever shes around he pretty much ignores me and acts like an idiot showing off in front of her. i've told him like a bazillion times how bad this makes me feel, and he always promises not to do it again, but he keeps doing it. i know he likes her even though he insists he doesnt.
well the other night we were at a party and he did the same thing. so i broke up with him. he cried on the phone till 3 in the morning, begging me to take him back, swearing that he doesnt like her, that he only loves me. in the last couple days hes brought me flowers, presents, sent me love songs on my phone, and posted bulletins saying how much he loves me and that he doesnt like that girl. and everytime he comes over or calls, hes crying. his friends say he hasnt slept in like 3 days.
i really really love him - weve been going out for almost 3 years and hes like my best friend. i really want to go back out with him, but im afraid if i do, he'll just keep doing the same thing. plus i dont want a boyfriend who likes someone else. but i just dont get it! it seems so obvious that he likes her, so why doesnt he just go out with her now that hes free? (she likes him and he knows it). should i take the way hes acting as a sign that he really loves me? should i take him back? or will he just keep doing the same thing?
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you should take him back if he is doing all of that for you. but u should warn him that if he ever starts looking at another gurl and ignoring you then he should go with her and break up with him for good because remeber there are real boys out there but u need to find the real good correct ones
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you have given him way too many chances. ima sorry but u gotta give him the altimatum...
say you can have her or me and if its me, you cant flirt with her at all.
let him decide( hopefully its you)
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Girl i had the same problem with my ex we wasnt goin on as long but almost you know . and its hard and im not the one to tell you its going to get easier bc it wont . you have to think to your self . if you take him back again hell keep doing what he's doing cus he knows all he has to do is buy you stuff and say sweet things and he's all yours again . so my advise for you hun is dont take him back . its going to be really hard to be his friend but wait it out . maybe one day he will actually relize what he done and how much you mean {{ and you will know when he does }} but give it time cus now all he is trying to do is buy your love !
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difficult story to deal with for you i know, but you gotta understand there is a reason you broke up with him...and i think thats gonne be the way it has to stay. if you allow him back in, he gets close to you even more, and the he does the flirty thing with the girl AGAIN, then that will just make both of you go through the pain again. im sure you two can still be friends though. hope it helps
peace
Seanx
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okay, that's complicated, but i have a simple solution that you probably won't like - stay single. yes, you love him & as you say he loves you too, but you don't deserve to be cheated on or whatever the case is. if he didn't like her, or won't do it again, he wouldn't have kissed her twice. if only twice. don't necessarily "take him back" but keep in touch with him. once he grows up mentally & realizes what he had with you, he'll come to his senses. don't be the pathetic girlfriend he knows he can walk all over & then still go back to. don't be an easy target!
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