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he is ready, am i?

Question Posted Monday July 17 2006, 12:55 am

my boyfriend is wants to have sex, and, im cosidering it. im 15, am i old enuff? i know about being safe and all, and i dont need to be lecture about how its not right cause the bible says its rong, im not religiouse. i just dont know if im old enuff to be having sex.

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Cherry_Blow_Pop answered Wednesday July 26 2006, 2:22 am:
Its not all about age. Its about if you think you are really ready and mature enough to handle what could come of you being sexually active. Be sure you are certain you want to make that decision before anything, because you don't want to regret it later. If you feel you are, then good luck.


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passionx0x answered Monday July 24 2006, 12:19 am:
If you need to be asking a website if your ready to have sex, it shows that you are not mature enough to handle the situation. It's a decision you must make for yourself, and it seems to me like you are not ready for it. And I don't want to sound mean either, I'm saying it seriously.

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MummuM answered Sunday July 23 2006, 7:11 pm:
There's no certain age that you have to be to have sex. It's if you're real or not. If you're comfortable with the person and love him enough to take it to the next level. If you believe in your heart that this IS the boy you want to share this with, then go ahead and go for it. Just make sure it's something you won't regret it in the future. Be safe! &hearts;

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INEEDHELPBAD answered Saturday July 22 2006, 6:30 am:
aw there is so certin age you have to be..
if you love the boy and no YOU are ready then you are.
you will know.
so if you think you are then you are
your never too younge for love/sex.
one of my sisters bestfreinds met her boyfreind in 6th grade and they got married..
good luck!

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hannahd answered Friday July 21 2006, 12:27 am:
To ask the question "Am I old enough to have sex?" is obviously a sign that you probably aren't maturely ready. There is no set age on when it's okay & not okay to have sex. It all depends on the person & their circumstances. Your age should be the last worry on your mind. Also, by trying to get reassurance from random people online is another sign you aren't ready. When you are "old" enough (mentally) you will know when the time is right & you won't need to get a second opinion. Don't throw something away that easily just because you think it sounds like a good idea. Wait till you know it is.

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Brandi_S answered Wednesday July 19 2006, 1:09 am:
I don't know if you are legally old enough. That all depends on what state you live in i think.
I would say it depends on if you are ready. Do you feel comfortable having sex with your boyfriend at this point in time? Meaning, is it something YOU want? Or something he's maybe been pressuring you for?
I know you said you know how to be safe, and you don't want a lecture, but I just want you to keep in mind that having sex at 15 is a BIG decision. One that you have to make for yourself, not based on what your partner wants. Just PLEASE keep in mind, that you can be safe against sexually transmitted diseased, and pregnancy, but no method of protection is 100%. Some STD's are treatable, but some, just like pregnancy, are something you have to live with for the rest of your life.
Do what you feel is best for YOU. And always be safe like you say you know how.

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YeahhhBoyyy answered Tuesday July 18 2006, 1:28 am:
in my opinion you are old enough to be having sex by now and if you really think its right just go for it and be safe.

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eternitysofbliss answered Monday July 17 2006, 10:34 pm:
you should wait untill you can spell "enough" and "wrong" correctly.

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xOViLLYxO answered Monday July 17 2006, 6:48 pm:
There is no age really.If you think your ready then you are, no one but you will know.Do what you think is right. &hearts;

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Jessica13 answered Monday July 17 2006, 6:36 pm:
there isn't a certain age that you can or can't ahve sex because you have sex when yu feel yoiu are ready if youf eel ready then go ahead

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Melody answered Monday July 17 2006, 6:13 pm:
You're not. You could be 65 years old for all I care, and I would give you the exact same advice. To be honest, it's not that you aren't old enough, it's that you aren't mature enough. That's what matter. I was 14 when I lost my virginity. I knew I was ready, and I didn't have to ask total strangers over the internet if I was old enough. I'm not going to sugar coat this, as you can see. I'm just telling you like it is. You are the only one who can know when you're ready. I can't tell you, and neither can anyone else.

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pootietang answered Monday July 17 2006, 12:08 pm:
A lot of friends have concidered it too. And my friends are around 15. So, no, its not old enough. Wait until you get married. This guy won't be around long, so, hes not worth it.

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everlastingdreamer answered Monday July 17 2006, 11:15 am:
Physcally yes your ready for sex. Although mentally you might not be. If your feeling anxious, restless and have doubts about it I'd highly doubt you're ready. If your not ready to have sex with him it might make things akward for you, knowing that you werent ready and that you didnt want to. Also sometimes having sex can destory a relationship if your not ready. So if your readly you should but you have to consider if your ready, do you feel like hes the one you want to be your first? Are you ready to lose you Virginity? Do you feel anxious about it? These are some questions you should be asking yourself, to make sure that your ready.

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girlygirl answered Monday July 17 2006, 11:05 am:
You're old enough physically, but what about mentally? If you can do it and walk away and look back when you're 25 and think gee I've had 15 boyfriends that i've had sex with in the past 10 years, then fine. But the reality is that this guy will end up being super-special in your heart and the fact is that he will NOT be your one and only for the rest of your life. I'm not saying that you can't have more than one boyfriend in your life, just be extra careful, because when it doesn't work out, like us girls dream in our heads, it's going to be pure heartache.

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DancinCutie08 answered Monday July 17 2006, 9:05 am:
well if you are questioning it obviously you aren't old enough. when youare old enough you will you know it. there won't be any questioning it at all

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caramella answered Monday July 17 2006, 6:16 am:
i think you should think it over twice before you do anything,think of the concenquenses and when you do this you have to make sure its not something youre going to regret later on,cuz some ppl regret it later on and feel really bad in my opinion i think your age is a lil too young.hope i helped take care:)

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TheTeenGirl answered Monday July 17 2006, 5:10 am:
A lot of your answers will be different because there's really no right or wrong answer of whether you are ready or not. It comes down to opinions.

However, my opinion is that 15 isn't ready. Not only because you could likely suffer the consequences, but how do you know if you'll be with this guy forever? Honestly, could you ever imagine having sex with someone so young and then having to deal with a break-up? I'm not saying that you both won't end up together, but the chances are really unlikely.

I know your feelings for everything that's happening with your boyfriend. You feel really wonderful and in love and you want to get closer. Believe me, I can't understand your feelings any better. But sometimes these exciting and wonderful feelings take over us and convince us that the next step is ok to take.

Look: I'm not saying you should wait until you're married. Wait until you're older and more mature to handle the consequences and decisions that comes with sex. The way I see it, you aren't ready because you're asking us if you're ready. If you can't answer the question yourself, you've just answered it that you aren't ready.

None of this at all comes down to religion. It's about really thinking things over and taking care of yourself. I don't know how long you and your boyfriend have been together, but you really do have a lot more to learn about each other. Sometimes you think you've gotten to a point where you've done everything and now you have to start having sex because it's the next thing that comes in a relationship and that couldn't be farther from true. Just because you may be in a two or three year relationship with no sexual activity, it does not mean that you aren't close. Sex doesn't exactly bring you closer.


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suzyqgirl1 answered Monday July 17 2006, 4:04 am:
i think that if you feel your read then hit it i mean just as long as unz are safe with it i think everything will be ok and i think 15 is at least the right age so yeah go for it but make sure ur ready b/c once you loose it you can't get it back ok well i hope i helped ya =]

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H0LLY_W00D_FAME answered Monday July 17 2006, 2:08 am:
If your ready then sure, but to me, if your questioning it, then no you should wait. 15 is pretty young to loose your virginity. Because once you loose it, you never get it back, and it's something you don't take lightly. If both you and your boyfriend are ready for this, then you go ahead, but you are very young. Maybe talk to your mom about it, or think through it with your boyfriend. And remember, condoms do break.
Good luck, make the right choice.
//X0 H0LLY

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kristen22 answered Monday July 17 2006, 2:07 am:
No one here can tell you if your old enough to have sex, if we did that would only be our opinions. Which you shouldnt act upon because just because someone here could say yea, your ready and then you go and actually do it and end up regretting it... Your the one that will end up suffering the consequences not any one here. Sex is a very big issue, not something to be taken lightly. I'm not telling you to wait and I'm not telling you to go big or go home either.

Having asked the question means to me it no doubt is on your mind, so it wont be long before you do it, so to answer your question, being ready is only when you are mature enough to do it in a manner where you dont loose respect for yourself, and know and practice ALL factors in doing SAFE sex.

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Teza answered Monday July 17 2006, 2:07 am:
There is no age limit on when to have sex. You're eather ready for it or you're not. When you feel like it's the right time to do it, go for it but make sure it's something YOU want just as much as your boyfriend and make sure you won't regret it in the future. I'll give you my opinion though. I think that you're still too young and I'm not going to lecture you about it. Whenever you're ready is the right time.

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