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Think b/f's good friend likes me...
I have been with my b/f for about a yr and a half now. We have definitely had our ups and downs. Last year i was at a friends house and one of my b/f's good friends showed up. He asked if i wanted to hang out. Went to his house and he put the moves on me. I refused to have sexual contact with him. Even though i had the urge to. He told me that he was sorry and that he couldnt help but wonder why i was with this other guy and that he thought i was pretty.
Ever since that time, he always makes comments to my b/f about how my b/f doesnt treat me right. Or he will joke around about how im his type. We live in a tight-knit town where everyone knows everyone. I see this guy everyday and he always smiles or stares and then looks away.
My major problem is that im finding more and more that im not in-love with my bf anymore as he has become physically violent.
My sister-in-law thinks that i should leave my bf and go with this guy. I am quite tempted as he and i have so much in common and he knows how to treat a lady. I also have a medical condition where i cannot have children. And this guy has full custody of his little girl. Every time i see him with her i melt because he is such a good father.
Am i wrong for wanting to try and have a relationship with this other guy?
And do you think he would be interested in trying to have a relationship?
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It sounds like you have been wanting to be with him for a while so why are you questioning what your heart wants. I personal think you should leave your current b/f whether or not you start dating this other guy. If your b/f is starting to be abuse you don't need to be with him anyways. I'm sorry to hear you can't have kids and it just seems perfect that he has a kid. You not wrong in any way for wanting him. He has been staring at you and trying to give you hints that you shouldn't be with your current b/f and those are signs that he does want to be with you.
Nikki A.K.A. jTsCeLlMaTe
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I think you should really break up with your boyfriend.When he got physically violent with you then you should have broke up with him then.The other guy sounds so perfect.And i think you should start a relationship with him.And you even said it yorself he is such a good father.And you also said that you are starting to be not in-love with your bf so whats the point of being with him.And for your two questions my answer to the frist one is no(after all your startin to be not in-love with your bf)and for the second question my answer is yes(it seems like he likes you).
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First you need to be on your own. If your bf is getting violent with you, leave him imediately. Don't go straight into the arms of another guy no matter who, because that could make the situtation worse. Give it some time and if the other guy is genuine, he will wait. He may be just wanting to screw over your bf, more than truly wanting you. Good luck.
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Well this is a very tough questio .... first of you need to dumep the boyfriend because obviously he's abusing you and you deseve beter than that and the fact that you dont like him that much anymore for those reasons second off i wouldn't jump from guy to guy if you get what i'm saying i mean listen to how bad this sounds o yeah that one girl dumped her b/f and went out with his best friend like really quick ... sorry...but you dont want to have that reputation and about the bestfriend??? he has a kid???? are you confortable with thhat???? anyways what i think you should do is dump the b/f and gett closer to his bestfriend
i hoped i helped -Brianna
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If your boyfriend is physically violent, then you need to leave him before you get hurt badley. The other man sees much nicer and understanding, & I think that it would be better for you if you went with him instead of your current boyfriend. I hope everything works out in your situation! Good luck & please rate.
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Hey no i dont think your wrong for thinkging we all wonder " what would it would be like" to be with some one else. i think he want a relationship with you. i thnk tou should go for it if your man b/f isnt acting right.
Let me know what you decide and how it works out
Jazzy***
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First of all, let's be honest. You would have never went over to your boyfriend's best friend's house ALONE with him if you didn't have any romantic interest in him. Good natured flirting and going home with someone are two totally different things. That doesn't necessarily mean that you were 'wrong' to do so. It could just mean that you are already feeling that you have been having more 'downs' than 'ups' with your boyfriend. You said that you live in a tight-knit town. I wonder if you are staying with your boyfriend just because it feels 'safe' and you don't want to 'lose face' when everybody finds out that you aren't together?
Now, for some tough love and honest advice:
#1 - You absolutely CANNOT remain in a relationship where there is any kind of physical violence! What kind of relationship can ever blossom when one person doesn't even have enough respect for you to control his violent agression? Your boyfriend sounds like a very emotionally weak man, and I cannot stress how important it is for you to get out of this relationship as fast as you can.
#2 - As for your beginning interest in this new man, please think carefully before you make any decisions. Make sure that you are starting a relationship based on mutual respect, honesty and integrity, and that his little girl is not filling a maternal longing that you might be feeling. Take some time to re-evaluate what it is you really want in your life, and then decide whether or not to pursue your love interest. Good luck!
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It is never a good idea to stay with someone who is violent towards you. If you stay things will probably get worse until some really serious damage has been done. Do you want to end up a statistic? Your sister-in-law is absolutely correct in wanting you to leave your boyfriend but I don't think jumping straight into another relationship is wise.
Why don't you give yourself some time to work out what you really want. If, as you say, your boyfriend is violent, would he physically harm any new boyfriend that you have? It might be better to stay clear of anyone just for a couple of weeks after you break up from your present boyfriend.
If the new guy is still interested in you once you are free and single again, then I suggest taking things very slowly at the beginning without jumping straight into a physical relationship.
I am sorry to hear that you cannot have children but there are always other options open to you.
Take your time, think things through carefully, but please, please leave your violent boyfriend.
I wish you all the very best.
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