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Q: I have been with my b/f for about a yr and a half now. We have definitely had our ups and downs. Last year i was at a friends house and one of my b/f's good friends showed up. He asked if i wanted to hang out. Went to his house and he put the moves on me. I refused to have sexual contact with him. Even though i had the urge to. He told me that he was sorry and that he couldnt help but wonder why i was with this other guy and that he thought i was pretty.

Ever since that time, he always makes comments to my b/f about how my b/f doesnt treat me right. Or he will joke around about how im his type. We live in a tight-knit town where everyone knows everyone. I see this guy everyday and he always smiles or stares and then looks away.

My major problem is that im finding more and more that im not in-love with my bf anymore as he has become physically violent.

My sister-in-law thinks that i should leave my bf and go with this guy. I am quite tempted as he and i have so much in common and he knows how to treat a lady. I also have a medical condition where i cannot have children. And this guy has full custody of his little girl. Every time i see him with her i melt because he is such a good father.

Am i wrong for wanting to try and have a relationship with this other guy?
And do you think he would be interested in trying to have a relationship?

It sounds like you have been wanting to be with him for a while so why are you questioning what your heart wants. I personal think you should leave your current b/f whether or not you start dating this other guy. If your b/f is starting to be abuse you don't need to be with him anyways. I'm sorry to hear you can't have kids and it just seems perfect that he has a kid. You not wrong in any way for wanting him. He has been staring at you and trying to give you hints that you shouldn't be with your current b/f and those are signs that he does want to be with you.

Nikki A.K.A. jTsCeLlMaTe

Q: is it true drinking a lot of milk will help your boobs grow?

im not sure; somebody started spreading a rumor about it in my school, thats all.

no it's not i started the same rumor when i was younger but it's not true.

nikki A.K.A. jTsCeLlMaTe

Q: i have red blood like spots inside my vagina and itchin in my vagina im only 14 and i noticed it bout a week after i had non-protected sex with a boy. WHAT IS IT PLEASE ITS FREAKIN ME OUT

Well it is either of two things one an std or something similar called vagilightis you get this from have send and your partner is not completely clean. You can get rid of it by using vasalin it sounds weird but it works. Good luck and i hope it's not vagilightis.

Nikki A.K.A. jTsCeLlMaTe

Q: hey,, well my brother has a friend,, his friend is 17 and im 13, joe, his friend and me a pretty tight, and stuff,, i really like Joe but idk if he likes me, and even when his g/f is there, hell look at me alot..his g/f is also 13..but shes ugly and he doesnt like her that much,, so, like, what should i do??

If he looks alot(especially when his g/f is there) I would defeninetly say he likes you! So just ask him about in a casually way.

hope i helped

~Nikki~

Q: The song that goes "dont ya wish your girlfriend was hot like me dont ya wish your girlfriend was a freak like me?"....anyone know who sings it or the name of it?

The Pussycat Dolls sing it and the name of it is "Don't Ya"

Q: hi. Ive got a boyfriend and i luv him to bits but should i be worried about the age gap? im 15 and he is 12. Do you think its wrong or what?
help
xxXxxX

I think that if both of you guys were 5 or 10 years older that it would be fine but at ya'll age there are a lot of differences that will come up and that it will cause problems with you guys but you can do what you want.

Hope I Helped

~Nikki~

Q: hahah i smoke bout 2 bags of weed a day should i stop??

no you should share!haha just kidding of course it's not good for you.

Hope I Helped

~Nikki~

Q: I have this problem..My bestfriend was going out with this boy..Then this boy broke up with her..She was shock (i guess)..But okay, that's not the major problem..Now,I'm going out with that boy..and no one knows that except my sister..I've been going out with that boy for 2 weeks or so..now I have this illfeel..I feel that I'm so wrong by going out with my bestfriend's ex boyfriend..I don't know what to do..Should I break up with that boy and give him back to my bestfriend, or keep going??

-feeling-guilty-girl-

well it depends on how much you like this guy!
But also you should tell your bestfriend that you are seeing and have been seeing her ex, cause if she finds out from somebody else first that won't be too good, If you keep seeing him. Also you should see if this guy still likes your bestfriend before you dump him so he can be with her, If you decide to give him back to your bestfriend. Also if I were you i would call my guy and ask him if he still likes my bestfriend, then 3-way my bestfriend and tell her that we have been dating and go from there.

Hope I Helped

~Nikki~

Q: what does the term mean "to pop a girls cherry when she has sex?

it mean that whenever you lose your viginity that you bleed.

Hope I helped

~Nikki~

Q: i am redoing my room. the walls are white, and the rug is light-blue, which i cant change. does anyone have any ideas on what colors/theme i should use. i'm 14 if it helps.

well i'm 14 two and i just moved and i'm doing my room all color blues and alot of silver with a little bit of pink.

hope i helped

Nikki

Q: Sorry, i didn't know what category to put this under. lol, okay my question is, if you dont know how to put a tampon in, and you're NOT on yor period. Can you still practice to stick one in you? Because I'm going to a party soon and I should be getting my period soon. And I'm going to have to swim. And I just need to know how to put a tampon in. So could I practice, while I'm not on my period? What would it do?

I did but you are not supposed to.

Nikki

Q: I havent heard from you in a while and i still love you i was wondering if you still loved me and wanted me back how could i get you i would change anything to be with you i love you and always will

john

thanks john i'm glad to here you have move on but i do want you back and i do love you but right now it looks like we are both taken.

Q: well theirs this REALLY hot guy who me and him both wanna make*out, im scared im not good enough for him =/ i need some tips on making out and exactly what to do to make my kiss MEMORABLE =) i rate really high!! ((top ratings for everyone))

You could try something like bitting his lip when your about to stop.

Q: I just broke up with my b/f because i wanted to be single for the summer and now like no guys are interested in me. i am really regreting my desision, and i really miss my ex. Please help! what should i do?!?!?!

You should go confess everything to your ex and tell him how sry you are and how stupid you were being and that you miss him and maybe he will take you back.

Q: What do i do when im 14 and already fingering my self, i get soo horny all the time i dont know what to do i cant find any guy whos my age and will have sex wit me, i just wanna know how it feels, i dont care I need a girl or a boy just help!

if you really feel that way then try to find a girl or guy a couple years older than you

Q: 15/f

Hey i'm 5'4 and 135-140 pounds. I'm not really chubby hust a little cause i have a 36c chest. I wanna tone my stomach up so instead of a tankini when i go to the beach in auguest i can wear a bikini. i already run 2 miles a day, what else can i do? is there enough time?
-thanks!

well u can stop eating between meals it worked for me

Q: ok here i go, i'm 16, and my gf wants to have sex, i'm ready, but i don't know if "it" should be shaved. help please??!!

I'm not compeletly sure about what other girls would say but me personally I don't have a standard to go by I would prefer it shave but like I said it don't really matter.

Hope that helps

Q: Hi. My boyfriend and I have been dating for five months. Before we started dating we were best friends for 3 years. I don't feel like he is making enough of a effort to display his feelings for me. He never really says that much stuff to me. I know he likes me, though. What does this mean?

It could mean a lot of things! It could mean that he still isn't familiar with you guys dating, yet. It could also mean that he is nervous around you,(cause he likes you) and can't think of anything to say!

I Hope I Helped

Nikki

If you have more questions drop'em in my inbox I get straight to them.

Q: ok well i kinda like this guy but mi like best friend likes him also so i dont no wat 2 do? should i tell her? or just act normal and say nuthin? not really sure wat 2 do

I would tell your best friend I know that if I like the same guy as my best friend and she ended up dating him that whenever they broke up she would know that I like him and could consult with me on the bad and good things he does and vice versa.

Hope I helped

Nikki

Q: This is the thing. my friend recently had a cold sore. I've heard that the only way you can have a cold sore (even once) is if you have herpes. Does this mean that she has herpes? Answers would be greatly apreciated. Thanks. Will rate high.

NO you don't have herpes just cause you have a cold so you can have herpes type b and not herpes type a (an STD)

hope i helped

nikki

bio

Hi my name is Nikki. I have one brother and one sister. I live with my mom. My dad lives in Colorado. I'm taken by a guy named josh. So no hitting on me. I've been though alot of stuff so I should be able to relate to alot of you guys. I like hip hop music. But I listen to a lot of different types of music. My best friend in the world is Ashley Young who also happens to be my ex girlfriend. I want to be a hair dresser. That's all I can think of to say right now.