Member Since: April 22, 2006
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Last Update: May 15, 2006
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well I am pretty stressed out with everything like my parents yelling at me and breaking up with my b/f and school so when i was telling my friend about all this she said cutting herself worked for her she told me to try it well i did and it didn't work but i just kept doing it i have a total of 59 cuts on my arm and my other friend found out about it and told my spanish teacher so i am in big trouble what should i do? (link)
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Seek professional help, like counselling which will help with the original problem and the newer cutting issue.
Your school phsychologist would be a good place to start, and perhaps she can refer you on to the appropriate support.
Good luck
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hey, well my hair is basically the worst. its dark brown, in between being short and medium length, very wavy, poofy and ugly. because of all that i straighten my hair everyday. yes, very bad i know. well i take a shower every night and let it air dry. i use leave in conditioner and have discovered that my hair works better this way. i also use straightening balm and also have discovered that my hair works better this way. i have a pretty good and expensive straightener. it is fairly new, not evena year old. so thats not the problem. every morning i wake up and re-straighten it beecause i slept on my straightened hair all night. well it looks fine for about the first 1-2 hours of school. then it become greasy and looks bad(especially my side bangs). anyone have any ways to avoid this? cait♥ (link)
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I have very thick course hair that is wavy and "frizzes" which led me to straighten my hair also.
However, I'm finding the negatives of straightening my hair, not worth the pleasure of having straight hair.
Instead, I've found that by putting a small amount of mousse in my hair then scrunching (when wet) that wave becomes quite a nice curl. Usually I put some in a hairband from the sides to join on the top as they are less likely to frizz that way. Then leaving that in when I have my shower the next day - I just dampen it and it stays fine.
On top of that I've found by twisting my hair into a ponytail - then clipping it up, I don't have to anything bar my fringe.
This allows me to save straightening my hair for those special occasions - and saves my hair being wrecked.
Perhaps some of the above would be useful for you to try?
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my guy friend is a little chubby and short, but he`s really sweet, and he knos i go on the site all the time and he asked meh to ask you all what does he need to do to get a girl to like him. ne ideass?? (link)
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You can't "get" or "make" someone like you.
All you can do is be yourself.
Sorry there's no magic wand, but it's true. You could find 100 ways to win a girl over, but unless she's attracted to "you" it wouldn't work.
Given that you've said he's so sweet - then I'm sure he'll find the girl for him :-)
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k so heres the problem. i like this guy..he likes my best friend as much as i like him which is ALOT! my friend said that i could have him cause she just wants to be friends with him but then him and her text message each other all the time. i wanted to know what the texts said so when she was in the shower i read them. he asked her when he was gonna get the first kiss from her and he called her beautiful and things like that. she replyed that he is gonna have to work hard to get and she called him sexy. she knows i like him. i liked him before she started talking to him. but one thing i dont get is why she still lies to me when she clearly knows that i know she is starting to have feelings for him. she send him the texts right when im sitting next to her. then on friday night me, her, him and his friend hung out. and i could tell that he liked my best friend ALOT! so i decided that if he really wants her im not gonna get mad over it even though i am jealous. but i could see that if they did go out then it really wouldnt work out just because there way too different. like she flirts with EVERY guy that she comes across of and he is one of those guys that like long relationships. so i think once he finds out what she is REALLY like then he wont like her. i feel really bad for saying this but idk. i just really like him. she and her bf just broke up last night so i think he is gonna ask her out real soon. but if they do go out i dont know how that would feel for me. i dont know.. what should i do?!?!?
ILL RATE REALLY HIGH =) (link)
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Walk away and have no regrets.
If your b/friend is like that now - at the start of your relationship, it doesn't bode well for the future.
If your friend was any sort of a friend she would have either been honest with you as her feeling changed (or she lied); or she would have put an end to the sms and any other flirting between them; or she would have told you about the texting between them both and worked through it with you. She could have chosen to ignore the texting, he would have got bored and stopped or moved on to doing it with someone else.
My advice is to wait for someone who will be honest as well as faithful in his actions. After all...aren't you worth it? :-)
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my boyfriend james raped me a month ago and I think I may be pregnant and my mom will kick me out even if I was raped she's the type of person who thinks I could have done something about it I told my mom he raped me and she asked me how I could be so stupid to let something like that happen what should I do,Iam only 17 and my boyfriend is 19. (link)
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Without knowing your mother or your history, it's difficult to judge her reaction.
However there is something you can do for yourself...get yourself some support by contacting a rape crises centre in your area, the sooner you contact them the better. They will have sound knowledge to base their advice from, unlike a lot of web based places.
As I don't know how far along in the pregnancy you are, it's difficult to give advice on that. I wonder...what is it that YOU think should happen next.
Given that though he was your boyfrind, he still raped you - have you considered whether you wish to tell him about the pregnancy or not?
My heart goes out to you and I hope you contact a rape crises centre for advice and support to help you through this difficult time.
Take care eh :-)
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i`m 16 && live in texas. I really like this guy that i`ve known for about 2 years. He told my mom && i both that he likes me, but he won`t go out wit` me. He said that he wants a relationship;; but then again he doesn`t. we`re so much alike && i try to go along wit` it && agree that I want, but don`t want a relationship, when I do. I want to get wit` him so bad. How do I tell him boldly, but joke wise that I like him. He`s goin` to boot camp && is goin` to be in the marines...i`m ready to cope wit` the loneliness. I reallllllllly like him. omg, help! I RATTEEE!! (: (link)
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Sounds like some honesty is needed in your next meeting with him.
He has told your mum and you that he likes you, but that doesn't necessarily mean he likes you in regards to a relationship; perhaps just as a friend.
If in doubt check it out........otherwise you'll never know. Starting with a line....can we get together for a talk before you go to boot camp? That will prepare him and give him a chance to think, rather than being put on the spot.
I suspect if he wanted more, he would have acted on it by now, but I could be wrong.
Good luck.
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I don't even know where to begin...
My Dad has been flipping out on me for things I don't even do. He makes everything my fault and I can't talk to him about it because he says "I'm overreacting" or that he doesn't do that. He is constantly telling me to be more like my little sister, who apparently can do no wrong. It always feels like he hates me, and just now he left the house mad because I FIXED my keyboard....I FIXED IT and he still is pissed. I don't know what he wants from me but it always feels like I'm never going to measure up to whatever it is that he wants from me. I don't know what to do, everytime I try to talk to him about ANYTHING he ignores me, or just doesn't care. I'll ask him about his day or tell him about mine, and he just says "mhm" or doesn't acknoweldge me at all. This has been happening for a really long time, about 5 months or so has he made me just bawl my eyes out. I was in the BEST mood today, and he accused me of not respecting him when I didn't even do anything to provoke it and I went up into my room and bawled my eyes out. I can't take it anymore...my Mom says it's "tough love"...but it's not like I'm even doing anything wrong!!! I just don't understand why my Dad hates me so much...I always feel like the unloved child, and I don't know what to do anymore.
Any advice?
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Since none of us are your father, we can't possibly understand why he reacts the way he does. Usually however, there are underlying things happening that others don't realise are stressful on top of what is seen.
If trying to talk directly hasn't been successful perhaps you could ask your mum for guidance in how to approach him, with a more positive outcome.
If that's not an option, sometimes writing things down can be useful...perhaps write him a brief (but specific)letter asking for his help to understand what is causing the friction between the two of you. It could be a useful time to remind him of the things you like about him. Let him know you want to play a part in fixing the friction too, coz it takes two to make things work.
It is more likely that your dad doesn't understand your perspective (eg...he's not a mind reader, and dads can find it difficult to admit they don't have all the answers.
Just bear in mind he is human too, so is prone to making mistakes (as we all do), so try to be paitent while you work your way through this.
Best of luck to you and your family :-)
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Okay, so here's the story: I left my backpack in my mom's car. She threatened to take it to work the next day (today). She always makes empty threats and never follows through. She bugged me about my backpack, and I told her not to nag me. When people nag me, I tune them out. So I fell asleep and forgot about my backpack. It's with my mom at work, and I can't go to school now becuase I don't have anything and all of my grades would drop for things that I didn't have//couldn't turn in. Do you think it was right for her to take my backpack?
I mean, I know that I should have taken it out of her car. But do you think it was right for her to take it?
She took out half of my other stuff, but she left my backpack.
And it sucks.
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You say she "always makes empty threats" but apparently it's not always; which show's your mum is trying. Just try to realise your mum is showing she loves you by not rescuing you.
Every action (including lack of action) naturally draws a consequence, it's our choice if they are good or unpleasant consequences. Hopefully you can accept that you have a choice in how it turns out for you. Good luck :-)
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