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my sexual life is in danger ?? (I will rate high)
Okay here is my story ...
I'm 23 and I live with my bf ...I never had a real bf before so all this is kinda new for me..
I did'nt know what sex was and he taught me ..everything was going great but I still hold back ..he does a great job ..he turns me on and everything..I feel great when we have sex but my problem is I don't feel the need to do sex although it's great ..I just never ask him to do sex he is the one who always has to ask ..I never do it or sometimes I just don't feel like it
Last night I asked him how he thinks our sex life is going ..he said to me that it was going great but that I have to do more..... like ask him more often to have sex ..losen up more etc etc
Help me I don't want to lose this guy he is the best but I cann't help it ..whatever I do I keep holding back .,.....
I don't have nobody to talk to ...My mom left us sins we were 12 so as you understand sins than I have been anwsering my own questions but this is one question I can't answer that's why I need help.....
thx
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Then loosin up a little. Just dont do anything you dont feel right doing.
Read up on different techniques and positions. Maybe your BF feels he you dont like sex very much when he has to start it all the time. Maybe try initiating sex youself.
Work on your confidence level, a confident partner is sexy!!
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First you have to tell yourself that its OK for you to want to have sex with your boyfriend.
Next, if it makes you feel embarrassed just realize that he will LOVE it if you make the first move. :) He will really feel wanted!
Now, fix him a nice meal...maybe put some candlelight on the table. Put on something sexy and let your boyfriend know he is the only guy in the world for you!
Its not that hard really. Rub his shoulders, kiss his neck....have fun with it. ;)
Oh, I was gone for a week or I would have answered sooner. I apologise.
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Sweetie it's okay really....not everyone don't need to wabt sex all the time. I understand you completely. I suggest talking to one of your close girl-friends, the gynocaligist(mentrual cycle doctor)or go online and look for lessons and classes to go to. It's all possible and if you can't find anything online go and try to find a sex store (porno or sex toys maybe) and i'm sure they know where you can get help and advice from much better. Hope i helped!!!
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hi im much younger than you but girls usually hold back when their not that confident in what their doing so next time just have confidence in yourself no matter what you do your bf will love it you can do it . you got this
Jazzy**
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Hi
Life is full of couples who have sex drives which do not match. It's very rare to find a couple who have matching sex drives.
Nine times out of ten, it is the woman who has a lower sex drive.
It sounds like your boyfriend is somewhat understanding when it comes to your feelings, but I think the two of you need to talk.
Open communication is so important. You not wanting to have sex with him as much as he does, really has nothing to do with him. It has to do with that fact that you are just not in the mood.
My husband and I are kinda like that. I swear he would have sex three times a day, and me, not so much :) We have a very good marriage with open communication, so he knows that I am very much in love with him, I am physically attracted to him, I do want him....just not as often as he would like.
Experimentation is also a fun way you can spice up a not so hot sex life. Talk about things you would both like to do....but never do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable.
Good luck to you, take care.
Brenda
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try dressing up for sex, kiss his neck, tease him, like acked like your gonna kiss him but move down to his neck, make sure your not cold when your haing sex cause its harder to get wild
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