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Sexual Relationship with my boyfriend
I have been with my boyfriend for a year but we have been sexually active for three months. He broke my virginity. And he takes care of me so I won't have to work and quit school. But his sex is very aggressive and I really don't like it most of the time. He even freaks me out by some of the things he tells me. Like he is going to let his boys get some of me and stuff like that. What should I do. I love him and he takes care of me. I don't have anyone else but him what should I do???????????????????????
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Never, I repeat Never do something sexual you dont want to do just to keep him.
He sounds like he has some serious mental issues and I dont think hes safe to be around. I would try go get away from him. I know you said he loves you and takes care of you but if he really loves you he wouldnt talk to you with such disrespect.
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wait a minute?
"let his boys get some of me" that sounds hella scary.
i would sit him down and tell him to stop telling you things like that girl.
and then tell him to be a lil more. mmm, soft wit you.
tell him to be more gentle.
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if you love him dont let him go just yet sit down face to face and tell him how you feel about everything if he love you he should understand
Jazzy**
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You may love your boyfriend, but you should not listen to your heart this time and listen to your head! If he wants you to get with his friends, it sounds like shady and like he could be using you. Guys are really shallow, and they basically think with their 2nd head most of the time.
Also, if you don't want to partake in sex with him at all, you dont have to! Just because you have done it once, doesn't mean you have to do it all the time or ever again for that matter. If you want to continue having sex with him, tell him to be less agressive and you like it slow. If he is really in love with you, he will listen.
xoxo
ali
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Sex should be an honest and open expression of love and emotion bewteen two people and it sounds as though this is a point he has missed.
If you are in a relationship with this guy, you need to be comfortable telling him when he does or says something you are not happy with. In this case, you need to tell him you are intimidated by his aggressive attitude when you are having sex and that you need to know if the things he says are true. You say that he tells you he will let his 'boys' get some of you. If this is a serious comment then you need to know because I'm pretty sure this is not something you want to be involved in.
Tell him how you feel. If he isn't prepared to change or if the aggression seeps into other areas of your relationship, get out of it. No matter how well he takes care of you or how much you care about him, if he is aggressive towards you, you need to get away from him while you can.
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Just tell him to slow down or to take it slowly. It sounds really hard to say, but in reality it isn't. He should understand. Most guys say that (about letting his boys get some) and trust me, if he truley loves you he won't, and I doubt he is serious. Its just another line guys use.
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Your defiantly not getting the respect you deserve if he is going to let his friends have sex with you.. Thats disgusting && if he truly loved/cared for you then you`d be all to him not him && other people.. Yeah he takes care of you or whatever but you must be doing something in return someway maybe not noticing it sweetie..
You defiantly need to talk to this guy about whats going on!!
♥Dez
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tell him how you feel about what he says but take it slow on anything else
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Honestly this guy sounds like a jerk. No one who cares about you would ever tell you that he is going to lwr some of his boys get some of you or anything close to that.I think that he is very disrespectful and maybe you should try to find someone else. If not then you really need to express the way you feel about all this to him if he doesn't change then you definately should tell him to hit the road.
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first you should talk to him and tell him wut you feel. then if he still does wut you told him not to....drop him. you can do sooo much better then that. and yoiu never know....sometimes he might mean wut he says.
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Drop him!talking like that is like hes trying to be a pimp.Girl thats disrespectful.Just drop him,there is someone out there for you and it probably aint him!
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You should tell him what you think and if that doesn't work than leave him. You can just work something out.
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