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first of all i am sorry if this is long. Me and my boyfriend have been going out for a year and i love him with all my heart. But recently i get a call out of nowhere from this guy that i had a huge crush on when we were younger (i moved away so thats why nothing ever happened between us). So he calls and asks if i wanna hang out with him one day... so i did. Ok i havent seen this kid for about 11 years but when we spent the day together i dont know what happened but i really started to like him again (and i know he likes me he always has). Him and my boyfriend are two completely different people i find that when im with both of them i myself am two different people but i kinda like who i am better with the other guy. So i did the smart thing and the next day i told my bf about my feelings for this other guy and of course he was heartbroken and we broke up... for about an hour... then we got back together. Only the thing is the only reason i took him back was cuz i saw how hurt he was and i felt bad for him. I do really still love him but i dont know if i really wanna continue this relationship but i don't want to hurt him anymore...How do i do it?
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When a break up occurs someone usually gets hurt. It is sort of unavoidable. If you truly don't want to be with him anymore you have to break up regardless of weather or not it hurts him.
You could just not go steady with either and date both until you decided which one you liked best. The current boyfriend probably won't go for that though. :)
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hmmm... this is intresting i think you should tell him that you love him dearly and you love him with all your heart but you have to let him go no matter how hard it is goin to be. because you really dont want to hurt him anymore than you already did and you dont want to risk anything too extreme as in hurting him even more
*ariana*
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If your feelings are strong enough for another guy, then you shouldn't be with your boyfriend anymore. Not even out of pity. If you like yourself better when you're with the other guy, then that's who you should be with, because in the end, it's all about how you feel about yourself.
It seems to me that you should be with the other guy and not with your boyfriend. Feeling like a better person, and happier, is what should matter most to you.
Go with your heart, because in the end that's what will make you most happy.
♥ Melissa
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staying with him is not the best idea. you like this other guy. you need to think of your happiness in this situation be4 you think of the guy. its you that you hafta live with not them. if you rlly like the long lost guy then go out with him. dont settle for something that doesnt give you butterflies all the time .
keep me posted
hope this helped :)
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Don't stay with him out of pitty. If you love/like the other person better, go with him, but you aren't going to be able to tell your boyfriend without hurting his feelings. That is just how it works. But tell him that you can still be friends and he can always talk to you about his probs. It would have probably been better if you hadn't gotten back with him, but now that it is done, you need to make a decision. Do you love him or the other boy? You pick, I can't pick for you. All you need to know, is that whatever you pick, you will have to live with the rest of your life. Don't just pick someone. Pick the person that you care about the most, and who cares about you the most. You don't want to look back in two or tree years, and wish that you picked someone else. I hope I helped, and remember, my inbox is always open. You don't have to rate if you don't want to, But it would be nice if you did. Thanks!
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ok this might not be the best advice ever but it is worth a try. one way or another he is going to get heartbroken.. if you where in his place and he meet up wit a girl he used to like a lot and told you how he felt you would be heartbroken to.. you can just break it down to him and tell him you want to be single for a while and that you want your space..and this could be like a break for you to clear up your head and go out wit the other guy and see how you feel about him and then if that doesnt work out you could go back to the other guy who is your boyfriend right now... hope this helps you out.
*~Stephanie~*
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